hi! i'm xt :) i'm 17/f, from sunny singapore, tiny, and i've loads of loony bins for friends. feel free to ask me stuff on regular teen troubles - school, friends, dating, family, music, cooking, home decorations, fashion, etc. (please refer to my fave categories) however, please do not ask any questions regarding sex as i will not answer them. otherwise, hope i'm able to help you with my advice! :) please leave a name so that i can address my advice to someone, and if you don't want people to see your question leave your email add in the question so i can get back to you privately! :)
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hello i name is matthew nickname 'mace windu'
i would like to ask why gils hate me. i think its because i chat them up too much and they think its disgusting but dont girls want peole to chat them up otherwise would they chat boys up and stuff like that so i can wait for gils to chat me up and make my day then we can have a date and maybe get engaged and then married and have a baby or five
also what is schrodinger's cat and why do people sya it's both daed and alive
goodday and ciao ~ mace (link)
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Hi mace,
well, different girls have different preferences, so while some girls like the guy to chat them up, others may not. it all depends on her character, so do use your own discretion. i guess the more outspoken girls would take the initiative to talk to the guy first, though i wouldn't advise you to wait for girls to chat you up. you might end up waiting forever. if you really like the girl then go talk to her, but don't come across too aggressively.
i did a little google search on schrodinger's cat and stumbled on this very fascinating theory of physics (and i say this with no sarcasm intended at all). here's the link to a website that provides an easy-to-understand summary of it. hope it answers your question.
http://whatis.techtarget.com/definition/0,,sid9_gci341236,00.html
alright, good luck with your love life and have fun with the cat.
to everyone: happy new year! :)
luv,
xt :)
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i have a friend who refuses to be a pain in my neck. instead, he chooses to be a pain in the a**. why can't he be content to be a pain in the side? and why is it that most pains are MALE?
curious (link)
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hi pain,
i don't know why your friend chose the lower part of your anatomy to be a pain in. the choice is entirely up to him, isn't it? modern society advocates freedom of choice, darling. you should respect that.
most pains are male because, well, that's the only thing they can do.
luv, xt :)
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I have a friend who is incurably addicted to orlando bloom's HAIR. I don't get what is so nice about his hair. does she like it because it's blonde or something? or is it very spiky and nice-smelling? I only like legolas' hair. i thought it was long, girly and wayyyy coool... so do you have any suggestions as to how to cure my friend the addict? she really is a very sad case. and im CONCERNED.
yours sincerely,
concerned friend of addict (link)
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dear concerned friend of addict,
it's nice to see that you're so caring for your friend. however, as i am not your friend, i have no idea why she is addicted to his hair. i doubt it's because it's blonde because it isn't. it isn't spiky either. maybe it's just cos it looks nice.
i'm not sure how your friend can be addicted to hair. perhaps you would like to write back and give me an example of what happens? for the time being, maybe you could make her wear a blindfold permanently, or somehow persuade orlando to go bald. the latter isnt such a good idea, you might incur the wrath of his millions of fangirls. including me.
luv, xt :)
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hi me and my friend are writing a peoms for my girlfriend can you review them and say which one is better:
MY FRENDS
i walk down street
monkeys in pyjamas
bite ur hands and feet
MINE
feed the hands that u bite
pyjamas are actually part time monkeys
in secret street parade at night
i love you darling
yor assitant is greatly apprecated :)
jason aka notTiboI (link)
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jason,
you see, i WOULD be able to tell you whose poem is better, if only i could COMPREHEND what your poems mean. tough luck. gotta attend some literature lessons, wotcher. lots to learn.
luv, xt :)
p.s. i hope your girlfriend hasn't dumped you yet.
