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Hey I'm Tricia.
I've been through: alcoholic parents, divorce, depression, anxiety, moving, making new friends, relationship problems...etc. Feel free to ask me anything. I'm always here for you. =]

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Sorry for the length please consider helping me.


So I started going out with this guy Tony from school. Tony is a stubborn and cautious guy, of anything, not just girls. He has this wall, like mine, just way stronger, he says it's to keep from hurting anyone, not getting hurt. Well we started going out, we fought about it on Friday but we finally started going out. I didn't see him/talk to him over the weekend at all so I sent him a message on Facebook and I said, " I miss you. =] " and his response was, " ok...so how did your weekend go. " I just responded back as quickly as possible and my message back to him was,

" Uhm thanks for not saying it back.
It sucks cause I thought about you all weekend.
So yeah
How was yours?
Are you still gonna hang out w/ me tomorrow? "

Well today he didn't hang out with me but when we were friends he did all the time in the morning, he also gave me hugs, but today he didn't, don't know why. He usually talks to me a lot at lunch since we have both lunches together, and I sit on his lap all the time, even when we were friends. Today I came over and sat by him and he got up and walked away. Some kids locked him out of school so I opened the door for him and he just walked past me. He didn't say hi to me even, just completely ignored me. He came over by the group of girls I was with, looked at Melanie ( his friend/ my friend ) and looked at Karen, and walked away. No eye contact between me and him. After lunch, as we're going to class, I was going to stop him and ask him what was going on, he just stormed off. Said not one word to me all day. Did I do something wrong... Is he mad at me? What's going on?


I care about him a lot. I don't care how much I go through to get his trust (he says I already have it) but I don't know what to do.
I'm really sorry for the length...please consider helping me if you can in anyway.

The best thing for you to do is get him to talk to him. That means just walking up to him and saying we need to talk. Don't try to make a lot of comotion though, just calmly ask him why he's ignoring you. If you want to have a good relationship, you're going to have to make more effort, even though it seems like you already are.
If you know you don't have his trust, make sure to bring that up. Make sure not to call him a liar or antying, because that will just make everything more tense. Just ask him, "if i have your trust, why donn't you act like it?"
Make it clear to him that you really like him and want this to continue, but he's going to have to put effort in it. If he's not willing, he's not worth your time.

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im 15/f. if i find out a guy i like likes me back, i usually lose interest in him. am i not ready for a boyfried or what? its seriously annoying and id love it to stop

This always happens to me as well. I'll be like head over heals for a guy then they tell me, and i'll still like him then all of a sudden, BAM! i don't like him anymore. It sucks right?

It probably means that you liked him because he didn't like you, not because you had a ton of interest in him. When you find someone that likes you back and you still like him, then you'll know that you like him for him.

I know it's super annoying, but just hang in there.

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ok so i really like this guy but i dumped him cuz he was going to dump me but i still want him but hes going out with one of my good friends even though she said she wouldn't i think shes a backstabbing slut but shes my good friend and if she likes him i want them to be happy but i am still in love with him what should i do get him back and how or leave like it is him being happy and me being so lost and sad





luv ya like a sista

yeah. please use punctuation.

but, so what. if she likes someone she likes them. he's not your peice of territory, so she has a right. you dumped him, not she gets him.

sorry.

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I've been dating this guy for a month, we've gone on 3 dates, he's 2 years older than me. We're both gay and he's in the closet... I don't know whether or not I should ask him to be my boyfriend or wait for him to ask me... What should I do? His birthday is coming up and I was thinking we could have a candle lit dinner and then I'd ask him if he would like to be my boyfriend in a like proposal sort of way ^_^. He's going to be 19 and i'm 17. We both share roles so that it's not strictly dominant/non dominant. So... yeah any advice?? He's never been in a relationship before and i've been in two... Anymore questions just ask me!

I say ask him out. If he hasn't asked you out then do it. But make sure he's comfortable with it though. You don't want to ALWAYS have to be the dominant.

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Haye yawl, this is kindof stupid n all but like me and my boyfriend hav been goin out 4 like a year this thursday and i kindof need a cute gift idea. i really love him and i need it 2 b awsome. he iz a country redneck boy cauz we r frum ga.so if u have a good idear id luv 2 hear it.thanx yawl :)!!
luv caroHaley

I'm from georgia too!
wellll. If he has a pick up, rebel flag stickers are always a good side to a great gift ;]
But, you could suprise him to a Bulldogs or Falcons football tickets or Braves tickets [not sure what sport season it is =) ]
If that is too much money, you can try going somewhere like a monstertruck rally [my boy is obsessed with those].
Stuff that has to do with him being a redneck is always a sign of affection because that's a thing you love about him!
good luck.
triciaXterror

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14/f


RAWR. my brother was on the phone with the kid i like.. & my brother goes "My sister likes you!"

