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Basically, I'm one of those people that rarely straighten their hair (only on special occasions) so I decided to come here for help.

Anyway, in 2 weeks I'm going to party. I was wondering should I straighten my hair on the day of the party, or do it the night before?

My hair is really annoying because it gets greasy real fast, obviously overnight isn't enough to make it completely greasy but sometimes it'll lose shine and volume.

Obviously I'm leaning towards to doing it on the day, but what do you think I should do? (link)
You really shouldn't wash, dry and straighten all in the same day, unless you don't care about killing your hair. If you have to wash it the same day you straighten it, skip the blowdryer and let your hair air dry. You hair can't take that much heat. Plus, what most people don't know, you have to take really good care of your hair when it's completely wet out of the shower, because that's when it's most vulnerable.

Anyways, if your hair is super super greasy, then wash it early in the day, let it air dry, then iron it. However, the best thing to do is straighten hair when it's a little greasy. The oils in your hair serve as a natural moisture sealant. I see a lot of girls walking around with dry, crusty straightened hair. You shouldn't wash your hair everyday anyways. That's not enough time for your scalp to get moisturized. Even if you have greasy hair, look into buying a different kind of shampoo.

What I would do if I were you is wash my hair the day before, then straighten it the day of the party. The oils in your hair also weigh your hair down a bit, which keeps it straight.


I dye my hair by the box. My hair is a natural Dirty Blond. However, whenever I dye my hair..after about two weeks the color starts fading to a reddish color. ALWAYS. No matter which color I try to dye it. Its happened with Blond, Brown, Black, any color, you name it, it'll turn red after a little while. What can I do to make it not turn red? (link)
You have to buy dye with ash tones (ie. Medium Ash Brown). Ash tones minimize the red. If you look on the back of the box, sometimes they have a scale from warm to cool. Ash tones are on the cool end of the scale.

You also want to use shampoos that are strictly for your hair color, or ones that deposit a little bit of color in it as you shampoo. Like John Frieda's brilliant brunette, or any other ones like that.

I wouldn't use shampoos that are general and say "For colored hair", because they don't always bring out the color you want. I used to have highlights, but when I died my hair dark brown/black and used a shampoo that said "for colored hair" instead of "for brown hair", my highlights began to come through again, which wasn't what I intended.

Know that even if you dye your hair over, the previous color will always resurface at some point, so you will eventually have to redye it.


Has anyone ever got a bad hair cut story??

How did you make yourself feel better?

Thanks (link)
I sure have. I think we've all been there. Well, what I did was curl or wave my hair most of the time, or else I wore it up in a ponytail or bun, because when my hair was straight, the awkwardness of the cut was more noticeable.

Anyways, you can always go back to where you got it cut, tell them you are unhappy, and request that they fix it. Or else, go to a different salon and ask them to fix it.

Don't worry, it'll grow back :)


http://tr-load.com/uploads/9df2e2ce32.jpg
How do you get soft, smooth wavy curls like her in this picture?
I've tried, but I just get weird curls.
Any help?

Thanks. (link)
This style is done by blowdrying with a round brush. I do my hair like this all the time.

The biggest determining factors in how your hairstyle will come out is first your haircut, then your hair type. She has many layers, but has thin hair. It can work if you have thick hair with a cut that is thinned out at the ends, but if you hair is one solid length, then the layers won't show up and it won't look like this.

All they do is put product into the hair (this can be mousse, or a blowdrying serum) and blowdry the entire head dry with a round brush. To get the ends to curl, you have to concentrate on the ends for a little bit, so be sure to use a heat protective spray while the hair is still wet, then spray with hairspray once the ends are dried and are still hot. Once finished, run a small amount of smoothing shine serum through the hair to make it shine.


do i have to wash my make up brushes the frst tym i get them?


can i not?


why why not? (link)
You don't have to.

If the brush came in a plastic cover, then I wouldn't wash it, but if it was out in a jar where the bristles were exposed, I'd wash it. Brushes that are left uncovered can collect dust or germs when other people touch them.

