So, I'm a 14 year old girl and I honestly can't cope with the way my parents tell me to live, I feel like I am trapped in my home and I can't do anything!
They have these rules that I cannot go on my iPad/phone until 8pm every night, even at weekends I'm not aloud to use them. They say I'm to antisocial and I need to get out more, I go almost everywhere with them! I do go to town with friends aswell. They won't let me out of my town, I live in Barnstaple, devon and I'm not even aloud to Exeter or Bristol to go on a shopping trip with friends which is only about 2 hours away. Also I'm not aloud to be friends with a few people I know, one of them because there is a rumour going around that her mum is a prostitute and the other one who is my best friend and I still hang out with her secretly because she said something rude on Facebook like 2 years ago! It annoys me how I can't be friends with who I want to be friends with. My parents won't let me go out after school and I always have to be back home at 4pm if I go anywhere, which means I can't go out in the evening or at night and have a laugh :(
They also won't let me use social networks other than Facebook and Twitter, I want to be able to use snapchat, Instagram and tumblr but I'm not aloud to have it on my phone, another thing is that my dad still reads my texts and my messages with friends online!!! I'm 14 and I literally have no privacy! It's really annoying I want to just tell him "no, I won't give you my phone" or just not tell him the lock to my phone but he always makes me! :(
This is really annoying me now how I feel like I am stuck with nothing to do and no privacy at all :(
Anyone know what I could do?
The situation that you are facing is severe. But the first thing that you should know is that you are not the only one facing these circumstances. Here in India there are many places where even boys face harsher homemade rules than you. However, neither does this justify your condition nor does it mean that your problem doesn\'t have a solution.
You are suppressed by your parents\' overprotectiveness. But that is the symptom of the problem. Just like sneezing is a symptom and not a disease in itself. The root cause of the problem as far as I can understand is that they feel that you aren\'t mature enough to understand that who\'s good and who\'s bad, what\'s good and what\'s bad for you.
That\'s why they are so overprotective. For a moment, just to calm yourself, ponder over this:
There is a sense of care and love in your parents towards you. However, it has taken a monsterous form !
So be calm. There are parents who don\'t care whether their children are hurt or even whether they are alive or not. You are lucky that your parents care for you. The only thing is that this care has made them a bit blind.
The remedy that you can use is that somehow show them that you are mature and you can take responsible decisions relating to your life. How you will show this is upon you to find out. You are 14 - Big Enough ! If you\'ll remain calm you will soon get the opportunity.
तथा अस्तु
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