I was like mortified..

I see him friday...& hes comin to my party..
What do i do!? Do I say something to him?

Don't say anything. That will totally make it awkward. And if your crush DOES say something about it, if you don't want to tell him you like him, just be like "yeah, my brother says that to the guys i talk to on the phone all the time. It's really annoying."
Make sure you say it relaxed or he'll know you are lying.
If you DON'T want to lie, & your crush DOES say something about it, just say "Yeah, my brother is really annoying."
And that's it.
if you have anymore questions just message me.
triciaXterror

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I am currently "going out" with a 6th grader and I am an 8th grader. I normally like taller guys, but hes shorter. and hes really sweet.cute. and i like him a lot. but im so self concious and i worry too much about what other people think
is it too weird?
please give me honest opinions.

it's really not weird at all. I see hott sixth graders all the the time. If you like him, you like him. tell people to stfu.
=] triciaXterror.

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well i like this guy, lets call him james. and my best freind is jen. well i like james and i dont think he likes me
we always talk online though and i comment him sometimes on myspace but he rarly comments back he comments my freind a grade older then me, lets call her susi. well he alwasy comments susi
and i guess he thinks shes wicked hott or something but she doesnt like him. well jen my best freind tells me like a few times its so ovious he likes you. the way he talks to you on aim sometimes he wants you to like him.
but if he liked me then wouldnt we be dating. because he knows i like him. its werid but my other best freind "jessica" likes him a little too but shes susis little sister and i really dont want james to like her because she might end up looking like her sister.
HELLPPPP
idk what i need help with
im just confused in life.,
and people tell me that i would look so cute with james. - and its truee.
idk what to do

Don't do anything. Just because a guy likes you and you like him doesn't mean ya'll would be dating! Guys tend to hide their feelings more than girls. Just chill and take what comes. Give him some space. Stop commenting him if he doesn't comment you back - it's a sign that he doesn't want to talk.

I personally think that he doesn't like you.

sorry if it's not what you wanted to hear, but it's true.

triciaXterror.

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I met a girl at a party this weekend and ever since, we've talked for hours every day. I know she really likes me, and I'm starting to feel the same about her. She seems like she's the kind of person who dates for fun, though..and doesn't take it seriously. I'm all about having fun, but that's not all dating is, and I'm afraid she might think it is. I'm afraid she'll drop me quickly because she seems like she gets bored easily.

Any advice? Thx.
16/m

Well, first of all, since she really likes you, you should go ahead and tell her that you like her. Then, after talking a bit, if the conversation goes to 'dating', then you should tell her that you take it a bit more seriously than you think she does [you might want to put it in different words]. Usually, if a guy tells a girl that he likes her and she likes him, she'll go out with him ANY TIME! so, I think you have a 99.9% chance with her.
If you like her now, I say you just go out with her and enjoy the time you have with her. If she dumps you because she gets bored, than she's not the one for you.

Goodluck.
triciaXterror

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what do girls look for in a guy

Well, most people classify me as "punk", so my answer may be a little different than what you want.
I look for:
a sense of humor: girls think it's great to have guys that are funny. it shows that the guy can relax.

kindness: i'm not saying that he has to bring me flowers everytime i see him or brush off the ground before i walk on it, that gets annoying. i just want the guy to treat me right, ya know? not verbally or physically abusive in any way. not overly sweet or anything, but just is kind.

strong/leader: i would want my guy to take charge in a tough situation. i want someone who could protect me in a dangerous place. it gives a girl comfort. you'll be her knight in shining armor.

style: most girls really wouldnt give a sht for this category, but i like my guys emo/goth/punk. a preppy girl would like her guy to wear abercrombie and stuff...see? if it were me, i'd want my guy to wear girl pants, band t-shirts, and have his fringe over one eye. based on your girls sense of style, you can pretty much tell what she wants her guy to look like. i'm not saying this is every case, but usually that's the situation.

