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my bff has been my bff for as long as i can remember. but since we've been in high school she has really gotten inot the party scene and sexual thing. i do the party thing. so idc. but what has been bothering me is she doesnt care who she hurts, if she wants it she'll do it. my other bff, she is into two guys. both of which are bad guys that arent loyal no matter what. well my 1st bff was at my party last night and she had sex with my 2nd bff's man. one of them. and she told me to not say anything. but i hate this. it happens between the two of htem all the time. what can i do.

well first of all i think you need to just sit down with the both of your friends and have a discussion with them and some things might be different if they haven't been friends with each other as long as you have with them.if your friends really care then they will listen to what you have to say.i mean your first bff can find someone else and show some respect for your second bff.just tell them that you want and need things to be better for you all to be friends.

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okay what would you do if this "friend" always ditches u for someone else and only hangs around you when she aint got nobody else? i mean we use to be really good friends but now she only wants to hang with this other friend and is beiong really mean? please help!!! thanks buh bye!!

well,i've been in that situation before.my friend seems to do that alot.just start hangin out with other people therefore when that person that she always ditches you for can't come over or sumthin tell her you've got other things to do and see how she feels being left out.

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ok..im the person who was talking about my crush being abused. well he just made out with a girl who just made out with a guy YESTERDAY!!! she has a rep for the BIGGEST SLORE in our school. well me and my friend (one of the girls whos a mutual friend) was like "im not going to give him any sympothy now about his dad because thats SO stupid and its BULL!!!!" i was like "yea good point.. i wont either!!"

is that the right thing to do though? i still kind of like him..a little..

He's gotta have some fun and you should not worry about that.he's getting abused regardless.he has to go on with his life and do other things but you should still worry.

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I basically just want to know what people think about this and whether I'm the one with the problem! Last night my male housemate asked me if i wanted to watch a film so i agreed even though it was about 11.30pm as i couldn't think of anything else to do. I started falling asleep in front of it and then waking up and not understanding what was going on so i decided to go to bed and i told him that. So he started saying how the evening had started off really well and now it had been spoilt and how i had agreed to watch it with him and i was breaking my promise. He kept sighing and just acting really unreasonably and going really quiet and pissed off. So i just went upstairs and told my other female housemate that i was not going to be made to feel guilty about not watching a film because its ridiculous. So he came upstairs and started yelling at me so i yelled back and it got totally out of control especially as all this is over a film!! So then he said that no one had ever upset him to this extent before and how he used to feel comfortable living in the house and now he won't anymore. Then i decided to go and talk to him because i dont like going to bed in the middle of an argument. He was just like don't worry i forgive you. So now its my fault!! WTF?? then he went and stayed at his friends house because he didnt want to sleep in the house cos of what happened. Does anyone else think this is strange? Or is it all my fault as he seems to think? I know maybe i shouldnt have yelled back but it really upset me! Thanks guys.

If you were sleepy then you were sleepy.I mean my goodness.He seems way too uptight.You can always watch the movie later.Just don't let him get to your head.

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ok the love of my life (but he doesn't like me more than a friend) told me last nite that his dad was beating the sh*t out of him by a text message. so i then talked to a mutual friend and she said he said the same thing to her but that he pushed him down a flight of stairs and it really hurt him!! we dont kno weather or not to believe him. like he tells everyone this but none of his guy friends believe him really, just the 3 of his closest "girl friends" (me, and 2 mutual friends). they have different stories (ex: "we were on the phone and he started screaming and crying because he was in the shower hiding from his dad when he heard him coming and had to hang up"). we dont know whether to believe him or not..

once, one of his guy friends told us that he saw his dad smack him REALLY hard once..i dont know where.

please help..what should i do? its serious..also, no one knows what happened to his mom

well he's telling all of you that he was abused but in different ways so maybe he really was but he just has certain ways of telling different friends.

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okay well i used to be best friends with this one girl for like ever. and then we stopped talking for a little bit because we were both really busy and she got all mad and said that i was mad at her and she could never trust me again. that was a few months ago and were still not friends. well i was wondering if i should write her (she blocked me and she lives in another state so i cant call her). because i am just wondering if shes okay and maybe we can patch this thing up. should i even bother?

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Yes you should write her.If she moved far away then she still might want to hear from you.I've been in the same situation as you.Trust me.If she really is a good friend then she will drop the grudge.If not then I say drop her.

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