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so i hung out with this guy i like a few days ago. we went for a walk by ourselves and he put his arm around me and we basically stayed with each other the whole night. i know he likes me alot. but the thing i don't understand is how come he didn't kiss me? it seems like with all my friends, they meet a guy a day, then the second or third time they hang out they're already like making out and stuff...is there a reason why hes moving so slow?

14/f

maybe he felt like you didn't want it, or you want to take it slow.

next time you two hangout try showing hints you want to kiss, and he should take it from there. :)

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how do you know when you love someone?

it's different for everyone, you just know.

trust me, when you're in love, you'll have no doubt in your mind about what love is.

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16/f

this guy.
we talk like every night on the phone
the most weve talked was from 10 pm to 4 am or so
this is how it goes.
weve never told each other that we like each other
well
he gave me a poem that said he loved me
i never really responded to that.
is that bad? =\

i tell him that this bitchy girl wanting to hook up with him makes me really mad and jealous.
he stopped talking to her.

he always makes me feel better

and then at our dance we danced every slow song and every fast song together. and during one slow song he made a joke about this girl and i let go of him but he pulled me into him and i like melted. and i was like oh you have no idea how many stories i could tell you about that and he said if theyre not about you i dont want to hear them


hes great, but hes a male. (no offense boys)
i want to know if hes playing me
because it seems way to good to be true that hed like me
im not exactly the hottest girl ever
but he tells me that im attractive and that he likes to talk to me

does he like me or not??
whats a casual way of finding out without flat asking?>

oh my goodness, of course he likes you! i don't think he would be spending so much time trying to make you realize it, if he didn't mean it. if you really don't believe him, kindof take it slow. if you want to find out if he really does or not, maybe try having one of your friends hit on him just to see how he'd act. but i really, really think he's got it bad for you. (:

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Hello all!

I met a wonderful man and have been dating him for quite some time. He is everything I feel women can ask of a man. Among other things he’s sweet, attentive, family oriented and even cooks and cleans (and better than me).

Well, he sat down with me to talk and told me how much he cared for and wanted to be with me and how he liked things to take a step forward. He then gave me keys to his apt, which I didn't accept. He also said that (at that moment) it would be a good time to share with me this bomb shell... Since he knew he wanted to continue seeing me and wants things to get more serious, he felt he should "come clean".

He married an ex-girlfriend of his for papers (naturalization). The process will take about another year or so. He hasn't been with this girl for some time now and she is also, currently dating someone. What do I do? I value marriage so strongly and he is most certainly a very strong candidate for it. I'd marry him in a heartbeat, but I feel so lost. Am I over-reacting for feeling so ANGRY? Do I continue seeing him despite this? Will I forever hold resentment because of this if I choose to go on?

He is so concerned with my thoughts on this, but I honestly don’t know what to think and even less what to do? Any insight will be appreciated.

Thanks!
F/26

From what you're saying, he's a keeper. It seems as if they've both moved on and there's nothing between them anymore. You're very lucky to have a guy who would be honest with you and tell you this. It's completely normal to be angry and upset over this, but I really think he's a good guy. keep me updated! (: -

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Alrght, I'm not gonna give you my name because then it'd give everything away & I choose not to right now but I'm a girl & I'm 15.

Anyways, due to my past I have a lot of issues being happy. I've recently met one of the most amazing boys in the world & he says he loves me & would never hurt me. I know he means it, but due to everything, it's hard to believe him. I wanna love him & I want to happy with him but I don't know how. If he never hurts me, it scares me because everyone has & if he doesn't, I'm not sure how things would end up. I mean, I know they'd go good but it all scares me. I run from everything that makes me happy & I cling to what hurts. The boy I'm talking about, you know him. I guess what I'm asking is, what should I do?
Thanks!

in all honestly, i think you should let this boy in your life. from how you're making him seem, he's someone for you. but, since you do have trust issues, don't make him your world. don't let other boys ruin it for the good ones. you're gonna get hurt on your search for mr. perfect, how else would you find him? so give this boy a chance, see what he's all about. just don't make him your everything, cuz if you do get hurt.. you'll have nothing. and if he does hurt you, well sweetie, everything happens for a reason. good luck! (: ps; sorry for taking so long to reply.

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well i just got over the worst relationship OF MY LIFE. i went with this guy that i'll call Kevin for 2 and a half months and then he decides he wants to break it off because we never get to see eachother. although i get the vibe that that's not the only reason. so the night of my birthday he called me but i never called him back and he got pissed. so he sends me all this hatemail and stuff and tells me off, (even though he knows DAMN WELL that he upset me more than anyone else in the world!! and he wasnt my bf, so why does he care if i dont call him back or not, right? and there were plenty of times when we were dating that he never called me when he told me he would.) and just today he sent me these texts on my phone calling me names and what-not. and so his best friend and my best friend, (who hooked me and that guy up in the first place) want me to get to know this other guy...we'll call him Jay. well, im 15. and jay just turned 14. hes really nice. and cute. and hes just really awesome. but 2 problems here: i dont really like going with guys younger than me, and i only go out with christians. jay is an atheist. but i guess having no religion is better than worshipping the devil, right? well i dont know what to do. should i try it with jay? should i keep going after kevin? what?! PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR OPINIONS!!! I DONT CARE WHAT THEY ARE, JUST TELL ME PLEASE!! thanks.

here's my opinion on this whole thing,
kevin is extreeemely low and i think getting back together with him would be stupid on your part. it's obvious you can do better. from what you make him out to be, jay seems to be a good guy. personally, i don't think you should let his religion get in the way of your heart. and age, eh, you just gotta forget about that, you never know, you might be missing out. i think your bestfriend has a good sense of what kindof guy you would like. i'd give him a shot, and if you don't like it, you don't have to keep going with it. (: hope i helped & good luck!

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ok my name is chris and i need advice my gf has cheated on my 6 times and i forgave her 5 times i dont no why but i did and then i saw her flirting with another boy then that was it i broke up with her and asked anther girl out and she said yes then she left my a very offensive phone call to my gf telling her that shes a whore etc and she keeps staking me wereever i go a few days ago i took my new gf kristina to olive garden and she follewed and ate in a both next to us and wen i saw her i got so mad.pleez tel me how to get rid of her so i can live my life

thanks for the help,
chris

hey chris,
you just gotta tell this girl straight up to back off.
tell her it's her loss & it's her fault you did this.
you already gave her more chances than she deserved.

and try to keep it on the dl when you go somewhere with your girlfriend, that way she has a less chance of finding you guys.

dont' be afriad to leave another one in my inbox.
hope i helped:D
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How do you get out of an abusive relationship when you have no money, no close friends and nowhere to go?

wow, i feel like i'm talking to my own mother.
she was in the exact deal a month or two ago.
police. police. police.
they will put him in jail, and get out of the relationship.
there are shelters you could stay @ temporarily.

i know exactly how this goes, if you need anything else / more advice leave me one in the inbox.
my mom has been through the exact same thing, she's still going through the court & stuff for him.

-ntk

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i need some advice. i am 16 years old and my girlfriend is 13 years old. i know some of you are thinking wtf am i doing with her. but i love her and from the looks u cant tell shes 13. im going into the 11th grade and shes only going into the 8th. we get along great. im just worried that i will get made fun of for going out with her and all. i dont want it to end and i love her sooo much!
please help

age is nothing but a number.
i mean, if you love this girl, who cares what people say?
they aren't the one who's dating her, so it shouldn't effect them.

i'm fourteen & dating someone who is seventeen.
so i guess i kindof get where you're coming from, but in the end it doesn't matter.

who cares what people think? love is love.

- ntk

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