If you have a brush that will go close to your eyes, like for eyeliner, then I would definitely wash it.

Don't forget that you should wash your brushes periodically, maybe once a month, depending on how heavily you use them. This rids the brushes of bacteria build-up and rotting makeup. Plus, the makeup will show up better.


im in college and whenever i go out i usually bring a purse with me ( and im usually the only one of my friends to bring one ) but i need things when i go to parties like my phone..camera..keys..makeup ect. i was wondering if i should start carrying a clutch? i have some wristlets but they just dont seem to be able to fit a digital camera and cell phone lol. when i see girls wearing clutches they're usually wearing dresses..which i dont normally wear. so my question is.......would it look okay to wear a clutch handbag with jeans and a nice top? dressy outfits but not a dress?

sorry this is so confusing =] (link)
OF COURSE you can wear a clutch with jeans! You can pretty much wear it with anything. If it were a more formal clutch, then it should be worn with formal attire, but other than that, they're very versatile! If you aren't sure what to do, then get a simple black clutch, which will pretty much match everything.


17/f. I've always thought denim jackets were really cute, but I've never bought one because I'm not sure what pants to wear with it. I wear jeans all the time... but if I wear jeans AND a denim jacket, will I look like I have a denim fetish? If anyone else has a denim jacket, what pants do you wear with it? I'm pretty normal sized, so any suggestions are appreciated! (link)
You can ALWAYS get them at denim jean stores, like Lucky Brand, True Religion, Diesel, DKNY jeans, Guess. I understand those are expensive stores, but to get them at other stores depends on the season I guess. The Gap should probably have them, especially now because it's almost fall. There's also L.E.I. and Levi's which are in the department stores.

It's kind of difficult to pair denim with denim. It's tacky and out of style to pair matching denim pants and a jacket. You can mix a jacket and jeans of different washes, but it's pretty hard to get it right. Here's a pic of a good match (it's a guy but whatever we're just looking at the colors here lol).

http://us.st12.yimg.com/us.st.yimg.com/I/solissf_2010_252966163

Anyways, I wear mine with yoga pants (black, pink, or grey), VS Pink sweatpants (so cute!), a mini dress (where it's tight around the legs), or over a long fitted tunic with tight leggings. And this is all with the same jacket!!! So you see, denim jackets are so versatile and can really go with anything.


has anyone ever used that "sun in" stuff or whatever its called you spray it on your hair and it supposively makes it lighter if you go and lay out in the sun, i was wondering if it works or not? cause i've heard it makes your hair look orangey, just wondering if anyones had any luck with it because i wanna try it.

THANKS :) (link)
I had wondered about that before, so I looked up some forums about it. It won't work if you have dark brown or black hair. If you do have lighter hair, it will most likely turn it orange. Also, a lot of people said it was really bad for your hair, that it makes your hair noticeably dry. The same thing goes for if you use lemon on your hair. It has acids that basically fry your hair and is way worse than dying it. You're better off getting highlights done at a salon unless you want frizzy hair.


My hair is pretty damaged and I'm trying to find a way to "heal" it if possible. My hair is fairly long, stick-straight, thin, and has lots of dead-ends.

When I shampoo my hair I always condition it too. I shampoo first (twice) then condition it right away. I leave the conditioner on until I finish showering so it is the last thing I wash off of me. I don't really use any specific kind of conditioner so it'd be nice if someone could recommend something really good for damaged hair.

I saw this stuff in Wal-Mart that says it helps to heal damaged hair but it's made out of placenta and that is entirely too creepy for me to be able to use.

Are there any products I can look into using for such a thing? (link)
There's no way you can repair split ends. The only way to get rid of them is to cut them off.

There are, however, products you can use to PREVENT split ends and damaged hair. Biolage is good, as someone else suggested. You can also walk into a salon and have someone help you choose products for your hair type (thick, curly, thin, etc). Or else you can buy a deep conditioner from the drugstore. Neutrogena has a good deep conditioner. I believe it's called triple moisture or something like that.

