13/f
i have always had a GREAT relationship with my older brother, 16, probably beacause i live a very long distance from him but hes pretty much like my best friend. hes always been able to get girls because of his looks and personality, and ive always gotten to know all of these girls because he wants me to. same way with me i always have a boyfriend, and he alwasy wants to talk to them and see how they are, but this past summer when i went to visit him, he had jsut gotten his liscense, and hes been able to drive me places and stuff. so we decided to go pick up his new girlfriend so i could meet her. shes very cute and pretty, but she treats him like crap! and i think he treats her really good and i think he deserves better. hes a GREAT person and when hes around her he just gets so stressed out and like he doesnt want to talk at all or ANYTHING. and normally when im hanging out with him and a different girlfriend he'll want me to hang out with them, but with her it seems like shes telling him, no i dont want her around, of course she doesnt say that but thats what it seems like. he just seems unhappy.
anyone have any advice?
It doesn't sound to me like he's the one who is unhappy. If he was, he wouldn't be dating her. It sounds like you are the one that is unhappy, because she doesn't want you around as much as his previous girlfriends did.
This is not a problem. To be honest, it is her perogative. If your brother thinks she is important enough to date, then you should respect that.
This is his relationship, not yours.
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I have three sisters. Two of them are older, but we were always close when we were younger. The thing is they go out and they drink and smoke and stuff, and I don't tell my parents anything. I always keep their secrets. One got a ticket for drinking and had to go to the hospital, and she is only 18. My parents don't even care! They lowered her curfew and took her car away for like, a week. The other one isn't so bad. She is 19 and goes out all the time and drinks.
Now, my parents know we drink, just as long as we aren't a sloppy mess. I don't smoke, but last night I was hanging out with my boyfriend and his friends (who are my sister's friends as well) and I tried salvia. It was horrible and I did not like it and I will never do it again. But I'm guessing my sister told my mom I did something because my mom came downstairs and was like, "So I hear you aren't good when you go out." And she didn't tell me what she ment by it. I am sick of keeping my sister's secrets when they won't do it for me at all. It is such a pain, but I don't want to be a snitch to them. Talking to them is a big waste, because they will just lie.
GAH! It's so frusterating, and I have no idea how to handle it.
Any help will be apperitiated, thank you.
In my opinion, none of you should be acting this way.
Reality check: you are getting in trouble. Your sister had to go to the HOSPITAL for crying out loud. A little respect for your bodies and your health is probably a good thing.
Consider it a compliment that your sisters are telling on you. It can be annoying when someone adopts the "do as I say, not as I do" attitude, but it's better than pretending that it's okay to act like an idiot.
The real shame here isn't that they told on you. You are lucky to have people looking out for you.
The unfortunate part of this situation is that your siblings are not setting a good example for you, and see nothing wrong with jepordizing their own health.
I suggest you take a step back, and re-evaluate your own decisions. Maybe you shouldn't do things that are harmful to you. Maybe you shouldn't make it so easy for your sisters to hurt themselves either. Maybe it's time to start taking responsibility for your life.
You act like your siblings are wrecking your fun or something. Really, none of the stuff you guys are doing is fun. It's just immature.
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13/f
my parents got a divorce when i was like 2 years old and when i was 4 they where both married again. so ive always been close with everyone even my stepparents. my dad has 4 kids and my mom two
i live in florida with my mom, and my dad live in louisiana with his other 3 kids.
ive always been a daddys little girl, but once i started to mature which was in like 5th grade, (now im in 9th) ive been slowly loosing our reltionship. i havnt been able to see him as much as i used to because of the sports im in, but of course i make an effort to see him.
i think he thinks im growing up too fast, or something like that but,
i dont want him to feel like im loving him any less, nad i dont want to feel that way about him either. but somehow its happening!
can anyone give me advice to keep our relationship going?
Tell him you want more daddy-daughter time. Make more plans together, lett him you love him whenever you get the chance, and make a point of talking to him more often. Don't worry about the relationship ending or something though. Your dad loves you unconditionally.
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Alright so my girlfriend of 7 months has gone through a lot. More than anyone I know and I am surprised she is still her. But anyways she just got a cell phone 4 or 5 months ago and it's a pay as you go phone. Her step-mom said she could only use it for emergencies. Of course like any teenager she didn't go by this. But she buys all her own phone cards and everything. Well a few nights ago I was talking to her about our amazing weekend (long story) well my phone has bad reception in my house so I thought it had dropped the call. I waited a minute to call her back and when I did her step-mom answered. Thats when I figured out she hung up because she came in. Well anyways she told me that she was only to be using this phone for emergencies and that she will have to talk to me another time. Then the next day she called me for just a minute to say she has been groudned for 2 weeks. She can't see talk or do anything with anyone. So pretty much isolation. And this is all my fault and now we may not get to go to the Journey concert we planned on for months since that is within these 2 weeks. I just feel the need to make things right. And to know if her dad had any say in the punishment. Because honestly it should be up to him and not the step mom since it's his daughter. Is there anything I can do to make this right?
