Hey everybody like I said I'm a beach girl! Born and bred in Seaside New Jersey, with about two generations of lineage going back!
I got passed away from home to home my entire life (Seaside, Toms River, Ortley) luckily always near Seaside but my life is utter turmoil. My parents bred young and thus poor, divorced when I was five; and my mother remarried.
I have lots of friends that I love and am grateful for, socially I am very outgoing, intellectually I'm an iron fist so ask me anything!
Hmmm... oh yeah one more thing- love my music and poetry and writing and reading and history and science and psychology ~pants~ philosophy... etc.. I Like smart people stuff, to be more "bite sized"
~cHiLL~
E-mail: cleanfreakfromhell@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: Seaside New Jersey
Occupation: student/work as badge gurl in summer
Age: 15
AIM: beachbtch5
Yahoo: cleanfreakfromhell
Member Since: March 6, 2005
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Ok i didnt really start like this kid until i heard that him and his g/f broke up because she had sex with another guy.. and when i found that out he started to talk to me alot and in gym class he started to come over and play tennis with me and some friends...well after a couple of days of that i told my friends they could tell him after gym soo they did and he said he may possibly like me too ( of course he didnt give them a complete answer cuase i mean he is a guy)..well that day i heard that his ex g/f wanted to go back out with him and she asked him back out(they went out 7 months b4 the break up)well i was hoping they werent going to go back out but then the next day in 5th hour she told me they were dating again after class i told my friends and broke down in tears i cried all 6th hour and when i got home i stayed in my room and didnt eat....i felt terrible..he stopped playing tennis with me but now 2 days later he is playing with me all the time and is always flirting but he has a g/f.....sooo should i like him still. . .forget about him and just be friends or is there anything else i can do. . .Please help . . i may be falling for him!!! (link)
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There is no giving up. Be coy. But if he ever tries to cross the line make it clear that you'll not be treated as an "on the side."
He'll respect you for that and treat you as worth it if you come across that way.
... As for now, I know it hurts.
Take my advice and don't talk to too many ppl about this. If word gets around he'll be angry that you're assuming gf rights too early.
Trust me... I learned that the hard way.
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This guy I know has told me he liked me a few weeks ago. I STARTED to like him BEFORE he told me. When he told me and continued to confess his love for me, he just got less and less attractive. He got clingy, and obsessive. He calls me 3 or 4 times a day and can't go a day without tlaking to me on the phone, as if we are in a relationship! I suggested we hang out during spring break so I can get to know him, but then I got too busy. Then he made me promise I'd go out with him during the summer when I'm not too busy! OMG! I have tried not talking to him on the phone and avoiding his calls, but nothings working. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I DID tell him I wasn't into a boyfriend right now. Any advice? (link)
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Sounds like an unhealthy infatuation. Don't let pity for this kid force you into a relationship. Tell him to give you space or you will never be able to like him, even as a friend. Limit his phone calls and threaten to break everything off with him if he violates.
Take no prisoners. Show him who's in control.
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so i have this boyfriend. almost 3 months. but we have only held hands and hugged. he is going sooo slow. every one is like .. make the first move. but im really shy. like.. really shy. but just around the boy im going out with. are there anyway i can sortof give him hints.. but not make the firt move? 13/f (link)
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Guys can't exactly refuse doing stuff. So make the move, if you value that over the quality of your actual relationship. You're only thirteen. So relax. His balls haven't even dropped yet, probably.
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I went to a dance last night and had a BLAST! My friends went up to the kid (Ive admired from a distance lets say for like 2 years! lol) and they asked him (Logan) if he would dance with me and I guess he said yes (I wasnt there though.) So, the next slow song came on and he asked me to dance. =) Yay! And we both seemed to really like it and I could tell he was nervous which happens when you like someone right? But, then I kept trying to get his attention on the FAST dances. He would be right next to me and not even look over @ me! I mean, all these other guys told me I looked hot nd stuff byt Logan didnt even care! I was so mad. I was dancing with all my friends and we were dancing really dirty ..lol but obviously it didnt get his attention. ANyways, he didnt ask me to dance at all again the whole dance! So I danced with other people but he didnt dance with any other girls so thats a good sign?? At the end of the dance, my friends dad picked me and my friend up because I was sleeping over her house. And, we were stuck in traffic for like 3 seconds, and i saw mike with a few friends and he looked at me and i looked at him from the car and i smiled and he smiled back! We used to flirt all last year, but then he got really popular and wasnt in any of my classes. DO you think he likes me?! i hate boys ..what would you do NEXT if you were me? I dont know what the next step is for logan and me ..or if there is one at all . SOrry its long! (link)
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Maybe he's gay.