You should buy a protective spray that you spray on your wet hair. Tresseme makes a heat protecting spray that works great. Any time you use heat on your hair, you HAVE to protect it. Sadly, only a few people do.

You shouldn't shampoo your hair twice. That's too much. You also should only wash your hair every other day. People think that's gross, but washing it too much depletes your hair of the natural oils from your scalp needed to moisturize your hair.

Also, be gentle when working with wet hair and brushing. Don't overbrush your hair to put too much stress on it (like putting it in a bun everyday) or styling too much with heat (blowdrying, curling and ironing).


ok so i got my hair dyed today, and i absolutly HATE IT!!! its like RED and my natural color is blonde. Is there any home remidies that could possibly get my old color back?!?! thx! (link)
What color were you trying to get in the first place? If you were trying to go to a brown color of some sort, pick a color that has ash or cool tones in it (it minimizes the red tones).

If you got it done at a salon, you can go back and demand that they fix it. You might be afraid to go back there, but it's kind of their job to do it right. Same thing if they messed up your cut. Plus, this is what they'd lose clientele over.

There isn't any home remedies. These are permanent chemicals you're dealing with. There's such thing as a color stripping chemical, which you can get at a beauty supply and sometimes the drugstore. They can take the color out, but it won't give you EXACTLY the same color you had before. You might have to dye it over again.

If I were you, I'd wait a couple days so your hair can re-moisturize, then buy some dye from the store and just re-dye it. I will warn you though, don't be surprised if the old color begins to resurface a little bit. This happens no matter what. You just have to keep redying, which is the pain about coloring your hair.


I have dark brown hair and about 6weeks ago I decided to get blonde highlights.
I no longer like them and really want to go back to a dark brown all over. I don't want to have to go to the hairdressers. I have bought hair colour myself and dyed it in the past but not over highlights.
Does anyone have any advice on what I should do. The bleach isn't too blonde anymore, will it effect the colour I put on!? ie turn it pink or green where the bleach is?
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I agree with the other person about buying a neutral color. Don't buy one that has warm or ash tones.

I used to have dark brown hair with blonde highlights. When I wanted to cover them up, I dyed it over with a darkest brown (almost black) dye and it got rid of the highlights for like 6 months. The problem is that they started resurfacing when summertime came and my hair was in the sun.

You'll face that problem no matter what, so just make sure you stick with shampoos/conditioners made specifically for BROWN/DARK color-treated hair. If you get shampoo/cond that jsut say they're for color treated hair (and don't specify if for blondes, redheads, brunettes), don't use them because they will bring your highlights out.


thank you so much for your help on my question here: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=537494

"i started puberty when i was 9 and am 17/f now. when would it be okay to have corrective surgery/plastic surgery done on the face to fix my jaw? when do my bones stop growing?"

"They almost always refuse to do surgery when you're under 18. Anyways, I believe you reach your official height at like 21, but your face is always changing. My sister looks VERY different now than she did when she was in high school (from 18 to 30 years old).

Surgery on your jaw IS possible, but VERY VERY PAINFUL. They shave down your jaw bone. I've seen it on a plastic surgery show where a man was getting surgery to be more feminine. It looked so painful but if that's what you choose to do it's your choice, your body. But I definitely think you should wait until your at least 25."

i have a question on your answer. eek yeah but the guy had drugs when he got the surgery, right? do you mean like it will hurt post-surgery too?

do you know what happens after surgery? like do people have to wear a mask thingy for a month after or something?

25 sounds like a good age. hmm.

thank you again!! =) (link)
Your welcome!

ANY kind post-surgery hurts, no matter what. After the drugs die down, you experience a lot of swelling. You are prescribed painkillers, but you can only take them so much.