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i wuzz voted da bez kissah in moi schz. now sho mani ppls 1 2 kishh moi. how?!
da kissah (link)
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dear da kissah,
kiss them back to prove your title.
luv, xt :)
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I REALLY NEED YOUR ADVICE!!
my name is laurie. im 16 yrs old...i like this guy (we'll call him bob)..well..he asked me to go on a date and i said yes. but then i found out that night that my best friend likes him to, and she didnt really know i liked him..so she thinks she 'claimed' him first. so i was a good friend and canceled the date b/c i didnt want to ruin my friendship with her. well turns out my best friend goes on a date with bob..and she acts like it was no big deal..and plus she ditched me that night and yada yada..well i was mad that she ditched me. but i was acceptable to the fact that she went on this date..and she acted like it was no big deal. well turns out bob didnt like the date, and was way more intrested in me. and i like him SO much, and he tells me he wants to be with me...and the more i talk to him the more i want to be with him. i think its only fair though that i can have my chance with him since my best friend got hers you know?..but i dont want to do anything i regret! i really really want to be with this guy and he says he wants to be with me to..
i would really appreciate your honest advice.
THANK YOU SO MUCH! (link)
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dear laurie,
it was really noble of you to let your best friend (shall we call her A?) date bob first, especially since you like him so much. this shows that you really treasure the friendship between you and A.
it seems that things between bob and A didn't turn out so well. i agree that since A has had her chance, you should get yours too. however, you might want to take her feelings into consideration. it appears that A has strong feelings for bob too. so, perhaps you can get bob to gently break the news to her that he doesnt want to be with her.
as for you getting together with bob, i suggest that you guys give A some time to calm down and get over it before dating, because since you and A are so close, it could affect her greatly. when A is over it, then you and bob can be together. as for now, why not get to know each other as friends first? you'll understand each other more and then you can decide whether you really want to be with him or not.
whatever you decide, if your friendship with A is strong enough, i'm sure it will withstand whatever challenges you have. my best wishes to you. :)
luv, xt :)
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hi. i'm a 10 yr old boy. y do my parents love me so much? especially my mum. she always says she loves me. can she be my girlfriend in disguise? (link)
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hi,
it's cool that a 10 year old is writing to me. :) well, it's wonderful to know that your parents love you so much! :) i'm not a parent myself so i don't really know why, but it could be because you are their child and part of the family. your mom is really nice to express herself to you like this! if you are curious to know why your parents dote on you, ask them!
however, your mom can NOT be your girlfriend in disguise for a number of reasons.
1. she is your mother. that would be incest.
2. you are only 10! you are too young to date!
3. and finally, if your mom can be your girlfriend in disguise, how about asking your dad to be your boyfriend in the open?
luv, xt :)
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yello =)
recently i quarels with my galfriend she says she like other boy i am sad =(
what is so bad abot me that my galfriend hates please tells me or i will go die now (link)
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dear plesae help i am going die,
please DON'T go and die. from what you told me, i don't think that there is anything bad about you that your girlfriend hates. it seems that she has fallen for someone else instead. it is normal to feel sad about this. since your girlfriend has said that she likes another boy, i think you should move on and don't let this affect you. it is obvious that she doesn't like you (anymore) so there is no point in moping about her. i'm sure somewhere out there, there is someone waiting for you. all you have to do is go and find her.
luv, xt :)
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Dear ah ma xtie,
I recently watched "Desperate Housewives" and I find that having a gardener like eva longoria's is very cool. Where do you suggest I get one of my own? Oh, by the way, I don't have a garden. Do I need one? And if so, what kind of plants should I plant? potato? peanut, strawberry? Marigold, Magnolia fresh milk, Daisy hi-lo? do you think sunflowers are sexy?
Love,
Interested (link)
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dear Interested,
firstly i must clarify with you that i am NOT AN AH MA. i'm 17. O_o
on to your questions. i agree that having a gardener like John Rowland is quite exciting, but i doubt you would want to engage in such activity with him. it is morally wrong, ok?
to get a gardener of your own, you could look up your local yellow pages, or search on eBay. i'm sure they have gardeners on auction. :)
well, if you would like to hire a gardener, you would need to have a garden first. the kind of plants you should have depends on the size of your garden and your personal preference. it also depends on the climate of the area in which you live. for more details, i suggest you get your garden, and then consult a landscaping architect or the gardener you intend to hire, as they are the ones with the expertise in this area. whether sunflowers are sexy or not is highly subjective, and to me they aren't.
i hope i managed to help you! :)
luv, xt :)
p.s. Magnolia fresh milk and Daisy hi-lo are types of milk, not flowers.
