ask toastnbutter



read advice get advice make favorite read feedback advicenators



Hey! I'm 14! I'm a fun person to be with. I love to dance and play basketball! I love to give advices! So if you need help i'm your girl, holla!
E-mail: toastnbutter44@optonline.net
Location: LI
Age: 13
Yahoo: toastnbutter44@yahoo.com
Member Since: February 24, 2005
Answers: 138
Last Update: June 28, 2005
Visitors: 9236

Main Categories:
Love Life
Friendship
School
View All

Favorite Columnists
Shortie8959
sunshine805
Karen
Magic
allyhoo22
momoG
iv been going bak and forth between these 2 guys((dating them)) and i luv them both equally and im jst as happy w/ 1 as i am w/ the other..and going bak nd forth like this...its hurting us all..i jst cant do that anymore..im w/ 1 of them now..but i still rele like the other..i dont kno wat 2 do w/ out hurting them..nd myself..wat should i do? (link)
you could write pros and cons about both of them.or you could see who likes you more.....like a test.or you could leave both of them and see who you missed more or who missed you more.surry thats all i can tell you right now!!!


I was recently torn between two guys and now i finally realized that i love my ex. Now that im back with him, we never talk and we never see each other. I love him to DEATH but i dont know what to do...Anyone know what to do?! (link)
you should try to work things out. tell him you really like him and you want things to work. ask him why he's not acting like he doesnt want to be with you. if he really likes you he would try to work it out too. hoped i helped!!!


hey i think i mite have feelings for my boy cousin ((im a girl)) ... idk wat 2 do plz help me!

signed, feelings for family (link)
hey, watz up? i'm glad you came to me for your promblem......to me it's wrong to have feelings for your relatives.it's just crossing a line. lets say you have a friend that told you she liked her brother and your really really close to her brither.how would you feel?......okay maybe that doesnt help lol. since you like your cousin you obviously spend a lot of time with him. thats like having feelings for your brother.maybe the culture you have, its okay if it is tell your cousin about it (how much you like him) and see how it goes from there okay? write to me lata tellin me how things go......please rate....but not low lol


hey every1. right now my life is so totally like the movie The Notebook, if you've seen it. K so there is this guy who goes to my school and a lot of people don't really like him at all because he is sort of full of himself and annoying. but for some reason at the beginning of this year i really really liked him. i only told a few of my friends though, because it was really embarrassing. then i found out that half way through the year he had to move to Hong Kong. i was really sad and his last day at school , my friend told him that i like him. he said that he liked me too.anyway overtime i kind of got over him and started to like this guy named Ben. Ben has been like my best guy friend for a really long time. anyway he asked me out and i said yes. i was so happy, until Jamie (the guy who moved to Hong Kong) CAME BACK!!! anyway now he is being really sweet, and trying to get me to like him again. the thing is, Ben sometimes ditches me for computer games and stuff, but Jamie never does, hes really sweet now. i don't know what to do at all though because Jamie is moving back to HK for good over the summer, so i probably wont see him again. so i could either break up with ben and spend the remainder of my time going out w/ jamie, or i could stay with ben since i will never see jamie again. no clue what to do! help! (link)
I think you
should go to jamie cause he changed. and if you dont go out wit him, when he leaves you might regreat it so go 4 it! ....besides ben is wrong 2 ditch you for a COMPUTER! hoped i helpe!


okay so my ex-boyfriend cheated on me, but i still love him and i wana talk to him again cuz its hard to jus forget bout him. and this new boy that im feelin, i feel like hes just using me. he says he loves me though. what should i do? (link)
you could give him another chance but if he cheats on you again DUMP HIM! if you think the other guy isbusing you i think you should leave him and follow your intense.hoped i helped!


could you pleeease tell me how to make out with a guy im only 13 and i dont know how to

thanx sooo much if u can help (link)
lean over and kiss him and then he'll lead it off. if you dont wanna stop it then just keep kissing him and he'll get the point. hoped i helped!


