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Q: There is this girl that i realy like. I got her phone number. I am going to call her and ask her out to the movies or somthing.

What should i say to her when i call her? My mind is blank of all ideas right now. I want to let her know her how i feel without being too deep and emotional. Also, is there any way i can ask her out besides saying "Hey, wanna go out?" I am 13 and she is almost 14.

Thanks for your help.
just be like
you - hey
her - hi
you- so what are you doing ?
her - nothing
you - are you doing anything this weekend?
her - no why?
you - do you maybe wanna go see a movie
her - (if she likes you) yeah sure
her - (if she doesnt) umm well idk
(right there dont push it cus it means she doesnt really like you but im sure she does good luck rate high

Q: Okay well Im going out with this kid Lucas... he is a year younger then me... Im 13 hes 12... I have never made out with anyone... & I am really ashamed of that kinda... idk... so yea weve been goin out for 3 weeks today... and hes on my bus n all my friends are stupid n they are always tryin to get us to make out n stuff... n I just feel like weird especially on the bus where everyone can see us... I dont know if he has ever made out with anyone... I think he has because his last g/f he went out wit he was with for almost a year... also in the back of my mind I keep thinking that he doesnt really like me and i cant help but be paranoid... n Ive been ignoring sitting with him on the bus n stuff just to avoid kissing n stuff... idk..

So I guess im just asking for advice on what to do about kissing and how to stop being so paranoid! any help you can give would be great!!

thanx so much!
if your really scared dont do it but if you are gonna not on a bus it would move up and down and he'd think you were the worst kisser ever lol go to a movie theatre and for practices make out with a friend hope i helped
-Kaylor

Q: there is this one girl that likes the same guy as me and she keeps on stealing him. I know he likes me b/c he has admitted it, so why did he go out with her?? I really like this kid. Should I ask him out again when he breaks up with this girl, or should I find someone else?

you should leave him alone cuz hes just gonna keep usin u as a back up hell go from girl to girl and when no ones left hell go for you

Q: I have this friend that has a boyfriend for about 2 years..and he is 18 and was in 10 grade, but then he dropped out. He doesnt have a steady job and has a ton of car problems. He is really good to her, but she is hurt because she is not sure what to do. Should she break up with him and see what happens or stay with him? If she breaks up with him, she is not aloud to go back out with him again. What should she do?
if he treats her like a princess she should stay with him maybe she can convince him to back to school or help out with jobs it will probably all work out in the end hope i helped please rate
-Kaylor

Q: well i love this kid named phill..when ever i havnt seen him for a long time (1 week) then when i see him i love him!! he just got out of a 1 year relaship (sp) with a girl named gina. phill likes me and stuff..but idk i love him..should i like ask him out or wait a little bit! i rate high

-confused
if i were you i would talk it over with him tell him how you feel and maybe he feels the same then use could go from there

Q: Okay i like this guy, or i think i like this guy, i don't know. okay, i have liked this guy for a couple of mmonths and everyone says he's ugly. till now i wasn't able to see he was ugly but a couple days ago i don't know what happened but i suddenly saw him. i know this sounds confusing but it's weird. i actually saw him not the guy that was stuck in my head (maybe because he had no hair gel in his hair). i don't know what to think. have fallen out of love with this guy?



you let what everyone said get to you before you thought he seemed cute cuz you like his personality but after everyone says things they convince you and he just looks kinda ugl ignore what people say and see if he looks cute again

Q: Well, I have this bf.. and i like him sooo much and i know he likes me too, but.. hes still in that "prude stage" so we arent really gettin anywhere fast.. if ya know what i mean. And im one of those girls who likes attention and i cant stand that i dont really get that from him.. and i dont know what to do or how to tell him..?? please help! :/
just go to the movies and start with him if he dont respond tell him if he has a problem and that you like him but hes really slow

Q: I recently had a boyfriend and i liked him alot and he said he liked me. then 18 days later he broke up with me. he said he wasnt ready for a relationship, but i have been hearing from friends that he thought i took up to much of his time or i was to controlling. he said it had nothin to do with me and still wants to be friends. i like him so much and want more than friendship what do i do?
just ignore the fact he broke up with you and u wat to be more than friends be real nice to him and dont call him as much as usual soon he will see that you dont take up much time and might ask you back out

Q: well i have this friend and one day we started hooking up. After that he asked me if i wanted to keep it between us or tell people and i said keep it between us. We still hook up and we have been for a few months. He hasnt told anyone and i was wondering if hes doing that because he promised me he wouldnt or if hes like embarrassed to tell anyone? .. i dont know because sometimes he flirts with me but sometimes he doesnt really pay attention to me. What do you think?
i think its all in ur head if he said he wouldnt tell then he wont tell him u dont care if he does see how it works out