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you would think that a person with some family background issues would be too troubled to find more reasons to sabotage herself...but i did it again.
i like a classmate, and she sits next to me. she's everything im not. she's perfect...at least in my eyes. i despair of ever being worthy of her. she's everything im not. maybe im desperate to find acceptance and love, or just a form of admiration, i don't really know. i wish i was somebody, or something, that can always be by her side, that she trusts, that can care and protect her as much as i want you. deep inside, i really hope she'll discover how i feel towards her, but then, i know it's wrong and she'll never approve of it.
they say that as long as you're under eighteen such relationships are just teenage infatuations. i don't dare to confide in anyone else, but then, you don't know me as me. i think im sick, but i do fantasize about us being together. i try to concentrate on my work a little harder, im putting in about sixty hours a week at two different jobs, but everything i put effort in i can't help thinking i do my best for her.
thanks for listening,
mich (link)
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Dear mich,
i'm so terribly sorry i didn't reply earlier! please accept my deepest apologies.
well, it takes alot of courage to admit your feelings for your classmate. i'm glad you're able to identify how you feel. :) you sound sort of confused though. i think those of us who have ever liked someone all feel this way. like, you secretly like him/her but you're too scared to let him/her know, right?
i can tell you really want to be at least a good friend to this girl. it's great of you to offer your friendship. :) however, if you feel that this is wrong, and you know she won't approve, then perhaps you should let your love/admiration stay as just friendship. it's always good to be friends. you should try to find out her views on this matter. maybe you could have a talk with her.
you must be really exhausted, with your hectic work schedule and all. i can see that this issue really weighs heavily on your mind. as i'm not a professional, you might want to speak with a counsellor regarding this. you say you don't dare to confide in anyone else, but you just did to me. so, talk to someone. a counsellor doesn't have to be someone you already know. that person can be a total stranger. :)
i wish you all the best and do let me know if you have any other trouble. :)
love,
xt :)
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dear grandma xt,
i know i'm not supposed to ask you questions on sex, but everytime I fill in my particulars and they ask me my sex, I dunno which box to check. Is there a box for in-betweens?
Yours lovingly,
confused (link)
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dear confused,
i'll make an exception and answer your question. you could try ticking both boxes. or drawing your own box labelled "in between" and ticking it. otherwise i suggest you go find out which gender you are, or have corrective surgery done so that you will definitely be of a specified gender on the particulars form.
by the way, i'm NOT a grandma. i'm only 16. and i'm not even married. O_o
luv, xt :)
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my friend says i emit bisexual frequencies. how? i am very disturbed. furthermore, he is gay but keeps hitting on me. oh nooooossssss. i'm a 16 year old straight girl btw. byeeee! (link)
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dear miss bisexual frequency emitter,
why does your friend say so? are you disturbed by your friend's comment, or are you just disturbed? if he is gay but hits on you, then he isn't gay, but bisexual. maybe that's why he says that about you. you can choose to take it as a source of amusement, or just ignore him. as long as you like ONLY guys. :)
luv, xt ;)
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lUrVvEsS,
xIaOaNtZ~~ (link)
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dear xIaOaNtZ~~,
thanks for writing back! :) it's nice to know that you took my advice. it's good that you found out why he broke up with you - you nibble your toenails. well, it's not exactly very hygienic to do so, seeing that your feet have contact with the floor nearly all the time. so you might want to consider giving up your nibbling habit. biting your toenails makes them look ugly anyway. you could trying going for a pedicure. that way, you won't bite them cos you won't want to ruin your pedicure. this pedicure will also make your feet look prettier, and which girl wouldn't wanna look good for her guy?
