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Q: Girls Out There, Do you all notice when a guy is staring at your boobs or butt? How do you feel about that,do you just want to smack him on the side of the head or do you care at all?If u don't care would you show them off on sometimes just to get a guys attention?I just want to know how girls think
I ALWAYS notice when a guy is staring at my boobs and butt. Mainly because they make it so obvious! It doesn't bother me sometimes as long as they don't start making comments (has happend before), that's the only time I want to smack a guy in the head and most likely will. Other than that, not really. However, all girls are different. Some of my friends hate it no matter what and have actually smacked guys before. Depends on the girl and the situation. And yes, some girls do show them off to get attention. I know A LOT who do. I have once in a while, not often though.

Q: During the Holocaust the Nazis took lots and lots of Jews into the death camps. I read about the Jews lining up to be burned to death or gassed to death. From the stories, it sounds like they didn't really fight the lines and just followed what the Nazis instructed. I'm just curious about the reasoning, really. I mean, I figure there were lots more Jews at these camps than there were Nazis. Why didn't the Jews fight back and do the things that we typically think to do in situations involving life/death?

No, I'm not attacking Jews, I'm just curious about the Holocaust, that's all! :) No offense!!!
Just like everyone else said..they had no idea what was happening. Then, when Jews started being killed, people caught on..and it was too late.
Also, back then..so many people were against Jews due to propaganda that was given out by Nazi Germany. Germany described Jew's as being money hungry, thieves, and rats.
Throughout the many centuries Jews were constantly prosecuted because they were a "scape goat" for everyone. Not sure why. Probably because they were different.
Why didn't the Jews fight back? They were simply scared. Yes, their were a lot more Jews than Nazi's, but to fight back against EVERYONE (not only Nazi's were against them then) would've cost a lot more lives than anything. Hitler was VERY powerful and influenced the minds of many people throughout Germany. They did what the Nazi's said to do because they feared of dying.
If you want to learn more about this stuff..I suggest reading "Night", by Elie Wiesel. Great book and explains about his hardships because he was a Jew in Germany. He lost a lot of family, and explains tragic details of many other deaths/problems going on at that time.

Hope I helped :)

Q: Who do you think should have been cast for bella swan in twilight? Not that i don't love kristen stewart, i just don't think shes 100% accurate for the part. I want to know who you think should have played her. Just don't say emily browning, or the panabaker sisters please.
Kristen Stewart is okay. Not that much of a fan of hers. However, other celebrities such as Emma Watson would've been good, (from Harry Potter). Emma is a very good actress! Very pretty too. I think she would've done a great job. Alexis Bledel probably would've been a good choice too! But, she has this kind of "shy" look to her..so not too sure about her.

Well, those are just my opinions! haha

Q: Hi. 17/M. Im studying american history, and one topic is the vietnam war. I do not understand why John F. Kennedy is considered a hero, when in reality, his actions worsened the state of the USA in vietnam. Maybe im missing something? anyone help me out?

thanks.
I've also studied American History.
Believe it or not..JFK was willing to sacrifice much for his country. He made some pretty good economical decisions. He played a role in creating the peace corps, which are volunteer's to help fight for the country. He responded to the Cuban Missile Crisis with bravery, JFK went for a less dangerous response and ordered a blockade of Cuba in order to prevent Russian ships from bringing additional missiles and construction materials to Cuba.

Now, During the Vietnam war..President Kennedy sent the Special Forces, known also as the Green Berets, to Vietnam.

Green Berets: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_States_Army_Special_Forces


Not sure if this helps..but, here's what I found on the same site:

Vietnam
The extent of Kennedy's involvement in Vietnam remained classified until the release of The Pentagon Papers in 1971.[28] In Southeast Asia, Kennedy followed Eisenhower's lead by using limited military action as early as 1961 to fight the Communist forces led by Ho Chi Minh. Proclaiming a fight against the spread of Communism, Kennedy enacted policies providing political, economic, and military support for the unstable French-installed South Vietnamese government, which included sending 16,000 military advisors and U.S. Special Forces to the area. Kennedy also authorized the use of free-fire zones, napalm, defoliants, and jet planes. U.S. involvement in the area escalated until Lyndon Johnson, his successor, directly deployed regular U.S. forces for fighting the Vietnam War.