After oral surgery, the mouth must be cleaned with provided mouth wash solution. Some surgeons want you to not eat anything for 24 hours, while others feel that eating is fine.
· A one night hospital stay is generally required
· The face will become moderately swollen and may become black and blue
· Return to usual activities in approximately one week
· It may take four to six weeks before the improved contour becomes obvious

Here is the site I got it from which explains more:

http://www.facialfeminizationsurgery.info/ffs_jaw_shave.html


i started puberty when i was 9 and am 17/f now. when would it be okay to have corrective surgery/plastic surgery done on the face to fix my jaw? when do my bones stop growing? (link)
They almost always refuse to do surgery when you're under 18. Anyways, I believe you reach your official height at like 21, but your face is always changing. My sister looks VERY different now than she did when she was in high school (from 18 to 30 years old).

Surgery on your jaw IS possible, but VERY VERY PAINFUL. They shave down your jaw bone. I've seen it on a plastic surgery show where a man was getting surgery to be more feminine. It looked so painful but if that's what you choose to do it's your choice, your body. But I definitely think you should wait until your at least 25.


i didnt know what category to put this under.
1.does getting your belly button pierced hurt?
2.does it hurt more if you have a little thicker skin where it is supposed to be pierced
3.will i pass out after it
4.will i actually be nervous with the needle and stuff
+++I used to be deathly afraid of needles but i am pretty good now
+++++I have had my cartilage pierced with the gun and it did not hurt me at all really and i was not scared before it. but after it i did feel dizzy and lightheaded and had to sit down (link)
The clamps hurt WAY worse than anything. it's really tight, but this is good because you don't feel pain when the needle goes through. The needle doesn't hurt, it just feels uncomfortable. Anyways, it's a pretty quick process.

Thickness of the skin does not affect how much it hurts. It really depends on your pain threshold.

If you are usually prone to fainting, you might pass out. Make sure you eat something a few hours before you go get pierced and that you've had a shower and clean clothes that day to prevent infection.

I was a bit nervous, but you just have to breathe. I didn't even look at ALL during the entire thing. Anyways, the piercer will tell you to take a big breath in, then exhale. When you exhale, they put the needle through so it doesn't hurt that bad.

I think you'll be totally fine. It's very quick. Just don't look if you're afraid.


i have really short eyelashes so i really want long ones for prom coming up but everytime i wear fake eyelashes, the corners always end up peeling off. i tried basically every mascara, expensive to cheap. i dont like it because they always get clumpy. so im wearing fake eye lashes for sure.

im getting my makeup done so do you think that because of the fact that ive put fake eyelashes on myself that they always fall off? cuz it might be different if someone else does it for me.

they really need to last throughout the whole night, after party, and the sleepover.

so should i just get the makeup artist to put them on or is it still gonna peel off, anyway?

there's also professional eyelash extension people but i have to drive so far for that and its soo expensive. plus they last for months and thats not necessary. i just need it for the whole night and until the morning when i go home.

so are makeup artists able to make them last that long or is are they just gonna fall of the same way they do when i put them on myself?



help!!!!! :( (link)
I think your lashes fall off because of the quality of the glue. It's probably just a bad glue. I wear false lashes almost every day (I'm a pro lol) and I don't have that problem. so it could also because of the way you put them on. Anyways, have the makeup artist apply it for you and I'm certain they will last longer. However, they tend to slip after a few hours no matter what. You'll be really active and sweating during the dance so don't be surprised if they are misaligned by then. You will have to take them off and re-apply them after your dance.

I'm hoping that you trim the lashes and sweep a coat of mascara under your lashes after you put the false ones on. This kinda fuses together your real lashes to the fake ones so it's less noticeable (to prevent it from looking like you have two sets of lashes).

you could ask for individual lashes as well. They tend to look a lot more natural.


hi! im wearing this gorgeous dress to prom:

http://www.simplydresses.com/gown-by-manufacturer/detail.cfm?key=297318&v=PD&cat=mori-lee


you cant really tell as much in the picture but everything, especially the straps, are really detailed. its even more fancy in real life than online. theres a lot going on at the top and i dont want to cover it up with my hair. its gonna clash and look ugly and overdone. i have a LOT of hair. its long and kinda thick but at the same time i look like crap with my hair in an updo. what should i do with it? (link)

OMG THAT DRESS IS HOT AS HELLLLL!!!! I wish I had a dress like that when I went to prom :(

You're 100% right about not wearing your hair down. It'll really take away the focus of the dress and cover up the straps.

