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Hey! My name is Emily and I am 14, I signed up because I came across the site and my friend suggested I sign up because I am like the adviser of our group and people come to me with thier problems. I like helping people and try to give the best advice I can where possible. I am best at relationships ect but will give any other challenges ago!! And my pic sucks but I tried putting one of me but it kept saying file size too big, I got annoyed and settled for my msn pic!

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well i am having a baby and i got from when i got raped and my boyfriend said i will be the dad and i'll help buy things. i hope he does but i am afraid that we stay together and the baby sees him as daddy and calls him daddy then we breakup and what i will do to tell me child he's not daddy anymore

I think its good that you are keeping the baby after all you have been through. I suggest having the baby call your boyfriend by his first name, this will make it easier when the child is older if a split occurs, it also means when the child is old enough they will be able to understand better. This would let your child build up a relationship with him. Although I feel allowing the child to call him daddy could also help as even if you split your boyfriend will have built up a father son relationship anyway so will be most likely to wish to continue this. You have to decide what you thinks best.
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i need to no what to do? i have a girlfriend but she says she doesnt want anyone all in her business so no one really knows we are a couple. how should i handle this situation?

First of all this question is very brief!!

If you are younger and you are her first boyfriend she might be scared about how her parents and friends will react, she may be worried about how long you will last also if you are her first boyfriend (or if she has had not many boyfriends/troubled relationships in the past) she might not want to tell people incase you leave her for someone 'better' which would obviously be embarrassing. If this is the case take it as a compliment, she thinks you have higher standards because you are a better guy than she could dream for..

Now for handling the situation, if you are close you should try talking to her more about it. Try not to ask to many questions just listen to what she has to say. In the end you need to decide if not telling people pleases her then maybe its the best thing as it will get out eventually but for now you should respect her wishes. OR end it, this is what i recommend if she refuses to tell people after a considerable amount of time. She would obviously have some issues and if she is not willing to let you help her through them the best thing is to leave her, she may just need some space and be regreting the relationship. I know it sounds harsh but you dont deserve to be treated like that. You need to make the descision, but dont give up unless it seems there is no point in the relationship at all.

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xordinarygirlx

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Is it ok to ask the guy you like to prom on msn? I kinda work with him and we talk a little bit here and there. I think he likes me, but we haven't really hung outside of work. Would asking over msn be weird?

I dont see why not, msn can be a good way to ask if you fear rejection because you would not have to see him face to face and see the reaction. But if you are really interested in this guy i would get to know him better face to face and then you would probably find asking more comfortable.

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xordinarygirlx

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Hey, I have a question. It involved me going to the concert with my dad that I really wanted to go to last night and with my boyfriend going to the school dance. My freind told me he was dancing with a ton of girls. This kind of makes me jealous and I don't know if it is normal to get jealous. Do you think guys shouldn't dance with other girls if they have a girlfriend already?
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Its perfectly normal to be jelous but he probably just wanted to have a laugh. It depends how he was dancing, as a mate or as a method of flirting. Considering the circumstances I would say he was trying to make the most of it even though you wern't there. I think ts fine for boyfriends to dance with other girls as long as thats all they do!! Its all a matter of trust, you need to think about if its likely he would do that to you...you need to be more trusting and believe the best in him...thats why

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Hey im 13f and it seems everyone has a boyfriend of girlfriend but me. It's really starting to bother me lately because ive liked this guy for over a year and he's known about it but doesnt do anything. I want to get over him and try and move on and meet a new guy, but its kind of hard because i get really shy and are extremely afraid of rejection. So really my questions are how to get over this guy and how to get to know new ones

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I know what you are feeling i'm 14 and everyone in my year seems to have a boyfriend or girlfriend as well. I suggest you go to maybe a youth group/club where people will have similar interests as you. If you do there will be various conversations which you can chat and flirt with guys in and hopefully you will find one with similar tastes and opinions as you. If you ignore the fact you like this guy and concentrate on meeting new people eventually you will meet someone better who will treat you like you deserve and then you will have a boyfriend like the others!!
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I have been with this girl for 4 months now. We have everything in common. We loved eachother very much. We did everything together. We were soulmates. However, She has seen a pornsite on my computer and has broken down and left me saying we are only seperated. I am not addicted. I normal male like all others whose curiosity got the better of him. I have told her That I got rid of the net. That I promise never to do it again that i want to spend the rest of my life with her. i cried when she left. It has been almost two weeks now. How can I win her back. How can i get her to give us a second chance. I lover her and she was all I had. Please help me. I can't go on without her.

Your girlfriend may have been upset at the fact you seemed so close and yet you used porn still, although this is normal she most probably feels you are not satisfied with her. Make some romantic gestures, explain its what guys do and it doesnt stop you loving her. If your love is strong enough you will pull through, tell her you wont look at it again if shes not comfortable with it but you didnt think. Explain what you did in your question you are not addicted to it...I hope this helps

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