By July 1963, Kennedy faced a crisis in Vietnam: despite increased U.S. support, the South Vietnamese military was only marginally effective against pro-Communist Viet-Minh and Viet Cong forces. Regarding Ngo Dinh Diem, the Roman Catholic President of South Vietnam, as insufficiently anti-Communist, the U.S. gave secret assurances of non-interference for an impending coup d'état.[29] On November 1, 1963, South Vietnamese generals overthrew the Diem government, arresting and soon killing Diem (though the circumstances of his death were obfuscated).[30] Kennedy sanctioned Diem's overthrow.[31] One reason to support the coup was a fear that Diem might negotiate a neutralist coalition government which included Communists, as had occurred in Laos in 1962. Dean Rusk, Secretary of State, remarked "This kind of neutralism…is tantamount to surrender."

Kennedy increased the number of U.S. military in Vietnam from 800 to 16,300. It remains a point of some controversy among historians whether or not Vietnam would have escalated to the point it did had Kennedy served out his full term and been re-elected in 1964.[32] Fueling the debate are statements made by Kennedy's and Johnson's Secretary of Defense Robert McNamara that Kennedy was strongly considering pulling out of Vietnam after the 1964 election. In the film "The Fog of War", not only does McNamara say this, but a tape recording of Lyndon Johnson confirms that Kennedy was planning to withdraw from Vietnam, a position Johnson states he strongly disapproved of.[33] Additional evidence is Kennedy's National Security Action Memorandum (NSAM) 263, dated October 11, 1963, which ordered withdrawal of 1,000 military personnel by the end of 1963.[34] Nevertheless, given the stated reason for the overthrow of the Diem government, such action would have been a policy reversal, but Kennedy was generally moving in a less hawkish direction in the Cold War since his acclaimed speech about World Peace at American University the previous June 10, 1963.

After Kennedy's assassination, new President Lyndon B. Johnson immediately reversed his predecessor's order to withdraw 1,000 military personnel by the end of 1963 with his own NSAM 273 on November 26, 1963.

Good luck, hope I helped :)



Q: What causes snoring?
And do guys find it unattractive? Haha.. My boyfriend says I snore but its a cute snore ..still embarrased by it I want to stop it !
There's a number of different things that can cause snoring! Instead of typing the whole entire thing out about snoring, and confuse both you and myself (haha), I decided to give you a few sites that will help!:

http://www.galttech.com/research/health/stop-snoring.php
http://www.wisegeek.com/what-causes-snoring.htm
http://howtostopsnoringinfo.com/what-causes-snoring/

http://discoverseduction.com/do-you-need-a-stop-snoring-remedy/
(Snoring remedies^)

Those 4 were the best out of the one's I found.

Do guy's find it unattractive if you snore?:
Honestly, it depends on the guy. But, A LOT of people snore..so, guy's, and pretty much anyone, really don't mind. Unless it's a very loud and annoying snore, which in your case..it's not, obviously! He said it was cute. That's good! :). I understand it can be embarassing..just read the sites I gave you..and they may help. If a guy does care about your snoring and finds it unattractive..then he's not worth your time! As I said before, MANY people snore..including myself, no guy has ever found it unattractive that I've known!

Hope I helped :)!
Good luck!
Feel free to inbox me if you need anymore advice!

Q: OUT OF THESE TWO GIRLS [CHOICE A & B] WHICH ONE IS OVERALL MORE ATTRACTIVE AND WHY? THANK YOU!

