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Hey y'all! Im Laura (my middle name is Ashanti) and I live in Texas, in a town about 20 minutes away from Houston! =) I love it so much - Texas is my home! I guess, you can say I've been through a lot. Ive grown up in a strong Christian home & had to adjust my life to that. But, although I am very, very religious, I have definitely done some stupid things in my life. When I was 8, my older sister Kira got pregnant with her long time boyfriend, but she was only 15 going on 16 and she was forced to give the baby up for adoption. I grew up in the shadow of my sister because my parents had no time to deal with me or my problems. I have never been to rich either. I grew up in my sister's hand-me-downs from cheap places we could afford clothes. I've had lots of peer pressure in my life. I have smoked cigarettes and pot, drank alcohol & cheated on a very good boyfriend. My parents never found out about this, but then again, they have a lot of other problems to deal with. Last year, my best friend Juliette died of alcohol poising - a sad way to die. Ive had many boyfriends who have come and gone, but now Im in a relationship (As of last week =) hehe Love you Mike! Enjoying my senior year before college. When I finish college, I really want to be a teacher or go off to live in a great city, Like New York or Chicago. I love to give advice and help people with any problems (except for sex - I never have had sex but I have thought about doing it alot.) So, if you need an answer or guidance or just someone to talk to, leave one in my inbox & I'll get back to you A.S.A.P (usually 2 days tops) ♥ always, Laura
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my friends keep making fun of me,but i know there are just joking but it makes me feel bad, can anyone help
Dont worry sweetie, this happens to everyone - especially in middle school. Girls especially think its funny to comment or something on an outfit or something you said. They want to catch every mistake youve made/or are making so that they can just point it out. Then say "Im kidding!" Unfortunately, EVEN if they ARE just really funny & like to tease people for a laugh from you and dont really mena any harm, its still not necassery for them to do it JUST to you and so often. If that happens, its harrassment. But, not the kind you would tell a counselor/principal about. Just roll your eyes as if you think its immature because it is. It doesnt happen as much in high school, let me tell you that. Talk to them, tell them it hurts your feelings when they do that. If they dont stop, then maybe you should ignore them for a little while until they get the point. But for now, just ignore it and maybe laugh it off say wow thats a good one or something sarcastic. ♥
Ok,i have this friend,we'll call her ...Jenna. Well Jenna and i are "friends" but the problem is when ever i become friends with another person,she jumps all over them and they like her better. She dosent let me have one friend to myself and i get sort of mad by that. What should i do?
Definitely tell her - just say I need some space right now. And then you should talk to her about having lots of friends. Make sure she knows you are not trying to yell at her and you want to be her friend still, but you dont belong to her. You have to make new friends and branch out and you cant just give her 100% attention. Promise to give her SOME attention, though - have you been accidnetly/purposely avoiding her lately? If so shes noticed and she may just be defending you as her friend - trying to say to other girls "This is my friend so back off!" Maybe she feels like when you hang out with other girls, you dont seem to like her. Try to make all your friends equal as possible with you, so Jenna doesnt get so jealous. ♥ Laura
My friend is sleeping over tonight. What are some fun things to do? P.S. We cant go out OR outside - :)
Makeovers, movie marathons!, eat, take pictures, talk, do nails, do eachothers nails, prank phone calls, talk online, answer questions or ask them on advicenators, shop online, draw, sing, act, dance, make a movie, talk on the phone w/ boys you like, make a myspace.com/ or your own webpage! Have fun girls =) ♥ Laura
Theres a girl at my school (not my friend but i talk to her) and her boyfriend recently broke up with her. She's heart broken and feels that she isn't good enough. Now she wont eat..shes refusing to eat and its scaring everyone. She is dropping pounds by the second and is always depressed. I really want to help her, but I don't know her family personally enough to tell them. Should I let her suffer? i would feel wrong not telling anyone.
I think you should tell a guidance counselor - but talk to her about it first. Obviously, if you know her well enough to know shes anorexic which is a pretty private thing, she needs your help! I would feel wrong not telling anyone, too if I was in your situation. Think of the consequences if you DONT tell anyone, but then think of how much you'll be helping her if you get her help and be there for her. You dont have to be the closest to someone to care about them enough to save them from a huge mistake. ♥ Laura
how do i have a conversation on the phone with a guy with out him getting bored every time we talk. this guy he always seems bored on the phone with me. we talk like everyday and he calls me ALOT and i call him too. i just need a good conversation we go to the same school and everything he even said i was like his best friend. but when we get on the phone i never have anything to say. what should i talk about
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phone conversation help!!
Talk about anything! There must be something you guys can talk about if you go to the same school. Teachers, Dances, Parties, Vacation Plans or Friends. Or you could also start a friendly game of Truth or Dare ;) It works - Trust me. That will occupy y'all for awhile! =) Ask him things about himself & his hobbies ..what he's interested in or how his day was. ♥ Laura
ok, well, this so called "friend-of-mine" is being rly well not herslef lately and we use to be bffaeae's until i realized that i dont need a friend like her and she was talking about me behind my back with another bff of mine but it looks like my so called friend doesnt wanna lose our friendship but i dont think i need her as a friend if shes gunna do that what should i do??!! PLEASE HELP
I have been in this situation many times before & I know how horrible it feels to know you might loose a best friend. But it never happened alot for me - I always worked it out but friends will come and go. You need to figure out why she is talking about you behind your back & whats happening here. Then try to see if you are possibly able to fix the problem to save your friendship but only if you feel this "bff" is truly worthey of that. If not, you dont have to be best friends, you can just be the type of friend that hangs out every once in awhile & of course, you talk. But you need to tell her to please stop talking behind your back! After all, it wont solve anything ♥ Laura
well, my friend, who happens to be the same sex as me, keeps getting uncomforatblely close to me... well actually 2 same sex friends do this... and when i ask them to stop they constantly do this and one i think doesn't do it on purpose and she's always doing this and it bugs the heck out of me... how do i make it stop?!?!?
I think you should say to them that they're making you feel uncomfortable! It sounds to me like they're probably joking around or they dont even realize they're doing it. But say it in a nice way or else you wouldnt be trying to help them out of this habit, you would just be hurting their feelings. Let them know you need your space. Are they affectionate people? Im sure neither of the friends has a crush on you or anything like that or you would Know that they were homosexual or bisexual. Just be calm and talk it out, and give them a warning. ♥ Laura