i really like my friend and i poured my heart out to him (after we told him i liked him 3 months earlier!) and he goes oh you still like me???? and so it was awkward for a while but hes been liek more normal anyway like this week is spring break and he hasnt been on so i went on an old sn and he WAS on so i found out HE BLOCKED ME!!!! i am so upset right now and i keep trying to get over him..please help me what to dO?!?! i am 14 female--hes 14 male (link)
i think he likes you now.you should talk to him and ask him why he blocked you and why he's ignoring you. tell him if he doesn't tell you the truth your not gonna talk to him again.this way he'll tell you. i hope i helped!


Well i really like this guy (mason) but of course he has a girlfriend. He flirts with me ALOT and is always hangn around with me, but then this girl seyd "She wants you to break up with yur g/f so yuu can go out with her" AND I NEVR SEYD THAT .. im so mad, he wont talk to me anymore! =[ **-- I rate 5s --** (link)
you need 2 sit him down and talk 2 him.tell him its not true. try 2 convince him dat your happy 4 him dat he has a girl.hoped i helped!


i'm 14 and a female. Last year, i went out with my friend. We broke up over the summer, but i knew he still liked me and i kinda still liked him.
this year, i started liking a new guy (one of my friends), and (stupidly) told him that i liked him. nothing really bad came of that but he told me he was happier being friends with me. so, we stayed friends. He says cute and romantic things to me and tells me he loves me and stuff, but still claims hes "not sure" how he feels about me.
now, i know my "ex" boyfriend from last year still likes me, and now i'm beginning to have feels for him again. I also still like my other friend. so should i wait for a guy that might never like me like i like him? or should i try to "rekindle" the relationship i had before? (link)
i think you should go out wit your ex again cause he likes you and you like him so the relationship might go farther than it did last time and besides your other friend that you like doesnt like you as much as you like him. i hope i helped!


ok,i have a friend,call her terry.well,this may be confusing,but anyways... My friend terry,a girl,is friends with a boy.We'll call him bob.Bob likes me,and terry is telling me to go out with him.Shes saying how hot he is,but i've never seen him.[[only in a picture,and hes seen me only in a picture]]. Well,im not the pretty girl type,im fine with that, but...danm this dude must be desprate!! His whole pro on aim is all about me...were not even together.Hes 16 and im 13 1/2.I dont know what to do in this situation.Can anyone please help me?
**rate to 5's...sorry this was so long** (link)
dont worry,it wasn't long lol. i think you should go out with him and see how it works out. make him happy and go out wit him!


ok me and my bf just broke up last night ok and it was all becuz i told him the truth about something i told him that i was starting to have feelings for someone else and i mean i hadn't cheated on him or anything me and the other guy just talk alot and i think im starting to have feelings for him and my ex was asking me what was wrong and i told him and i told him becuz i felt like i was lying to him and i didn't want to feel that way ne more and now he thinks im imature and sex hungry for some reason which im not i not stupid and i don't plan on doing any of that kind of crap any time soon just cuz the fact my parents would kill me and cuz im to young......so really who's being the imature one here me or him??? and should i have told him?? i mean was it a stupid mistake telling him or did i do the right thing??? (link)
dont worry you did the rite thing. he's being immature and you should have told him. but may be things will get better soon. i hope i helped!


well whenever this kid i like, matt, stands near me or walks by i always feel like i have to be talking to one of my friends. what does this mean? (link)
2 me itmeans you dont feel comfortable aroud him yet. hoped i helped!


