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someone posted "you fail at life" as a youtube comment to a video of my funny math teacher dancing. its really dumb of them because it really was funny and hes a cool teacher.. most people dont think negatively of him, really.. well kids for that matter, lol. how can i respond to this? should i say "no you fail" or "you know what? your mom" or anything else that will tell this kid off? lol thanks (link)
Dont say anything at all those type of people dont care...because its just the internet and they dont know you and you dont know them...


its so annoying when people come on here not for advice but to answer questions and math homework and crap. how about using YAHOO ANSWERS PEOPLE.
yahoo.answers.com they will answer anything! just a thought :) (link)
I dont mind when people ask stuff like that..im here to help...but if you think about it alot of these questions could be answered by looking information up or google or yahoo..maybe that person didnt have any luck with it. Anyways no ones forcing you to answer them so its probably best to not write anything at all to them and leave it at that if you feel that strongly. I go through some of these questions and some people just put look it up or use google or do your own internet research or purposely write wrong answers or insult them but they were probably desperate or having trouble with it so they ask us.No question is to stupid and each persons question should be treated with respect.If someone doesnt want to answer it then they dont have to.


so i like to write poetry, but im not sure if im any good.
would someone read this and tell me if its okay? and i want an honest answer, im not asking because im insecure, but because i really dont know.

A group of three friends is always a risk
because someone becomes the third wheel
and though I know that this is happening,
it almost seems surreal.
it can be really hard to hurt me,
but he was my Achilles’ heel.
All I want is to numb myself,
but I cant help but to feel.

I didn’t know you loved him
but, well, now I do.
and I didn’t think he liked you
but I guess it’s true
you’ve been there for me, always
but I love him, and you.
so although I'm really jealous,
I’m happy for you, too.

I never said I loved him
but I guess I was confused.
And I know us three were great
But pairs always come in two’s.
Life would be fine if we both got him
but I know he had to choose
so though I wish I could have won
I’d hate to see you lose.

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It's ok, Its average. Its not really unique and kind of predictable.Keep at it though.Its not terrible..just average.


sometimes classified as a psychedelic or a hallucinogen?I've never heard of anyone experiencing hallucinogenic effects because of it,so what's the logic behind this? (link)
It impairs your mind i have heard of people experiencing those effects by the way. I grew up in a drug infested niegborhood and i ve even observed people on it be fore.i myself dont do it but yeah its not unheard of for people to hallucinate whil on it ive even know someone to run over their own 1 year old while high. So yes it does cause people to hallucinate.


do you have to be born catholic to be one? My family beleives in a certain religion but I beleive in God and people at shcool are calling me a wanna be. Do you have to be born one or can you start being one? (link)
You dont have to be born one you can talk to a catholic preacher about it and theyll direct you on how to become one..by the way those people who are calling you a wannabe are being alittle ignorant. Atleast you made your own decision about what you wanted to believe. Everyones diffrent and thats ok and it doesnt make anyone better or worse.Youl just have to go to classes and get confirmed and baptised or you could just adopt it has a belief its however or whatever your comfortable with.


Ok, why do those type of kids, act like they HATE getting judged, & they HATE when people are mean to them because they dont even know them? & why do they put people down [like preppy kids..or just kids who like abercrombie] & then get all mad if you do something like that to them?

like, one. i don't know really any people that much that are mean to goth kids or whatever.

but those goth/emo kids, seem like they do it constantly to preppier kids.

why is thaT?
whats their problem? its bugging me.
i never did or said anything to them, for them to be mean to me. (link)
Well just because you havent seen it doesnt mean it doesnt happen...I guess for the same reason you would hate being judged and hate when people are mean to them and dont even know them....Not every person who's goth or emo puts down preppy kids. I think it goes both way when i was still in school I didnt really consider myself anything because i dont like it when people are living up to some kind of image whether it be prep,goth,grunge skater...etc...but i did notice that it was mainly "preppy" kid who mainly picked on supposed "goth" kids or basically any one who was an individual..It's diffrent every where you go and style should define someone. In a way your being kind of stereotypical in a sense to but i guess your just going by what youve observed which is ok as long as you realize that everyones diffrent and shouldnt be catagorized. Also i guess another thing is that this kind of whats promoted by media to in the movies its always the preppier people being mean to the goth or who ever seems less to them In some real life cases its true and in some its not. It also could have nothing to do with the image thing may they just dont like them as a person..not everyone clicks and gets along. People dance to diffrent beats. Maybe they dont like your view points or something you said or how you act and vice-versa. Just like you might not like someone for the same reasons. Why dont you just say hey what did i ever do to you. I dont have a problem with you so whats your problem with me?


