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Q: Hey everyone.. well i'm kinda worried.. i don't kow what is wrong with me! i feel really guilty whenever i eat. i'm pretty sure it's not anorexia but i just dont know what it is. i've gradually started eating less and less because the guilt is just overwhelming. im 99 pounds and 5'2" and i know that's liek average or whatever but when i look in the mirror i always just see myself as HUGE. i have been getting really bad headaches lately from not eating as much as i usually do but its not enough to make me eat more because i just keep thinking about what my thighs would look like if i ate say a cheeseburger. at first i just started eating healthy foods but now im even afradi that THOSE foods will make me fat. help!!!!

hey! im sorry that youre having problems, maybe i can help. well first off, you are definately not fat. im 5'2 also and i weigh 115, which is perfectly normal! but i guess thats not your problem is it. well if i were you id try taking up a sport. sports often give people a lot f self confidence, and thats what you seem to need right now. also, sports will help you keep your weight under control. well i really hope i helped!

Q: how do you boost your self-esteem? mainly about your body image. i've been having a lot of trouble with my body image =\, and i don't know what to do. whenever i eat i regret eating. when i pinch my stomach i have about 4 inches of fat (and thats standing up!).. i try to keep myself away from food, but then that's all i think about & i eat alot.

thanx in advance.

ok, well my school counciler in 5th grade taught me this one! its scientifically proven that it takes an average of 13 good thoughts to cover up for 1 bad thought. so what you should do, when youre in a good mood write down 13 good things about yourself. then when youre feeling bad look at them. now about your weight! you should DEFINATELY not think youre over weight! im only 5'1 and i weight that much, but guys still think good about my apperance! thats really dangerous is you think youre fat! just stop thinking that! well, i hope i helped!
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Q: sometimes when im in the car i imagen getting in a car wreck and dying. and i also imagen other ways that i could die but there all normal...(not like sucide or anything.) is this normal?

that probably means that you are a little insecure (no offense intended!!!) if i were you, i'd talk to your parents about it, and if they think it would be good for you, go to a therapist. i know that may seem embarrasing, but as long as you dont tell your friends, no one but your parents will ever have yo know!!! i really hope i helped!
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Q: i desperately need help to stop cutting.. im too scared everyone will judge me if i tell them, ive been doing it since i was 11 (now 16). i wanted to tell my best friend but i have already told her i got the scars from random accidents.. she has made jokes in the past about how they really look like self mutilation scars and she said 'i really dont understand how anyone could be into that.. 'i hate my life" *gestured cutting wrist. i was going to tell my teacher when he had a discussion with me on how i deal with emotions but i just couldnt say it. Theres no way i would talk to my mum because she would over react.. and i dont want to go to counseling because i heard they tell your parents.. how can i stop this by myself? i already write a journal, draw pictures and horse ride

hey!!! ok, im 13 and i had started cutting when i was 11. this year 3 of my friends found out and sent me to the school counciler. she called my parents. i thought they would be mad at me, but they werent. they cried with me for hours and got me a personal therapist. now i am SO much happier! dont be afraid to tell your parents!!! trust me, they gave birth to you and they love you so much! you are their little girl! they arent going to be mad! i promise you! i thought my parents were going to react the same way as you think yours are going to! dont worry everything will be ok! i really hope i helped!
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Q: um.. ok i go to a catholic school and i'm going through rough times. i know many of my friends who've cut themselves well i was doing my s.studies project and i was using sharp scissors and i was questioning myself if it would go through my skin b/c the last time i had i tried to cut myself it didnt work.. well this time it did. so know i have 3 cuts on my arm, i seriously regret doing it, i showed my mawmaw and im never doing it again BUT i have a passion play tommorow and i'm afraid that my religion teacher will see it.. should i be afraid or is there any tips to hide it b/c a big band-aid will be noticable. thanks for the help
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hey! i used to cut myself, and now i have 12 permanent scars on my arm. the only reason the scars are still there is b/c i picked at the scabs which was a VERY bad idea! one thing you could temporarally do, is put some concealer on the scars. that may sound crazy, but it works! just promise me you'll NEVER cut yourself again!!! all it ever leads to is getting bad rumors started about you. i hope you feel better!
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Q: im nice and a sweet guy and all, but i tend to get real mad about little things. i punch holes in my walls and break all kinds of stuff in my room and i even put my head through a window once over a real dumb reason. so what i wanna kno is if i should look sumthin up to calm my anger or to get anger management? (after all im only 14) i just want to stop myself before i end up doin sumthin crazy

hey! ok, i went through somewhat the same thing, but not as bad. now i go to a therapist once a week, and shes REALLY helpeds me learn things about myself i never wouldve guessed! i know it may seem embarrassing to have to go to a therapist, but you dont have to tell your friends! dont worry! everything will be ok!!! i hope you feel better!
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Hey!! My name is Holly Lynne Brackin. I've gone through a ton of stuff in my life, and I'm still learning, but I think you can trust me! I love helping people out and I really put thought into my answers.