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Q: im invited to this girls 14th birthday party. she only invited 20 people. we used to be best friends in 6th grade and were in love with eachother she told me she liked me but i wasnt in the mood so i said i didnt like her. that was in 6th grade. over that summer we totally lost contact by the next party she hated me then a month later school, she didnt notice me. i dont like her. she is creepy she is the gothic skater but too hyper and im a preppy jock she said. so its now end of 8th grade. since then her and her best friend they are always with eachother and they grew up around eachother, they keep falling for eachother but their friendship stays. i havent really thought about her till now she gave ME an invintation. i havent really talked to her since 6th grade. she changed so much since 6th shes the total oppasite i guess. im not the one to go to parties i never was. she always is she just has fun and talks to anyone. but she looks so miserable when shes not with any friends you can see the very deep pain in her eyes but shes so good at hiding it. her other friend told me she just hates life and is having a rough time and he said i dont have enough nerve to hurt her but if i did... i forget what he even said but her guy friends are extremely close to her more than they should be she constintly flirts with them but they say its fine. i want to know what is with her but im afraid of what her friends would say to me or what shed do to me. why did she invite me we dont even talk. what am i supposed to do. should i go or should i not and what do u think is with her? anything else u think or i mentiond please help

Well try to reason with her friends. Work together to try to help her out. If she is that depressed then she needs help.

Q: ok so i have been friends with this girl sence she moved her in fifth grade. and i have been frieneds with the other girl since like pre-kay and the sad thing is we got in a fight over the summer and in the middle of the school year we all made up were alll best friends well tahst what i thought but every time i wanna hang out with my best friend the one ive known since 5th grade well she says yeah and the day we are supposed to shes with my other best friend and they never tell me when were supposed to go see a movie they tell me im comeing with them but then they dont call me to tell me what time they are goign an dthen they call me in the movie and say oh we forgot about u sorry i forgive them and now shes like getting on my nerves adn its not fair how they ditch me every time and they are supposed to be my bfflas and they arent really??i have no clue what my question is but why are they still mad at m ei have not done wronge to them even in the fight it was them ganing up on me!some friends riight?

most people dont remain friends with their childhood friends i only have one friend that i have known since i was 5. ive lost lots of friends but i have gained tons. so if these to girls are being a pain in the ass to you then they arent really good friends. From what you are telling me they dont seem to even want to hang with you and are doing it on purpose but thats just me. If you want to get down to the bottom of all this sit down just yall girls and if they refuse to talk about the problem then forget them and find some better friends because you dont deserve to be treated that way.

Q: [13 year old FM.]

One time, my friend *Jackie and i went to a party together. When i got there, this boy had his arm around her.Aperantly, they were going out. I didn't know that. So when my dad picked me up, i asked her [when my dad wasnt there] when she and that boy started going out. She said a couple of days ago.
It turns out that my other friends knew it as well, before i did. When it happened to be exact. I dont know why she didn't tell me, do you think she doesnt want to be my friend anymore?

*i didn't use acually names.

Its not that she doesnt want to be your friends she just may trust the other friend with that information more than you. just try to hang out with her more and try to talk to her more about things. This happens all the time and has happened to me before but dont take it offensively or anything

Q: Ok. I have liked my best friend for about 18 months. I had asked her out once and she said she wanted to stay friends. So i let it go. its been about a year since then and whenever we are together, we are either holding hands or hugging or whatever. We had gone on a school field trip and we were together the whole time and we were constantly holding hands or hugging as i mentioned and she gave me kisses on the cheek. She had even fallen asleep on me on the way back. I really don't know if we should stay best friends, or if she likes me and i should ask her out again. please help. any advice is appreciated.

If she is doing all that then she feel comfortable with you which is a good thing. If she likes you try to look into her eyes because eyes are a dead give a way for girls. you can sort of tell what she is thinking by the look in her eyes. But if you cant really tell then sit her down just you and her and tell her how you feel...again. Maybe she does like you or maybe she is just comfortable with you. you never know unless you ask her.

Q: Ok i like a girl and we always talk and ive known her for a long time more then 4 years and i just asked her who did she like and then she told me who do YOU like? i sayed you tell me first and i just didint answer it i just kept trying her to say first then i asked her why dont you tell me and she sayed something about she didint want to ruin her freindship with this guy and i really think she was talkin about me and i wanted to tell her somethin so badlybut im shy and now a couple of months past and she has not been acing the same with me shes acting more away from me different and i want to tell her something now ask her out or ask her to me my girlfreinds anything to let her know i still like her alot so can any one help me AS SOON AS possible with as much information and details on what i can do thanks i am a guy 14 and she is a 14 also

If i were you id sit her down and ask her why she has been acting different. Even if your shy and all thats ok because some girls find that attractive. but anyway i advise you to do something about all this, call her or speak to her in person and tell her about that night when she said she didnt want to ruin her friendship with this guy well tell her if she was talking about u then that you really want to be with her and that being together would only make you and her have a strong relationship. Ive had this happen to me before. I really like this guy friend of mine but i wasnt sure if he liked me but one day i asked him and he did and we were just sooo happy together and actually studies show that being friends before starting relationships actually makes it stronger because you already know things about her. so go ahead dude and just go for it. You wont regret it trust me because if you dont go after her then that is what you will regret.

Q: lately the friends ive been hangin out with for like a year have been gettin on my nerves. i mean like my x best friend is now like the person i most avoid because of how annoyin she has become, or was she always that way and i never noticed till now.all these ppl that i thought id be friends with for like ever, are now very annoying and i jsut dont want to have anything to do with em. i want to go and make new friends but does that make me a bad peron for ditchin em for other ppl?

no you are not a bad person. this happened to me to about 2 years ago. I was maturing wayyy faster than a few of my friends and i started hangin out with people that "got" me. if you understand what im sayin. if these people are annoying you then tell them that you are because im sure they are probley thinkin that you are annoying them too. So think of it from their point of veiw also. If you want to save these friendship i sugguest you talk to the friends that are annoyin u so bad about all this. if not then maybe you just need to move on. Friends come and go. Thats life for ya.

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Hey im Charlene! Im 15. In highschool. I mainly just answer relationship questions/friendship questions. but i dable in other topics too. Im a pretty easy person to talk to, ive made tons of mistakes, but ive learned from them. So if u got a question ill probably be able to answer it.