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While I am still young, I have had a great deal of life experience. It is from this that I give advice. I am open minded and try not to be judgemental. If I can help in any way, I will. Just ask. However, like everyone else in this world, I am not perfect. My advice may not always suit you, since my experiences are not the same as yours. If you want clarification on any answers I give, feel free to ask me. If you don't like what I said, or if I offended you, let me know. This is the best way for me to improve on my responses. Thanks for looking at my page!
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So this is the thing I've been diagnosed w major depression disorder and they have offered me to take Prozac. Of course I'm not obligated to take them but I would still want to know what are the side effects and if it does work because I've heard that it becomes addictive and later on you depend on them to feel happy.
I have not heard of Prozac becoming addictive. I do not know all the side effects, though I do know it gave me major headaches, which is uncommon. If you have a major depressive disorder and are seeing a psychiatrist, I recommend following their suggestions for medication. If it does not help you or you do not like the side effects, there are many others you can try. I also recommend seeing a therapist. To treat mental health disorders, you need a regimen of medication, therapy, and support. For support, look for a DBSA (depression and bipolar support alliance) group in your area. I run such a group and they are very helpful.
I can't move in my sleep. I have scary dreams about the devil & demons.I'm a christian and believe in god. I had a dream that I was marrying the devil once and it scared the crap out of me and I also had a dream that I was in hell and I and another were my house was burning and I could not move and a voice told me I was going to hell and a devil and all these people talking about hell. Then I was with my mom dad and sister in a town and they all died. I was on the ground and people ran around and fire was everywhere. I woke up scared. I've had these dreams a couple of nights in a row and I've even prayed before I slept.
It was as if I was in a coma like state, awake, but not able to move or talk, I tried to speak and wanted to speak but couldn't nor could I move,my body wasn't and didn't respond to my desire to wake up and I couldn't open my eyes.I tried calling out for help but it nothing wanted to come out, (this is not the first time it happened to me) This was real and creepy. It's like I wasn't even asleep. i actually feel like im really awake. I hate going to sleep after it happens.
I try to reach out and grab someone or call their name, but I get nothing. I guess its in my head, cause I can't speak. I think to myself but this the scariest stuff ever. I Don't know how to get away from it and wish I could. This happens all the time. I'm a grown man and it makes me scared to be alone at night or sleep alone. When i finally woke up from the state, My arms were no floating and they were right where my face was as sleeping... can anyone tell me what the heck happened? Is this something supernatural?
I've also heard voices a couple of times and I was WIDE AWAKE and the voice was evil. I was in the living room and my mom was in the next room. I was just sitting down and I heard a voice tell me I was going to hell. I ran into the other room with my mom.
Why am I having these dreams and hearing things? Help?
Pls share ur ways of shaking it, if you have any pls!
Someone told me I might just have schizophrenia, but I've looked this up and I'm not the only person dealing with these problems
The best I can tell you is that dreams like this do not mean schizophrenia. Nightmares with sleep-paralysis are awful! I have had them since childhood. They have eased up since my teen years, though I do get them sometimes.
What I do sounds a little weird. I get in my own head and tell myself I'm just dreaming and need to calm down and breathe slow. This, for me, helps to pull me out of that dream state. I've had these dreams a lot and can recognize when I am getting into them, sort of my conscious mind interrupting the subconscious dreaming mind. This works for me most of the time.
When you do get out of the dreams, whether by waking yourself or naturally waking, sit up and calmly recall the dreams. Write them down. Getting them out of your head by writing will take some of the fear out of them. This, I think, has helped mine to lessen over time.