CHOICE A:
http://i30.tinypic.com/kyv5e.jpg
http://i31.tinypic.com/2nkuut1.jpg

OR

CHOICE B:
http://i28.tinypic.com/11bn0ci.jpg
http://i26.tinypic.com/20fqqaa.jpg
Choice B.

Why?: Because in my opinion,since you want it based on looks, she's just prettier. The other girl (Choice A) isn't bad looking though. I think she's just more plain than choice B.

Q: anyone have a good book?
i dont like anything dealing with murder unless its like awesome!
something like adventurous and funny and keeps you on your feet.
thank you!
I know many great books :). I have a favorite that you'd probably like though.

Of Mice and Men- By: John Steinbeck.
Both a book and a movie. I read this book when I was in 9th grade. It's basically about two guys named George, who is very talented and smart, but put's down people often. And Lennie, who is very kind but has limited mental abilities. The story takes place during the Great Depression. They are farm workers who go to Soledad (California) and work on farms. They were escaping from the last town they worked in because, since Lennie likes anything that's soft, he tried to touch a woman's dress and was accused of rape. Which leads to George always protectiong Lennie throughout the book. They hope, by working on new farms, to one day attain their shared dream of settling down on their own piece of land. Lennie just wants rabbits. Overall, throughout the book they basically try to work on farms, without getting in trouble because of Lennie. They make new friends, try to live normal lives, and try to make their dreams come true. It can be very upsetting towards the end. I will tell you that their are deaths that do happen in the book (which is what's upsetting). It's not a horrible book though. There's no murdering. It can actually be quite funny. And, believe me, it is very adventerous. It's just a lovely book. It's a personal favorite. I know you'd love it :).

Here's a link so you can check it out at barnesandnoble.com!:
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Of-Mice-and-Men/John-Steinbeck/e/9780140177398/?itm=1&usri=1

Hope I helped :). Enjoy!






Q: I know there are lumineers and porcelain veneers, but they are ridiculously expensive I hear. Are there any other products similar to them that are any cheaper?
I haven't really heard of much. However, I searched the internet and found a similar question on yahoo.com.

Here's the link:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070517152109AAJl1dU

Hope I helped! :)

Q: Since Michael Jackson recently died (and I was totally a fan) I was curious what his headstone or tombstone looked like. I missed a lot of the footage from his family and friends that was filmed after his death so I thought I might have missed the revealing/unveiling of it. I'm sure they put a lot of thought into the grave site so I was just wondering...

Photos would be a plus but if you could just describe it then I would really appreciate it. Thank you very much.
I actually saw something about this today at www.perezhilton.com !

Here's the link:
http://perezhilton.com/2009-08-17-joe-jackson-says-mj-will-finally-be-buried-on-his-birthday

Hope I helped :)

Q:
In the movie "Boys Don't Cry" where Hillary Swank plays a woman named Teena Brandon who dresses as a man named Brandon, and falls in love with this girl named Alana. Well towards the end it got confusing because alana's family found out and raped brandon, and him and alana were gonna run away together, and alana called him brandon but right at the end she called him Teena, so did she know he was a she?
Lana had no idea "Brandon" was born as a female because, throughout the movie, Brandon starts dating Lana and doesn't tell anyone about actually being a woman. His best friends finally find out and his life becomes horrible. So, Lana had no idea in the beginning of the movie. However, by the end, Lana had some kind of idea that he was a she..mainly during the bathroom scene when Brandon's pants were pulled down (most likely). But, Lana didn't care that he was a she.

Hope I helped! :)

Q: Recently I've been having these really weird dreams about a friend of mine.
A little backgrund info:
He's one of my best mates in school, we tell each other everything and anything and we could talk for hours. He used to go out with my best mate, but when they broke up we liked each other and we made out a few times (my best mate was fine with it). I was stuck between this other guy and my friend, he was stuck between me and my best mate, who he still had feelings for. Anyways, we're just friends now.

