Damn, do I know how that feels! First thing you have to understand is that they are NOT your friends. True friends don't leave friends out like that. Now if it was once or even twice then maybe something happened..but it sounds to me like they're doing this consistently which is unacceptable. Plus, they're basically using you whenever they need a lift. What kind of friends would do that?

You definitley need to tell them how you feel. And don't be nice about it either. Tell them you don't appreciate them leaving you out all the time and then coming to you whenever they need a lift. Ask them how they'd feel if you did that to them. Stand up for yourself. If it were me, I'd get some new friends, but you might think they deserve another chance. It's up to you. But definitley don't stand for this any longer and demand an explanation from them. You deserve to be treated far better than this.

Yes. I wouldn't say it's "love" though, but if you really like someone.. there can be times when your feelings aren't as strong. That's mainly when you don't see them for a while. And then you see them again, the feelings come rushing straight back to you. I think everyone feels like that at some stage. Feelings are so weird.. they can come and go so fast. Don't look much into it; when you're young your feelings can be very messed up at times because you're constantly changing.

I believe most, if not all guys struggle with porn addictions some time in their lives. I've always found it degrading and offensive, but I accept that a lot of people (not only men) like it and look at it often.
It is usually quite a harmless addiction, but have I read some case of some marriage that was ruined because the woman could never satisfy her husband the way pornstars do in films and thus he turned to watching porn rather than having sex with her. A lot of people don't realize that porn is simply fantasy and acting, and find their sex life unsatisfying because it is nothing like in the movies. It can cause a lot of jealousy issues and such.

I don't think he has a sex addiction, though. I'm sure he came to you as he wanted some advice on what to do and was afraid of how wife would react if he told her. He probably trusts you and wants your viewpoint on it all.

This happens a lot, especially with girls. Whether it's a new friend, or a new boyfriend, friends can get jealous pretty easily if they feel replaced. You may have 'ignoring' her, but not consciously. Anyway, now is the time to work things out. Sit your friend down and explain to her that you're sorry she feels this way but you haven't been ignoring her purposely. Perhaps introducing her to your new friend might make her feel better. You should all go out and do something, or at the very least you should do something with your best friend. If she still not happy, then just leave it. It's her problem and she needs to deal with it. Surely you're entitled tohave friends other than her.

I'd say the most likely explanation is that the people you've been talking about him have been spreading stuff about you two, and he found out. He may be a little freaked out by this. It's not a good idea to tell anyone who you like, as it ALWAYS spreads. You just can't trust people.

Your best bet now is to ask him directly if anything is up. Just ask him how he is and see how he responds. You'll be able to tell from his body language if there's something wrong.

Sometimes, when a guy knows a girl likes him, he start to flirt with them and "lead them on" so the girl continues liking him. Having a girl like them is like an ego boost to them and they appreciate the attention. He may have figured out that you like him, and want it to continue, but may only see you as a friend.
Saying this, though, he may have lied to your friend about liking you. He may not want his feelings to be made public as we all know how fast goss spills.

Your best bet is to find out how he really feels yourself, and it's better to do it soon. That way you'll know whether you're wasting your time on someone or not. Good luck.

I don't see why he wouldn't want to go if you're good friends! It wouldn't be weird at all - lots of people bring dates to dances who aren't in the same year. I'm sure he'd love to go along for a good time. How could he pass that up?
Just mention that it's coming up, and see how he reacts. Then hint that you were thinking that maybe he would like to go with you. Don't force it or come on too strong at first. And emphasize it's just as friends! If he says no, be strong about it and don't be too disappointed. I'm sure he probably has a good reason - he's your best friend, right? :o)

It doesn't make you a bad friend -- it makes you totally normal to feel like that. You really like him, and he's showing interest in your friend. Who wouldn't be jealous?!
But you've got to put this all in perspective. She's your friend. He's your crush. What's more important to you? In your situation, as hard it may be, you should probably give her the number. I just don't think a guy is worth risking a friendship over, and he also might get mad at you if you don't. She might not even like him that way. And if she knows you like him, well, I'm sure she'll respect your feelings and not call him.

Of course, it's really up to you. That's just what I'd do. And it's not easy, trust me there.

Good luck.

Well, firstly.. take it as a good thing. It means people trust you. xP But I guess it can get too much sometimes.. so encourage your friends to talk to others about it instead of just you. Tell them that they shouldn't just tell everything to one person - it's good to get other people's perspectives as well.

All the best. =)

It depends. Is he more important than your friendship with Brandi? Are you willing to risk it? Friends liking the same guy/girl can often to lead to problems, unless you have one of those rare, true friends who'd be happy for you if the person you liked liked you back. There's not much you can do if he does like you. You can't control who he likes, (or who you like for that matter) It's really up to you if you are willing to pursue something with him, and how your friend will react to it. Maybe she'll find someone else..

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