confindence: a girl can whine about how her jeans make her but look big, and that's when you compliment her. but a girl DOES NOT want to hear her man complaining about what he looks like, or how not popular he is. taking charge and being confident about yourself is a sexy character trait.

hope i helped;; good luck with her =]
triciaXterror

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my gf is always flirting with this other guy at my school and it really pisses me off cuz she barly talks to me anymore can someone tell me a way to get her bak to me

A lot of girls are flirts - including me. It's okay because that's just how we are.
The only way you can fix this is to talk to her. Just pull her aside and be like, "I feel like you are spending more time with other guys with me. I might be wrong, but that's how I'm feeling." And let her respond to that. Make sure you don't say it like "YOU ARE FLIRTING WITH OTHER GUYS! STOP IT!" because she might not think so. After you guys talk, think up a solution to your problem. Spend more time with her, give her gifts, when she's with other guys come up from behind and hug her. Show her you love her.
triciaXterror

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do girls go for guys with piercings? if they are good looking that is, and do girls get attracted to guys with piercings,like let's say nose rings?and if they do, can you specify which part of the face or body you find most attractive for a piercing on a guy and how much piercings should your ideal guy have?thanks

LIP PEIRCINGS

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ive been going out with my gf for a month now and we've kissed acouple times now but i dont now a way to get her to start making out w/ me can someone plz help

There are two ways to solve this problem:

1. You can just simply ask her. A lot of girls think that is sweet and thoughtful, asking if they actually wanna make-out.

2. When you do kiss, [try when you are just alone], slowing start to widen your mouth more and reach your tongue out just a bit [so she gets the picture]. But, if she pulls away, quickly go back to a regular kiss. Make sure you take it slow and easy, so she doesn't feel uncomfortable.

Good luck.
triciaXterror

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okay i went out with this dude for 3 months.
the first month he cheated on me then broke up with me and then asked me back out we went out for 3 more months and when he broke up the reason why we did changed everyday. and my new best friend went out with him. before i did. and he lied to her and told her he was going to wait until she was aloud to date. and then he ran off with me. and then he cheated on me with her. and shes not the kinda person that would do that. but i guess "love" makes you do crazy things i forgave her we both did out share he ran off with me , he cheated on me with her and now. hes comming back to her asking her on dates and shes no going for it cause hes a lier and a cheater everything he said to her when they went out and while cheating on me was a lie and i found out last night okay it went like this. He asked her on the dates, i told her to stay yes to them and then i found out he promises my friend emily on a date! and then...... i go to his myspace ( i have his password) and emilys friend from colorado he was saying how he was thinking about her during soccer conditioning and that he loved her and all this. im like WTF? so me and my friend have our own littel jonh tucker issue. but its only 2 of us. Shes the bait and im the one who knows everything. like i have all the connections i have ALOTTT of friends that know him. and like shes the quite type not very popular and i guess im the popular type and people tell me everything. so do you think its time for him to get his like seriouly? emily and her friend both live in colorado! and its me and clara here. and hes the type that comes back to girls after a while its time for him to be SHUTTTTT DOWN.hes acting soooo deprite and immature and hes playing games with me and my friend clara and he doesnt deserve us at all
he bacially have 4 clara,me,emily,and emilys friend!!!!!!!!!!

do you think this is right!!!!!!/???

Wow. Are you the girls from the myspace banners? Why do they hate John Tucker?
Well, if you have his password, then you should comment on a ton of his friends that are girls on his myspace saying that he's loves them and that they should go on a date this friday. Then, when they comment back, he'll have a ton of dates that friday.
Also, you can take a picture of his face and put it on a naked woman's body, but block out the private parts, and post a bulletin saying, "look at my new sexy picture"

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its in the middle of summer and im starting to get lonely. like i want a boyfriend so bad! i want that special someone to talk to and i want to have just someone to hold on to. i really want one badly. all my friends have boyfriends and i dont! ive never had a boyfriend or a real close guy friend. idk what to do. i really want a boyfriend. i asked this kid out but he said "no"! now i feel rejected and stupid.

Umm, well. you aren't just going to have one fall out of the sky.

You need to make better connections with guys than just ask them out right then and there. Let a friendship grow, so sorry to say, but you probably aren't going to get one right away.

Sorry if this isn't what you wanted but it's my best and truest answer.

triciaXterror

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if you really like someone and they ask you out how do you say yes to them?

Just smile and say, "Yeah," and nod your head. Don`t look eager though, that`s a turn off. Good luck

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