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something happened in the past that i cant forget and it really affect me a lot after that incident i can never go out meet other people because im scared that it might happen again i really dont know what to do it happen before my graduation since then i never try looking for a job but well i try once and after that every night i always thought of that day and i cant calm down i cant erase it from my memory i lost my confidence to go out meet other people im even scared of meeting those people involve in that incident im scared to meet them again not just other people im scared even my own family im scared of them i always want alone eating alone watchng alone sleeping alone i dont know whats happening to me. i need help and an advice please (link)
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I can\'t possibly help you when I have no clue what your problem is. Yes, I know that something happened, but what? It\'ll be nice if you\'re more specific.
Face your fears, they\'ll never go away on their own.
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Okay so im 18 i just turned 18 3 days ago (April 21) & nobody came to my birthday party , nobody told me happy birthday , happy late birthday or anything.
I'm a senior in highschool and nobody talks to me i sit alone at lunch and it's so awkward. I'm a black kid. around 240 pounds & i'm 6'6 any i'm not chubby i have some muscles. and kids who are overweight have friends. I text people and they ignore it and when im in class i hate when the teacher says partner up with somebody cause nobody partners up with me , i'm not a weird person. i dress very nice , i have a great personality but nobody will ever know. people say go make other friends.. but i tried. every single person i try to talk to ignores me and gives me this "why are you talking to me" face.
I haven't even had a girlfriend.. haven't had my first kiss , i haven't even hugged a girl. nobody has came and hanged out with me since. even in middle school. people say nobody that they want ever texts them... but i think in my mind they're lucky.. i wish people would even think about texting me. It's been 14 months since i've gotten a text. When i sit on the bus back home nobody talks to me i just sit in the back and listen to my music. while everybody is in the front just living it up.. I couldn't even go to prom since if i went i'd just be there by myself with nobody attempting to talk to me.
Sorry for venting but i don't know what im doing wrong . like i even to twitter and tried to make friends and nobody even talks to me. i even wrote a girl who i knew who was like my only friend a poem and i would give her goodnight, goodmorning messages and i bought her stuff for her birthday and everything. and outta nowhere a year ago she ignored me and everysince i've never had a friend. she was my only one.. i just need some advice how can i cope with this? :/ (link)
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I think you worry too much about other people and what they think of you. In which you shouldn\'t. The right people would like you for you.
Now a days, people are very very shady. The problem may not even be you. Don\'t beat yourself up over this small issue.
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So, this weekend just gone I had sex with a guy. Him and his girlfriend were split up at the time and he said they weren't getting back together so I didn't see much of a problem. But the next day he said they sorted things out but he didn't tell her about me and him.
I'm really not comfortable about this as I'm friends with alot of her friends so I'm gunna see her about alot and I hate keeping secrets and lying.
I've tried persuading him, but said I won't say a word until he says something to her 'cause she should really hear it from him not me or someone else. But this also means I can't talk to any of my friends about it, which sucks.
He won't tell her though as she has alot of family problems at the moment and doesn't think she'd be able to handle it and isn't sure what she'd do (guessing he means self harm etc).
Some sort of help would be great as I'm really not keen on this situation and can't chat to anyone! Thank you! (link)
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First, he sounds like a fucking idiot.
How the hell are you going to break up with someone and then go fuck someone else? That\'s pure stupidity. And trust me, he won\'t tell her.
If I were you, I\'d look past all her life problems at the moment, because telling her would be the RIGHT thing to do. I mean, if you was in her shoes, wouldn\'t you want someone to tell you?
The longer you wait to tell her and the day you or him tell her, it\'ll hurt her even more. Trust.
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So, I'm 10 and in school. So anyway, this might sound crazy but I think people are gonna hate me. I'm not getting invited to much party's lately, and a girl who acts all friendly to me and we are friends but I'm wondering about it not that I don't trust her,I mean, I've been friends with her since I was 2 or 3, but she's been hanging out with this one girl every Saturday, and I don't see why she would like her more than me because she's a cry baby, and she keeps “forgetting" to invite me over when we agree on hanging out. One boy keeps annoying the hell out of me, and one thing I find suspicious, is that a girl asked me to take notes for her when she had to go to orchestra lessons, but then she said before she left,“you don't have to take notes for me anymore" and then whisper-asked a girl to do it for her. Also, in PE, on the traveling rings, everyone got cheered no matter what, but only about 1/3 of the class cheered me. Also, another friend suddenly ditched me. What is happening? (link)
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I think you shouldn't care so much about other people and how they see you. Just be yourself.
