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my cat was in my room, she's 3 and she has nEVER peed in the house EVER> so today she was eating in my room. then the next thing i know i turn around & she's peeing down the air vent!!! So i soked the vent in hot soapy water/ clean the vent, or atleast the part i could reach. PLUS i scrubbed the carpet.

YET it smells like cat pee. what can i do to help it?

Ugh! I hate to tell you this, but hot soap and water and normal household cleaners ususally don't help in this situation. Also, cat urine is ammonia based, so you don't want to clean with a household cleaner that has ammonia in it, because that might encourage the cat to use the area to pee on in the future.

My advice is to go to a pet store or the pet section of a Target or Wal-Mart and look for an enzyme product that helps with cat urine odors. Enzymes helps to break down the cat urine to actually erase the odor instead of just covering it up. You'll have to follow the directions precisely and have patience. When you first use these products, the smell can seem worse at first. However, as they dry, the odors usually fade away comletely. Best of luck to you.

Kind wishes,

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next year i want to apply to my National Honors Society in my school, however one of the criteria is to have some experience in LEADING, but i dont have any remarkable leadership positions.

what kinds of things can i do that have a leadership role? (and dont say join a club..because in order to be voted as a pres or VP, i need to have been in a club for at least a year. and i havent.)

ty in advance

I love the community project suggestion that someone else posted -- good idea!

If that sounds like more than you want to or are able to handle, I have another suggestion.
If you enjoy children, you could volunteer to work with kids at an after school program or at a community outreach facility.

You probably wouldn't be given complete or sole responsbility for the kids you work with, but taking the initiative, spending time with them, providing a positive example for them to follow, being a good and consistant influence in their lives are all terrific leadership qualities.

Who knows, you may even find an opportunity that would allow you to work with several kids on something specific, thereby providing you with literal "leadership" experience. Best of luck to you,

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I cant decide which color I like better, so, could someone help me?

They're all me, by the way..

BLONDISH..
1)

http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/ii68/xocrystalox99/125.jpg

2)
http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/ii68/xocrystalox99/SANY-1.jpg

DARKER BROWN...
3)
http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/ii68/xocrystalox99/Untitled5.jpg

4)
http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/ii68/xocrystalox99/crystalandjenn12.jpg

on the left^

If you guys dont like those colors and would like to suggest a different color, that'd be good too! I'm trying to figure out what hair style i want before I head back to school, so thank you!

I prefer the dark brown color best with your skin tone, and I think it might look even better with a little warmth (red tones). I think that a dark auburn would look terrific.

Best of luck with your color choice.

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What are some good screenname Ideas?

-I love Avril Lavigne
-I LOVE LOVE LOVE orca whales
-I skateboard
-I'm a punk, tomboy type

Thanks, I rate really well

How about: OrcaLovinPunkGrl

I'm really bad at this, but it was fun to think about - thanks for that!

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Alright...So, I've always been the rebel type. Stayed out late...never did what I was told. I couldnt WAIT til I was 18 and could do whatever I wanted. You know the type. As my 18th birthday is coming up...i've felt completely different. It's like I dont want to grow up. Its not that I dont want to deal with the "real world"...its just that I dont want to be grown up? lol Anyone else going thru this??

I must tell you that although it was a million years ago, I felt the same way when I was 17. I hated not being in complete control of every decision made in my life and I deeply resented anyone telling me what to do. I used every trick in the book to stay out late and sometimes all night. I argued with everyone that I could do it all on my own, but at the same time, I was very bad about taking care of my day-to-day obligations (school, household chores, family expectations, etc.) I was heavily resisting becoming the dreaded "responsible adult". I hated the idea completely.

Your feelings are completely normal. Just because you crave independence and complete control over your own life, does not mean that you want to be a stuffy and responsible grown up. The good news is that although with increased age more responsibilities are inevitable, you always have control over remaining young and carefree at heart. I have found that the secret is to maintain the best parts of my childhood persona:

* Try to never take yourself too seriously. If you spend time worrying about what other people think, you will make yourself miserable.

* Find away to laugh at everything (even inappropriate things) because it helps to not let the insane things that happen in this world bring you down.

* Don't forget that life can be as fun as you make it and conversely, it can be as miserable as you let it. Grown ups sometimes just accept that as adults, the fun is supposed to fade away. It doesn't have to be that way!

Keep these things in mind and know that with becoming an adult, increased responsibilities and complex challenges are sure to follow, but you ultimately have control over what kind of "grown-up" life you will lead. Best of luck to you.

Kind wishes,

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i used to b kinda average looking and then i became prettier (not trying to b conceited) and now alot of guys like me. i guess im also taking attention away from other girls who are used to getting attention. now all these bitches are starting rumors and calling me a slut and saying allll this other shit. what should i do

Jealous peers starting rumours and gossip about you can be a very terrible and hurtful thing to go through. The best advice I can give is to surround yourself with true friends who want good things for you, are happy when good things happen to you and are by your side supporting and standing up for you when "haters" try to bring you down. Also, it is best to take the high road and not seek retribution against those who are spreading rumors. It doesn't help to "get them back". Be the best person you can be and surround yourself with good people and eventually when the nasty people realize that they have no negative effect on you and that you are immune to their b.s., they will move on and leave you alone. It's not easy to resist the temptation to give someone a dose of their own medicine, but then you would be no better than them. Best of luck to you.

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