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Q: okay this weekend I'm meeting my boyfriend's ENTIRE family at his sister's graduation party, and they're the REALLY formal type who like kiss you on the cheek and stuff. well you know how when girls kiss in the cheek? do you move your head to the left or the right? cause every time i do that i always kiss the wrong side and we always bump and its so embarrassing haha...

what other ways can i make a good impression?

Move your head to YOUR right. :)

Then switch. Or not... depends on if it's a double kiss or not.

Q: I have found myself snapping at people calling them complete morons and other such insults. I do it when I am frustrated or even slightly annoyed. I have no patience for anyone it seems. Later on I regret saying such things. I've said these things to friends and family, and even my boyfriend ,whom I adore. But when the moment hits me it seems I can't prevent the waspish comments from bursting out. How do I explain to these people why I say such things? I've hurt their feeling and it really upsets me. I don't mean to be mean. It seems i just can't help it.

When you are annoyed and/or angry and you know that you are prone to snapping at people you don't want to hurt, avoid them. If that is unrealistic, tell them beforehand, "I'm really stressed right now, so if I snap at you, I'm really sorry." And when you do it, apologize instantly.

When someone is particularly annoying you, hold your tounge and thank about not snapping. Think before you speak whenever you can.

I do the same thing, but I'm learning not to.

Q: Tomorrorw is picture day...

I have wavy hair and i want to scrunch it..

how excactly do i scrunch it.. please give detailed information or i'll have to sraighten it..

Ah, I do this a lot, it's easy and adorable.

First, your hair must be pretty damp. Not dripping wet, but definitely not dry. Next, spray a little bit of hair spray on front, back, and underside. Not too much. Then get a glob of gel and work it through your hair. Bend over, so that your hair falls around your face.

Grab handfuls of hair and scrunch them up to your head. Hold each one for a few seconds. Repeat this a LOT. Concentrate on the hair directly in front of you when bent over, this is the hair that will be by your face. Get some more gel and work through again. Scrunch some more. Then a teeny bit more hair spray. Finish with one or two more scrunches.

If you want, you can use a diffuser on a blowdryer to dry your hair. The diffuser deflects the air, so all you get is the heat. Thus, keeping that lovely wavy shape. Or you can let it air dry, and keep the "wet look" longer.

Happy Scrunching!

Q: I work in a cinema and part of my job is to make sure that people don't talk or mess around because it disturbs the other customers.

It would help me a lot if you guys would say how you think I should react in the following circumstances.

1) Group of people talking,throwing popcorn.

2) Two people making out.

3)People walking up and down the aisles a lot.

4) Little kids sitting in the aisle because they're too short too see over peoples heads(against fire regulations)

5)People with their phones on(messes up the sound)

6)Teenage boys wanking in the back row(has happened to me before)

7)People waiting outside banging on the doors to come in whilst a films on.

8)People making obscene gestures/giving me verbal abuse.

9)Having a queue, knowing we are going to run out of seats.

10) Babies crying.

Could continue but I think I've given you the general idea-my job is hard work!

1. Talk to them. Threaten them with bringing in the manager and/or throwing them out if needed.
2. Aw, c'mon, this is a tradition! But, seriously, if it's really an issue, look at #1.
3. Calmly ask them if there's a reason they are up. Ask them if they can sit in a seat. If they become difficult, see #1.
4. Ask the kids to sit down in their seats. If they refuse talk to their parents.
5. Tell them to turn off their phones.
6. Wow. That's disgusting. Shine a flashlight at them. Directly at their face. If needed, refer to #1.
7. Tell them that they can catch the next showing, and that it is disturbing for them to do this.
8. Get the manager.
9. Tell the line how many seats you've got left, and offer the next showing to those who want to see the sold-out flick.
10. Ask the parents to either calm them down or leave.

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My name is Deanna: aka manrashi, banana, deanimal

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