hey..umm im having a birthday party next week (im turning 14) and there will be 10 girls and 4 guys there. Im not shure of what to do! Not spin the bottle because we are all close friends...we are going to dance obviously but thats all i can think of! Do you have any ideas of what games we should play? Or anything? (link)
ok im going to ask you a couple questions firts....what type of stuff do you like to do do you guys like to do stuff thats unique....magic trick themed things(please dont get offended because some people do) like tarrot, palmistry astrology...or do you guy like things that are more on the line of spin the bottle(i know you said not spin bottle just an example),twister,boardgames, and you good friends
i need to know just to give me a good idea on what ideas and activities to give you to help better because everyones diffrent


I'm really bored.I like to try new things and start fun projects like combining archietecture,photoghraphy and sculpture into a single art work.I just want to have fun.Please could you think of something fun for me to do.Any suggestions are appreciated. (link)

some of these are new things and some of them are pertaining to what you said..see if your interested in any

If you have a camera and some friends you could do make up and hairstyles and dress up and take pictures like models and create a photo album.

You could get some beads and string or jewelry crafts or hair accesorie crafts sold at wal-marts k-marts and other hobby stores create your own designs and either make them for your self or sell them. You can do that alone or by yourself.

You can buy some material or use old clothing and get somepatterns or make stuff up on a drawing board and create your own fashions. With someone or by your self.

You could get some sculpting clay and sculpt nd then take photos or just keep it like that.or take a phot of what you want to sculpt and create a sculpted replica of it.

You could get some modeling glue and some craft supplies and build your dream house or doll houses and playsets and give them has gifts to younger kids or sell them. Take pictures to advertise them.

I dont know what kind of weather your having now but you could try hedge sculpting or plant sculpting..thats something you could make money off of to if you desired and do it well. For practice you could buy some bushes that have been preplanted and take them in a room with a tarp covered floor or go outside and take a whack at it.

You could makes vases or baskets and make flower arangements. or flower arangements with out the vases and baskets with the choice of artificial or real flowers thats another thing you could custom make and sale if it turns out you do it well.

With things you make and can sale you could take pictures as examples or scan the pictures in the computer and make your own catalog and print. Put them in neighbors mailboxes,give them to parents friends,your friends,pass it around to people in school or school staff and teachers or both,put in break room at work,e.t.c just make sure you include a form of contact.
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If you do try jewelry making or hair fashion or clothing and discover you really good at it you could take pictures of examples that youve did and have people custom order and pay you to make them..i have a friend who did that he did get alot of business but his only setback was that sometimes he wasnt motivated enough.

if you need anymore or other questions feel free to write back


hey im 16/f going to be 17 in a week.

I would like to have a party but i have no ideas what to do...

a lil info**
- the guets will be 16-17-18
- girls are invited for shure
- not quite shure about guys comming
- its winter were i live so there for its snowing and cold outside...

Thanks a tones!!
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I think theme parties(like the 50's,60's egyptian,indian,fairytale,gypsies,hawaian.aristocrat,style etc) are really interesting..you could include girls or girls and guys or have girls stay over and guys lead afterwards.You could choose to have people dress up or not. you could make food to fit the theme or play music and of course decorations. if you choose to do this and have a theme or would like help deciding on a theme that would be best and would like some fun activities to do just write me and i can find you some or give you help on basically anyother aspect of it pick one and i will answer. If you do it and decide you would like people to dress up just tell your guests enough time in advance so they have enough time to prepare what theyed wear and make sure no one has any food allergies.