Since it's the summer holiday (we hang out with different people but in the same place) we havent since that much of each other recently. But I've been having these really weird dreams about him which are happening like a few times a week. In the dreams we've been real close like hugging and he's showing that he really cares for me but I always end up staying with my boyfriend.
But last night, it was completely different. We were at a party or something in my house, but we were both at a computer and talking to each other, he was saying something like "I'm in love and hungry". So, him being my best mate I was trying to get it out of him. He ended up saying "It's you" and then he went offline. Later on, we were in my kitchen (I was wearing a jumper he had given me the day we had made out because I was cold) and we were hugging and I said to him "I care about you so much" and he kinda went into kiss me but I backed off saying I would never do anything like that to my boyfriend (and I even wouldn't in real life). Then, I just went upstairs to my boyfriend, I kissed him and I woke up.

Sorry if it's long but these dreams are really bugging me xD and last nights was real different, so I was just wondering if anyone could explain this dream?
Thanks :)
Well..I'm no expert. But..it seems as if, subconsciously, you want to be with your guy friend because you care about him and all. However, you're confused because you have a boyfriend and would never cheat on him or anything.

Basically, your dreams just going off on how you feel. You obviously like this guy, but I'm sure you love your boyfriend very much.

I think you should talk to your guy friend and tell him how you feel. Now, I'm not saying dump your boyfriend or anything! Because, I know you probably care about him a lot. I think you just have some thinking to do. Ask yourself some questions:

Do I really love my boyfriend?
Would I be willing to break up with my boyfriend for my guy friend?
Do I have REAL feelings for my guy friend?
And
Is it worth it?

Just ask yourself questions like that!

By the way..I found this excellent site that tells you about many different types of dreams. Just click the link I give you:
http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/

Good Luck! I hope I helped you :)

Q: What does the quote,

Keep your friends close and your enemies closer mean ?
It basically means you keep your enemies closer by making them think you mean no harm, and then when they least expect it, you strike (attack) them.

Q: 17/f - I need some fun girl games for my iPod touch. I have sallys spa. Anybody know any other good ones?
There's:

Toobz- Which is basically a game where you have to connect Pipers together, and the one's that have the correct ends on them have to face the end of the wall, and then you have to "start the water" and hope they don't flood anywhere outside the pipes otherwise you lose. At first, it was confusing..but it's easy to figure out and pretty fun to do when you're bored!

PenguinLite- This is my all time favorite game for the iTouch. You basically go through a series of levels in order to complete the game, you get through those levels by "flicking" penguins into the air. You have to time the shot to send the penguins through the opening. You can hit bears, ice, etc in order to pass. It's whatever the level tells you to do. It's addicting and fun! :)

3D Coaster- You can use your finger to move the coaster or you can just tilt your iTouch. You basically have to keep the passenger's safe while going through the tracks. It's quite fun. But, you'd need to buy the full version in order to complete ALL levels.

Hockey- Fun Game!

Arcade Bowling- Addicting game!

Pac-Man- I'm sure you already know what that is. It's fun :)


Hope I helped! :)



Q: Lately I've been having dreams about driving erratically. They either start with me taking the car without permission or just getting my license and being on the road for the 1st time alone. They always end with me speeding or disobeying some sort of traffic law, not on purpose but almost like it's out of my control. I always panic at the end and know that I've screwed up.
My question is, does this relate directly to my driving or something bigger? I've had my permit for a year (I can't get my lincense until I have a job to pay for insurance) and I do worry about being alone on the road, but these dreams I'm having are only making it worse. To be honest, I'm an overall good driver (I hardly ever speed and if I do, it's only 5 mph over or less) so this confuses me.
I checked dreamdictionary.com and it says that it could be about how I'm 'driving' my future. But lately I've stabilized alot in my life, especially my responsibility level. It wouldn't make sense that I'm having dreams about being irrational. I just want to make sense of these dreams and stop them because they're making me afraid to go driving and keep making me panic while I sleep :/ thanks.
I've had similar dreams. Some believe dreams are dreams and they don't relate to anything. But, I believe they do. You speeding and/or disobeying laws doesn't mean you're actually going to do that when you drive alone. It's even possible your dreams are happening because you're being too worried.

