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Hello! I'm Charleigh.
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Well i really like this girl and i am not sure what to say to her when i ask her out. IM planning on doing this in 1 day so i need help quick!! Waht do i say?

When my boyfriend asked me out, it was in person. Girls like that. He took my hands, and just simply asked if I would be his girlfriend. I loved it. If you're not going to see her in person, then do it on the phone, not IM. Just ease into the conversation. Good luck asking her out!
-Charleigh

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my girlfriend and i ha ve been going out for almost 9 months now and the school year has just ended. i spent most of my time with her during the school year and now summers here and her friends want time in to.

i dont have a problem with her friends or if she hangs out with them but im not used to sharing her so whenever im not with her i get depressed and sad. do you think she might want to break up with me if i continue act like this??

I for one don't like it when guys get DEPRESSED that I'm not always with them. Call her once a day, and that will satisfy your need to be with her a little bit. Hang out with her a few times a week, but don't keep her from her friends. If she thinks you're too clingy (especially during the summer), she might dump you. But, by backing offa little bit and giving her some space (not too much, you dont want her to think that you're ignoring her), then it'll be fine.
-Charleigh

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Why would a guy chase after you for months and act REALLY interested, but then when you finally flirt back he cools off? This happened to me, so I cooled off back and now he's acting interested again! Can anyone explain this to me?

Okay, I'm not saying this for sure, since I dont know the guy, but I know this happened to me, and the guy turned out to be gay. He wanted to WANT togo out with a girl, but not really. So, when I showed interest back, he backed off. But, has he had any girlfriends before? Does he act a little gay? You can send me a private question if you want.
-Charleigh

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Okay so there's this guy I like. We're good friends and we have so much in common. Everytime we talk online, we end up talking for like 3 hours. I feel like we would be perfect together. But I don't even think he realizes that. Sure, he's said to be before "Wow, we have a lot of similiar interests" but I don't even think he's even thought of us being together. I don't even know what to do anymore; we hang out, we talk ALOT, we agree on everything from politics to music, we get along great, and have alot of inside jokes...how can maybe make him realize that we could be so much more than just friends? I don't want to freak him out or anything if he doesn't feel the same way, though.

Maybe one time when you're hanging out, you can just casually say "You know, you'd make a perfect boyfriend", and see what he says. That doesnt mean that you like him, so it shouldn't freak him out too much. I hope everything works out with you two!
-Charleigh

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15/F + Boyfriend is 17/M.
(If that helps at all?)

Well me and my boyfriend have been together for a year (on July 2nd.) We pretty much spend every waking second together. You can narrow it down to the fact that we're all eachother has, such as friends and such cause we gave them up for eachother. -Anyways! Things seem to be slightly changing. He's so sweet and stuff usually, but for instance today he's supposed to come over, and he's like "I don't know, I don't care." about everything, and it's been like this for like 2 weeks. I know it doesn't exactly sound like a big deal, but to me it is. It's a big change and I don't like it AT ALL. I asked him why he's changing and he's like, "I'm not you are." and he constantly says I'm being mean, when 90$ of the time I'm sucking up to him.

Whatever. I don't know what to do. How should I talk to him? Erghhh.
Thanks in adv.

Wow, tough situation. You could ask him how exactly you've changed, and see what he says, and try to figure out a way to fix it. Although, if his answer is completely insane, and involves changing who you are, then I wouldnt recommend changing a thing. I went through a similar situation, but it resulted in my boyfriend breaking up with be because I didnt talk to him about what was going on. Hopefully, this will help you from making the same mistake that I did.
-Charleigh

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im 16/f. im a little bit underweight. my ex bf moved 3 years ago and we were in love. but weve been drifting. he would never ask me to do something i wouldnt want to do. but as im trying to find someone else, i find that guys are using me for sex. im a pastors daughter, and im not willing to drop my dignity at someones feet. if i lose it to anyone at this moment, it will be to my ex of 3 years. but that cant happen.

seems like my ex is the only guy who respected me. is it because i keep comparing what he and i had to the guys now? how can i find a REAL guy who wont use me for sex?

Your ex boyfriend sounds like a very nice guy, and I'm sure that there are other nice guys out there who WONT pressure you for sex. You just have to find them. If a guy is pressuring you like that, it means that they dont respect women as a whole, not just you. They're not the kind of guys that you would want to date any way. If a guy really cares about you, then he will wait until your ready. Keep searching for that right guy!

-Charleigh

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14/f

okay there's this guy (17/m) ive liked for a while now, and all the time he's been giving me signs that he likes me more than a friend and i got scared off and he keeps giving me signals but i dont reply because i always felt shy so i tried to keep myself from liking him..and now i heard a lot of girls asked him to prom (he didnt go with any of them and decided not to go to it) and a lot of girls are flirting with him and its NOW that i realized i do like him a lot (it's like infatuation fueled by jealousy trust me, i know how bad that sounds) and now im panicking BECAUSE WHAT IF HE DOESNT LIKE ME ANYMORE? and it's the end of the school year and i want to ask him out and that will look so ..bad, i know. omgg.

i need advice. support. SOMETHING.
and do you think he'll think bad of me for asking him out on the last day of school?

Well, he didnt go with those girls to prom, so there is a chance that he still likes you! I'd say go for it. Summer relationships can be fun (no restrictions like school, homework, etc). I dont think he'll think bad of you for asking him out on the last day of school. A lot of people start relationships at the end of the school year, it is perfectly normal. Good luck with him!
-Charleigh

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