I'm Kathryn but most call me KD. I'm a 16 year old sophomore. I'm rare to come by seeing that I try to solve everything I can for others before myself. I am very honest and I don't lie to make anything seem not as bad as it honestly is. I give suggestions that I myself would do if it were in my case.
I may ask for help or someone's opinion on a personal matter but don't feel bad if I do more for you than you do for me. I don't let people in. My words should tell you exactly what kind of person I am without a picture to second guess.
I'm the type of person who will fall so someone else can stand. I won't stop helping people until the day I die because I know what it is like to be in need of something and no one is there for you.
Don't ever be afraid to send me a message even if it isn't serious. There is only one kid of help to me. The kind that is given at all.
If you can't find me, I'll be walking in the door when the rest of the world walks out.
If you have a very serious matter that you wish to contact me about URGENTLY, then you may use my AIM screen name to reach me or my MySpace. I appreciate feedback to know if my advice helped at all.
Thank you,
-KD
Gender: Female
Location: South Lyon, MI
Occupation: High School Student
Age: 15
AIM: HeartedASHollow
Member Since: August 27, 2008
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What Do U Do When Your Friend Trys To Make U Jealous ? (link)
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You ask them simply: "What is it you envy about me so much?"
Then you;ll get your answer. Straight and direct it will shock them probably into a "I don't know" type of thing.
From there on out, the results should tell you what to do.
-KD/f/15
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Last year I tried hard to make new friends and I did. I met this guy Jacques who is great because his nerdish ways don't make me seem so weird.
The bad thing is my female best friend and he started dated. And at first everything was great I was so happy for them and I still am especially for him because he is head over hills in love I mean its sad how fast he falls.
I noticed her getting weary everytime either of us mentioned each others names. And after both of our attempts to make sure she knew what we knew and that is we are in no way attracted to each other.
She said it might be easier if he and I stopped talking. But, it turned into her and I not talking any more. Mostly because of my hate o the way she acts. She'll say she hates when he talks to other girls but then he'll turn around and pass her phone number off to any guy that asks. She never talks about how she's feeling about our friendship well not to me anyway and that's just retarded because no one else can tell you how I think, to think all the years we've been friends she would have heard some of the things I said about honesty and communication I've dropped a good amount of friends because they weren't honest with me. Plus the fact that she's always trying to hook me up with other guys, not that its a bad thing, what's bad is she waits til I find a guy I really like and all of a sudden becomes WAY to friendly with them. I mean talking to them more than I do. And to be honest I'm sick of it. Always being played the fool while she talks about me to other people. I'm so sick of trying and on top of it all this is my senior year. I've decided to write her off from me. Because, I won't be happy with fakeness around me and senior year is all about being happy , loving your last year.
I found some new friends, but I stuck in the making close friends department. Any ideas on how to reel them in. (link)
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I know how you feel and people like her are honestly stupid. To the point of where you would love to punch them. People get so jealous and greedy fast. In fact, today in Japanese I was asked a question: "What is the worst attribute of people?" and I responded "greed" and I mean that in more ways than just money.
People let too much air consume their brain and then they turn into that.
Anyways...You should be yourself and what I mean about that is mention something to them about what you like when you talk. Such as when they talke about movies or tv, even music. Put in a comment like "Yeah, they're good but I prefer -name of whatever-"
Just try to carry on a converstation with them with comments of your own but not to the entent where it seems that only yourself is talking lol.
-KD/f/15
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so iam the girl who posted "bestfriend" and the feedback i got from people were great!! but something else has happened and so i need some more advice...what if i told him how i felt but he didnt respond instesd he just acted as if i never even told him at all..were great friends and no things didnt get awkward but he keeps going on like my feelings don't matter..not only that but some people at school say that it isint right to go after somone younger then me and some say age is just a #...(he is 3 yrs younger then me BTW)....what should i do or how should i react???? HELP PLEASE!!! (link)
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Well if he keeps going on like your feelings don't matter, then I'd say, leave it. He obviously doesn't care enough to respect what you have to say and accept the truth about what you did say.After you worked on telling him for a while and fought with yourself with "how to do it" and "should I?".
If he doesn't change then it goes to show you he doesn't care. He left his cards right open on the table with that answer.
But before just leaving without closure, if you decide to take that road, I would ask him if he needed help with it [[changing]] and if not, let it go.
People in life walk in and walk out. It is rare to find someone that will stick by your side forever.
I hope this helps.
-KD/f/15
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[dont know what cagegory this goes in]
im so self concious about myself and iv lost all my confidents. i dont know why b'cos i used to be so comfortable with myself. but now im so quiet and i dont have many friends. i just want to feel comfortable and feel good about myself again like the old me...
whats wrong with me and what should i do? i feel like im a loser and i hate myself. =[ (link)
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What you feel is exactly what I feel all of the time.
Like you have no purpose and you have yet to find it. I know that helping people, that is mine. Maybe you're just changing and you don't know what to expect.
But even if you do find what your reason is, it still isn't enough.
What I highly suggest is going to a book store and spending the day there. You might not be a true fan of reading but you will just have to trust me on this.
Pick out your favorite things in life. Vampires, ghosts, high school drama, etc. and find a book that has that in store.
A book maybe what you need to just be able to grasp what has ever come your way. You probably don't know what is going on but serching through books to find a story that is told like yours, will help you. More ways than one.
That is what I did. Whenever I fell into a deep dark hole or I needed to tune out the drama going on at that exact moment. I pulled out a book and was lost somewhere else.
A book opens up new doors and thoughts for people. They are what others create just in words and on paper. It is just good to know you can open a book and read your life on several pages.
Trust me, I think it will help a lot.
Let me know.
-KD/f/15
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sorry if that N word spell wrong let say unpostive, I mean my friend is good friend. but sometiems way she talks and way she repeones to me sound not postive and sometimes. and i want to know how i can not let it get to me and not let her negtive infunince on me..sorry bad spelling. hope someone get what i am saying (link)
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If you are a true friend and you do deeply care about her, you would tell her how you feel. That you don't feel that her negativity isn't doing well for the both of you. But in a nice manner, and don't doubt yourself.
The best time to tell her is when you are casually out somewhere with nothing big going on and you say " -name- I really need to talk to you about something that is bothering me."
I know what it must be like because I myself am a negative person and even my best friend told me because she is like a sister, whom is honest. But I respected her more that she would stand up and tell me so because I didn't really notice.
Your friend may not even notice either.
If she gives you a hard time then you need to make her understand with a reason. Like WHY it makes you feel upset or HOW it affects you, especially seeing she is your best friend. Best friends are honest with each other.
And after all you've done she still doesn't understand, maybe you should go separate ways. But I think if you follow what I told you to do, she'll understand because she probably doesn't notice it.
-KD/f/15
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