However, maybe it doesn't have anything to do with driving at all. Maybe these dreams happen because subconsciously you feel your life is out of control? Stress can also be a major factor.

I found this on a website:

Automobile-
To dream that you are riding in an automobile, signifies that even in pleasant situations, you will still be restless and uneasy.

To dream that you nearly escape from the impact of an automobile, denotes that you will successfully overcome any rivalry.

To dream that there is no one driving an automobile, suggests that you need to reassess your level of control over your life. You are unwilling to take responsibilities for your actions.


Speeding-
To dream that you are speeding, indicates that you are compelled and driven to complete something. As a result, you may be pushing people away. Alternatively, the dream suggests that you are moving too fast in some relationship or situation. Perhaps you need to slow down.

Car-
To dream that you are driving a car, denotes your ambition, your drive and your ability to navigate from one stage of your life to another. Consider how smooth or rough the car ride is. If you are driving the car, then you are taking an active role in the way your life is going. However, if you are the passenger, then you are taking a passive role. If you are in the backseat of the car, then it indicates that you are putting yourself down and are allowing others to take over. This may be a result of low self-esteem or low self-confidence. Overall, this dream symbol is an indication of your dependence and degree of control you have on your life.

To dream that you car has been stolen, indicates that you are being stripped of your identity. This may relate to losing your job, a failed relationship, or some situation which has played a significant role in your identity and who you are as a person. If you dream that your car is overheating, then it suggests that you are expending too much energy and need to slow down or run the risk of becoming burnt out. You may be taking on more than you can handle. It is time to take a breather.

To see a parked car in your dream, suggests that you need to turn your efforts and energies elsewhere. You may be needlessly spending your energy in a fruitless endeavor. Alternatively, a parked car may symbolize your need to stop and enjoy life. To dream that you cannot find where you parked your car, suggests that you do not know where you want to go in life.�

To dream that you are almost hit by a car, suggests that your lifestyle, beliefs or goals may be in conflict with another's. It may also be symbolic of a jolting experience or injured pride


Hope that helps!

Here's the link to the site I found the information on. Look up things you see in your dreams. It might help!
http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/

Q: Well my question is nice and simple.....I have so many pimples on my face and I wanna know how do I get rid of them fast and easy?
Here are the top 2 products that can help:

1) http://www.neutrogena.com/econsumer/ntg/index.view
(Very good! Never heard any complaints)

2)
http://www.proactiv.com/
(I know friends who used it..they said it smells bad..but works)

Hope I helped :)!






Q: My school year starts August thirtyfirst and I'm going to be a sophmore.
Today, I talked with my mother about back to school clothes shopping.
I'm into skinny jeans, and those shirts that are kinda like short dresses?
I'm not sure what they're called, so sorry about that.
But, I'm not exactly tiny. I'm a size 16 or 14 in jeans, depending on the brand
And I'm and extra large in shirts or large depending on the brand.

So, what kind of stores sell stuff like that, and with thoses sizes?
My mall is not one of those fancy malls with all those different shops. We don't have like forever 21 and stuff like that.
But my om IS willing to shop online

And someone please send my links to shirts and skinny jeans that would fit my sized?
Meaning like links to stores that carry them.
Also, Do not recomment Debs. I've only gotten three types of skinny jeans there that have not riped due to thin jean frabric.

So please make sure any jean stores you list use story matrial.

Thanks!
Okay so I made sure all these stores have the size you want!

http://oldnavy.gap.com/
Old Navy has all sizes and all different types of shirts and jeans for you to choose from.

http://www.target.com/
Carries all sizes. Has every type of clothing.

http://www.walmart.com/
All sizes, cheap, and has the type of clothing you like.

http://www.victoriassecret.com/
Not sure if you like this store but it has all sizes, and many different types of clothing.