okay so my bf really want to have sex but i dont really feel comfortable doing it bc everytime we are at his house he lives in the basement but everytime we are there and we mess around his mom always yells down for him to come up to help her with something. now i want to wait until we live together which will be in june. im 18 and hes 19 btw. so it is really fair for me to have him wait. i just want to do it with no interuptions. haha is that too much to ask? (link)
theres nothing unfair or fair about making him wait.if your not comfortable doing something then you dont have to just tell him you want to wait until you move intogeather if he loves you then hell understand he should consider himself privelaged that your even willing to do it with him. if you guys are serious about eachother then you should have all the time in the world if neither of you are going anywhere so waiting a few months isnt going to kill him..if he respects you.


when you dont cuss [unless youre seriously pissed] and you come from a family that doesnt cuss [if they do its hardly ever, and only the words damn and hell, honestly], would it be rude to ask your boyfriend if he can ask his family to tone down the cussing. these people seriously say everything in the book, quite rudely, and its WAY WAY WAY often. like every other sentence no lie. my boyfriend tries to keep it down around me, but his mom and step dad are the worst, and it intimidates me to be around them when theyre like that. should i just live with it? my mom would flip if she knew i was being exposed to a family like that, but i go to see him not them, but it makes me rather uncomforatble to hear "older mature civilized adults" use such vulgarity and talk about people the way they do. agh. 16 female. (link)
you might just have to live with it and accept them for who they are if their not forcing you to cuss or act like them...yes its vulgar but everyones diffrent and you can't very well tell them how to act because it would be just like them telling you how to act. as far as exposure you know who you are and your not going to change your way of thinking just because of what your exposed to...it doesnt make them bad people its just what their content with and yes i do think theyed get offended. no one likes to be told how to act or what to say.everyone has to be true to theirrself so if you really like him and hes not making you act in the same manner then its just something your going to have to accept or find someone else...if thats the worst thing their doing then it really isnt that bad.everyones diffrent and sometimes people just dont mesh...doesnt mean you cant overcome it but trying to change someone isnt the answer be cause they wont unless they want to. so just let it be as long as their not hurting anyone or theirselves seriously or forcing you to act like them.what would you think if they said you need to cuss more because their uncomfortable around you.


I'm making fortune cookies, among other things, for my boyfriend for valentines day, but I can't think of any "fortunes!"

So, any "fortune" ideas? or websites with "fortunes" on them? I'm really stumped!

Thanks! (link)
heres some things you could put in the cookies as fortunes

http://www.useful-information.info/quotations/love_quotes.html

http://quotations.about.com/cs/lovequotes/a/bls_Love_Quotes.htm


http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/8

http://www.boardofwisdom.com/default.asp?topic=1005&listname=Love

if you need more i typed in lists of love quotes.


okay so, here is my story...
i am a 14 year old boy and a couple weeks ago i was with my friends and they had pot and i had some. things had been going really bad that week so i thought i deserved it. my gf broke up with me and i lost my cell phone and i failed 2 tests. it was bad. so i was really high and so were all of my friends so i just camped out in the woods that night. when i woke up it was like 10 and i remembered all of the bad stuff and i got mad because i new i was in trouble and i smelled so badly of smoke. so i went home and luckily found that no one was there. so i felt like crap and i was deperessed so i got like bleech and clorox and windex and a whole bunch more chemicals and drank it in my room with the door sealed shut. i was trying to kill myself. when i woke up i was in the hospital. i finally got to go home and i cant go anywhere (because my parents dont trust me). so ive been locked up in hell for ever! i need help how to get my life back together. (link)
hey its never to late to change you are the creator of your own universe.if you feel you need help seek counseling or rehab and separate your self from these people who are holding you down and bring you negativity. embrace the things that make you feel positive i dont mean the temporary highness thats not real. i also sugest a new crowd of people who dont do drugs. talk to your parents about it im sure theyll be supportive. i grew up in a really bag drug infested areas its no life to live or grow up to be. it was crazy people were shooting people,abusing people,dieing,and runing over babies.its a horrible thing. please dont make that who you are.


I really need a hobby.What hobbies could I take up? (link)
well i think you should go on what interests you if you included that i think i could help you alot better...everyones diffrent.


