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ok well, me and this kid have been dating for 3 weeks now and we meet about a month and a half ago. since we met hes been fine w/me and always says the nicest things and hes so respectful.. but in the past few days hes been weird and short w/ me and i cant even tell if he stil likes me sometimes. hes hot and cold and during these days he'll be short but then randomly say i miss u or call me babe or something. and he still texts me first thing in the morning all the time. idk what to do, can someone please help me? i dont want to say somethnig and sound hostile w/ him.. help. (link)
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Well it sounds like to me that he might becoming uncomfortable with the relationship..and he might be questioning whether or not you all should be dating. I know you dont want to sound hostile with him,but you deserve to know the truth. He has no right to lead you on and keep you waiting around. I would just come right out with him and ask him whats going on with you guys. You dont have to be hostile about it..just calmy try and discuss it with him..you deserve to know the truth! And if things arent going to work out with you all it will be just fine,there are plenty of fish in the sea,(:
Hope this helped.
xoxo,taylor.
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I want a relationship soooooo bad.
but i cant seem to stay in a relationship once i have one.
"He stops all the flirting stuff" "Hes taking the relationship to seriously" "Hes to clingy" "Hes not clingy enough"
Am i a commitment phobe?
and if so, how can i fix it? (link)
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What youre going through is perfectly normal..i wouldnt exactly say that you have a commitment phobia,but maybe you just arent ready for a relationship. There is no sure fire way for solving this but by just being patient. Relationships are nice and all..but theyre even better when they havent been forced and youre absolutely ready for it!
hope this has helped.
xoxo,taylor.
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I'm like bipolar about this. I love being in relationships and seem to always be looking for one that I think will last a long time but once I'm in one after about 3-4 weeks i get bored with the person and either dump them or end up cheating[I'm working on that though cause i know cheating is wrong]. When I'm single though i get very lonely after a while even if m talking to someone. Even now I've been single for about a month now and I'm lonely. I really do want i long relationship but I don't what usually happens to me to happen yet again.
advice please:) (link)
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Yet again..this is something i can relate to. My goal in life is to actually find someone to love and have a lasting relationship..which doesnt seem to work out for me all that good. I always get into a relationship and it never lasts long because i get bored and tired of the person and i want something new. I hate being single though and it puts me in a depression..something that really hurts is to hear my friends talk about their great relationships or see happy couples walking around. I always talk about how badly i want something like that,but every time i get in a relationship i scew it up. Maybe there isnt really a way to solve it..people like you and i could just possibly not be ready to settle down. As much as i hate to say this..its probably just going to have to take time.
Youre young..be patient and let life run its course!
xoxo,taylor.
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Okay so here's the deal... I'm fourteen, girl and I'm a freshman in highschool. I recently started dating a sixteen year old boy, sophomore. He's great and what not and weve been dating for a little over two months. The problem is this... Our town sucks. Haha, like really. There is nothing to do besides see a movie or go bowling. Weve done some fun stuff, like midnight sledding and guitar hero fests, haha, but its just hard to find exciting stuff to do around here... And the past few times weve hung out its just been chilling in one of our basements watching a movie. So its gotten pretty dry (not the relationship, the relationship is great) were just kinda bored... any ideas?? (link)
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Haha wow,so i can totally relate to this. Where i live there might be about 2000 people in the town and we dont even have a movies or a walmart..so consider yourself lucky lol. The nearest movies or bowling alley is about 45 minutes away and thats pretty much all i ever get to do when i go on "dates",if thats what theyl even count as. Something to remember about relationships is that theyre about the two people..not what the two people do. As long as youre in each others company im sure youl be happy doing whatever. Have you ever considered comparing your guy's interests,and then figuring out things to do. My boyfriend and i used to actually color together,and wed draw each other pictures with hidden messages (: Wed babysit together,play outside or just go riding around. All of those things might sound babyish to you..but if you think about it its actually the cutest thing you could do with a guy.