Another thing I recommend, since you are religious, is to talk to your priest/minister about them. Do this after writing a few down. Priests/ministers are generally smart people and can help you get to the bottom of it.
i am 14/f. almost 15. but I have been in therapy since i was 12 when my parents divorced. the weird thing was i had such GREAT self confidence and self worth that i wanted them the get divorced, and i didnt care if they got remarried or whatever i just figured if they got divorced it would be best and everything would be ok. well they did....but in a horrible, messy way that me and my 4 other siblings were dragged into. my narcissistic dad dragged me into it and pulled me under, which i wanted nothing to do with. it took me about 3 years to realize what he is. and he doesnt care about anyone but himself. all i tried to do was keep my family happy but all he did was make my life that much harder than it was the day before. now my family is doing tons better. me and my two other siblings are not seeing my father because we dont like him, the very least. And i/ we do not need to. ANYWAY i have gone through soooooooo much and i am the last one to be a drama queen. my dad has pressured me into the worst things and i hate him for that. he manipulated me into everything. and now as i am in therapy i am taking it all in. about a year a half ago i didnt see my dad for like 6 months and he didnt give two shits. i cut i drank, i smoke to dissolve the pain. now i feel 100% different. i like the way i feel about "leaving" him. I am much more relieved because ei don’t have deal with him or his BS. BUT i am still left with bad emotions. i am still batting depression which i do not take any med for i want to do it on my own. but i know what bipolar is and how people act when they've had it, im not stupid. Basically the manic and depressive moods/behavior i go through if not every day. its just about now im realzing it. i know its not 100% accurate but i took an online bipolar quiz and i got the highest score. you can tell me because i am a teenage girl its likely for me to act like PMS. first of all not the case. i know my body and how i act when im on my period or just have a bad day. its completely differnt then being bipolar. PMSing is like you have really bad cramps, tired, cranky, hungry, bitchy. ok thats totally true BUT i get these emotions and way more worse ones, and act out this way to evryone for about three years. EVERY single day i feel and act manic/depressive. no joke im not making it up.i will LITERALLY start a conversations tired and mumbling/slurring my words then sped up very excitedly for no reason then calm down again. if i get a lot of money i spend it all, which is not like me. i had like 200 dollars and i spent it all, only when i got home did i realize what i did. i've always had a bad temper but i have the worst rages and take it out on the people i love. it's ruining relationships with people, im losing friends and dont know what to do. i feel like im going crazy. im sure i have this illness. if you knew me you'd probablly agree. i feel either manic/depressive all the time there is no in between. my mom's ex husband (my dad) doesnt pay shit and not even health insurance for his own kids. i want all the help i can get but i dont feel like there’s even a point to telling my mom or therapist this if i cant get screened and get help with no money coming from my mom or dad. i really want and need help and if i dont get it i honeslty dont know what will happen next.
i took the quiz at http://psychcentral.com/cgi-bin/bipolar-quiz.cgi it basicaly asks do you feel up one moment then down the next. and i tried to answer carefully and read each question twice. and either aswered like yes 100% or yes. but thank you so much for advice.
This could very well be bipolar disorder. Or not. You have been through a lot and it could be classified as PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder). What you need to do is see a psychiatrist. They can give you a diagnosis. At your age, they may still say it is just a part of growing up. Stand up for what you feel and let them know this is not normal. Do not try to do this on your own without medication. If you are actually bipolar, medication will make a world of difference. I had to do it on my own for a while because we didn't have insurance. I ended up in the ER after a suicide attempt. Then, just recently, my medication stopped working and I went to a psych hospital for a week. Make sure you see a psychiatrist regularly if you are diagnosed and keep track of your moods in a journal or log so you can know if your meds are working. If/when prescribed meds, give them at least 6 weeks before you decide they are not working. Many take that long to reach therapeutic levels.
As for support, look for your local depression and bipolar support alliance. They have fantastic groups. I actually facilitate one now. Go here to search: http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=peer_support_group_locator
If you do not have insurance or money, you can find a place in your area that serves low-income people without insurance, usually on a sliding scale based on income.
Definitely talk to your mom and your therapist. They can direct you to services to get diagnosed and helped. Do not wait until it gets worse.
For the last two months I've been going through some depression, though it's not always a constant thing. That is, I guess it's always there, but I can only feel it for a few days at a time before it fades. I go about 3 days where I feel fine, but then I drift into 3 days where I feel horrible. I know the roots of it are in self-loathing brought on by relationship problems, drug abuse/dependence, etc.