I have a question about seepage since me and my girlfriend are worried about her getting pregnant. At the point of orgasm I have a fetish in which I have my girlfriend spread her labia and I ejaculate right on her vaginal area. She says she can get pregnant this way, but I dont believe she can seeing as its not ejaculated inside her. How likely is it? (link)
i got news for you if your sperm comes in contact with any of her fluid they can still swim up her vagina and get her pregnant i dont think you should take the chance because it only takes less then a speck of sperm and the tiniest drop of her fluid. if your girlfriend is uncomfortable with it then i think you should stop its her body to and really not fair.


“You can change your environment, but if you do not change yourself, the environmental changes are not effective”

I have an idea.. but I'll like to hear about what others view it as.

:] (link)
its kind of like saying you can clean your house but if you continue being messy it really doesnt make a diffrence. because if you change your enviroment then and you dont change your self or personal habits youll always be contradicting your enviroment that you changed and be in a never endinng circle. youll be creating the problem that you just got done solveing


15/f. how can i improve my handwriting? i hate mine because i tend to connect a lot of my letter, but not in a cursive sort of way. so what are some things i can do to improve my handwriting.

also what can i do to increase my writing speed? i right sooooo slow. lol and it is really annoying when i have to take notes in class. i guess in order to write fast i don't have to worry about neatness, but it has to be readable =]

thanks! (link)
you can practice writing sentances on paper repetively then when you get as neat as you wanted you can start setting time limits for you to finish writing sentances neatly.you can also buy a handwriting book.


my uncle's girlfriend really bothers me. I just don't get why she would control my mom then she makes my uncle different to me. It bothers me and I can't seem to stop it. She just wants everyone to hate me. She is going around each family member like a game then she tries to make the ones closest to me strongly put me away. (link)
talk to your family about it with out her around its not like they dont have free will. just tell people exactly whats on your mind in a calm way. just be real dont hide your feelings.just make sure you talk to someone whos close to you. some times a calm confrontation is in need even if people dont agree with you have a right to speak to.


So as usual I was rambling to one of my friends and he like out of no where decided to mention that day after the recital...After a violin recital, i was packing up my violin and this guy who was like 50 (his little son plays violin too) came up to me and started caressing my arm going "That was really really good. That was fantastic." blah blah and I'm standing thinking "WTF GET THE H*** OFF ME!" (it took place for like a minute of him touching my arm and ew) and then my other friend who just now heard of that incident was like "Oh remember that one time. We were at the gas station (her dad needed to put gas in the car)." and I was like oh yeah...and this story goes: She was like, "Don't look to your left." and of course, me with my curiosity look to my left and there are two guys checking me out with one of them being the other guys DAD. And I was like erm...can we go now when they like smiled and winked at me. And my OTHER friend was like "HA, older guys are attracted to you." and i was like hmm...that seems partially true considering this dude working at a store was smiling and looking at me the whole time.

has this happened to anyone before and the thought that older guys are attracted to you go across anyone's head...?

14/f btw and I do not enjoy having 40yr olds checkin me out. (link)
yeah and it wouldnt of been that big of a deal if you were of age then its just a matter of preference but your not your only 14. so that makes it disgusting on their part and make them very close to being pedifiles.i dont mind older guys just not that old, but im also past being of age to. i would like to add that your not quite a woman yet,so its alittle diffrent and although some people might be friendly i still think you should keep your distance because their are some sick people. as for the thought it depends on the age. in this case its not good so just stay away from them if you get that vibe and if they say or do anything to make you un comfortable tell your parents. even if their just checking you out and you can really tell they are tell your parents because no offense but your only 14 and their a little sick.


People and documents that might help answer your question:
I want to ask you if you think my friend is anorexic. I never met her due to the fact that she was my online college professor (I took online courses) - but we became telephone and pen pals. Tonight I was talking to her about the models whose bones stick out and how the modeling world is tryng to stop that and how some of the models are anorexic and one even died recently. And her remark: You can never be to rich or to thin; MY QUESTION: IS that anorexic thinking.

(I AM VERY THIN BUT MY BONES DO NOT STICK OUT)

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i would say she has an eating disorder not because of what she said but becaause of what you told me shes eating people who eat nothing but lettuce normally do it to lose weight because its water based and will go straight through them. it makes them appear like their eating but its not anything of substance.so to say she going to get fat from eating something other then basically nothing then yes id say she needs help. she obviously has somekind of unhealthy fixation on being thin.




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