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ok well latly i have been remembering times when i was younger that i did not like at all. my family would take pictures of me when i was in the bathtub.(i was about 10 or so at the time) and i recall one time when my grandmother was scratching my back but went below my pants line and i freaked out,ran away and cryed. my mom said i was making to big of a deal out of it. again when i was about 9, my mom would suggest that i sleep topless in the summer if i got hot. i always thought that was strange. plus my family(including aunts and grandparents) spanked my butt for no reason at all. just when they passed me they would. i dont like thinking that they did that to me, but i was younger at the time and i didnt know any better because i though a lot of famlies were like that. well now i know that they're not and theres also a lot of other problems going on in my house(not sexualy). but is there something i can do about it now that im older and know it was wrong...(is it wrong?) or if i should just forget about it because its passes. oh and i have always felt that i would get raped before im 18...please help me if you can...
Its only a problem if it bothers you, and if it does then you need to solve the problem..talk to them and tell your family how you feel...im sure they are just playin..but tell them that you are uncomfortable and then maybe things will get better...keep me updated and remember only you have the choice to change things in your life..:*:SaRa:*:
ok so my mom found out something i did with my bf long story but i got in trouble and got this whole thing about how i broke my trust with her. so tommroow i am going to my friends n my bf will be there i really wana go and idk how to ask cuz she said i wouldnt be doen anything for a while cuz of what i did. please help i want her to trust me i wish i could just talk to her more all i want is to have fun and to be pushed aside a little. im just a teenager...i make mistakes. please help me soon
Instead of asking me you should be telling your mom this! Your right as long as the mistakes arent made on purpose and you learn from them, then your growing up and its gonna happen, maybe you should talk to your mom and actions speak louder than words, prove to her that your responsible and trustworthy and im sure shell listen, shes your mom, shes just worried about you thats all! *:*SaRa:*:
AHH my dad treats me like I'm 5!! I mean I can't do alot of things by my self..I can't wear tank-tops in front of him...He thinks I can't take care of the dog because I'm too young? HELLLO I'm 13!! I'm a freshmen..at this age it's really hard to keep high grades..yet I still have to keep my grades above 95? Plus I'm alot more mature then a 13 year old..because like ALL my friends are 14-15..and he expects me to do alllll this work and stuff..and when I get hurt he thinks it doesn't hurt at all..but he still treats me like Im SO little!!! I swear he talks to me like Im 5...gR I've tried talking to him...but it doesn't work? What should I do?
Why dont you prove to him that your responsible, you cant really hold down a job at 13, you have to be 15 or 16 before you can start working, Take care of the dog, You are still kinda young but you need to let your dad know that you can be mature and just talk to him about it, tell him hes bein to hard on you, but you know if you were so grown up maybe you could realize that he just cares about you, and you are growin up! Thats hard on parents! Good Luck! :*:SaRa:*:
A little less then two months ago I found out my cousin was raped and i've been having some trouble dealing with it.I'm really close to this cousin , she's liek my best friend.when i first found out i just started crying , i couldnt even look at anyone for a copuple days.That i had to cry myself to sleep.i used to live in a house with her in when i was younger,i lived on the bottom and she lived on the top.Whenever i think about her and her baby i cant help but cry and its so hard for me to look at her without crying.I cant help but think maybe if i hadnt moved away i would have been with her and i could have stopped the jerk who did this to her.I seem to be the only person in my family who thinks she can finish high school and still take care of her baby.i mean its her family thier supose to be supportive of her.She was raped when she was 14 and had her baby when she was 15.She was born about 3weeks ago.I still cant help but worry about her and feel like i could have done something and i should tell my parents to be more supportive of her and stop thinking so negative.I couldnt even talk to my best friend about this w/o feeling stupid so if anyone has any advice for me, please send it.
Ok first of all, i know you must feel really bad about what happened to your cousin, i mean who wouldnt!Theres probably nothing you could have dont to stop this...everyone feels like they could have always done something but thats not always the case. You dont need to start crying about this everytime you see your cousin! Imagine how she feels, it probably just reminds her about what happened! you need to be there for her, not try to put yourself in her postition! if she needs to talk, listen, be there for her like you said, thats what family is about! I know ppl that have kids at an early age and were still able to overcome obsticles such as school, you have to be there for her and support her! thanks for the question and i wish you all the best! :*:SaRa:*: