I'm an 18 year old successful student at a top college...and I've found myself with the crazy urge to have a baby. This started in October. My boyfriend of 8 months and I ran out of condoms and had unprotected sex. It was the first time we had ever done it without one and I was terrified. A week later we broke up due to stress from living in different states. A couple weeks later I found out I was pregnant and I was scared to death, then a couple days later I had a miscarriage. Two months later we got back together and he now lives half an hour from my school. He knows I miscarried but we don't talk about it.
Since we've gotten back together we've had sex without a condom..a lot. Every so often it makes me nervous that I'll get pregnant again, even though he always pulls out, he pulled out the first time and I got pregnant on precum. But sometimes I'm completely unconcerned that I'll get pregnant and have a "if it happens, it happens" type of attitude about it.
I know he doesn't want kids now. His best friend is a new dad and he always talks about how stupid he was to get his girl knocked up but we're pretty much putting ourselves in the same situation.
I've always wanted children and I wanted my first by the time I was 24 so I've always wanted to be a younger mom but I never thought this young. Part of what makes me feel this way is seeing my boyfriend when he's around children. We're good friends with a 26 year old couple with two toddler girls and whenever my guy is around the kids he's so amazing with them.
I know his family would be supportive and knowing that isn't helping me get myself out of that. I know its hard to have kids, I've babysit triplet boys from the time they were born until they were 6.
I have the urge to have a baby, and I need to get out of it.
He's good with kids that's great but they are not his any grand parent will tell you the grand kids are great too because they give them back to the parents. I am a mum of 3 boys it's all about them from the day they were born. I had my first at 30 second at 31 3rd at 40 it's dam hard work it's exspensive and it's a lifetime commitment. please... finish school babies can wait. get a block of land first get some finacial security behind you first because what you decide to do and how you go about getting security is a reflection of you & him and a example for your kids to follow. Take responsibility for not getting pregnant if your boyfriend feels trapped into this role as dad by your lack of responsibility that's not fair on him. Step up and live your life for a few more yrs your view on mother hood will change in your early twenties. Become a mother with a dad for your kid(s) for all the right reasons not on a whim. Trust me it's not all it's cracked up to be the good parts are few & far between even when your ready for this the rest is hard work a deep responsibility and a financial burden if your not prepared properly. get organized & stabalized first.
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Let me first start by giving you a little back ground information. My ex wife became pregnant when she was 20 and I was 19. Even though it was earlier than we both expected to become parents, we were thrilled and so excited to start our family together. We got married shortly after she gave birth to our son Matt. Soon after that, we had another son, and then a daughter. From my perspective, everything was great. That's why I was so blindsided when my wife came to me 9 months after our daughter was born claiming she wasn't ready to settle down and be a mother with divorce papers in her hand. Almost overnight, I became a 23 year old single father with a 4 year old, 2 year old, and a 9 month old. After the divorce was final, I rarely heard from my ex wife. She had begun living a life that I didn't necessarily approve of filled with drugs and alcohol and, while I wanted to keep my children as far away from that as possible, she was their mother and I didn’t feel like I could entirely keep them away from her. The last straw, however, came when I let my daughter, Alyssa, (who was 6 at the time) stay with her when I took my sons on a hunting trip. I was supposed to pick her up at noon the Sunday we got back. I spent the entire afternoon calling my ex wife’s apartment with no answer. At 5 that afternoon, I finally just went over to her house where I found her front door wide open and her passed out on the couch from mixing a few too many drugs with alcohol. Her neighbor came over to the apartment and told me that my ex wife had taken Alyssa out one night and come home completely plastered. Thank god her neighbor had woken up and decided to take Alyssa back to her apartment. And this is just one example of many. After that, I told my ex wide that I didn’t want her to see our kids anymore which devastated her so much she entered rehab. She got clean and for the past ten years has seen the kids a few times despite my hesitance. My kids and I have been living a great life together away from my ex wife. A few years ago I began dating another woman whom I am now engaged too. She gets along great with my kids and is an amazing person who I know will be a good influence on my kids’ lives. My oldest son Matt is now in college, but Colton (my middle son) and Alyssa still live with me. Since I have become engaged, my ex wife has become crazy about spending time with the two of them. She wants them at her house every weekend and doesn’t want my fiancé to parent them at all. She is trying to tell my daughter all kinds of lies about why she left, and how I am a horrible person for trying to keep them from seeing her. She tells her that the entire thing was my fault and all kinds of horrible rumors about my fiancé, who went to high school with my ex wife. She has asked both of my kids to move in with her. Colton told her absolutely not, but Alyssa is confused about the whole situation and doesn’t know what she should do. I have full custody of them so essentially it is my choice about whether or not she can see them. I don’t want to take them away from my ex wife, but I don’t want to lose them myself. I am still worried that she will resort back to her old ways and put my kids in danger like she has their whole lives. Am I right to not let my daughter move in with her mom?
Am I right to not let my daughter move in with her mom?
ABSOLUTELY.
To be a parant is the most unselfish act an adult can do. I commend you as a great dad.
Your wife has been extremely irresponsible in the past and has betrayed your trust and the trust of your children. She had it all long ago and wants it back. You have moved on and you should embrace your new life with your fiance I can imagine she is wonderful and is great with your children. Your ex wife is in denial to think your o.k. with her unstable lifestyle. She is being maniplative with your daughter because she can influence her, due to her own immaturity to see her mother for what's she had been like in the past. You are going to have to make the decission for your daughter she is too confused to make good judgement. when she matures a little more she should be able to make a decision. When you marry your fiance she will be empowered to be responsible for your children over your wife there is nothing your ex can do about it. Your ex is hanging by a desparate thread of old age and loneliness she's getting scared, it's her own fault really. Take charge and look towards your daughters' safety & happiness with you & her step mum. This is a very serious dilemma so trust your instincts and go with it. keep your daughter home maybe she can visit on holidays and see for herself when she is old enough. I hope this is helpful. I wish you the very best for your family. The truth always prevails, so don't be too concerned about the rumours always tell the truth she will love you more for being honest.
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My little nephew is the cutest thing ever. He's really adorable. His mom has been buying him baby dolls to play with though and I don't know if that is right. I don't want to say anything if it's okay for boys to play with dolls but I keep thinking that the dolls are more of a little girl toy, you know? Aren't boys suppose to play with cars and stuff? I just don't want him to grow up and be teased and stuff for having dolls, you know? What do you think?
What kind of dolls though? Are they dolls with long blond hair & a dress or action hero's from Pirates of the carribian Batman toys Wresting figures? I have 3 sons & bought them action hero dolls They love them. especially for bath time. It gives thier imagination a real edge with a toy charactor. Now long blond haired in a dress definately not. NO NO NO very inappropriate for a boy. Hope this help
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At what age should a girl be able to shave her legs?
I started around 12,13yrs when I got peer presured about my so called hairy legs They are not that hairy actually but they made me feel like I was wearing monkey suit to school. My Dad gave me a hard time about it but I liked the feel of fresh shaven legs so I keept doing it despite how my Dad felt. This is the scary bit back in those days (70's) most dads used those shavers where you open it up then place a double sided wilkinson sword blade into a shaver. when you cut yourself you knew you were in big trouble. Real bleeders. Fortunately soon after that the disposable shavers came out. you have to get use to the shaving proceedure Bring up the shaver opposit way to the hair So if your hairs are facing down you bring the shaver up. never use an rusty shaver ever I don't care how desperate, wear jeans instead it's not worth the problems. I always covered my legs in Vasoline after a shave it makes your legs really soft & shiny. I always keep my shaver clean & dry in between shaves prefering to use 1 shaver 2 to 3 times only then scrap it. Don't let any sibblings contamiate the blades misusing them keep them in your room out of reach.
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My son just turned 12 months and is still not walking. I was hoping he would be for his party, but that has come and gone now. His doctor says this can be normal, but if he isn't walking by 15 months then it is time to worry. He cruises (not a pro at it, but still manages to get around.) and can stand holding on to someone or something, but he just doesn't want to take any steps and absolutely cannot stand alone without holding on. Any ideas on how to get him walking? I'm very concerened, anyone with any advice would be a great help!
When my mum brought home her 3rd child from the hospital my oldest sister was starting to walk she saw the baby and sat down and bummed her way around the house for 6 more mths. The little cow was jealous of the baby. She 58 now. so it happens to some, some are slow off the mark. But I can suggest if you can get him into a swimming pool where the boyency can aid the stepping process. take him for lengthy wanders through a baby pool get him interested in walking. be patient My first son was climbing the book case before he could walk. were all different. Good luck
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okay so here is my problem... I had my peirod two weeks ago and normally they are a good 4-6 days but mine was only two days and i just spotted for 2-3 days after and week ago I noticed my boobs started to hurt. I dont know if it could be pregnancy or something else cause i have also been more moody than normal and i sometimes feel bloated. Im trying not to jump to conclusions so what other thigns can cause these symptoms?
I used to get sore bossoms particularly in the one spot But I have had 3 kids. so I got my husband to... what we call "make the bread". he basicly cup my bossom and roll clockwise and anticlock wise this helped. The pill can cause period disruptions if you take them incorrectly. The pill makes your egg seem fertilised to any sperm. the body reacts to the sudden hormone drop if you mistake the dose or miss a dose. see your Dr have an examination this is the only way to certain. good luck
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My 16 year old son began using drugs about a year ago. After several groundings, I told him to either follow the rules or he would have to go live with his father (what I assumed to be the ultimate punishment...and that he would be back and ready to follow my rules withing a few days.) He has now been living with his father for two months and will not speak to me because I "kicked him out." I miss him. His father and I do not speak so I don't know if he's getting the help he needs. What should I do?
Don't worry, your son will come back to you when he has learned to be a man. y Y are female you cannot do this process of passage. Your son is in the best situation to become a man, his dad is his mentor. providing his dad is a good bloke of cause) Your son will come back to you with a new profound love & understanding of your motherly parental choices of setting boundries. You took responsibility whilst he grew up, now it's dad's turn to make a man of him. Be greatful he has a dad and he's getting along with him. Your son will be better off for it so will you, be patient your son will do a full circle. You will be proud of him. Mark my word
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