Q: okay so my boyfriend of one month has a reputation of kinda player.. and well i knew that comin into this relationship that he might play me over like some of the other gurls.. but i really liked him alot so i took the chance. and everything has been goin good every thing is GREAT! hes always tellin me how crazy he is about me and how he only wants to b with me and how he cant stand not being with me for a day! and so it reallym akes me feel good about myself. my only concern is.. he flirts with alot of girls. and he prolly doesnt mean to its just natural i gues.. but i always get jelous! how can i cope with this? i mean i dunno how to bring this to his attention w/o sounding stupid. and i dont wanna b the jelous girlfriend.. so please help me quick! thank you
you should start to flirt with people and if he says something be llike oh u do it

Q: On monday 7th I went to the movies with this guy I like him and he asked me out and I said YES. (doesnt go to my school). On tuesday 8th some guy I also liked asked me out after school (goes to my school) I said YES. I was going to break up with one of them but I dont know which one I should break up with. I think the guy who goes to my school is going out to get laid and bc im older then him n he likes me. Then the other guy is going out with me bc he likes me and wants to get laid. BUT then again all guys want to get laid. Who do I chose or how do I chose one?
choose the one at your school you can be with him and watch over him

Q: This guy i usee to date lyke 3 years ago.. well hes absolutly amazinq. he had cheated on me so we broke up but i cudn`t stnad not beinq friends with him. We were friends on and off again n just recently we started becominq close again.. friend wise. I always seem to go crazee over him and i dont kno if its somethinq ill get over but i do want him back. him n his g/f just broke up n i wanna let him kno how i feel but wud i scare him off or do u thynk it wud make thynqz weird again.. are we better off just firneds? i dont kno, help .. please.
you are better off friends if he cheats once he'll cheat agin carl cheated on carlita with kenehchepra and now hes always like oh baby i love u n he still goes out with kenehchepra
hope i helped
-Kaylor

Q: im 16!
im scared to french kiss a guy and theres this one guy that i really like an he likes me to but everytime im with him i get scared an i just kiss him on the lips an no more. im scared im goign to do it wrong or something . i dunno what to do
trust me just go for it who cares if its your first time he will understand kno ones born a great kisser just try makin out with him and after 5 minutes youll get good and he'll only remember how it was at the end which you would be the best at

Q: im 16 ...
i need a little help.. so their is this guy! ive liked for ever and i never thought he liked me so i thought i was over him but friday i went to his house to do some project an we ended up going in his room and hanging out and he went to kiss me and i pulled away because their was this guy i liked. an i told him why and he was liek im so proud of you an all this ( i kinda wonder why but w/e) well it ended up not working b/w me and the other guy and i really like the one i was with on friday. but i feel like i had my chance an that i prolly wont get it again. and i dont know what to do.
ok now that he knows you stay true to the people you like tell him what happened and that the person changed and it is him and tel him you love him and want to know if he likes you and be all flirty when you say it

Q: hey...ummm....ok ive been talking to this guy for about a two weeks and were both talking to each other because well he this each other are hot and like each other lol....i want to ask him about his past girlfriends but i dont know how to bring it up??? and even if i should bring it up...also one more thing we have nothing else to talk about so any suggestions..weve talked about family, school, pets, sports that we do.....so anything else...please help thanks
ask him how far hes gone he'll get mad horny n fall for you from there lol this works..alot

Q: I just recently invested a lot of time and money in this girl i like. She liked all the gifts that I gave her. I know because of MSN and texting back and forth. I even made tears of joy come to her eyes because of what I did on Valentines-day. Well now I think a "friend" has geven her the advice of playing hard to get. I've already done everything that I had planed and she just said that she wants to be friends. WHAT SHOULD I DO
i think she was using you talk to her and tell her you love her and all and tell her if she dont love you you will leave her alone if shes playing hard to get she will tell u right there if not then dont buy her no more presents

Q: okayy well i was going out with this kid for 2 months and 3 weeks and then one day he dumps me because he said hes friends think hes whipped and he sed he kind of was too ..he says he still likes me but he really never talks to me and yesterday he hugged another girl ..do you think he still likes me ?..should i keep trying to get him back ?..i dont wanna chase after him ..
maybe just back off of him if he thinks your whipped try to be mad friendly to him an all and dont try to controll him or boss him around after a couple of weeks tell him how good youv been to him (please rate me)

