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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!

I personally hate when guys hide things. I believe thy are either insecure or liers. Usually they end being liers. My advice is to sit and talk to him again about it. What u could also to is make a fake fb and try adding him and see what happens. In all honesty I wouldnt put up with him for very long. You shouldn't be playing this game with him. He should just tell you striaght up I their is something wrong.

I don't know about you but I hate people knowing about my personal life. I think its none of their business and they don't need to know. He shouldn't be posting things about your relationship like that especially not on the internet. If there is a problem with your relationship it should be discussed between the two of you and resolved without envolving others.

I hope this helps if you need anything else just let me know. I would to know how everything works out in your situation.

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Im 17f everytime i have a bf i find something wrong with him and leave him, it seems so hard for me to be faithful. No matter who im with theres this one boy who i always make plans to have sex with. i dont know what it is about that boy but i always manage to cheat on my bfs with him.

I think you might be attracted to this guy physically. I think you need to stop adn think about what you want in your life like what you want in a guy. you need to give other guys a chance. liekw hen you find a guy even if you find something wrong with them try to get over it or work out whatever it is that you think is wrong. Nobody is perfect finding someone you like can only happen if you look over there flaws and accept them the way they are.

Stephy

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I'm trying to get pregnant, I skipped my last period but all pregnancy tests i've taken (3) have been negative...if I'm not pregnant, could I still be fertile this month even though I didn't have a period? Basically I'm wanting to know if I should keep "trying" this month even though I didn't get my period last month (and I'm pretty sure I'm not pregnant)

their is a test that should ask your doctor about. it checks how fertile you and if you are able to get pregnant. i believe it also tell you when you are most fertile might want to look into that.

Stephy

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Should I let my boyfriend finger in me public? He has fingered me lots of times before but it's always been in my bedroom or his when we sleepover. He says it would make him really happy to finger me in public but I'm not sure if that's OK even. He promised he'd wash his hands before to make sure they were clean. Should I let him?

i wouldnt do it in like public areas where it is visible for people to see what he is doing because that might not be comfortbale for you since people will be looking at you werid but if you do it in publice where nobody is around n not make it obvious that it is happening than it should be fine.

Stephy

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I'm a senior in high school, would it be weird for me to date a guy whos only a freshman?

Btw, im a 17 year old female, he's 15. I will be turning 18 in June and he will be turning 16 in August.

guys usually dont mature until they are 24ish. if you like the guy than go for it but dont expect anything serious becuase at 15 you cant handle that.especailly guys they like to have too much all the time.
Stephy

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what do girls do when they start to get sick of a guy?

we leave them alone and find new ones. ;] we pay them no attention and focus our attention to other guys.
Stephy

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Ok my friend katie likes my boyfriend when we were going out. and then we broke up and she didnt even wait 1 week to go out with him. should i tell her off or just suffer?

leave them both alone. let them be happy and find new friends. what your friend did isnt cool. that should have never happened. it would eb better for you to just let it go and do your own thing and act like nothing is wrong.
Stephy

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does sex hurt the first time?

this will be short but very easily understood. when something goes into something it stretches something out which cause it to expand in a way that is not normal which causes pain. as time goes by you get used to the uncomfortablness and begin to enjoy it =] dont worry its normal. =]

Stephy

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i LOVE my best friend. and he knows i like him and i know he likes me. we aren't together....yet....but i wont to be. i just have 1 question. my mom says that dating your neighbor is bad and that i cant date him. so IF we ever get together......how do i hide it from her???? i hope you can help. thank you in advance.

i am very confused on why you cant date your neigbor they are normal people too. there might be something she has heard about him from around the block that she is hiding from you that she doesnt want to tell so instead "dating your neighbor is bad". my advice go for it every guy deserves a chance. tell your mom you guys are only friends and dont show affection towards him aound neighbors or mother.

Stephy

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im 13/f
hes 13/m

i like this guy so much i think i might be in LOVE with him. but IF we ever get together, how do i talk to him?

Whenever i see couples in the halls, there always kissing and hugging. And i hate PDA (public display of affection) I just dont want ppl to see us kissing and making out. So what do i do? What do i tell him. PS: we arent together.......yet.

Please help. Thank you in advance.

your boyfriend should always be your bestfriend. they should always be someone you can talk to about anything and everything and you should always feel comfortable around them. if you dont like PDA than dont things like that infront of everyone else. you could just hold hands and i guess hide some where that nobody can see you to kiss. telling him about this would be a good decision to make. hope this helps.

Stephy

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what are some things that a girl can do to a guy that will turn them on?

one that wasnt mentioned was scratching of the back guys it really turned on by that. while making out with a guy you can also play with his tongue. it could mean sucking on it or nibbling on it. if you are on his lap play with his finger with your mouth like suck it or kiss or whatever you feel like doing to it. also pulling on a guys hair while making out with them. but every guy is different and you need to test it out and find out which works best.
hope this helps.

Stephy

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so there’s this guy that i’ve liked for the longest time - and he likes me too. we’re not going out - mostly because i’m really unsure of wanting a relationship + i’m also really insecure and never really stable about what i want. there would be, and there still are, times that i don’t think i like him... but recently it’s been mainly liking him. anyways, summers in about a month and he just found out that he’s moving... forever.

when he told me, i didn’t know how to react. of course, i was sad but i just stood still for about 45 minutes and didn’t do anything. anyways... point is he’s moving. and we haven’t even kissed - but we both like each other and our relationship means a lot to me. i have the perfect upcoming opportunities to be alone with him, and besides the fear of awkwardness (because we both know what we’re waiting for... a kiss), what i’m mostly scared of is the fact that he’s moving. it’s happened to me before... falling for a guy and he leaves and leaves me so broken for such a long time. and i don’t want my summer to be a sad one. obviously, whether or not we start a relationship now, i’ll still end up hurt either way because he’s leaving. i’m just scared that if what we have gets any better than it is already... it’ll make me fall harder.

for the longest time i’ve been trying to figure out what i want:
a. to have it better than i do now and expand our relationship BUT get even more hurt when he leaves
b. keep things the way they are now, still get hurt at the end, BUT not as hurt as i would be if i chose option A
c. push him away, distance ourselves so it’ll hurt less when he leave (but this is debatable because i might regret)

i just don’t want to regret anything but i also don’t wanna get hurt in the end.
what should i do?

i dont think it would be a good idea to go for a kiss. leave it as it is because if you guys kiss it could possible attract you to him more and than he leaves and your left broken. make the most of your time with him. you never know things could change and he might come back. you stay close friends with him and never bring yourself down about him leaving because their can always be away for you guys to reunit plus you have all the amazing time you guys spent together.

Stephy

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