ok in this highschool im goin to its a REALLY bad school lol its ghetto..and yea anyways im not pretty or anything im over weight and yea u get the point but my question is how do i get more boys as friends? thanks! ( im really shy by the way )
All I can say is be yourself, I know that sounds cliche' but it is the best way, that is if you are a reasonable, down to earth person. Guys have their flaws but a mature guy appreciates some one who "keeps it real", has respect for others, and have respect for themselves.
So when they get to know you they will have more respect for you and grow to like you if you are a cool person to know yourself, get more invovled in school get on the academic challenge team or something whatever you have which you can have interaction with others where you do not have to focus on class work and you have the freedom to socialize. "Do Not BEG or Be NEEDY if a guy acts too "stank" to talk to you than **** him and keep it moving; know that no matter what you look like you are just as good as any body else; you do not live off of their likes, and you do not have to kiss anybodies a##.
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sometimes people say im annoying when i dont want to be.. how can i become less annoying? i dunno.. i mean how do i explain it. some days i just feel like talking alot and i talk about the randomest stuff ever, and some of my friends find it funny, and others find it weirdly funny. like.. what is Normal then? i guess i need to learn to stop saying the first thing that comes to my head too.. and i dont want to be known as an annoying person in conversations and stuff. so generally what can i do? :( 13/f
Get tested for ADD
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okay,i need help on makeing friends..kind of. im already in a "group" but, i don't think im much like them. there all really close and then im just there. its like i dont exist sometimes. its just because,im kind of quiet. and im not exactly like, them. but i'm still with them,some how. i mean,i have NO sense of humor,and there very humorous. how do i make things funnier? how can i speak up? and, if you must label us, we would be the random,skater,whatever, group. i just,have no close friends what so ever. and i dont know how to make them! this has been going on for probably 2 years. and i'm starting to get really sad that no one cares that much for me. how do i make them care for me more? thanks so much,i really need help on this one. oh and i dont remember things,i suck at it. also,i find myself so lost,i dont know how that might help,but yeah.
I know exactly how you feel this year was my first year in college and first i met a girl that really liked me and i really liked her and she even introduiced me to her friends and we spent some time together but i just didn't really fit in so even though i didn't cut myself odd from her and them because they were friends and associates to me i still had to find a place where i felt more comfortable then i found the friends i have now which happened because we clicked in a way and that is because even though i am not a big talker and joker i talked at pace because i asked questions about them and allowed them to talk about themselves and acted interested and entertained some of their interest even though i didin't really change myself for them some times some parts of you need to grow and when i was with them the things i saw i needed to work on that would make me come out of my shell and more social i did change without changing my identity for example when i was a round my best friend catherine and her friends they would be talking and laughing and i wouldn't be saying anything even one night they went to a party and she was like well we are going with shelley and i was like why do we have to go out with shelley what i realized was she was trying to include me and not exclude me and that she wasn't trying to leave me out or ignore me i just had to open my mouth and jump in when it is appropiate you have to make yourself known and make a personality so you can be liked and accepted as a close friend and person. But, as far as friends everything will work out in time the more you learn about life nad yourself the happier you'll be with other people and your relationships.
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This is going to be long but im going to try to make it short:
Ok this year i lost about FIVE "bestfriends" they all screwed me over and like i feel so upset and sad that like i treat them so equally and i would beat up anyone for them and basically i would be there for them. When i thought they could be there for me one by one they start to screw me over its just making me really sad and depressed that like you can be BESTFRIENDS with someone for OVER 5 YEARS and some less and then they just screw you over. How is that? Should i start talking to each of them? or should i just let them live there own life and keep them out of mine??
ughh itsss so sad i hate thiss
Really it depends on the degree of the betrayal could you add some details that tells exactly what eac person did? But if you feel that you could possibly forgive them and that you can talk through the situation with them and ensure that it wont happen again with them than give it a second try.
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my best friend who i have gotten to kno this school year. has been geting into alot of trouble with her pranets lately and is now sexually active. she barely hangs out wit us at school cuz she is too busy making out with difrernt boys and we don't ever go out to like the movies cuz she is having sex with them (diferent boi per night)..my friends n i are debating if we should tel her off that she is a bad influence and our true feelings towards her but we don't know if thaT would be right to do...we are confused..help us out.
