Im a 13 yr old girl, and my boyrfriend is 15 and turning 16 soon. we really like each other and we connect so well. and ive already talked to him about respecting what im comfortable doing and stuff. but i feel like he is just waiting. and some of my friends who are friends with him said he isnt a virgin. and that kinda bothers me. but he is so sweet and honestly i love him. but i feel kinda bad that he wants to finger me and stuff but i wont let him. and because he is older then me he has done alot more stuff that i havnt, which makes me feel really in-expierienced. and i worry that if i do something im doing it wrong. he hasnt said anything about wanting me to do more with him but i think im getting some hints. like he is always going up my shirt when we are making out and stuff, but i always stop him, and then it seems like he gets a little frustrated because he just wants to move on, but im not ready, and he said thats okay, but im not sure that i believe him.. PLEASEE GIVE ME SOME FEEDBACK! I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!
thankss
That is a normal guy, his behavior. Guys think about sex, a lot. Thats something you will learn through time. Do not give in if you aren't ready..virginity is something` special and once you lose it you will never get it back. I think you should wait until you're older and figure out a little more how the world works. I don't think at 13 you're going` to find "the one", so make sure you save yourself...he prolly isnt your first and he isnt going to be your last..i would wait. Tell him he will just have to get over it if he doesnt like that you arent ready because if he really cares for you he wOULD understand..
good luck
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Hey, I'm 17 and have been with my bf for just over 6 months...about a month ago he asked me to move in with him, and i really want to but i dont no how to ask my parents cus i dont think they will approve... how do i tell them that i think its the right thing to do???
I don't think moving in with your boyfriend is a wise idea right now, believe me. I'm 17 and have been in the same position. Nothing is ever a sure thing and seeing eachother every day will drive you absolutely freaking insane! People our age shouldn't be so quick to want to jump in with moving in with our boyfriends. You've been with this kid for six months, and he wants yo to abandon your family and move in with him? Your family won't take it well, and who's to say they let you move in, you and your boyfriend break up..then where do you go if they don't let you back in? Think hard of all the possibilities and take care.
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I am not the type of girl to just have any kind of boyfriend. He has to be my "boyfriend material". There is this guy who everytime I talk to him I get this smile that WON'T go away. Everytime I think about him I get so happy. But the thing is he is known to cheat on girls. So I know if I went with him there is a high chance of him cheating on me. And I don't want that. Oh yeah he likes me to (he says that to me, his friends, & my friends like everyday) So I guess I want to know why am I having feelings for someone that I know can hurt me and how can I stop or is it just one of those things you can't help?
Mhmm..Guys are great aren't they? Well..there is this theory..you always want what you can't have. We all know that we can't win the bad boy's heart..but we try anyways and end up getting hurt in the process. Guys are very sly and cunning. They make us girls so gullible. My advice is to do absolutely NOTHING with him. If you do nothing with him and he stays with you, he likes you for you. If not, then it wasn't meant to be. Good Luck
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ok..well im having sort of a problem.. you see ive been wit the same guy for a year and a half.. and for like the past 3-4 months it feels like im not good enuf for him... i mean hes always wantin to hang out wit his best friend nd im just sick of it.. i have to bug him to stay wit me and just hang out wit me... he just gets kinda mad.. wat am i doing wrong? i love him becca but i just dont no wat to do... it just feels as tho i have 2 boyfriends!and his best friend is like one of mii best friends im just tired of not bein able to spend time wit mii boifriend witout him bein around and witout mii man gettin mad and bored wit me!? help me plz!!
First off, you shouldn't beg him to hang out with you, if he doesn't want to..then don't make him. Let him be for awhile, if he wants to hang out, he'll ask you. He probably just needs some time with his friends. You've probably been spending too much time together. Good luck babes
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ok i like this guy but he is going out with one of my best friends..i've gone out with him twice already but i just can't seem to get him out of my mind...should i tell him or just try and get over it?
13/f
That's a tough thing..one friend should never date another's ex...causes trouble to the max. But, i guess tell him how you feel but you can't blame him if he's not quite nice about it since he DOES have a girlfriend and it does happen to be your best friend. Good luck..
Becca
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i am 18 years old i have been with this man for about 4 years now but he have been with other woman but i still love him i try to move on with my life but i can not i need help
It's normal to feel like that. You were with him for 4 years, its gonna take awhile to recover. You just need to live day by day, focus on you for a change.
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ok my guy friend that i like a lot we are goin to hook up soon but i need to find a way out of the house... he wants to talk to my mom and tell her if she can drop me off at the mall to see him but i am scared to let him talk to her. i know he will make a good impresson but my MOM i am scared she goin to say something mean like usual.. both of my parents think he is my boyfriend and they dont complain about it but i dont know if they will let. my mom thinks boyfriends lead to sex. that is how it was back then and since i am the oldest i got to put up wit it can someone help me out... plz.. thanks!
p.s
my parents r really over protective they wont even let me walk outside the door without them comin after me.