I hope this has helped.
xoxo,taylor.
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Hi,
I was looking at stuff online and was really surprised to find all this conflicting information on the effectiveness of condoms. My girlfriend doesn't take the pill so I've been using condoms.
She's not goin on the pill since she's from another country and only here temporarily. I only use the latex ones too.
So if I use non-outdated condoms, and put it on correctly and at the end it doesn't tare or anything and after inspecting it before throwing it away I see that no semen is leaking out somehow then shouldn't the chances of her getting pregnant be close to zero?! I hope so anyway...
I'd like to hear what others think about this.
Thanks a bunch- (link)
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Its a known fact that condoms are pretty much the only way to prevent pregnancy other than the other forms of birth control. Although condoms are highly effective,they arent 100% effective due to some mishaps that can occur. Obviously you know the possible mishaps and seem to be taking them very cautiously. So i guess the answer is no they arent 100% effective,but your ordeal sounds to me like you are making them almost 100% effective..so keep up the cautiousness and youl be just fine! (:
xoxo,taylor.
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16/f
i actually don't know how i feel about my boyfriend anymore, i don't know why but when i see him nothing really pops up, it's just normal.. it feels like it's an everyday thing or something. he even started noticing that i didn't seem so happy to see him or be with him, so now i act like i am. usually we get into arguements, but i'm tired of it so i end up avoiding any sort of conflict and stuff. i don't really want him to touch me as much or a kiss just seems like a regular kiss. i'm not sure whether my mind is just bored and wanting something new and if i'm just acting like i'm happy. or if i really am happy but i think that i'm bored, if you know what i mean. for example, you don't know what you have until you lose it.
i've been debating whether or not to end it... part of me does, but part of me doesn't because it was somewhat like a schedule that i can't let go. and i'm so used to seeing his face everyday and sleeping on the phone with him, and i do like him.. but i just feel emotionless or something, i'm not sure what it is.. help me please? (link)
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wow...so i recently just experienced this..and i learned quickly that if you start feeling bored,its time to LET GO. Whats the point in wasting your time and his? Someone will end up getting hurt in the end. Noone is to blame in this situation..it just obviously wasnt meant to be. 95% of the people in the world dont live their life..they spend it on never ending rituals..dont be a part of that 95%. Youre still young,so live your life! (: And if you guys do break up it doesnt have to be permanent. Id start off by asking for a break..in time youl see if you truly miss him or if this break should be permanent.
Remember: Whats meant to be will always find its way..you guys might end up getting back together in the end!
xoxo,taylor.
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I've stayed up all night tonight, i can't sleep. i just drank this situation away,but i know that never lasts, i just need to vent and ask for some advice on here.
I've loved him for 5 months, and yesturday i had so much hope. I talked to his bestfriend, and he told me straight up that *he really did like me. his best friend, said it was always me. i was going to talk to him today. But ah, today. One of my bestfriends comes over, and i mention him to her (they're related- so they're close) and how i felt about him. Then- she tells me her other good friend made out with him just the other day and he was interested in her. (yet his BEST friend told me that *he only "flirts" with her to make her feel better). I feel mind fucked, hahah. I can't sleep, i can't stop thinking about him and that girl making out (any possibly doing more, but i dont want to know). Now i really just want to hate him. I do, i feel nothing for him anymore..but i dont know why i still feel like shit. I don't know what to do now, i've spent so much time hoping for this-to realize it was all for something that was just in my head. Every time i have hope, it comes crashing down.I'm incapable of relationship. I just have no more will anymore. I dont even care. I just don't know what to do next and i'd really like some help from anyone at all, thankyou (link)
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Hang in there sister,life can be hard sometimes;especially if a man is present in the situation. I know you said you hate him now,but tell me this..do you think thats actually true? My theory is that true love never ends,and therefore your love for him will never end. It sounds like youre just having a break down right now..and thats perfectly normal. I tend to break down at least 3 months out of the year. When i experienced my first depression i wasnt sure what to do with myself..it was like i was having an out of body experience..i was numb to the world. The only advice i can truly give you is to realize that life goes on and your broken heart is going to heal with time. Perhaps this boy you love is just confused right now..everyone does make mistakes you know! Stay positive and just remember that IT WILL GET BETTER.
pain is inevitable..suffering is optional.
xoxo,taylor.