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The other night, I was out with a friend, and we met up with these guys. I guess you could call them 'skaters'. So. The two of us walked around, while they skated around us. They asked us if we'd let them finger us, and we joked around saying yeah. We told them we'd have sex with them in an instant, even though we were kidding, which I guess they didn't realize.
So, we headed for a park by a school, and they got behind a bush and pretty much just pulled it out right there, and they were begging us to come back there and, well jerk them off. I wouldn't do it because quite frankly, I've got a little more self respect than that. I wouldn't let my friend do it even though she was tempted because she has a boyfriend and she knew she'd regret it right after she finished.
So, these guys were telling me I'm a total "downer" and a "prude" and later they told my friend that they really didn't like me, just because I wouldn't give them a handjob.
So, I feel really bad about myself, like I let them down or something, even though I know that they're just huge jerks. For some reason, I can't stop thinking about it and wishing that I had just done it and everything would be fine now.
I'd really like some advice about what I should do. Thanks. (link)
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EW! Not worth your time! These are fly-by-night manwhores, not God. Who the fuck cares what they think? You're not a prude- you have SELF RESPECT. There is a huge difference. Do you think it really would have been a better decision to do things with people you'd just met? What if it really had led to sex? How would you view yourself after that? And how do you think people would view you?
Personally I'd rather be viewed as prudish than some dirty slut.
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well, i like 2 guys. one is tall, and really cute and funny. He calls me hobbit because i am a foot shorter than him 5' to 6'. there's one problem tho, he has a gf. They never do anythin together and they talk like they are still friends but whenever we are talking he stops when she comes over. His gf is my friend too and she's really sweet but he doesnt pay as much attention to her as he does to me. But then there is this other guy is most of the time sweet and cute. He tries to make me laugh all the time. He is about the same height as me and lots of freckles. I always stares back at me during one of our classes where i sit behind him. Yesterday, he threw me up against the wall because we were playfighting. It was a joke tho. I don't know, they both flirt but i dont know what to do
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how can it possibly be so hard? Just pick one.
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ok i have a few very close friends and some not so.. But what i was wondering is... if i ended up on disney channel what do you think they would do? be jelouce? would they still want to be my friends? or just use me?
What would you think if you're friend suddenly out of the blue got excepted on a popular show?
+ concerned and worried (link)
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If they are truly your friends... they will not care... and they will be happy for you, not jealous. And some may be jealous, but just mature enough to handle all that like an adult.
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Ok, here goes. This might be a long one so please bear with me!
My friend Mike and I were at this school event called History Day (Science Fair except for history). I was bored, so I was hanging out with him and his friends. Then, his friend asked em if I like him and I said I don't know...and shrugged my shoulders. As I walked away, I looked back, and he was smiling at me. It's really obvious (though I haven't said it directly) that I really like him, but out fear of rejection, I semi-denied it. Do you think that I sent I like you vibes or I hate you vibes...and guys, what would you think of me now? Also, we flirt a LOT every day!! Thank you so much! (link)
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Go out with him.
Or him a kissy kissy.
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I have only been in one relationship before, and that was with a guy who was completely clueless about everything. That relationship really didn't last long.
But now there's another guy on the scene, and I am aware that he is a little more experienced.
I am very self-concious, I am not happy with my lower body (from the hips down really), and I'm not sure how comfortable I would be doing things with this guy. I really really like him, but I have never done anything beyond kissing before and I think this guy would want more.
What should I do? The relationship is in its early stages and I have made it clear that I want to wait, but for the time being it would be nice to have an idea of what I should do.
There is also the problem of me not knowing WHAT to do, which also contributes to the problem.
All advice welcomed. (link)
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No matter what he tries to make you do I will stress ALWAYS RESPECT YOURSELF FIRST. If you feel uncomfortable with your body as it is you will not feel comfortable with sex because sex is the gift of your body to someone you love and trust. You're only fourteen and have alot of time to wait until you're comfortable with a relationship that's advanced.
REMEMBER that to love another, we must first understand and love ourselves.
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