Tell them that he is just a friend, and that if you guys become more than that you'll let them know. It can't hurt to go to a mall with a friend, right? Maybe they'd feel more comfortable if you brought one of your girl friends with you.
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i loved your advice and your right not what i wanted to hear but it was a realty cheack thatnk you again ill ask u other questions in the future
Thank you, and good luck. I'm glad I was able to help
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i couldn't just ask him what if he says no i dont like you that would be inbaricing and hurtfull i just couldnt
anything else ??
sorry not trying to sound rude
Ask his friend I guess..but trust me we all go through these things, it's a part of growing up. YOu have to learn the courage to do it, cause if you want it bad enough to have to go get it yourself before someone else does. Good luck.
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i had five dreams about a boy he found out and ever sence hes been acting diffrent around me .i wanna bring it to a diffrent level of going out but hes not on the top of the food chain not that i am but hes higher then me .i dont want to get hurt more should i say strait up that hey i love u go out with me and have him make me crash or leave it where it is and wait to see if he makes the first move.im a girl and 11 but not to young to be in love
I can garuntee you that you are not in love. You may feel that way but it takes a lot more than dreaming about a guy 5 times to be in love. I know that's not what you want to hear, but it's the truth. Ask him if he likes you..trust me you'll bounce back again even if you do get hurt cause it will happen plenty more times in the future. That IS a garuntee. Good luck
Becca
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Okay so there`s this boy and i really like him. a lot. okay so i hang out with him a lot then one day i told him i like him and he blushed and changed the subject right away. so we were hanging out 2 days ago and he was being really sweet. not that he`s never sweet or anything but he was different. it was me and him. he was being really nice. he insisted on buying me food. when it started pouring on us.. he took of his sweater and gave it to me. everytime i look at jeff i catch him looking at me and he blushes and then he smiles at me. what do you think? do you think he likes me or is he just being nice because he knows i like him? you don`t have to be positive but i just want a few opinions. PLEASE help! i rateee =D
I think he likes you, but he's shy or something. The only way to find out is to ask him straight out.
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What do you do if you have went out with this guy and yalls realationship was really good, and you liked him alot, but when you broke up with him he became very rude towards you and always called you names, prank called you, and pushed you in the hall way?
-14
-female
He probably still likes you and is bitter because you broke up with him. Tell him to stop bothering you and to grow up. And to get a life..obviously he doesn't have one so he has to mess with yours.
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Hey there ♥ well im not really into stereotypes but basically, my boyfriend is punk, along with his friends. and i am not really preppy or punk or anything, i am just me. but i am friends with his friends and his friends are in a punk band and my boyfriend said he really wants me to go, and so do his friends. the problem is i dont want to wear something stupid, or "slutty" looking and i dont want people to think " why is she here?" so what could i wear.. i have long platinum blonde hair with lots of pink and auburn in it. and i am 5'4 and average with slightly curvey body but the problem is i cant hide my boobs and i dont want people to automatically think im slutty=/... what could i wear or put on for makeup and how should i do the hair? thanksss
Just be yourself..you don't have to BE punk to listen to punk and to enjoy it. Pink eyeshadow would be good with pink in your hair. Um..if you wear something black..that kinda fits all styles. Just wear like...a pair of black pants and a pink shirt or something..people shouldn't make snap judgements and if they do..they aren't worth it anyways.
Hope I helped
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Hey. I'm 15 (female) and I really like this 17 year old guy. We went out a couple months ago but then he broke up with me because I wasn't willing to do anything. I was only scared to lose him but yeah, we fought for about two months after that until he broke up with his girlfriend at the time. I was there for him through the whole thing so then we started talking again like normal. Well, we flirted A LOT online and we decided we were gonna hang out. We did and I started getting the feelings back for him. Then the one time I was over, he fingered me and the next day he said he was pissed at something I have no idea what, and that I should just try talking to him later. Well, I didn't because that kinda pissed me off, so it was about 2 weeks till I saw him again and once again, feelings came back. We hung out a lot after that and we got pretty close. Then 2 of the times I was over there, he fingered me again and I gave him head. The one time he wanted me to fuck him but our friends were right downstairs and they walked in on us before so I wasn't really too comfortable with that. So then he got all pissed again and one night he even said he hated me. It was about 2 months that we didn't talk, then I saw him at a carnival and I don't know why but when we made eye contact, I got the feelings back, yet again. And the whole night he kept staring or he was right beside me. I was going out with his one friend at the time so I don't know if he was doing that because he knows I liked him, and he wanted to tease me like "haha you can't have me". Or if he really likes me, he just wont admit it. Because every time we fight, the next time we see eachother in person, he wants to talk again and he pays attention to me. What should I do? Should I just try to move on or see if something might actually happen between us again. I like him a lot, and I even broke up with my boyfriend because I still had feelings for him. I'm sorry this is so long but I thought if I tried to explain more it would help. Please give me an honest opinion, I've asked my friends but they just give me sympathetic answers. Thanks a lot!
