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- i love to help people
- i love brian ♥ 9.22.05
- i loveee dorks =)
- diet coke is my drink
- i do majorettes
- i love tennis!
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- my birthday is july 17!
- i love my friends
- i loveee country music.. :)

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- i love Eminem
- friends are my life
- i love ALL kinds of music
- i dance
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- the 0C is my favorite show
- i like to help people
- my room is purple
- * purple is not my favorite color ; pinks my favorite!

advice

Okay, I know I'm an advice columnist, but I really need help. My best friend Rachael, dated my other best friend Evan. And that was fine. Evan broke up with her numerous times. Then they always got back together. Rachael got sick of it and broke it off for good. Then while Rachael was at camp me and Evan started going out. I only did it because I knew Rachael didn't like him still. Rachael is the um.. JEALOUS type. VERY jealous type. But still, she didn't care we were going out. She was TOTALLY okay with it. Then last night she told Evan she still liked him, and was thinking about him. With Rachael, it's REALLY obvious when she lies, so when she said she didn't like Evan, I KNEW she was telling the truth. I think she's lying about still liking Evan. But I don't know. I think she did it cuz Evan liked her still.. until he started going out with me, and Rachael thinks he still likes her. And Evan is moving 45 minutes away from here. My question is.. should I stay with him? Or not? I REALLY like him.. And his brother would drive him here every week to see us. But his mom might not let him. What should I doooo? Sorry this is so long.

Danielle says ; First of all, I think you should have a talk with Rachael. You should tell her that you REALLY like Evan. If she is truly your friend she should respect that you guys go out. Also, you should ask Evan what he thinks of Rachael. As for the distance thing 45 minutes isn't to far, and if the brother is willing to help I think it'll work out!

Hope this helps =)
danielle

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Same poster as "Sordid Love Polygon."

I'm eighteen years old, female, and I was unpopular at my high school. Somehow, however, I ended up being friends with a lot of the football players. I got really close to one of them, Alan; he ended up becoming one of my best friends. He's the perfect man in every way--smart, funny, cute, nice--except that he's OBBSESSED with SEX.

Alan has a girlfriend, Bella. She's a nice girl, and I like her as a friend, but the two are toxic to one another. When they have problems, it's like all the life gets sucked out of him. They're really harmful to each other.

Even when they break up, he always has other girls in line... (Naomi, for example). He's got a reputation for being able to get anyone to sleep with him... sex is a huge part of his life.

Now that I've graduated, I find that I'm... in love with him. I think about him every day... When I’m not thinking about him, I’m thinking about these two characters from this game I like who are just like him and me. I really care about him... and I think he knows it, since I kissed him once. But he has a girlfriend. Even if he didn’t, I’m waiting until marriage to have sex, and I'm afraid he would convince me to do something I don't want to.

I know I can't be with Alan. I don't want to damage my friendship with him or Bella, and I know he’s not right for me. But I don't know what to do. These feelings I have for him are making it hard for me to deal with other guys, and just thinking about not seeing him every day in school is killing me. I guess what I want to know is, how do I get over a guy who doesn't like me anyway?

Samantha says ; He doesnt sound like the best person to be in love with. Especially if you are waiting until marriage.. I think that you should maybe TRY going out with him and wait for him to either say no or to ask you to do something and you to get upset so then you wont like him anymore. I dont know what i would really do but this sounds like something that could work :)

Danielle says ; Try to find someone new because it sounds like this guy has commitment problems.. and i would just keep your distance because it doesnt seem like this could be anything good.

hope this helps!

=) samantha + danielle

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I'm thinking about making a cd with all the songs that make me think of the guy I like (much too weak a word, believe me) and then giving it too him, but I'm not sure what message that would send. We've been best friends for about five years, and while i'm willing to risk a great friendship for what i feel would be a better relationship, I don't want him to think i have a secret shrine to him in my closet (i don't, btw). any advice on how this might make him feel or the possible consequences to my following up on it?