I can feel it coming and I can feel it leaving. I just started therapy, so I don't necessarily need advice on what to do -- I'm just interested in knowing if anyone else has gone through the same thing, and whether medication was necessary.
First, I disagree with the other answer. Please continue therapy. It is one aspect of treatment for mood disorders like depression and bipolar disorder.
Other than that, the other answer did have some good points. I agree that you need to see a psychiatrist to get an accurate diagnosis and find a medication that can help. Mood disorders are very successfully treated with a combination of medication, therapy, and taking measures to improve general health (diet, exercise, etc.). It takes all of those to really treat it.
On the days when you feel fine, is it just a "normal", level feeling or do you have symptoms of mania (grandiose feelings - as the other person mentioned, a feeling like you can do anything, taking risky behavior, not sleeping, extreme energy, feeling sped up, et.) or hypomania (some of the same symptoms as mania but less intense, irritability, sudden creativity and intense focus, rhyming/alliterating a lot)? If so, you may be bipolar. You say you feel it coming and leaving, so it seems there is a definite difference in the moods which makes me think you might be bipolar. There are two main types of bipolar disorder. Type I has mania and type II has hypomania and a lot more depression.
I have bipolar II disorder and it has taken a lot of time to get my medication right for me, but it was worth it. I am also benefiting from a group therapy setting with others dealing with bipolar and/or depression.
Mood disorders are an imbalance in the brain. Yes, medication is important. Yes, therapy is important. Yes, there are a lot of people out there going through the same thing right now. Get to a psychiatrist now, before it gets out of hand. You are on the right path to getting it under control.
I suffer from very severe depression, im on sertraline 50mg I want to die but i am too scared to act upon it, i love my boyfriend who is going into the army and im scared i might do something while im not with him, can anyone give me advice?
As someone else said, it seems your medication isn't working enough for you. Are you seeing your primary doctor or a psychiatrist for your medication? I highly recommend seeing a psychiatrist, as this is their specialty and they can better work with you to find the right medication and dose. It can take a while to get it right and, even when you do, your body can eventually stop responding to it and require a change.
I also highly recommend therapy. It will help you to develop coping strategies for when he is gone so you can feel better. If you can get into a group therapy setting, it is actually shown to be more helpful than individual therapy. If nothing else, it puts you in a place with other people who are feeling similar to you and will support your well-being.
Next, I think you should talk to your boyfriend about your feelings in an open, honest way. Let him know you love him and are proud of him and ask him to write you often. When my bf went into the Marines, he wrote me every day. He is now my husband and he is very supportive and patient with my bipolar disorder and depression.
If nothing else, keep in mind that your boyfriend will come back to you. If you are not there, what will that do to him?
I'll leave you with an exercise my therapist gave me to help rein in the emotion and negativity: Set aside one hour every day to just cry. Cry for the whole hour, then write what you experienced and felt. It will give you back some control over the emotion, take you out of the spiral where just being depressed and crying makes you feel worse and cry more. You will have a say in when you cry and what you take from it.
18/f
I'm about to be 19 in a couple of weeks and i think i'm like having a mid life crisis for some reason. I have been watching shows I used to watch when I was like 10 and even looking at my old dolls, ones that i used to collect, i was even looking at the collector dolls considering buying them. I've been watching disney movies and just all sorts of kiddish stuff.
I'm just sad I guess because I know I'm not really a kid anymore. The next 6 years will be hard (i'm getting my masters degree.) and i just won't be a kid anymore. Pretty soon I'll be done with school, married, kids, and then i'm dead. It's just so depressing.
I've always acted older for my age, and grew up too fast. Is it normal to feel this way and act this way? at my age haha
You know what, I'm going to keep my answer simple:
Yes, it is totally normal to feel like this when approaching any life milestones. You want to cling to your past because it is what you know and where you feel safe. As long as it doesn't take over your life/keep you from living your life, it is ok. It sounds like you have great plans to look forward to. Take time to acknowledge the sadness and indulge your inner child and then move on with your plans. And know that there will be plenty of times that this will hit you, and it is ok. It is completely normal.