Q: ok there is this guy. We both liked eachother, we used to talk to each other all the time and he used to tell me all the time that he loves me and he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. he said that he wants to be alone with on valentines day. And so i went to my dads house to be alone with him and we were talking in my room and listening to music and sudenly my dad bursts in my room and starts swearing at him to get the fu*k out of his room. i got really upset so i left. And the guy was still talking to my dad and when he came outside by me he came over to me kissed me and said that i need to go talk to my dad because he is going crazy in there. I said no because he wont listen to me(+ he was drunk so that wouldnt help)and he said that my dad thinks that we had sex and we didnt. The guy was really mad. He looked at me in front of all my friends and said: I dont even look at you that way let alone have sex with you. Im sorry but i started to cry. why would he day he want to be with me and then say he dont what up with him? And whats up with my dad??? please help me i could use it thank you. i rate high.
i think the guy was just a little mad talk to him and say how you feel and maybe he will say he likes you too you never know

Q: Today i found out from alot of people that my boyfriends been cheating on me with this girl that i absolutly hate and wen i asked my boyfriend about it he sed it wasnt true and they are lying to me, but i dont know wether to trust him or not because he has cheated on me before and tryed to hide it but i found out and idk why but i let it slide (plz noone give me a lecture on that). His bestfriend even told me that which is why im questioning him but he keeps on saying its not true. I dont know what to do, should i break up with him even though hes saying it not true or should i stay with him? someone please help me! btw me and him are both 15 and weve been together for 10 months, and we also dont go to the same school. thanks for your helf
well i wouldnt stay with him just because his own best frined told you and best friends wouldnt do that if it wasnt true and if you go to different schools im almost positive that hes cheating on you because my friends ex would have a girlfriend and be like oh i love you and all this other stuff but what i would do is ask the girl people say hes with and ask her if she says no stay with him becuz people might say that becuz they are jealous but if she says yah tell her what hes doin and break up with him

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Right Now:
What clothes are you wearing?((tank top n pajamas))
What shoes are you wearing?((im wearin socks lol))
What make-up do you have on?((none i jus woke up))
What jewelry are you wearing?((hoop earings n a diamond on the top of my ear))
How is your hair styled?((it was crunchy then i threw it in a messy bun))
How would you describe your style? ((cute idk))
What article of clothing have you outgrown but wish you hadn't? my favrit jeans:o(

This or That:
--- jeans, capris, or shorts? ((jeans))
--- t-shirt or fitted tee? ((fitted tee))
--- jacket or hoodie? ((jacket))
--- pants or dress? ((pants))
--- striped or plaid? ((plaid))
--- spaghetti strap or tank? ((spaghetti strap))
--- long-sleeves or short sleeves?((short sleeve))
--- tight-fitting or loose? ((tight))
--- american eagle or abercrombie?((abercrombie))

Favorites :
Clothing Store: ((rave, filenes, aero))
Pants You Own: ((dollhouse))
Top You Own: ((picses shirt))
Shoes: ((gray n pink airforces))

This or That :
--- sneakers or boots? ((sneakers))
--- strappy sandals or flip-flops? ((flip flops))
--- Nike or Adidas? ((nike))
--- Steve Madden or Dr. Marten? ((steve madden))
--- Converse or Vans? ((converse))

Do you own any :
--- Converse? ((no))
--- Docs? ((no))
--- Steve Maddens? ((yes))
--- Tommy? ((yes))
--- Nikes? ((yes))
--- Adidas? ((no))
--- Reebok? ((yes))
--- Vans? ((no))
--- LEI? ((yes))
--- Skechers? ((no))
--- Mudd? ((yes))
--- Candies? ((yes))
--- Timberland? ((no))
--- Air Force Ones? ((yes))

make-up :
Do you wear any of the following, and of so, what kind?
--- eyeshadow: ((sometimes))
--- Lipstick/Lip Gloss: ((victoria secret and mac lusterglass))
--- Foundation: ((no))
--- Eyeliner: ((yes too faced lava gloss (black)
--- Mascara: ((yes maybelline new york sky high))
--- Blush: ((no))
--- Powder: ((no))
--- Nail Polish: ((yah))


How old were you when you first started wearing make-up? ((12))
Must you always wear make-up? ((no))
Favorite make-up brands: ((maybelline, m.a.c.))

Jewelry :
What jewelry do you wear every day? ((earings. my tiffany bracelet broke but im gettin the tiffanys necklace))

Favorites :
type of jewelry: ((earings))
earrings: ((white gold hoops))
bracelet: ((tiffanys))
necklace: ((tiffanys))


How many piercings do you have ((3))
Do you have any tattoos ((no))
Is any of your jewelry real gold, diamond, or silver? ((yah))

Do you use any of the following?:
--- blow-dryer: ((yah))
--- straightening iron: ((yah))
--- curling iron: ((yah))
--- relaxer: ((no))

Hair Products :
--- shampoo: ((renewal, dove, fructise))
--- hair spray: ((renewal))
--- hair gel ((none))
--- hair dye: ((herbal essence))

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