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Hi Hi! i am sakura im helping all those who need me. ive always been the 1 people spilled all their troubles to not that i minded its nice knowing people trust you and i hope you can come to trust me as well.
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hi im 15/f and i have a boyfriend whos gay i know its strange but there a good reason why this happened. i met him a year ago as my other self. im pansexual and i crossdress i feel like im a boy inside and i act it out online not in a bad way i promise but i have an account i use for my boy side. well he messaged me one day and we started talking. we both fell for eachother and now a year later we still havent seen eathother its been a long distance relationship. he still doesnt know my real gender and i really want to tell him. one day i asked him if he would still love me if i was a girl and he said that he would still love me no matter what, he loves me for whats on the inside. even though he has said this to me i cant find the words to tell him. ive been trying to make him break up with me so i wouldnt hurt him anymore but he wont leave me. and when i break up with him my heart hurts,it beats an empty beat. i dont know whats wrong with me. i love him with all my heart and i dont want this lying anymore, all i want is for him to be happy. please help me. (link)
look you should tell him yes itll be hard but guilt must be driving you crazy! look this guy already told you he loves you no matter what and if you explain that you feel like a boy on the inside wouldnt he understand? just do it because you cant built a reltionship on a lie.


This girl has been my friend for a while, and about 6 months ago we started getting really close. Then, just in the past week or two, she doesn't seem to want to talk to me anymore.

She ignores most of what I say, and when she doesn't she always seems mad at me for some reason. Then when I ask if I did something wrong she'll say something like, "No, I'm just tired..." or, "I don't really want to talk to anyone right now." Then when I log onto facebook a day later I'll see that immediately after I log off she's joking around and talking with a bunch of people...

I'm not controlling, and I'm definitely okay with her having other friends, but it's just weird how she went from basically being my best friend to not wanting to talk to me.

Does anyone have an idea what might be going on, or if there's something I could have done to upset her without realizing it? (link)
you should wait for her to come to you. youve already tried talking to her and asked if somthuings wrong. shell come to you when she wants to talk. if not maybe she letting you know she dosent want to be friends anymore.


I tend to bottle up my feelings and keep things to myself, i tend to act like i dont care when i really do, and my peers would always tells me to "stay true to yourself" to me, what does that mean? (link)
it means dont lose your self like be your self not who somone who does whatevr it takes to fit in. dont bgecome lost!


Well over the summer my friend didn't text any of my friends or me (except for once to go bowling...) and then we got back to school and she sat with us at lunch for one day. After that day she sat with this other group that she claims she didn't like last year. And since then she hasn't talked to me at all or any of my (used to be hers too) friends. My mom says i should talk to her and tell her everything, but im not sure. what should i do? i miss her a little, but i don't want to be desperate and pathetic or anything. help! (link)
ive had the same prob with my bf too eventullay i just tpld her how i felt. if this girl really is your friend you should tell her. just talk to her at school and invite her to sit with you and to hang out. soon shell relize how much shes miissed you and you will be friends again. if she doesnt want to hang out it just shows that youve grown apart and she wasnt rlly a somone who would stay by yourside which is what a real friend would do.


My friend was physically abused by her boyfriend when she was about 15. He hit her a lot and put her in hospital. THey are definately not going out now.

My friend (lets call her Ana) is still haunted by the abuse. She says that when she closes her eyes she sees him coming at her. She has been to a psychiatrist, it helped a little, but she is still scarred by it. One day Ana came up to me and she was very upset and about to cry. Ana told me that she was upset because she had an emotional talk to one of my other friends (lets call him Michael) about it. Michael wasnt a very good help, although he thought he was doing the right thing, he told her that the best thing to do was to try and get over it and just "put on a brave face". This really upset Ana and she got mad at Michael, because she doesnt want to pretend its all ok when it isnt. Michael was abused as a kid so he thought he knew what to say and he thought he was doing the right thing.


The main point of this question is, what should I say to Ana when she occasionally gets upset about her past? She has already been to a shrink and gets help, so i dont need to give her advice like that. Usually I just give her a long hug and try to comfort her, I tell her "You are safe now" but i dont know what else to say. Is this the right thing to say?
What should I say to Ana when she gets upset about her past? (link)
your telling her the righgt thing by saying shes safe now because she is somtimes its best not to say anything. just letting her cry on a shoulder she can trust will help her. sometimes hugs can replace words just be there for her. rember time heals all.


19/f. I've known my best friend since fourth grade. But, I didn't really become friends with her until high school. i'm not mean or picky about people, but she just kind of hid away in her own corner and thoughts, so we never really started talking till later on. but, sophmore year we became really good friends. she knows my life story, literally. but, during senior year i started getting these really weird e-mails from a girl (a fake account, obviously) saying that she went to my school and that she was in love with me. i thought it was a joke but the person was describing my class schedule, the way my bookbag looked and stuff. so, obviously, it was a real person in my class. i started to suspect it might have been her because she was never with me during the time when the e-mail was sent. i thought maybe i was just becoming paranoid. by the way, i'm NOT a lesbian. more like a homophobic. no offense to anyone who is a lesbian. I'm not like against you as people, i'm just not into girls, that's all. so, it blew away and after graduation i sent them an e-mail asking them who it was. and they said it was my ex-best friend (before i became friends with this girl. we never had a fight or anything, she just kind of found new friends). So, I thought that was weird. I let it go. Then, I got a formspring account (this is like months or years later). I'm still friends with the girl. We are in college together. By this time, I had forgotten all about the creepy e-mails because I already left that school. For those of you don't know, formspring is just a social network where you can leave anonymous messages to people. i've been getting messages from people saying that they were in love with me. I kept getting them on the same days that i was seeing my ex, who i am still in love with, and we are fliriting again. so, i was positive it was him. yesturday, i went with her to dinner after class. i get a message on formspring saying i had fun having dinner with you i felt special. with a wink. the wink was the same as all of the other ones from the i love you messages. it was kind of weird and it had a space in between. you could tell it was the same person. it's weird tho because i know she has a boyfriend and that she's still in love with her ex boyfriend. she's not a full blown lesbian but could she be bi? if she is, i got to get away from her. i can't let her jeopardize things between me and my guy. who knows if she was the reason why we broke up in the first place and what kind of rumors she has been spreading about me? help please! what am i suppose to do.. just tell a friend of 10 years... sorry i can't talk to you anymore because i SUSPECT ur bi?! obviously not. but this is already too much for me. help me please. (link)
confront her about. give her a chance to tell her side. you need to tell her you dont feel that way and its getting creepy. you should still be friends but just not as close. that way you can keep your friendship and she wont have any "good" times to email you about. as you become more distant the emails will cease.


i didnt know what to put this under but whatever. i want to have a BIG 16th birthday ( im 15 ) my birthdays in july. What should i do? I dont want to have a pool party or anything. But can you give me some ideas..like where to go..if i should stay at home and invite people over or where to have it. ( if youve already had ur 16th birthday reply! ) but if you havent thats alright lol. thanks (link)
you should have the party at night since its hot in the day. if you dont want to have a pool party then try going to a teen club. dont have money then have a dance party at your house sounds lame but trust me it always a good time!




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