More recently the normal I have been having bad dreams.. I'll try to explain.
I'll be dreaming of myself dreaming. Except in my dream I am looking at myself sleeping (the surrounding is different though). I know I am dreaming and I try to wake myself up by talking or moving my body or flexing my butt. I don't do this in the dream. And I think I might be doing this in real life but I'm not sure. That's the part that bothers me I don't know if my dream self is doing it or my real self. This morning my mom came in my room (I was dreaming this but it also happened) and I tried to speak and move which I'm not sure if I did or not. But if I did I'm sure I looked like a freak. I don't wake up when I try.. I wake up on my own I guess.
It's scary. Here's another example. I was sleeping and I knew I was sleeping and I wanted to wake up so I tried to open my eyes a lot and I would dream they would open but they wouldn't actually open..
Looking back this has been happening for the longest time but it hasn't gotten scary until now.
I don't know if this makes any sense at all but let me know what you think. Why is this happening? I know dreams are difficult to understand and all but anything?
I have to agree with the answer about sleep paralysis. This used to happen to me all the time. I was really freaked out by it for quite a while. Once I found out that it is not uncommon, that seemed to help. I'm sure everyone is different, but over time this has stopped happening to me. I don't think there is any real reason for it, though I wouldn't be surprised if stress and/or anxiety are factors.
I vividly remember one time when I kept "waking up" but not actually waking up, just moving into a different part of the dream. At one point, I managed to get up from bed and go to the living room. This was after dreaming I had woken up about 3 times. At this point, I wasn't sure if I was awake or not. So, I decided to write about it. I figured that if my writing was there the next day, I had actually woken up. I was about 15 years old and this somehow made sense to me. I still have what I wrote, and I think writing about it helped me to start getting rid of it. That might be something you can try. Perhaps keep a journal of when it happened, any details you remember, and a little about what you did and felt the day before. You might start to see a pattern that will help you to sleep better.
Also, if you are concerned that you are moving or talking in your sleep, you probably aren't. My sister shared a room with me as I went through this when I was a teen. She never noticed anything odd.
I hope it helps to at least know you are not alone and that it will eventually go away.
I am a college student and am having such a hard time now, but am afraid to start therapy. I have gotten through so many issues by myself, including self-injury and bulimia, but I feel that I shouldn’t have done it on my own. I feel like I can survive on my own, but I am not very happy.
I am afraid to start therapy because of the money too. I am under my parents’ insurance and I am unsure if they would find out. I don’t want them to find out, and I’m also not sure if I would have enough money to pay for it anyway.
What should I do? Should I try to keep doing things by myself or should I try to get therapy despite everything?
You already know therapy would help, or you wouldn't be trying to figure it out. You should also know that your parents can help, and hiding from them may add to the stress you are under.
Check with your school. Many colleges have counseling programs for the students at low cost. You will not be seeing a therapist, but a counselor. You may find them to be very helpful.
If that doesn't work, talk to your parents. I know you prefer for them not to know, but trust me on this one. Let them know you want to get help for this but aren't sure you can afford it. As a parent and as someone who has suffered depression and bipolar disorder (even attempted suicide), I know that they will help you. It is hard to ask for help, especially from loved ones, but it really is often the best way to get the help you need.
theyre not horrible but i had to take tylenol n i usually don't take tylenol anymore.
my period will be starting and i doubt it is associated with my period because this would be the first time getting a headache like this
okay so i took speed at 10 pm
and i was awake all till the next day of 9:30 am
i chewed gum during most of that time
my body ached
for two days
it doesnt ache anymore
but i still get headaches - (this is three days after taking speed)
when will they leave?
my cousin said a couple weeks the most,
and my friends say a couple days
and the chatroom people, as rude as they are say it will last for the rest of my life.
this is the first time ive taken speed
it was in a blue and red capsule
i look up red and blue
and there are weird results .
its like reddd and blue
like
as red as blood and as blue as crip
seriously
half and half
please help me
when will my headaches leave ? im worried ill have them for the rest of my life, im still scared i could have them for weeks.
am i inernally bleeding from speed?!
i am freaking out
my friend took speed all the time and she took x and all that she has no effects from the speed.