15/f

Samantha says ; Dont have the songs be crazy songs that send the message, "I HAVE NO LIFE AND I'M OBSESSED WITH YOU" .. maybe send the message of, "I like you alot and i have for a while.." something mellow.. =) but yeah just make the songs good ones and maybe have a little note with it explaining your feelings for him.

Danielle says ; I wouldnt make the CD although its a nice thought he might interpret it the wrong way, i would just write a note or tell him in person it would be clearer that way.


Hope this helps!
=) samantha and danielle

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ok, i have a boyfriend but he isnt the hottest thing in the world. a few people think he is kind of hot, though. anyway, i have this one guy friend that likes me, and always makes fun of the way my bf looks. he is friends with my brother and myself, and lives next door so is at mh house 24/7 and plans on making trouble whenever my bf comes over. it's very annoying. any help?

also, a few other girls i am friends with next door want to meet him and i know they will not be the nicest about his looks probably. i'm shallow, and i know i shouldnt care, but any advice? thank u very much. goodbye.

Danielle says ; The kid whos bothering you should just be told that its not his business about him and try to distance your self from him. And for the girls who wanna meet him .. if you're worried about his looks, if you like him thats all that matters.

Samantha says ; I think that you should definantly tell that kid next door to get a life, i mean he obviously likes you because why would he be trying to ruin your love life anyways? So yeah tell him to go away and maybe hang out at your boyfriends house more often, which you shouldnt have to do but if that kid is really that persistant then it might be your only choice. As for the girls.. if they wanna meet your boyfriend let them. And if they make fun of his looks or anything dont take it personally because how many of them have boyfriends and if they do how cute are they? But yeah just be proud of what you got :)


Hope this helps!
=) samantha and danielle

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my boyfriend and i currently broke up we were going out for about 3/4 months we broke up and he said he didn't want a gf. A few weeks l8er i guess he changed his mind he said he really liked this other gurl and that he didn't think that me and him would go out 4 a while. What can i do 2 get back at him? i already have a boyfriend but is there anything i can do? Like 2 get him 2 like me again? P.S. hes never online and he wont answer my e-mails! plez help

Samantha says ; well.. if you have a boyfriend right now, break up with him. because it seems like you're more interested in your ex and that isnt fair to your current bf. So yeah do that and then to really just get back at him, you have to play dirty =\ maybe just go for his best friend and do stuff with him, and make sure your ex finds out! Thats pretty much all you can do.

Danielle says ; I dont think you should be really trying to get back at your ex and you have a bf and its not fair because you should be focusing on your new bf and if he finds out hes probably gonna think u just go out with him to make your ex jealous. Thats not right so i think you should stop trying to get him cause its not worth it if you are happy with your new bf.


Hope this helps!
=) samantha and danielle

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My friend and I are really close. He's my best friend, and I'm really open with him. Sometimes we have really deep conversations, where I tell him anything I feel and he does the same too. We might even have conversations on the phone until 2 in the morning. My problems is that he's really confusing me. He won't make up is mind as to whether he likes me or not. Sometimes he'll hold me or give me those cute hugs from behind, and I really love when he does. We say "I love you" to each other as if it's a greeting. I think he's just leading me on because I asked him out before and he said that he liked me but he didn't want a girlfriend. Now, I don't know if I should ask him out again or what. I like him so much, and I think he likes me too. Should we go out because we're really close or will that mess up our friendship alot?

Samantha says ; Well.. guyfriends are so precious. If you have em save em.. but if you two are close enough to talk about anything? then if you feel that he likes you then ask him out.. if he says no, or you two go out and breakup it might be a little awkward for a couple of days / weeks but if you two are close enough then you guys will be back to normal in no time so why not go for it? :)

Danielle says ; You should stay friends for a couple more weeks and if you still think he likes you then you should ask him and if he does you could just go from there.


Hope this helps!
=) samantha and danielle

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