Hope I helped! :)


Q: i'm going away and i'm probablyyy going to get my period, just cause im that unlucky...i just started using tampons last month towards the end of my period but i've never been in water with them...im afraid its going to just leak everywhere and be really embarrasing. im using tampax pearl..i can also feel it up there...i thought i stuck it pretty far up there...it didn't necesarily hurt (only when i took it out) but i felt it. do i just have to get used to it? or are you absolutely not suppose to feel it? thankyouuu!
Tampon's will actually keep you from leaking when you're in the water, so don't worry about that!
Here's a link so you can read more about that:
http://health.teenfx.com/article.cfm?ar_id=91900&prod=69&sec=9&qz=1&ar=1&pl=1

Well, you're not supposed to feel them. So, maybe you're not sticking it up far enough.
But, then again, some girls say when they sit down..they can feel it. Just try pushing it up further.
Another link about the feeling of tampons:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080529194804AAH9XvT

Hope I helped!

Q: Can anyone give my links to fashinable stores for teens? But make sure they have a pluz size section, cause that's what I would need.
I'm looking to ONLINE shop.

Please do not list
Forever 21
http://oldnavy.gap.com/
Old Navy is my favorite place to shop. They have (all size) excellent clothing.

http://www.target.com/
Who doesn't shop at Target? They have nice, affordable clothing. And, of course, they do have plus size.

http://www.walmart.com/
Wal-mart is cheap, and has nice clothes!

http://www.aeropostale.com/shop/index.jsp?categoryId=3534619
Aeropostale is a nice clothing store. I'm pretty sure they'll have larger sizes.

http://www2.victoriassecret.com/landing/?cgnbr=OSPNKZZZZZZ
I'm not sure if Victoria's Secret is your type of store..but I shop there and I find that it has cute clothing. It may be a tad expensive though.

Hope I helped!
If you need anymore advice, feel free to inbox me. :)



Q: a lot of my friends are smoking. i know its a bad thing to do...yet i still want to try it. can i have your opinion with an explanation to back it up please?
I can't tell you what to do. That is your decision and ONLY your decision. Yes, smoking cigarette's and/or weed may be something everyone does..but, don't do it for the wrong reasons..just to "fit" in. As the other person said, many people end up getting hooked and regret it. I'm sure (because of school) you know the effects smoking has on you. I'm 16 years old. Throughout my High School..a majority of people are usually outside smoking cigarette's or weed. It's a nasty habit. I alway's see people pressuring eachother to do it. Cigarette's are not only expensive but they basically kill millions of people a year. I know too many people who have died from it. Weed, may not kill as many, but it is just as bad. It damages your lungs (just like cigarette's). If you think about it, neither of them are a good habit to have. In the end, the only person you are hurting is yourself. I do understand that you want to experiment and stuff..what teen doesn't? I don't think you should do this. But, please, if you are going to do this..make sure you know what you're doing, and make sure it doesn't become an addictive habit.

Q: how to cook fried rice?

like they do at chinese restaurants

i dont understand if im missing some key ingredient.

i never seem to cook it the same quality. i use soysauce and toppings of my choice (bean sprouts, egg, peas, shrimp, carrots, onions), salt, oil

what is a good brand of soy sauce and rice
I found this site so you can see if you're missing anything in you're ingredients..
http://recipes.sparkpeople.com/recipe-detail.asp?recipe=153694

And! A good soy sauce that I use is Kikkoman (Japanese..very tasty)
http://www.kikkoman.com/index.shtml

The Rice doesn't matter..as long as it's long grain rice and is atleast a day old, it should be fine. But, here's an idea for the brand of rice you may like:
http://www.unclebens.com/rice/original-converted-brand-rice.aspx

Hope I helped! :)


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