My name is Jillian and if you've got a question, I'll answer it the best I can.
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So I went in the living room after school and my mom was looking at PORN on her laptop. I totally don't know what to do about this. She is old and I don't understand why she would want to see porn. I just feel really wierd and I can hardly look at her. Can you help me get past this? (link)
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At some point your parents stop seeming like perfectly angelic role models. They are completely human, just like you. They were once a teenager. They once had their first kiss. They once were dumped by a boyfriend or girlfriend that they thought they loved.
Think of it biologically. Sex and being turned-on is a complete biological human need. Chemical synapses are released,telling your mother to satisfy a particular need. It's completely natural and completely harmless. While she should have satisfied it somewhere else, just remember that she is only human.
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My mother was recently diagnosed with Schizophrenia, yet she is in denial. If you scream at her to get help, her face remains completely unchanged and emotionless.
She thinks everyone is out to get her, and against her; trying to take me and my brother away from her,which has already been done.
In March of last year, my little brother John was taken by his father from my mother. She hasn't seen him since. But he did it for John's own safety because at the time, my mother was somewhat abusing me, and she went to jail for it for four months.
She blames my father, Johns father, and her own mother for everything that;s happening to her, and nothing we say will convince her to get help. She doesn't think she needs help, and absolutely refuses to get it.
On June 4th of this year my grandmother is going to stop paying for my mother hotel room [since the state of Georgia won't allow her to be around me alone] and is going to stop helping all in one.
Then we're going to Virgina for about 5 days; so my mother won't come to us asking for more help.
Thinking about doing that to my own mother, whom I love to death, breaks my heart.
I really need help on how to make her understand that she needs help...or I'll never have my old mother back ): (link)
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i dont think there's much you can really do. she needs to figure it out for herself, although with schizophrenia it would be harder for that to happen.
but really, i think you need to just be there for her. if you arent allowed to live with her anymore then write her letters and call her. oh wait. if she doesnt have a place to stay that would be very difficult...perhaps your grandmother cutting your mother off when she has schizophrenia isnt the best solution.
all you can do is hope something will happen. honest to god, i dont think you have much control over what your grandmother does.
just make sure your mother knows that you love her and act normal around her, and not like there is anything wrong. make sure she sees that you arent against her and you just like being with her. other than that, shes just going to have to figure things out for herself, sad as that may seem.
good luck-you're in one tough pickle.
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I'm 13/f, and I have an overprotective mom. She can't leave me home alone for 15 minutes. I was going to my friend's house. I told my mom that my friend's babysitter was going to be there, which was true, and my mom didn't believe me. She followed me to my friend's door and STUCK her head into the house, and looked around. I was SO embarrassed. She could have at least asked my friend if her mom was home or something. And I'm going to my friend's house soon and I'm so scared that my mom will follow me to the door again. My mom never used to be so overprotective. HELP!! How do I get to calm her nerves down? I live in a town where nothing bad has ever happened. (link)
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You have to gain her trust.
Make her feel comfortable with you being with a friend alone or home by yourself.
Show her your responsible, and she'll slowly let you do more independent things.
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i hate my mom we do not get along at all. ill be 18 in a few weeks i need to get out of the house. i was wondering if there are different not shelters but places u could stay that are eitehr free or not to expensive please answer the question instead of saying oh just try and get along and shittttt thankss (link)
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I think you should stay with a friend, but while you're staying there i suggest you work a job to save up for an apartment or something :]
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Lately I've been stressing over everything in my life and its getting to the point where I'm starting to get depressed more often and moody. I'm stressing over trying to get into a top highschool where only a few get chosen......stressing over this boy who has a girlfriend but I just can't seem to get him out of my head no matter I do he's all I think about....stressing over issues in my home I feel like I can't go to anyone for help because I feel like they get bothered with my problems. I don't know what to do how do I handle my issues normally without depression or mood swings or stress? (link)
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Depression is hard. Really hard.
what helps me, as stupid as it sounds, is getting my ipod and a book and taking a bath. haha i know it sounds stupid but if you just sit in a bath, i usually do it with a bathing suit to feel more comfortable, and listen to calming music or read a book, it just relaxes me. or you could write your thoughts in a journal. that also helps. you could make a private xanga that nobody knows about and just type out all of your issues on there.
also ive noticed i feel more energized to deal with stress and happier if you eat more healthy food like a banana or something or just taking a walk and thinking.
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and constantly compares you to another sibling, calls u stupid, fat, ugly (about every time she sees me)....like, everytime theres a TV ad for a skincare line or something she says, 'you should get that!' (cause i don't have such great skin) every 5 seconds ...she loves it.
always talking to me and staring at my acne and/or saying, "what is happening to your face?!". and shes always like, you look so ugly right now!
or she even tells me to shut up randomly, sometimes even wanting to get violent....or 'why don't you get your eyebrows done? (ur (my) sister) is so much prettier, why can't you look like her', etc.....'ur so dark (wtf?) and ugly'
she is bipolar, for real. i can't take it anymore.
she is so comforting to hug sometimes and talk to when I'm low or when my dad gives me stress (he is a resume/checklist, 'did u finish this, did you finish that'' type of dad!) not a great combo. But it's so weird because she gets into a nasty behavior randomly.
for example...i have concentration problems (add) and my dad helps me focus sometimes to do my schoolwork (i take medication, i'm 17)....and my mom imitates me and is like, "I'm so stupid, I'm going to just use my dad, he can do all my work for me, and mom cooks so I can use her too."
it's hard and really annoying because she digs into some of my deepest insecurities and just full on insults me. my sister doesn't talk to her anymore. but its harder for me because i still live in this house.
its lonely as ever, especially because as of now I don't have many friends since I moved and am going to a new school this fall. =/! (link)
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this is a particularly difficult thing because you live with your mom so your always around her. but, as hard as it sounds, you have to just ignore it :/ and when she says "you should try that for your skin" just say "i guess it wouldn't hurt trying it, can you buy it for me?" because maybe she's just trying to be helpful in those situations. but when she calls you ugly, just think on the inside "haha how sad. a mother thats calling her daughter ugly. when i have kids im not going to be like her." and just laugh it off. it'll put a smile on your face.
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Well, I am 5''3 and 13 years old and all my mom can ever talk about is my weight. In summer 06, she told me that i looked to heavy. I was 122 lbs, so i lost 20 pounds. then she complained that I looked to skinny. Right now I am 107 and she keeps bugging me that I look too skinny. She wants me to gain 5 lbs, but I dont want to. I like the way I look right now but my mom doesn't respect that. Whenever I wear a swimsuit, all she can comment on is, "you look too skinny". It's really annoying and I wish she would just let me stay at the weight I feel right at. I just don't want to listen to her complain anymore. What do i do? (link)
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eh don't listen to her. thats her opinion. and it's your body not hers. so whenever she comments your weight just say "ok thats nice" try not to say it rude though, because that could lead to a fight haha but yeah, don't worry about what she says, it's not her body.
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