That's what I'm here for..to give you an honest and truthful answer. You won't like what I'm going to say but this is how I feel about the situation. Any guy that will break up with you because you won't do anything with him..is a LOSER and he only wants sex. You have to be strong about it and tell him that if he really likes you than he'll respect that if you don't want to do anything, you're not going to. He's trying to put a guilt trip on you and pressure you into doing things. I don't think you need someone like that..You need to find someone who likes you for you. "Look for the guy that tells you you're beautiful instead of hot"..and don't fall for everything they say because a lot of them just want to get in your pants. There isn't a lot of real good guys you can find out there and you have to learn how to tell the difference. It won't ever be real no matter how real it actually seems. That guy is a jerk point blank. Hope I helped
Becca
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On Xxrocker's column page, I posted a huge question about this girl who I was friends with, but had a crush on. I asked how to tell her that I like her. Well, now, I've told her, and she sent me a huge long email, where every other word was "sorry", and that she liked me as a friend, didn't want to break the friendship, I'm the coolest guy she's ever met, etc. etc. etc.
I tried to shrug it off, I e-mailed her saying that I really didn't care, I was just wondering, all that jazz. Only problem is, ever since I got one girlfriend, I've developed a need for them in my life. I'm really scrrewed up now, I keep thinking about her... I need her... or someone... only problem is, there's no one else! My only other girlfriend ever was online, and she's never on anymore! I'm kinda messed up now, even more than I had been when I thought she liked me.... Everyone was sure that she liked me and had been flirting with me all year, I shoulda accepted their bets.
Fellow advicenators, what should I do?
If you stop looking for love..it will find you. Enjoy the time you have by yourself because when you get a girlfriend everything changes. Enjoy being single..and live life to the fullest. And, if you happen to find love along the way..good. But if not, your time will come..
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ok.. so my boyfriend and i have been going out for 2 1/2 years now... and we are ready to have sex... seeing it as my first time i don't know what to do, at all. how do you start out... how can you keep it from getting awkward?
sincerly,
i am ready
I think that no matter what, it's going to feel awkward and you're gonna be nervous. Telling your boyfriend that you're ready is a good way to start out..he'll have a better idea of what he's doing and he'll understand if you don't. Hope I helped..
x Becca o
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Ok i like this guy but well i told him that i liked him. He acts like nothin happen, I think he likes me but im not sure I think he may be shy about it what should i do ? And do u think he might like me cause sometimes he flrits and i want to hear the turth pleaez 13/f
If you want to know if he likes you, tell him straight out. That's the only way to do it.
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hey,im 15 and im a girl. i hav this friend(also 15 and female) and she thinks me and her are like really close but i dont really like her and we like the same guy(hes 15 too), only she doesnt kno i like him and i like him alott. me and him hooked up a few times and she has no idea and he says he likes me but he doesn't want a girl friend rite now and stuff but he said he will soon , im not sure wht that means tho? but wht if he asks me out bcs then my friend will prob get really mad and ill feel really badd so wht shud i do shud i like stop talking to her or stop being involved with the guy ??
Well, you said that you didn't really like her, so does it matter how she feels about it? If the guy wants to be with you then he will, she shouldn't get mad just because he chose you. You can't make someone love you and that's a lesson everone should learn. Good Luck
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hi well i'm known as star freak. So yah i have a couple questions like there is this guy jacob who me n him almost hooked up then this girl lindsey came in the picture now that they are completely over i think he is starting to like me again. should i wait for him or move on? thanks bunches
Ask him how he feels about you. Don't just sit around and wait forever. If you want this boy you have to work to get him. Good luck to you.
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well you see i have liked this guy from my school since october 13 2003 and i have fallen in love with him within about 1 month and i still love him till this very day and we happen to be dating again but he doesn't exactly treat me how i would like to be treated..he talks to other girls on the phone and he talks to his ex's even..i get so upset cuz i would never do that to him but i still love him..i do things to myself like cut myself cuz of this..can you help me on this?
I think. Tell him how you feel and tell him how you would LIKE to be treated. If he says he'll treat you whatever way he wants..tell him you're not gonna stand for it, that you deserve to be treated with respect as his GIRLFRIEND. Don't cut yourself. I've known a few people that have done that and I talked about it in group therapy. It doesn't only hurt yourself...it hurts the people around you. Seriously, do you know what it would be like for your friends and family if you accidentally slipped and cut too deep? People would miss you. If you feel like hurting yourself, call a psychiatric unit. They really can help.
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