This is more a response to the other answer, regarding "if you're going to do speed again"
Honestly, after such a bad experience, and a fear of permanent damage, I would hope you wouldn't try it again. I don't mean to sound preachy. I just have to question the choice to do something that makes you feel so awful and afraid.
I am glad it probably wasn't actually speed. Did your cousin actually see what you took? There are a lot of medications in red and blue (or orange and blue) capsules. In fact, I have some extra strength tylenol with red and blue capsules. Without seeing the actual pill, it is hard to say what it is. I work for a pharmacy. there are codes on the capsules that help distinguish one from another. You might want to find who you got it from and confirm what it really is. Until you are 100% certain, it is hard to say if there will be long term damage. Though I can say that one dose of just about any pill will typically not do long term damage.
As for the headache now, you took an unknown drug that did not work with your body. You stayed up all night. You are about to start your period. While you say you don't normally get headaches on your period, the other issues combined with it can certainly cause severe headaches. If the pain is in your jaw or around your ears, chewing gum for the better part of 12 hours could have caused that.
So, if for some reason you decide this is an experience worth doing drugs, just be 100% sure of what you are taking and what the side effects are.
i think i am suffering from depression honestly and i would like to be put on antidepressant of some sort... i was wondering if you go to the doctor and ask about depression and the pills will they make your take a drug test? or will theu just ask you if you use drugs??
I NEED TO KNOW SOON PLEASE
They won't likely ask if you are on drugs. If you are, though, you need to tell the doctor before getting any prescription medication. You do not want to risk problems with combining drugs and medications.
That said, are you taking drugs? what ones?
Drugs can make you feel different, and that can even come across as depression. So, first thing, if you are taking drugs, stop. That will quite likely help.
Next, what is it that makes you think you are suffering from depression?
Are you sleeping too much? Too little?
Has your appetite changed?
Do you feel unhappy a great deal of the time, with no logical reason (drugs can be a reason)?
Do you have physical symptoms, like aching all over?
Do you ever have times with extreme energy or other highs, with no logical cause (again, drugs can be a cause)? These can include periods of feeling indestructible, or being reckless (like having a lot of sex with a lot of people).
Do you feel irritable for significant lengths of time?
These are things the doctor should ask you (if the doctor doesn't ask most of them, you may want to see another doctor).
For treatment, antidepressants are certainly helpful in many situations. Keep in mind that an antidepressant can take a few weeks to start helping. It is not a quick fix. There are many different medications, and what works for one person may not work as well for another. It is possible that you will have to try one medication for a couple of months only to find it doesn't work and have to try another. Be patient until you and your doctor find the right one.
If you do have highs, or extreme irritability, talk to your doctor about bipolar disorder as well. If that is a possibility, antidepressants can actually make things worse over time.
Along with medication, you should seek therapy. Medication affects the chemical part of depression. Therapy is useful for finding the cause, or repairing damage caused by behavior brought on by the chemical disorder.
I hope you find your solution soon. If you have any questions about depression or bipolar disorder, don't hesitate to send me a note. I've had a lot of personal experience with this, and will do what I can to help others avoid the stuff I have been through.
My sister has really strange eating habits, but it doesn't sound like an eating disorder that I have heard of. She eats less than 100 calories for breakfast. At school she eats grapes for lunch and throws away her sandwich. She tries not to let anyone see her do it, but I have seen her do it all week. At supper, she eats normally because my parents saw that she wasn't eating as much and she doesn't want them to know.
One day at lunch I saw her eating half of her sandwich. But when we got home, I heard her trying to make herself throw up in the bathroom. She didn't succeed, but maybe that's because she is afraid of throwing up.