Why would they even hate you for? Reading your message, I don't think you did anything wrong to anyone. But then again, you're 10. And kids around your age doesn't know how to act right yet. So, don't pay them so much mind.
If you're going to be hated for no reason at all, you shouldn't even let that get to you. It'll be pointless to care. And when you give in to their hatred, they seriously have power over you. Never let that happen.
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My friend, who will be called friend1, and my other friend, who will be called friend number2, hate each other and refuse to communicate. Friend1 is hanging out with a girl friend2 dislikes. So friend2 won't hang out with friend1 and friend1 is getting so angry and taking every move she makes and taking as an insult. They want me to take sides, but I just want them to make up, and they won't talk to each other, do what can I do? (link)
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Well first of, to tell you to choose is wrong of them because the problem between them doesn't even include you. So, they should fix it themselves. They can't just tell you to choose because you're friends with both.
If I were you, I'd tell them to fix it and leave me out of it.
Doesn't matter what the situation is, friends who are true to each other would eventually come together and solve all problems between them.
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my bestfriend for years has been distancing herself from me and hanging out with other people. i have tried to join their group but they seem to have too many inside jokes, and don't really want to include me. i don't want to sound needy, but i have only had that one best friend for years and never had the intention of becoming close with anyone else. i don't have anyone to talk to now, or hang out with, i don't even know what to do with myself, now that i have all of this free time. what should i do? :( (link)
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You should talk to your friend about how you feel. Don't hide all your emotions inside, it'll only make you miserable.
Let her know that it's bothering you.
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So, I had swimming today and this guy in my swimming lesson told me to meet him in the area where people sit to watch their kids/friends swim so he could give me my number (since I was leaving to take a shower and go home.) So I was like "okay".
Well, I took and a shower and went home. And I just realized the poor guy must've been in the pool waiting for me to show up so I could get his number.
Uh.. I didn't go because my Dad was watching me while he was waiting outside and the whole pool and entrance area is glass.
Anyways! That's not rude is it? ;~; or maybe he thinks I'm playing hard to get?
I mean he's just my friend, and much much older than me. Probably in his late 30's. So there isn't really anything else to it.
I just told him I went somewhere without telling my parents and he said I should at least tell someone where I`m going which is why he told me to get his number after swimming class.
;-; Anyways, was I totally rude and inconsiderate for forgetting to go? (link)
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I don't think you were rude to forget. EVERYONE forgets, what can you do about it? LOL. And yes, to that person it may be rude because they're thinking you ditched them. Hahaha. But next time you see him, just tell him that you forgot. I'm sure he'll understand if he isn't an ass.
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My friend's grandpa just died last week and now I can't get him out of the house. What should I do? (link)
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When someone is sad/depressed, it doesn't matter how fun something you offer to give is because to that person, everything is dead at the moment.
I remember how I felt when my husband and I were still dating, we were long distant, whenever he left home, I would be soooo upset and depressed, I didn't want to do anything at all. Even going to a fun theme park, it just didn't seem fun to me. My sisters would do everything they can to make me happy, but I was still always sad. It got to the point where they'd get frustrated because nothing seem to work, but what they didn't understand is that, missing someone who means so much to you when they're no longer there, hurts very much. You feel so alone even when you have people there because you only want that one person to be there with you. It takes time to eventually get yourself together. I got over the sadness over time. Time does the job.
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Hi a while back she dumped me as a friend and we are no longer friends anymore:( A while back i was kind of okay with not being friends. Now i am getting really sad and jealous of her being friends with my other friends on facebook and in real life. everytime i see her i feel sad and i miss her sooo much. Yeserday i saw her it was the first day of school i was scared to see her i hide behind a teacher so she would not see me. but i think she and her friends saw me. Her friend was talking very loud for some odd reason. Then today i was another friend of her she did not wave back to me when i waved to her. But i saw another friend of her she said hi to me when i waved to her. My question is why am i a bad person to her why does she hate me for i did nothing wrong! please help
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I don't really know the situation here, but I can tell you, you don't need a friend like her. A true friend doesn't leave you hanging and doesn't ignore you like how she does to you. I'm sure you can find better friends. You should surround yourself with positive people, not people like her.
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