You should really wear your hair up, but if you reallly hate updo's, then you should wear a half-updo and half-down, or in a low bun. I have long, thick hair too, but it really works great with an updo.

Here are some styles I like (I know these are bridal pics but you can see that all the girls have thick hair too):

http://www.nycityweddings.com/chat/p/1643701_3.jpg
http://www.nycityweddings.com/chat/p/1643708_1.jpg
http://www.nycityweddings.com/chat/p/1643725_2.jpg
http://www.nycityweddings.com/chat/p/1643709_3.jpg
http://www.nycityweddings.com/chat/p/1643708_3.jpg

heres a page with TONS of pics:

http://www.nycityweddings.com/chat/topic.aspx?ID=170339


how can i give my hair more volume? like any certain way to wash it or blow dry it? or any shampoo/conditioner? thankss (link)
Volumizing shampoo and conditioners is a must. I like Tressemme because it works well for me. I also like their volumizing mousse, which works reallly well. There's also a volumizing root boosting spray that you spray on your roots before you blowdry your hair.

Blowdyring your hair upside down is the easiest way to give your hair volume. You can also tease the crown of your head with a fine-toothed comb. There are tons of tutorials on youtube that show you how to do it.

Also, the next time you go to get your haircut, tell the stylist to give you a cut that will give you more volume. She'll probably throw in lots of layers to give it more body.


hello! does anyone know any filipino populations/markets in the northeast? around ny, philadelphia, and nj?

im looking for this likas papaya soap: http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/41tf5s%2B4IkL._SL500_AA280_.jpg

i want to buy the soaps offline and was told they are sold at filipino stores but i dont know of any. does anyone here?

thanks in advance! (link)
Sorry, I don't know of any stores in that area, but it's sold online on ebay:

http://search.ebay.com/search/search.dll?sofocus=bs&sbrftog=1&dfsp=32&from=R40&satitle=likas+papaya+soap&sacat=-1%26catref%3DC6&sargn=-1%26saslc%3D2&sadis=200&fpos=48825&sabfmts=1&saobfmts=insif&ftrt=1&ftrv=1&saprclo=&saprchi=&fsop=32%26fsoo%3D2

If that link doesn't work, just go to ebay.com and search likas papaya soap. It's really cheap, only $3-5.


Im am 13/f and i want to be a model, and when i was little (around 7) i went to a modeling thing. one of those open ones, and they said i had the looks. well im now a soccer player who isnt skinny but isnt fat. but my legs are big and i have a little bit of a tummy. and i was wondering how would i get noticed or something. and if i would need to lose weight. and some good advice on how to get started at a young age.
Thanks! (link)
I'm assuming you have the height (at least 5'8)? If you are shorter than that there is very little work out there for you besides print or promotional modeling.

They usually don't like it if you have too much muscle. You could be a fitness model though.

Anyways, I don't want to frighten you, but 13 isn't really a young age in this industry. Most girls are already modeling by this age. It's a pretty tough business to break into. Sometimes you will hear of modeling conventions on the radio, but I'll warn you that they charge a pretty large fee. If you look on http://craigslist.com and find your city, they're always posting things like, "photographer needs models" or "open casting call".

Or, if you by chance know any other girls who model, you're best bet would be to talk to them and see how to get in the agency they're in.

Like anything, you have to start at the bottom. Get a lot of experience and professional photos so you can build a portfolio and comp cards.

Anyways, if you are serious about it, then you have to prepare for a lot of rejection. Be aware that this isn't a job you do forever because they don't really want you once you get old (mid twenties). Good luck!


is this coupon already expired?

http://www.mommysavesbig.com/printable-coupons/victoriassecret2.jpg

what does "offer valid through" mean? (link)
Yes, the coupon has expired. It expired on Jan. 18.

When is says "offer valid through Jan. 18, 2008", that means you can use the coupon until Jan 18. After that, it's expired.




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