It doesn't sound like there's much you can do. You are absolutely right about what "should" be going on - no step parent should be the primary diciplinarian in any family. That being said, this family is clearly askew in the way it works. I suggest e-mailing her a lot (if that's allowed). If you are really brave, you could go over to her house and apologize to her parents ans ask them to let her out on the night of the concert (promising to never call the cell phone again). Of course, that could completely blow up in your face and would definitely be scary. If you are desperate though, it is an option.
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Im 15 years old and i was addopted at 6 i feel so spaced out from my parents and not sure what to do, i wish i lived with my birth parents but i cant find them till im 18 what do i do?
Get a therapist. Dealing with something like that can be difficult, especially when you haven't met your birth parents. You need help sorting out your feelings and thoughts.
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My mom wants me to be a total conformist and I flat-out refuse, but she yells at me because I don't wear make-up or spend years on my hair or dumb myself down for boys. Then she yells at me for not doing my schoolwork and stuff that just contradicts everything she said 5 minutes ago she wants me to do. I usually have really good control over my temper but she simply will not allow me to remain calm when we argue, so I yell at her (she's the only person I've ever had to yell at in my entire life) and she smacks me! Do you see a way out of my predicament, because I don't. 15/f
I suggest not letting it bother you. Every mother wants a picture-perfect daughter. She probably wants to live vicariously through you. Just don't pay any attention to her. Be yourself and mind your own business.
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Theres this boy named kyle =) .. he is amazing i love him soo much he means the world 2 me (L) ..
But he doesnt love me =( .. He has blocked me on msn he says i annoy him :^)(U) .. but the grls sed b4 tha he sed he lyked me but i think they were lying (N) ..
I love him soo much not having him in my life makes me feel lyk sum1 is pushing a knife through my heart :^)(U) ..
He has got a girlfriend i hate her :@ ..
i jus want him in my life .. my lifes not living without him :^)(U)
W.b
It's great that you care about him so much. The amount of pain shows how much love you have for him, and that's fabulous. It takes a certain kind of person to care so much about someone else. That being said, he might be an asshole. You havn't done anything wrong; it's GOOD that you love him. If he is "annoyed" with you, that isn't your fault. It's his. If I were you, I'd tell him how you're feeling. Now, there is a chance he'll make fun of you for that (a big chance actually), but I'd still try talking to him about it anyway. If he is a jerk who would make fun of you for caring, it's better you know upfront. And if he is actually a nice guy, he will care about how you're feeling. Whatever happens, you are obviously a great person, with lots of empathy and care for others. Which is great; the world needs more people like you. Don't let anyone bring you down.
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homecoming is coming up this next weekend and my parents have always been too over protective and strict. my mom keeps talking about how before the dance she wants to like, go to whos ever house we are going to and i dont know like meet everyone or something? but im a sophomore and most of the people im going with are juniors and we dont need parents for rides or anything. and no one elses parents are like going and seeing everyone before hand and i have tried telling her this 100 times but shes just like "i dont care those are our rules" and i dont know how im supposed to get through next wekeend without her embarrassing me because i really want to have fun but shes already starting to ruin it
Ughh. Overprotective parents are something I have a lot of expierience with. The best chance you have to change your mom's mind is to tell her how you feel. Be emotional without being angry and she might change her tune. But, if she dosn't, you're going to have to grin and bare it.
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I feel like my life is falling apart...it seems like every good step i take i fall behind another step...i come from a broken home and my step mom is the best thing that has happened since then but my parents fight and my real mom and i don't even speak.......and i just feel like the new family we have created is going to fall down the same path as my father's first marrige??????
There's no reason why it will. Let yourself enjoy it; not everything falls apart.
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One of my friend's brother or step-brother, I can't remember which, tries to rape her every night.
She first told me about it a week ago, and I told her that she has to tell someone that she can trust immediately. Well, she told me that she's told her parents and the school counselors, but no one is doing anything about it.
I really hate to see her like this because she deserves so much better, is there any way that I can help her out?
That is absolutley horrible and disgusting. Her brother deserves to be locked up. Call a helpline and ask if there's someone who can help your friend. Good luck.
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