The only way she can be a bad influence is if you follow in her footstpes and since you all can see obviously that she is wrong by her ways than you aren't following her and you shouldn't; you have your own minds so no she is not a bad influence. She just is just displaying bad choices and behavior right now that is only hurting her. Right now you should try to get throuh to her and alarm her of the mistakes she is making. Let her know you guys are important to and you want to see a little more of her spend a little more time with her and tell her all the bad points about what she is doing such as stds,pregnancy, and humiliation. Don't desert her and don't judge her be her best friend and if she can't give you the same thing back then maybe you should cut ties with her.
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theres this girl whos a complete bitch named sophia
i was talking to a guy on facebook and she commented that he should stop talking to me &shed explain later.
i dont want to stop talking to him.
would it be a completely bad idea to message him saying "what did sophia say about me?"
No it would not be a complete bad idea just as a woman i would not do it because you should not care. Even if you do you should pretend you don't especially if she is just being a bitch and dong some childish sh** for no reason. If you treated him the way a friend should treat a friend he should treat the you the same way in return and not care what some heifer tells him about you. Show maturity and confidence by being the biggger person and not caring because like I said before you shouldn't care; that is a waste of time especially on her part. Realize she had too much time on her hands to put that much energy into ruining a relationship you have established with someone else. If you tell anyone anything tell him that if it comes up he'll respect and admire you more.
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15/ female
a few months ago my friend (15/female)told me she was going to have sex with her boy friend(16 male) of like 5 months. I didnt think it was a good idea, since I thought he was kind of a jerk and a druggie. But I tried to berealy supportive and a good friend, and she promised to go to a doctor, but her mom is sorta verbally abusive, so shes worried the doctor will tell. Well I suggested she go to a teen clinic near her house, and she went but it wasnt open
well then she went ahead and had sex, but she said she wasnt going to do it again. and that shes on this new medication that says she shouldnt be sexually active
well she lied and told my friend four weeks later that they had sex again. So I brought it up, and I said that she should go see a doctor, and she said she would. Then she told me later that she didnt, and then she said that she had sex again! And I was lik, k, you should go see your doctor, just to make sure its okay while your on the medication, and she said no. So I told her that if she didnt, I would talk to her parents. Because I was really worried about her, and I know its not my job, but I was probably wrong. Well then her boyfriend harrassed me online and I freaked out. He called me a bad friend and a bully and stuff, and I didnt knwo what to, seeing as I didnt really do anything wrong, I just told her I'd tell her mom. Well then my friend and I got in a fight because I was scared of her boyfriend and I didnt really want to be around the two of them anymore, so then she asked what was going on so I was honest. And then she said she would go to a doctor if it would make me feel batter. That was about three months ago and I asked her the other day if they were still doing it, and if she had gone to the doctor and she said they were and she hadnt. Then she told me this long story about how shes worried about him and thinks he may be addicted to pot.
I was just wondering; is there anything that can hurt her from his drugs?, should I talk to her parents? Is there anything that could harm her from the medication shes on, do you think that it is important for her to go to a doctor? and is this really my place, or should I back out? I dont want to, but I guess I cant really change her. Any advice would really help. I tried looking at this from an advicenator's perspective and was confused more. Please help, I'd really appreaciate it! Thanks lots!
You should back off I know you care about her but pushing her to do things even if they are good for her is only going to make her resent you and rebel against you more to do the wrong thing. All you can do is keep talking to her not in a condescending way but talk to her in a sensitive manner as her friend and someone who understands her not as an advisor. That way you can get her to listen to you better and get through to her wihtout her getting upset. Keep telling her the right thing to do with tact and give her all the good reasons why it is the right thing to do such as having protected sex and getting papsmears to make sure the sex isn't harming her in any way. Don't preach to her and don't go to her parents with this because that may push her over the edge and just cause more drama in her life and force her to get more out of control because they'll probably restrict her some more and then she'll rebel some more and she'll no longer be your frined and then who will she have to point her in the right direction. Just give her all your love and understanding and give her some time to mature.
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