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Q: ok im 13 and so is my boyfriend, weve been going out for over 2 months now... hes had sex with other girls b4 but ive nevr had sex b4... he wants to have sex with me really bad but he always says he understands if i dont... i kinda do tho... but then i dont... im really confuzed cuz i really lov him its just i dont wanna get pregnant and i people will find out if i have sex with him and i dont want people calling me names like a slut and stuf, at this same time im in a huge fight with some girls, but i really wanna have sex with my boyfriend but then i dont! i NEED HELP!!

seriously, i think you should wait..one of my friends had sex when she was 12, and now completely regrets it..and im sure later in life you will too. even thought you say u kind of want 2, if theres any part of you thats not ready, you shouldnt do it. if you're going to have sex with him, you should be completely ready and be ready to accept the responsiblities that come along with it (like possibly getting pregnant)..it my opinion, 13 is wayy young to do that..but if you really want to and you know your COMPLETELY READY, go for it..but if u have doubts, just wait. hope i helped!

Q: im 14 and went out w| this guy during the school year and i still cant get over him. even when i liked other guys and went out w| them, and just recently i thouight i was over him but every time i see him i like him again,and since hes like my best friend i see him alomost everyday, do you have any advice to help me get over him?

i have the same problem so i know exactly how you feel! 1st of all, even thought it may be hard, you need to stop hanging out with him if u truly want to get over him. theres no way you'll get over him if your with him all the time. 2nd, if you still have strong feeling for him, why not go out with him again? especially because you are bestfriends. its even better to be with a guy wen you are close friends, but then again its harder to break up eventually. so, if he feels the same about you, be with him again! if he deosnt, you need to stop hanging out with him and get over him, because thats the only way...
hope i helped!

Q: well i broke up with my ex boyfriend twice. reason being we didn't really go anywhere with eachother or have the chance to. well after the second time we broke up, we were talking online and he was saying some pretty rude, mean things to me. i told my friends about it and none of them really like him for what he said. then a few days later, he asked if we could get back together saying how he would be a better boyfriend and stuff like that..

i have been thinking and i really do like him still, but do u think i should give him a THIRD chance?? and if so should i care what my friends say..

thanks..

really, i dont think he deserves another chance. especially if hes gonna say rude things about you! guys do that, i dont know why but they do, and the think that they can be rude to girls but get them back in a second. you need to show him that he cant just walk all over you then expect you to come back to him. if he wants u back he needs to be nice and respect you, so no matter how much you like him, dont just take him back because he says he'll change.
hope i helped!

Q: i jest found out that my boyfriend was cheating on me with my bff should i not be her friend or dump him or do both.

both. neither one is innocent. friends are always more important than guys, so if your going to "keep" anyone, let that be your BFF, bcuz im sure she realizes the mistake she made now, even though that still doesn't make it right

Q: I'm going to my boyfriend's house sometime before summer ends..we're both 13..my parents don't know I have a boyfriend because I'm not aloud to..but I'm nervous about going over there..I've never even gone over to a guys house when were just friends with just the two of us! Does anyone have any advice for me, what can make me less nervous? I mean hes never done anything besides hug a girl..which of course was me and I was his first girlfriend, we dated before this. So I don't have to worry about him doing anything I wouldn't want him to do. I mean..im sure we're gonna kiss bcuz he said he wanted to and he said he wanted me to be his first for everything since I already was for the girlfriend and the hug..but any advice? I'll be online for a while on secretAsquirrel..thats not my normal sn but its the one im gonna be using for the time im at my friends house.

i know you're nervous, but try to calm down a little bit. especially since you know hes not gonna try anything you won't wanna do. but if he does, just make sure you dont do anything you're not ready for. I wish I could tell you how to be less nervous, but there really isn't a way. Once you go to his house once, it'll be alot easier going over again if you do. Hope I helped =)!

Q: On saturday me and my b/f were suppose to hang out, but he canceled. So he said we should hang out on sunday, but he never showed up or called or anything. I tried calling but no one answered his house or cell. Should I be worried? Because he's usually on-line all the time, but lately he hasn't been. He never blows me off ever. I know he wouldn't cheat on me either, he's not that kind of guy. What should I do? Should I be worried??? Please help! :(

calm down a little..hear out his side of the story first..maibe something really important came up..just wait to talk to him then worry about it, if theres actually anything to worry about