Hi I really ned help! Ok well u know the shooting that happened in minnesota? Ya well me and my bf go to that skool and he was one of the victims! Ah! and he's in the hospital and they say he might die! he's in a coma and wont wake up! I strted freaking out when I heard his name on the list of the shot! They said he was still living but it was a 80% chance of dieing! He is the love of my life and I do not know what to do! Help me some one plz? (link)
FIRST:dont look on the negative side of things always look on the positive side
SECOND:have some hope! pray...if your christen
THIRD: have a lot of people in your school sign a card
i really hope i helped. and i hope
he feels better!


im boring how can i make myself seem or be more fun? (link)
you could try to let lose once in a wild or do sum thin dat your friends think you would never do but they'll do(but don't go overbord lol) hoped i helped!


When is a good time to tell your boyfriend of a year that the relationship is getting too serious and you're not realy for it? (link)
you should sit him down and tell him when he tries 2 go "2 far". tell him ur not resdy but you really like him it's just dat your not ready. i hope i helped!


well i have this boyfriend and he is so nice and he likes me a lot but this girl natalie she is one of my really good friends i think she likes him a lot bcuz my boyfriend jacob always hangs out with her and she always calls with jacob on the line sometimes i wanna talk to jacob by myself ya kno and she has to tag along while we talk and things its like he is mine not yours!!!! (link)
hey! i'm glad you came 2 me! lol. i think you should tell your friend that you wanna spent time with YOUR bf sometimes. tell her how you feeel. if she's your friend she'll understand. let me know how it goes!


My boyfriend, Linds, and I have been together for about a year and half. Well, I still like him and want to be with him. But, there's a problem. There's a guy in my Physics class that I tend to flirt with ALOT and he flirts back. I know that I don't like this guy; I'm just extremely attracted to his looks. He's not a bad guy or anything, he's actually pretty sweet and nice but Linds is so much more than that (hott too! :D). I always tell myself that I'm not going to flirt with him before class but of course I do.


Well, this past weekend, we were at the same party that Linds wasn't at and we almost kissed. I stopped myself and I'm glad I did. I don't know how to stop this and I don't want to ruin such a good thing with Linds. I have no idea what to do. I try to stay away from him but it never works. Any help with this situation is really appreciated, thanks.

17/f
(link)
if you no you really like lindS YOU WOULD TRY 2 CONVINCE YOURSELF THAT you shouldn't flrt with the other guy. i no it's hard but you gotta try and if you can't do it tell yourself your not cheatin that it's just playin or havin fun. i hope i helped!


okay well my schools formal was the other night, and i have a problem. well i hang out with my brother and his 2 friends. well im going out with the one, and when he thought i didnt like him before we started going out, he said yes to the formal to this girl who asked him. so it ended up that i had to go with the other friend. and while we were there we won the prince and princess thing, and i ended up saying all this stuff to him how it was his night with me but i wasnt going out with him, i was going out with the other kid, and even though were all good, i think hes still mad at me. (link)
ask him if he's still mad at u. but 2 me you should be mad at him cause he said yes to ANOTHER girl while ya were going out. hope i helped!


k so i have this theri that if u do a lot with a guy he'll want more to soon. Now i think my bf wants to kiss everytime we part and i dont so i find myself saying stuff just so i can get away. its not that i dont want to kiss him but he wont kiss in a movie theater so..... i don't no i dont want to say this cuz its weird. i feel better i f we just kissed but theres always tounge (not thats its a bad thing...lol) please help me!!! (link)
you could tell him dat u dont wanna kiss alot or wen he tries 2 kiss you make it a simple kiss u no wat i mean? i hope i helped!


20, male.

Okay, the girl I'm going out with and I are sitting watching TV. We've only been dating for a few days, but I've been her friend since before elementary school. She mentions a mutual friend was talking about a movie that we passed. So I, the idiot that I am, accidently call her by the friend's name. She pulled away from me for a few seconds, and then went into my arms again.

I explained that it was only because she mentioned her name seconds before, but is that enough? Should I try to explain in detail that I have no feelings for this other girl or should I drop it? (link)
you should drop it cause she did went back in your arms which means 2 me that she 4 gives u.




read advice get advice make favorite read feedback advicenators

<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>

eXTReMe Tracker