Maybe I am making too much of things, but what does this sound like to you? Any help is appreciated. :)
This sounds like a problem. It also sounds like your parents may have noticed something, but aren't sure just how bad it is. Talk to them. They will worry, of course, but chances are they are already concerned and would be relieved to know the details so they can do something about it.
i dont know if i have a chemical imbalance in my brain.. its complicated but is there any way i can get a sample of a zoloft pill or something? to see if itll make me feel better? prob not.. bc youd have to take the pill for a long time to see results, right?
It takes around 2 weeks for most antidepressants to take effect. For some people, it could take longer. You should talk to your doctor to see if medication is right for you. If you are dealing with depression at all, see a doctor ASAP. Medication may be best, or therapy, or a combination. Depression is very serious, and very misunderstood. A lot of people will try to tell you things like "oh, you don't need medication. You just need to get out more, make some friends. You'll snap out of it in no time!" That is not how depression works. The best thing you can do is get professional help. Whatever your doctor says to do, follow the directions. If you get an antidepressant, your doctor can prescribe just a month worth to see how it works for you. But take the whole month, don't give up on it because it can take time. Also, if you are concerned about cost, many doctors can give some sort of samples or can refer you to a clinic that will work with you on cost.
Whatever you do, please see someone before depression gets really out of hand. I ended up in the hospital having my stomach pumped about 6 years ago because I didn't get help soon enough.
Hi ... this is probably stupid but I need to ask.
Can anyone just go into a drug store and buy the "over the counter" brands like cold/headache medicine? Or do you have to be a certain age.
Because if anyone can buy stuff just like that, wouldn't it be extremely easy for people to purchase stuff but then use it to get high?
Thanks if anyone answers. :)
Most cold and headache medicines can be acquired by anyone. However, most won't get you high. If you take too much, you will just get very sick and end up in the hospital getting your stomach pumped (not fun!). The ones used to get high can not be purchased without ID (particularly those with pseudoephedrine, as it is often used in making meth) and you have to go to the pharmacy counter to get them. There is usually a limit to how much you can get as well.
ok im 20, female. I get really turned on when i see naked women and i want to touch myself. But I would never consider doing anything with a woman. Like, it kinda grosses me out thinking about doing something with another woman...but I like to watch lesbian porn. It turns me on way more than man-woman porn. Whats wrong with me?
There is nothing wrong. Honestly, I think women are just generally nicer to look at than men. I get more turned on watching women as well. There is just something more sensual about a woman's curves and we are typically more graceful in our movements. Yeah, I know not all women are more attractive or graceful than all men, but there is definitely a more sexual design to us.
Oh, I am a bi-curious married woman. Bi-curious basically means I would be interested in playing with other girls, but haven't really gotten into it and still really prefer men. Sounds like you may have similar tendencies. Perhaps you might want to consider a threesome to see if you do have any attraction to women. If you don't, well, it won't bother anyone 'cause the guy will take care of the other girl.
The most important thing, though, is not to stress over what you are feeling. It is normal. Just enjoy yourself. Exploring what is going on with your mind and body can be an exhilarating experience. Have fun with it.
My grandmother died a little while ago (last Monday, actually) and I was very close to her. Although I seem to be handling well on the outside, I'm really torn up. I can't concentrate on anything and nothing seems worth it anymore. I am usually a very good student, I took last week off and now I'm back to school. The catch up work alone is overwhelming, I have assgnments piling on top of one another. Even if I could focus on my work, which I can't, I would still have a very difficult time catching up. With my lack of motivation as a result of my grandmother's death trying to finish all my assignments seems almost impossible. Is there anything I can do to try to get back on track? Thank you in advance.
Try talking to your teachers. Let them know that you are having a hard time focusing and catching up and see if there is anything they can do to help. Since you are typically a good student, they should understand and be willing to help you get back on track.
I also recommend grief counseling. A counselor can help you to deal with your feelings in a way that will allow you to focus when you need to and they can help with techniques for managing your life in this tough time. More importantly, you will have someone to talk to in person who understands what you are going through without being directly involved (a family member could understand, but it would be as much about them as about you which wouldn't help a whole lot).