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I've been invictemed to a harsh and suprising dance and ditch. That's all I have to say to describe that. I was wondering if anyone had some tips on overcoming this. Thanks a bunch! (link)
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One thing to remember....most guys are jerks!
I agree totally,there are wayyyyyy toooo many fish in the sea for you to be upset about one stupid guy. I say you should go out and forget this other guy..its totally a waste of your time.
xoxo,taylor.
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I don't even want to say I love him, but I think it's true. I don't want to think of him this way. He is my best friend. I can't tell anyone, "Hey, I lied I still like him. Hey, I'm not over him. Hey, I feel empty inside because he said he was going to love me forever, but he doesn't." I can not especially tell him. I told him a month ago that I would never mention "us" anymore, and I've kept to my word. By now he must believe that I am over him. I hope he does think that. But if he truly does, then it truly means he does not care and that he has moved on. It's so easy for him to mope about other girls and talk about them and me to give him advice, to cheer him on, to tell him to not give up. I tell him that he'll meet the right girl someday. I know that it isn't me. It can't be me right? If it was me, then he would know it. I have this break up book and have read some of it. I think it might have made my feelings resurface when I started reading it and actually feeling them again. I think I've tried to deny my feelings thinking that it's the easiest way to make them disappear. Life just changed on me so suddenly and I can't go back. How do I believe anything anymore? I know it was my fault but now I don't know how I'll trust a guy. It was bad enough before, it took me ages to open up to him properly, I'm scared. I'm scared that people lie and that love ends so suddenly without warning. And I thought everything was okay just yesterday. I don't know what to do. (link)
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I can honestly say that i am in the same boat that you are. Ive been in love with a guy for three years,and the only thing that i have gotten out of this fiasco is an empty heart and a head full of confusion. I told myself that it would be for the best if i just forgot about him and moved on...but i was totally wrong. All the sleepless nights and overflowing tears only made me realize that i was truly in love. The idea of being in love scared me,because i had never known such a feeling before. Of course i love my family and all,but this was different...this was a feeling that i couldnt explain correctly...all i knew was that i loved this boy and not having him made me miserable. It sounds like were experiecing the same thing...and all i can really tell you is to not give up. A wise man once told me that "good things come to those who wait",and thankfully that expression now applies to me. He came back to me,and now im not sure if ive ever been this happy. If you truly love this boy like you say,you will NEVER give up on him...true love has no expiration date,and thats a fact. In order to trust again youre going to have to admit to yourself your true feelings...if you want to trust others again you must learn to trust yourself first! We are our own worst enemies. So just hang in there,i know you can do this.
remember,pain is inevitable..suffering is optional.
xoxo,taylor.
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hey im a female and 17 years old. I am just wondering what anyone thinks of a long distance relationship? You think its not a good idea or do you think it couldnt work out? Long distance,as in 4 hours apart? but still in the same state. Because this summer I had this thing with this guy up north and we got to hang out when I took time to drive up there and stuff but I liked him and he liked me and I dont know, I just want some opinions. Please itd be great. (link)
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distance makes the heart grow fonder...its a proven fact. Many people try to say that long distance relationships are pointless and will fail in the end..but i personally disagree. Although my "long distance relationship" is only about 45 minutes,i can honestly say that not seeing that person every day makes me miss them even more;and by missing them it makes that time i do get to spend with them even more special. I personally think that you should give this relationship a try..if you two truly care about each other this distance wont create a problem..it will only strengthen the bond that you two share. Call each other,text,send pictures..i promise you that this isnt a waste of your time... i wish you the best!
xoxo,taylor..
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