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Im better at helping others then helping myself. I try to keep and open mind to everything, I've been thru a lot between family friends and Myself, so if you need advice PLEASE ASK!A Little More About Me
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i desperately need help to stop cutting.. im too scared everyone will judge me if i tell them, ive been doing it since i was 11 (now 16). i wanted to tell my best friend but i have already told her i got the scars from random accidents.. she has made jokes in the past about how they really look like self mutilation scars and she said 'i really dont understand how anyone could be into that.. 'i hate my life" *gestured cutting wrist. i was going to tell my teacher when he had a discussion with me on how i deal with emotions but i just couldnt say it. Theres no way i would talk to my mum because she would over react.. and i dont want to go to counseling because i heard they tell your parents.. how can i stop this by myself? i already write a journal, draw pictures and horse ride
Cutting is like a mind thing so if you want to stop its all up to you. But your best bet is to tell someone, if you choose it to be your best friend, and if shes says"I don;t know why people do that " be like, fine then do it when your mad, then you'll find out. Or something like that, if you tell a teacher, they are responsible fro telling guidance or the offoce or your parents. But if ou reallly want to help yourself, if you like the pain take an elastic band and snap it on your wrist, or squeeze and icecube Theres not much more i can say, but you can IM me anytime (ITSALLKAITLY) Best of Luck to you and I hope things Get better IHIH*
i've been cutting myself off and on since i was about 13 and i'm almost 16 now. i cant control it anymore, i've tried stopping but i cant. i want to get help but i'm ashamed of it. how can i get help without coming right out and telling someone?
Aww Im sorry. Its very hard to stop and I know you don;t want to tell anybody, but it might be best. If not theres a few things I can tell you to do. Everytime you have an urge to cut write down why in like a notebook or journal, something you keep private and too urself. Throw away whatever you cut with, sometimes seeing a knife or razor or n e thing gives you a greater urge to do it. If you like the pain and thats what you need, take an elasic band and snap it on your wrist, or take an icecube and squeeze it in your hand. I know cutting is an addicting habit and its really really hard to stop. But it si also a mind thing, if you really want to stop you can, part of the reason why I can't stop, is because I know ir works. But you can pull through this, and if you ever need anything IM me anytime and Keep me updated ITSALLKAILTYN( my screen name) I hope I hekped you and Best Wishes.
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It may help, if you tell me some of the resons ur cutting.. if you don;t mind
hey im 15 f, are most teenage girls out there depressed? is it just a faze we go through or is it just certain individuals that are insane.. its not like i have had a hard life but i am always sad and pessimistic about everything. i feel like i dont deserve anything and no one likes me. i have been diagnosed with 'anorexia' i think they are wrong tho, i am a heavy drinker and i smoke pot often, and people are starting to notice the scars on my arms and wrists from cutting.. i put on a front when i with people but when i am by myself all i can think about is death.. i dont know why i am like this i dont have a reason to be, i was just wondering does anyone else feel this way!?
Aww Hun, This is going to be a hard question to answer, but I want to help. 1. You need to stop smoking pot/ drinking it won't get you anywhere,
+ If you were diagnosed with anorexia, (which they are probably right about) Smoking and Drinking can really screw up your heart, and You can die. Cutting is very hard to get over to but you really need to help yourslef in this situation, no one deserves this to happen to them, so don;t be so down on yourself, NO ONE DESERVES TO DIE!!
Please IM me If you need Anything *ITSALLKAITLYN*
I hope I helped..
(Sorry if this turns out really long!) I've only been cutting myself for a little over two weeks but I'm already addicted. I told my boyfriend first because I vent to him a lot. I trust him and he can comfort me. Then later I told my teacher and she suggested for me to talk to my school counselor. My teacher told my parents, too. My mom talked to me but it wasn't about ME, it was about what my sister went through. It wasn't helpful. So I talked to the couselor. She freaked out and kept telling me, "You can't do that! STOP! You have to stop! If you do it again I'll tell the principal!" That is not what I expected from her. It wasn't helpful or encouraging. It was threatening! It almost made me want to cut! Later that day I was sitting alone in the gym slicing the skin on my arms and my Gym/Health teacher saw me and made me go alone in a room with him to talk. He kept telling me that even though life may suck now, it'll get better because I "have a good mind". I didn't think it was helpful either, but I started crying. Everytime I had to talk to someone, I wanted my boyfriend there holding my hand helping me endure it. I feel uncomfotable around everyone but him. One day my teacher actually tried to send me home because I was cutting and crying and miserable. I told her I didn't want to go home, I just wanted to talk to James. (James is my boyfriend.) She said she couldn't let him out of class. I glared at her and wouldn't talk to her. She called my parents and they took me home. The whole time I wanted to scream, "I JUST WANT JAMES!" When I got home I just reread old notes from my bf. He's the only one who can comfort me and it feels like he's the only reason I go on living. Do I depend on him too much? How can I stop cutting if I have nobody to talk to? Please comment or give advice! Sorry so long!
1 it is good that you have that much trust in and that much of a support from him, don;t think you are hanging on to him and that hes your only help though, because thats not true. Cutting is a very hard thing to stop, I have been Doing it for over a year and its still hard for me not to do it, but there are several things you can try, snap an elastic band on your wrist or hold and icecube really tight until it hurts, write your feelings donw, Talk to James more, whatever makes you feel in control of your feelings besides cutting, the longer you cut the longer it will take to break then habit.But Stopping will take time, be patient with yourself, and to be honest the only person that can truly stop you is YOU. Keep me updated >ITSALLKAITLYN< screen name. I hope Your Better Soon
Hi there, I'm 14 years old and I have a problem with self harm. It used to be controlable, but now it's an addiction. No one else knows, and I don't know how I can stop, because it's getting really bad. How do I control it??
Hey. I have to say I have been there/ or I am there. I know it is really hard to stop doing it and when it becomes an addiction it is even harder, I still haven't been able to stop, Its been a year and 2 months for me now, and I totally understand where you are coming from. If you really want to stop, you can tell your parents or a teacher/ guidance counselor, and I know its not something you would want to do, but if its your last resort then you should, SI is never ever a good thing, and I know Im not the one to talk. You can also try snapping your wrist with a rubber band or holding an Icecube. You can write your feelings down instead of taking them out on yourself, Punch something talk to someone, and Im not trying to sound lame but Give them a try it couldn't make it worse. One thing though, if you are gonna tell a friend make sure its someone you trust, It will make you even more upset, and make you want to cut more if you tell a trusted friend and they tell people or they tell on you, and people will think they are trying to help but they are just making it worse. If you need anything IM me anytime. PLease! ITSALLKAITLYN < S.N Keep Me updated, and I hope everything works out!
I loathe myself, every tiny detail about myself. I hate my appearance...My
hair, my face, my teeth, my hands, my eyebrows, chest, stomach, back, arms, etc...I
hate every characteristic of my personality, every last one. I think of my self
as stupid, incompetent and worthless. Everything that goes wrong is my fault. I
suck at every thing I do. Seeking professional help is not an option for me, and
neither is getting help from a trusted adult. Even if either were an option, I’m
much, much, much to timid to ask for help...I don't think I even deserve to have
people waste there time on me to help me anyway.
Degradeing yourself is not going to get you anywhere. You need help obviosly and you have to talk to someone. No one should feel that way about themselves. You really need help, Talk to someone. There are people who have it worse then you, just always think of that. Keep Your Chin Up!
-Kaitlyn*itsallkaitlyn