please don't be heartbroken. you could try asking your bf to patch up when you've given up your habit, things just might work out! :) if they don't, then i guess your bf doesn't treasure you. you'll be better off with someone else then.
good luck! :)
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dear ms xt, i have fallen for a girl in my school but i am not sure if she likes me! we are pretty good friends and she used to drop subtle hints about liking me too. Unfortunately i never had the courage to tell her the truth, so i guess she's moved on already. ive tried to move on myself too, magnifying her flaws to convince myself that i really should not like her. for a moment, i really psychoed myself to believe that she is such an ah lian who talks loudly and is ugly. i even hooked up with another girl in order to forget her. but whenever she calls me up the sound of her voice just makes me melt inside again. i cant seem to forget her! what should i do??
l0st bo! (link)
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dear l0st bo!,
ah. who doesn't know the feeling of liking someone but not knowing if that person likes you back? firstly, how do you know that she's moved on already? has she got a boyfriend right now? (let's call her A for convenience) secondly, are you still with the girl that you hooked up with? if both you and A are currently unattached, now might be the time to tell her how you feel! since she dropped hints that she likes you, it's obvious that the feeling is mutual! if you feel awkward telling her in person, you could try doing it over msn or the phone. if she rejects you, you can still remain friends with her like in the past.
however, if either or both of you are attached, it would not be advisable for you to go after her, as that would be cheating on your girlfriend, B. however, your hooking up with B to forget A isn't really fair to B as she is being taken for a substitute. don't despair though, you and B might develop real feelings for each other with time. if you feel B isn't suitable for you, you should end it as quickly as possible to avoid hurting B more.
it's good that you took steps to forget A, but since she is your good friend and calls you up regularly, it would be difficult to do so. you mentioned that "the sound of her voice just makes me melt inside again". i think that means you still have feelings for her, right? you must be feeling quite furstrated right now. do try to remind yourself that she/you is attached (if she is) and it is morally wrong to covet another person's treasure. you can still remain good platonic friends. remember, don't despair. there are many girls in this world. i'm sure that if it doesn't work out for you and A/B, you'll find your miss right someday. :)
take care and do update me on how it's going okay? good luck! :)
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Dear auntie xt,
I can never remember today's DATE. how?
yours lovingly,
olensenile
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btw, is this column to ans real qns or fake ones?
and can pple pls leave their real and fake names? thanks :)--chello (link)
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dear olensenile,
thank you for asking me a question. however, i am still reasonably young and do not fulfil the requirements of being an auntie. to counter your problem of trying to remember the date, you could try writing the date on your hand every morning. however, as that might wash off, you could try tattooing it on. you will eventually run out of space on your body, so that is not very advisable. i guess the best method would be to carry a little calendar around in your pocket and tick the day off every night so you can keep track of the date. good luck! :)
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dear chello,
this is a proper advice column with proper answers to the questions posed. i do agree with you and hope that everyone will leave a name (real or fake) when they ask a question. thanks!
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mY dARLiNgxX bF dUmPp mEhH LeHhXx~~ hE sAysX i ToO rEtArDeDxX... =( hOw LeHhsSxX?! ~*~
i BeRiIi bEriI sAdx yU kNoEsXx!! wHaTt i dOoO... tELl mEe ^_^ (link)
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hi!
you didn't leave your name but that's okay. well, i am first going to assume that you are a girl okay? :)
i'm sorry to hear that your boyfriend broke up with you. it seems like you treasure him very much. have you tried asking him to specify retarded in what manner? however, i must first warn you that in doing so you might inflict more pain and hurt on yourself, finding out why he doesn't want to continue this relationship.
i understand that you must be feeling miserable right now. that is inevitable in a break-up. perhaps you should take some time to cool down and reflect on what went wrong? or maybe you should just forget about this relationship, if you feel that your boyfriend is not worth another try. time will heal the pain. :)
i hope i managed to help you, do write back and update me on how you're doing! :)
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