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Sorry if this is semi long.
It seems as though my best friend is replacing me with someone else. We used to do so much together and have so many great memories and great laughs. Now, it seems like shes doing it all over again, but with a different girl. They went on a trip together and talk about it nonstop..now they are so close. It's like I'm not even there and shes starting over with someone new. It's depressing to see them together, like me and her used to be. We had a big fight not to long ago, but we made up..or so I thought. Tonight we went to a party and it was a blast, but it was like she was ignoring me. She was only hanging out with her new "best friend". I really don't understand what I should do. I miss her, but when we were having that fight, it was like I was the only one trying to keep it together. Why can't we all just be friends? Should I talk to her about it? Or should I just let her and the other girl be friends and get out of the way, then just loose the friendship we had?
Thank you so so much if you can help.
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Ohh this is tough, the same thing happened to me once.. talk to her. it might be tough but it'll tell you where she stands. if talking it out face to face is to tough write a note or email. but ask her how she feels. tell her how you feel. try to fix it. make sure when you talk not to lose your temper. If she reallyseems like she's not trying then I'd say start building the friendships you have with other people and move on.
hope i helped
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i live in this very small town and im 14 and so is jessica, we've been goodfriennds since we were 10 and she was always sort of an ugly girl, but now shes really gorgeus, shes fit into her body, pretty face, killer body.. she has the whole package. i love her becuz shed never ditch me and shes still the same but now shes been seeing or hangin out with older guys, some 18, some 21, or 23. and i mean if she can do it good for her but i hungout with her, this 22 year old john and his friend vince and i mean we rented a hotel and her and john went in but me and vince stayed in the car and we smoked and kind of hookedup, im getting feelinds for him and i know hes older but is it ok? she didnt make me like him or anything (link)
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Number one, you shouldn't be smoking, it can kill you. And no you shouldn't be hanging out with guys that much older than you, as much as you may think you like them/him they are more mature than you and dude their college age guys! They're gonna be into sex and drugs and things you aren't ready for. Sure not all of them are going to be bad sexaholics but alot of guys will try to. You shouldn't be proud of her for being able to get with guys like this you will get hurt eventually. Hope I helped! :)
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Hey I am 13 and I am having troubles with one of my best friends. We have been friends since just about 1st grade. We have always been best friends. I feel like since now we are in Junior High we are splitting up. She is hanging out with new friends and I am sort of too. I feel like our friendship is breaking in two. What should I do? (link)
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This same thing happened to me so I understand what you're going through. It may be time to move on and find a new best friend.. that's what I had to do. But if you really, really don't want to lose her talk to her about it or if you don't feel comfortable doing that write her a note. Chances are she's feeling the same way as you. I know my friend was. You can still save this friendship! :)
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okay this question is for my friend who can't ask it so i am doing it for her. well her best friend just recently died at age 12. and she wants to go to her funeral and wants me to go with her but her mom won't let her go because its during school and she thinks she will get all emotional but she really wants to go so she can say bye and she wants me to go with her so she has a shoulder to cry on if she needs one. does anyone know how she can get her mom to change her mind and let her go to her best friends funeral? please help. (link)
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wow... explain to her mother that this is her BEST FRIEND! and that she won't ever be able to see her again! Explain that this is a one time thing and that it won't happen again! Tell her you would understand if it was a vacation but that this is a DEATH! Her best friend just lost her life! She can't say good-bye any day she wants like she can with other friends.. that this is her only chance to be with her best friend for the last time. I hope her mom will let her go and you get to go with! I'm sorry for your friends loss! :)
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Sporkster here, and I've got a question for you lovely people here on Advicenators:
I've got this "friend" of mine who's been rather...hard to get along with lately. You know who you are, "friend." Anyway, in Study Hall one day she just errupted like Mt. Vesuvius. I mean, over something so petty she just blew it. My boyfriend had moved to another table to take a quiz and she came over to sit with me. There's this stupid rule my SH teacher came up with stating that only two people can sit at one table until ten minutes prior to the bell rings. My boyfriend finished and came back over, and right before I was going to tell him to wait a minute so I could finish talking to her she just..."*slams book together, packs up bookbag, moves* Fine, I see who's more important, I'll just move! *mutters incoherently*" I just was...shocked. She didn't even give me a chance to tell him that I needed to finish talking to her. Anyway, she's been really sore over this for the past week or two. I mean, she doesn't sit with my boyfriend, me, and our friend anymore. She never talks directly to me, however, she has this obsession with talking ABOUT me. She's lied about my boyfriend and me, giving people the impression that I'm some sort of slut. This is really starting to annoy me. Not the fact that she's talking about me, but that she's lying about me. I really do wish she wouldn't be so sensitive and...paranoid. Our friendship has been an ongoing battle ever since my boyfriend and I have been going out. I don't really want our best-friend friendship back, I just want to come to terms with her and "agree to disagree", if you will. But she won't even compromise with that! I've tried everything you could possibly think of and then some, but she doesn't want to listen to a word I say to her. Can anyone offer some sort of ideas for getting her to just listen to me for five minutes to sort things out? Any input would be appreciated, though I am looking for good, well thought-out, helpful answers. Thank you in advance for every good answer. (link)
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Ok this is a toughy but what i've been through exactly what you are talking about. Instead of trying to directly talk to her about it since she obviously doesn't want to listen to you write her a note. Don't be disrespectful or rude... just honest. Explain to her how you are feeling and at the end of the note ask her to please write you back, and try to understand her point of view. If that doesn't work the best you can do is try to ignore it... chances are she's jealous of you and is try to get under your skin. Don't let her. Eventually she will get bored when she sees you have no major reaction and give up. I hope you and your friends can come to good terms! :)
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