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Q: Hey Guys, I have a HUGE Problem, I know you guys are probably gonna say "You shouldn't care what people thinks!". Well I need to answer that. I can't help it. It all started when Me and My best friend Amber. We Arn't Like That (Lesbian). She has a Boyfriend and yeah I am Single. We act like sisters though. We 'Sometimes' share a drink (pop, etc.). What I mean by that is. She could be drinking something and then I would ask her if I could have a drink and I would take a drink. Now everyone thinks I'm a Lesbain!! What Can I do To Get Them To Shut Up? I'm Not That WAY!!!!!

I'm in 7th grade and i hug my friends, share drinks, and even share lollypops...

the people that say that just wish that they had a friendship like you guys have.
the only reason someone would hate you is because they envy you in some way.

so don't worry about it.. people will start to get the message that you guys are best friends
(in other words they'll pull their heads out of their asses) cuz everybody else in the world does it too!

Good luck!
♥

Q: I'm going out with this guy that my friends just absolutely hate! One of my friends even threatened to stab him in the neck with her pocket knife during church! I don't want to break up with the guy because he's absolutely perfect to me. What should I do?

prettykitty77723

Tell your friend that its your choice who you go out with and why. NOT hers. If she doesn't care about your choices and respect them, she's not your friend.
Seriously.
Don't dump him for your ignorant friend.

KYlie

Q: So my friend graduated high school last year and she invited me to her graduation party. Her boyfriend was there- who is a year behind her so he's a senior this year- and I almost immmediatley liked him from the start of the party. I feel like a horrible person.

This situation only got worse. He's in my Drama class this year and I'm not sure if I flirted with him or not. We did this thing where we brought in what described who we are (I brought in a blank journal) and when I was done I passed by him, and smiled: but no, it gets worse: *he smiled back.*

I feel horrible and I just don't know what to do. Help!

wait it out. if your friend's at college, the relationship might somehow fall through the cracks. id just get to know him and since he's in a really fun class (i really love drama too) then you guys might have a lot of really fun times together that might show how awesome you are...
just be yourself.
Good luck!
Kylie~

Q: hey this is Jackie 13 years old

there is this boy Ryan, who is my neightbor and I've know him all his life.. we've been friends since before i could talk! We've ALWAYS been best friends!! we even went out when we were 10 years old.. we tell eachother everything and we always help fix ANY problems..

well that's how things used to be. in the past few weeks he's called me a SLUT for going out with a guy i just met.. and he actually meant it.. he wasn;t kidding, usually he asks me about stuff and NEVER judges me, but this time he did! and he likes my twin sis now, which i'm perffectall y ok with because i no that we're jsut friends but she doesn't like him so.. he's been upset sometimes when she gets a new boyfriend and he used to talk to me about it but in the last few weekes he's been telling me nothing's wrong when i KNOW theres something wrong comon i m his BFF i can tell.. and he's been keeping his distance.

why would he act this way is there anything i can do to fix it? PLEASE HELP I RATE WELL!!!

he likes you hes jelous.

Good luck!

Q: I got this girl who is a friend. We have known each other for practically 3 years. Been there for each other, been though some problems as far as people together and then some. And as far as her i have some feelings toward her i have never felt before, i cant explain how they are. I have tried asking her out quite a few times and she said she is worried bout our friendship. I told her i understand that, but at the same time i aint been able to look at any other girl and say she looks good i want to date her.I am not going to stop being friends us cause of dating. Here recently she sent me an email saying she is thinking about giving me a chance. But then an old friend of hers comes in the picture and now they are going out. Of course i am heart broken now and am going to wait and see if i will get my chance to go out with her cause of how deep of feelings i have for her.The crazy thing is her mom or sister dont like the boy she is going out with. But as far as me her mom and sister love me as if im a son or a brother. With this screwed up situation and how i feel for her what am i suppose to do?

K, Whenever a girl goes out with her guyfriend and they break up, they tend not to speak to each other, in most cases, or are embarrassed to be around each other. Make sure you guys are like the best of friends, then ask her out again. If her mom and sister (especially sister) don't like the guy she's dating, it can't last that long. Even if it does, you'll still have your chance one day and if you like her, you should try to get her. Girls like guys that would try real hard to get them to go out with them, but not too hard.. that's kinda stalker-ish.
Good luck!

Q: ok, well all my friends have secrets. Everyone does.. right? well i dont know why but EVERYONE tells me their problems and secrets, sometimes it can be something really small that i can stand like "i like _____" but sometimes they're REALLY big like "i've been raped! dont tell anyone!". Now i'm really popular when it comes to friends so i'm holding ALL of THEIR secrets! one of these days i'm gonna combust and tell everyone all these secrets. I want to be there for my friends, but i dont want to go crazy holding everyone thought, secrets, and personal problems. What do i do?!

What you should do is write it down in a diary. You won't have to show it to anyone, and the stress is on paper instead of inside of you. Hide it somewhere really clever that nobody would think of. And DON'T bring it to school. If there are secrets that you know that will possibly involve physical and emotional scarring or harm, then tell an adult right away. You're letting the abuse go on if you don't tell anyone about your friend.

Q: ok i have some acne. not a lot but some. and my friend will sometimes make fun of it. i dont think she realizes it, but she still does it. then when i ask her not to say it she just goes, "gosh i was just kidding!" now this girl is flat chested, and if i ever make a joke about that she completely refuses to talk to me for like a day. today something happened and i apologized to her 3 times but she wont forgive me! ive known this girl since second grade and i really dont want to lose a friend. help please!
*confuzed*

Tell her to go climb up a tree when she makes fun of you. It may seem hard to say, but she's no friend of yours if she makes fun of you.

Q: My friends popular friends don't like me much, so they told her I said I didn't like her. She believed it and now won't talk to me and I was supposed to go to a dance tonight but now am all depressed in my room. Also she's my one and only best friend. What should I do?

You should call her, email her, write her a note, or tell her in person that it wasn't true. You should say "Who do your trust more, me or your other friends?" Hope I helped! --Kylie

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I'm Kylie and I'm here to help. My dream is to go to the Naval Academy and be a Navy Shrink. Please ask me whatever you want, because I will try my best to help you to solve your problem.
Kylie:)