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my friend is alwayyss flirting with my boyfriends or ex-boyfriends. she even sleeps with them and it makes me soo mad. how can i overcome this feeling or deal with this problem?
Hey .. I Would say that you should talk to her about this .. I think she is only doing this because she is insecure about herself and how guys feel about her, and she thinks "hey if i sleep with them they will still want me" but believe me .. that is never the way to go .. Hope I Helped !!
Okay, so friendship questions are rare for me. This is gonna be long. If you have a problem with that, stop reading right now.
I'm really kind of scared. My best friend, short of sister, I think, is addicted to this guy.
Problem is, they never dated. She liked him, but he didn't like her. Then she got over him, and he liked her.
Then she decided to unget over him.
He's a possessive asshole. He's basically "claimed" her and talks about their married future, and she goes with it, considering him hers as he considers her his.
The worst thing is, though, all her life, her family has considered her the "screwup", so all she's known is displacement and pain. She's longed for real love her whole life, even the "parent" kind of love. Not just the husband/wife love.
I don't even know how to explain this. She thinks he unconditionally loves her.
I have unconditional love. My boyfriend and I have discussed marriage, and he loves everything about me, even my flaws, and wouldn't change me.
This guy, however, he's used her, emotionally abused her, hurt her more than anything, and he's even like, haunting her dreams. He tried to change her. Get her to dye her hair blonde, change her clothing style, criticized everything...
I'm just afraid she's going to end up with him and cause herself more pain.
She's created an idea of him for herself. Things he does, she's given examples...I can see that he's only doing these things because he gets something out of it. He gets a person to possess. Someone to own. I hate him for what he's doing to her, but she won't let me talk sense into her.
I can't talk to him because he doesn't like me anyway.
I don't know what to do about this. This girl is seriously like my little sister. I want to protect her from him. Not from all guys, just from him because I know he's bad news.
He tried to convince me to cheat on my boyfriend with him, and to tell me that if he "really" wanted me, I could be his in a heartbeat, because he's just that good with women, which sickened me from the start. I don't understand what she sees in him. Fine. Whatever, I can deal with that.
I can't deal with him hurting her and making her think he's the last person out there for her (she's had bad luck in relationships).
On top of it all, she's afraid her parents are going to make her move, and they're not sending her to college next year, which is where she should be.
What do you think I should do? I mean, I can't really DO anything. What can I say?
-Siren =(
wow.. this is a tough situation..but i think in a thing like this..your friend probably isnt going to listen to you if you try talking to her..because if your in love with someone..you dont want to believe things about your lover that may be true..maybe you could talk to her boyfriend, i mean i know you said he doesnt like you, but just be like "i dont care if you dont like me, but i need to talk to you, don't treat my friend like this, she is like a sister to me, and if you keep hurting her, shes going to end up being miserable, and if you guys were actually in love, you would want the best for each other, not the worst. and if you do not stop, one day i will catch you in the act of cheating or doing those horrible things you do.." or something along the lines of that..maybe even you can talk to your boyfriend about it, and tell him to talk to the guy, maybe even you can talk to her parents and tell them that he is doing nothing good for her and is making her miserable and she wont listen to you so maybe she will listen to her parents..
as for the college situation, if she is 18, she doesnt have to move with her parents, and i mean she should try talking to them and be like \"i really want to go to college and get a further education (in the department where she wants to learn) and if you would want what is best for me, you would want me to go to college\"
*i really hope i helped..if you ever need anything just ask me a question..or talk to me on aim..devilishd19
Hi my name is jessica my friend and i have known each other since 2nd grade now she thinks i called her a jerk so now its a big fight between us i tld her sorry but she said that it didnt cut it so i really want to be friends again what should i do
maybe you could just go up to her and tell her that if she trusted you like a best friend should..then she weould KNOW that you didnt call her a jerk or if u did that u were just joking and didnt mean it!
okay my friends ( a girl and a boy) are in a fight and everytime i talk to the girl she alwasy says so have you talked to him?? What should i say?? should i tell her i did or not!! they are in a big fight and i don't wanna ruin my relationship with this boy, because i really likehim...i mean really like him!! Any suggestion?? :(
*Stuck -n- Middle*
tell her that you dont want to be in the middle of it..that it is their fight not urs so they have to resolve this without u this time! =)
okay..i have a friend and she wont let me hang around any of the other friends i have made this year or she gets mad and thinks im ignoring her! i really like her and i dont like it when she is mad! but i also like the new friends i have made! i dont JUST want to hang around her! how do i get her to understand that i want to be her friend and the others friend too?!
i think that you should introduce her to ur new friends then maybe you guys could all hang out together!
I want to ask this guy to prom for next year!! I know it's ealry but I want him to go and I even i don't go with him i just want to dance with him!! What should I do?? A lot of ppl think that he is gay but i think he's metrosexual like ryan seacrest!! A lot of other girls are gonna ask him if i don't ask in advance!!
HELP ME!!