I think I may have depression. I don't know if it is temporary or not. I have shown several classic symptoms of depression for nearly three months now, and I am so afraid to ask for help. I feel like there shouldn't be anything wrong with me, and I can't talk to my family about it, because I don't want it to become a huge ordeal. My mom has three sisters - the way they gossip, my problems would be all over the family before the words even left my mouth. I really don't want to draw any attention to myself because I am ashamed that I can't shake this feeling. Are there tips for dealing with possible depression without seeking help? Should I just treat the symptoms as they appear?
DO NOT TRY TO TREAT THIS ON YOUR OWN!!!
Sorry, but this is something that could have killed me. I do not take it lightly.
Yes, it is possible that is is not serious. It could be teenage hormones. But if it has been three months and you can't shake it, that is probably not the case. Please, please see a doctor or a counselor. Let them know how long it has been that you have felt this way. Go ahead and talk to your family. Talk to your mom. Tell her that you are concerned about the way others will react and ask her to please not talk about it with others.
Depression is very hard. It is harder when you feel like you are alone. If you just treat the symptoms, you may not be treating the cause. The cause could be chemical or external. External means something has happened in your life to trigger it. You haven't said anything about that, but perhaps you just didn't feel like it.
Take a look at my column. I have answered a couple other questions on depression. Perhaps that will help you. And please feel free to contact me if you need any help at all. I know the effects of depression first-hand and will do whatever I can to help others avoid the pain I have had. And sometimes it just takes being able to talk to someone who understands.
So, please see a doctor, talk to your mom, and let me know how things are going for you.
13/f.
I am very forgetful. I have a very short memory and can't even remember what I ate a couple of nights ago or what I wore. I often tell people about my experiences like something interesting happening or about a party that I went to, but I tell people again, and not even realize that I told them the first time. Help?
At 13 there tends to be a lot going on in one's life. You have school, social life, hormonal changes, family stuff, etc. It is hard to keep track of everything. So, it is normal to have a poor memory at that age. Not remembering what you ate or wore a couple nights ago really isn't so bad. I have a great memory and still manage to do that.
However, if it really bothers you, you may want to look for ways to improve your memory. Keeping a journal is one way. Reading something and quizzing yourself on a regular basis is another good way to get your mind in shape. Play games that test memory, like trivial pursuit. Seems silly, but it really does help. Some people swear by Gingko, and herbal supplement, but I have read that studies show that it really doesn't help. I guess it really is an individual thing though. You could also ask a school counselor for advice. They may be able to give you more techniques to improve your memory.
is it normal for people to cry over nothing? like seriously! i think something is wrong with me, maybe depression or something? but i can just sit here and start crying for hours. and so many things will just run throug my head.. do i need help?!
It can be perfectly normal, and it can be a sign of something worse, like depression.
Here are some questions to consider:
When not having a crying spell, how do you feel? Are you able to be happy in general? Or are you feeling sad or distressed most of the time?
Do you still enjoy the things you used to enjoy?
When with friends, are you having a good time?
Do you find your crying spells have a pattern, like around your period, or in certain places, or around certain people? Or are they totally random?
Are there any particular thoughts that trigger this?
How do you feel after a crying spell? Do you feel worse, or do you feel relieved?
Are you sleeping alright?
Are you eating normally (not too often, not too little)?
Have you been holding in emotions in the past? It is possible they are just catching up with you and you need to let it out.
If you are able to enjoy things as usual and you feel relieved after a crying spell, you are sleeping normally, and your eating habits have not really changed, this crying is normal.
If there is a pattern, well, that can help you to resolve it. If you cry more around your period (I am assuming you are a female, if you are not, I do apologize), then it is hormonal and also very normal. If a particular person, place, or thought triggers it, perhaps they should be either confronted or avoided, depending on the situation.
If you find yourself having very negative thoughts or this moodiness starts to interfere with the rest of your life, it can't hurt to talk to your doctor about it. But if the rest of your life is as usual for you, don't worry. That will just make you cry more, and that will create a downward spiral that could turn into something more.