*4evainLuv
i think you should!! just tell him that you like him and u no its early but u wana get him b4 any other gal does! *hope i helped*
my friend is here and she had a fever a couple of hours ago and there is a movie in the park that i really want to go to and I'm not sure if she wants to go but I REALLY want to go and I think that she s well enough (she had a fever a long while ago and she was well enough to come over to my house what should I say/do?
ifs he is really sick then dont take her..take one of ur other friends and let her get her rest! *hope i helped*
I've always been one of those people who got along with almost everyone. LAst year there was a girl that really didn't like me and I didn't know why. I still don't. Everyone thought she felt threatened by me, they said I had more friends or I was more punk, i dunno anyway. She's been starting rumors about me like I'm a satan worshipper???? Weird huh? What do you think I should do about her or say to her?
confront her and ask her why she had to stoop that low to make u look bad..or you could just walk around and act like it doesnt bother you! because if she thinks it wont get to u..she will stop spreading rumors cuz they r pointless! *hope i helped*
Well their is this guy that I have know since I was like 6 or older. we have always seen each other and I have always had a crush on him. he is like 20 turning 21 in feburary. I am only like 15 turning 16 in october. Is it bad for having a crush or like maybe a thing wit him even if he is a lil older then me? I like him so much but I don't know if my parents would like that he is older and I am so young for him. When we see each other too. we have so much stuff to talk about together and we are happy when we see each other and It hurts me when other girls hurt him. I don't want to do. well thank you Jenny,16,female
talk to ur folks! and ask them if its ok! and how they feel about it and how u feel about it..and im sure that everyone has said this but i mean it would relaly help out the situation a lot! *hope i helped*
Anyone have any ideas on how to throw a party when your parents arent home, and what can we do? and not get caught And have fun!? i rate!!
-Andrea
well that only happens in the movies! haha so i wouldnt do it without their permission because then they couldnt trust you for a long time then you will never b able to go to a party or have one for a long time! *hope i helped*
im not sure if this is the rite category but im a 14 year old male and i wanna run away. i dont like tthe way im being treated at home my parents r taking away my comps cuz they saw somethin on this site that they didnt like and they think i had somthin 2do w/ it. my mom is always yelling 4 no reason she thinx im always doin somthin rong my dad gives me no privacy and tries 2 read my messages. i hate having my life consumed by them. i want a life of my own.so should i stay or should i go?
you should stay!! try and talk this whole situation out with ur parents..tell them that if they loved you and trusted you then they would know u had nothing to do with what was on the computer! and hopefully they will understand
i just moved from new york to virginia. im going into 9th grade and into a new high school. ive been with my friends in new york ever since pre-k and now im scared to make new ones.. what should i do?
14/F ok so i like this guy alot and i have for a while and one of my friends knew about and said she would help me...so she told him i liked him and he told me things couldnt work out so then the next day i was with my friend and the kid i like, and she was all over him! i didn't want to say anything then, but shouldn't i have a right to be mad? oh and to p it all off, he likes her too now!!! ugh i just wish there were cooler guys around here...
ask her why she had to go and take the guy that you like!! its not right for friends to do that to each other!! but im sure that you can find a better guy than him anyways!! *hope i helped*
my 14th birthdays cuming ^ soon sum1 gimmie sum good ideas for a b-day party... its november 16th. thanks in advance!!
its always fun to go to a hotel with alotta girls! or you could have like this dancing get together at ur house or like the park or something! and for sum activities..pudding or jello wrestling! hahaha *hope i helped*
when i was like 1 year old i had this friend and he was like my best freind ever. well we moved and i never saw him. i am 14 now (girl) and i get to see him soon. I really want to make a good impression...so what do i do?
just be yourself!! he wont remember you when you were 1 so he doesnt know what to expect (lookwise) so just try to look ur best and be urself!! *hope i helped*
There is this guy that i had met online. We have been talking for quite a while now and we both like each other a lot. One day we want to meet each other, but I'm not quite sure if it's safe to do so. But like I said we like each other a lot and we love talking to each other.
if you do dont go alone! bring a friend or a family member! cause he could b dangerous! ppl online r just so crazay!! lol *hope i helped*
dakota u r getting on my last nerve, u still havent listed me as ur favorite columnist.
everyone else that reads this please ask me questions. (NickSwart0320)
alrighty nick i wilL!! lol =)
okay, well, I think I want to break up with my "internet boyfriend". but I don't want to hurt his feelings, and I don't know how to end it :(
Lilly
hes just an internet bf!! u wont hurt his feelings! its oK!! its not like you actually know him..so i dont think that he will mind..for all u no..he could b a 30 year old bald guy..*hope i helped*
I jus gotta know ... am i the only one who hates rumors?!... Everyone here in mah town is lik starting crap about me or sum1 i know... its getting really annoying... what am i supposed to do about that?... confront every person that i was told said something about me... and say i wanna know if its true?... i mean what if they just lie to my face saying they dint say it... what do i do then?... or just keep repeating to everyone how whatever they herd isnt true.. cause that gets old when u gotta keep defending yourself...im just getting so frusterated with mah life lol its lik Drama 24/7 ~ *marebear96*
rumors never stay around for long!! so if ppl r talkin shit on you..just be mature and just kinda leave it..u and ur friends r the only ppl u need to survive and any1 who makes up shit just to look cool..are jealous! and you dont need to stoop to that low of a level
hey i have a friend who is sooooooo obsessed with her boyfriend and she is on the phone with him all the time and it gets sooo annoying but i love her too much to tell her that! and like what should i say to her and plus he is pretty ugly!! ick he is gross!
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just tell her that you miss hanging with her!! because she is hanging with him soo much! but dont be mean because obviously he means a lot to her!! *hope i helped*