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Okay I know that my boyfriend loves me and he hasn't ever said anything. But I am the type that gets jealous easily. Idk why??? Idk how to stop either. Just over stupid things like him hanging out with a friend or even family. PLEASE help. I try to just bite my lip and not say anything. I don't want to be the jealous girlfriend, and I don't want to feel like that.
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Well sit down and talk to him about it. Im guessing your uncousiously just scared of losing him. Jelously(if you realy love somone) is just a form of enxiety (of losing them) Explain that to him. Tell him that you don't want to be that way, but you just can't help it. Hope this helped (:
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I am 21 and my boyfriend is 22. Him and I had an on and off relationship back in 08 till 10. We broke up for good for about 6 months a while ago. Him and I started dating again because we felt like we have worked out our problems. While we were broken up he had sex with Shannon and karen and I had sex with 1 guy who was my new boyfriend. While me and him started hanging out again I knew he did things with these girls because he told me.
While him and I were together Karen kept calling him and left a message saying “fu*k your gf and come see me.” so after this incident he stopped talking to her. I met Shannon at a football game where he didn’t introduce me and she didn’t talk to me. The next time I saw her was at another football game where she said hello and talked to everyone else but me. The third time was at the movies where not much was said being we were at the movies I understand that but when we left her and her friends trailed in front of my bf and I. The last time I saw her was at a party where I met my bf best female friend and I was very kind and friendly to her and Shannon was there and ignored me.
I told my bf before we started dating I didn’t like the idea of him still talking to girls he recently had sex with but I still allowed him to because its something I had to get over and couldn’t be jealous over. But they messed up and I told him I didn’t want to be disrespected and that’s how I felt. So he stopped talking to both of them for the past couple months because he agreed with me that what they did was wrong.
Recently we have been fighting about Shannon. Shannon and my bf go to school together so im sure he sees her around and talks to her for a bit. But today he asked me what we should do about it if he talked to Shannon again. I am very furious with this because I was treated bad but he doesn’t see it like that anymore. He says I was shy (which I am) and that I didn’t make an attempt to talk to her which I find false. he says that he knows her personality and shes not like how I described and that I am shy and I don’t talk to people and etc.
So am I being jealous? Do I allow this? Do we break up? And please just be honest with me because I know sometimes people on this site are very kind and wont be harsh but I have to handle the truth so please give me the truth just don’t be too harsh I guess. Thank You
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Well, he thinks your lieing. From my point of perpestive anyway. If hes talking to her at school, then she has to be telling him things. Im also guessing he brought this subject to her at school. I think you should ask him along the lines of this >'Did you ever think she acts all sweet around you to get you?' and sit down and talk to him about this, your feelings and his/ I know this probably isn't alot of help. but i hope it works out (:
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So I like this guy. He's one of my really good friends. He's 18 though. I guess its not too much of an age difference. Well I've liked him for over a year. I had a boyfriend for 10 months and still had a small crush on my friend. After we broke up a few months ago me and my friend told each other we liked each other. So I was pretty happy and kinda amazed. We would text all the time but we didn't exactly talk about anything with us so I kinda just assumed he didn't really like me anymore. He's leaving for college in a couple months anyway but it's not like I'll never see him again.
Well I started liking a guy at school and this guy asked me out and I said yes. So then my friend was all mad and stuff and I got confused. We worked it out though. I'm not sure what I was thinking, I mean I still liked him but I guess I wanted to get over him if he didn't like me so I decided to go with a guy I kinda did like?
Me and this guy have been together for a couple months now. I am not over my friend. My friend and I have made out before too so it really doesn't help when I'm just sitting there thinking. I really do like my boyfriend, so much, it's just it seems like I either won't let myself get over my friend or something.
Well, me and him are still cool and everything. It's just he likes someone else. I am extremely jealous. He said he still likes me but I can so tell he likes her way more. It'd totally be hypocritical if I got upset for him liking her since I like another guy.
I messed it up with him big time. I mean we could have had something in the future, I do know that. I can't turn back though. So what do I do? I've been trying so hard to get over him, we don't really text anymore, just every once in awhile. It hurts really bad.
I also want to know why it's actually hurting this much. I mean when things didn't work out with other guys, I've never sat there and cried forever. But with my friend I was like in tears and it really hurt. It still bothers me when I think about it.
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Well first off, tell your boyfriend that you still like him or love him (witch ever you prefer) alot and say you need some time to sort things out. Then tell "your friend" what your feeling, and tell him your not mad at him for liking the other girl at all but that you are jealous.... and you really wanna talk about this. and go from there.
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My ex boyfriend Nick broke up with me last April. I was left completely heartbroken. One day he told me he didn't love me anymore, that I was too moody for him and he ended it. I was SO upset, I did so much for him.
I started hanging out with a guy called Kyle, who I'd met a few months before just as friends. Any way I ended up really falling in love with him. He knew things ended badly with my ex and he was really there for me. We started dating and everything was so great, my parents loved him and his parents loved me and more importantly we both loved each other. More to the point, Kyle started to question being together as the stress we'd both been under (it started effecting our relationship) I didn't give him much time to think it over, I pretty much ended it straight away.
Now my ex Nick is back on the scene... saying he misses me and that he hopes we can can work things out. Can I really trust him not to leave me broken hearted again? (link)
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Honestly, you should sit down ans talk with him. tell him what you felt when he broke up with you, and tell him your not playing around and this isn't a game. Tell him he has to prove that hes not just saying that.
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Okayy well i have this boy in my school and my bus and i like him and he really likes me and all. Last year he asked me out but i said no because he did things that could ruin peoples live ( drink, Drugs) and im on the right track and i plan to stay on that track!! But the thing is He told me he doesnt do those things anymore for me i part of me thinks he is lying and part just want to run into his arms but mY Friends made a excellent point to me he has nothing going for himself and That isnt part of my right track plan. Im a Straight A student who is also a very talented athletic person i play many sports and so does he. I thought his grades was the deal breaker * Its a No* But two days ago he told me that he is going to try and work harder and do better. I still have a strong feeling that he is playing me just because he likes me. I want to maintain my grades and talent but i like him. Im a 16 Year old Girl Who is Very Confused. Usually in my school my advance classes the boys( my Ex's are extremely hot and smart but jerks There is something different about him i mean its not his looks Because i dated plenty hotter. He isnt stuck up he is funny Not like the guys i usually date. He is ALso TWO years older than me so my think he wants to get in my pant so to speak but i dont cause he knows i never let him i would see pigs fly before that happens. YOU SEE HOW CONFUSED I AM??? Ughh I need ADVICE, ANYY TOO GIVEE :) (link)
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Well, im just going to say go out with him.... simple as that. keep your grades up and keep doing sports, keep everything on the 'right track' but you can still date him. andif he does try anything in the same catagory as 'getting into your pants' tell him no, and say your not that type of girl. i mean kissing is fine, but don't be stupid and let him put his hands up your shirt or have him feel around your body... don't tell him " no i won't have sex with you" right when you start dating cause that would be wierd. but just don't let him do anything like that to you, becaus then he'll think you want to go to the next level. like i said, kissing, holding hands, and the simple stuff is fine.
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19/f there's this guy i met, who works at the library near where i live. well anyways he was helping me with my paper, and he would come upstairs and then he stayed and we started talking. well anyways he added me on facebook. and i wasn't sure if i should add him because my nosy older brother loves to go on my facebook and ask me who is that and all this non sense. well i finally to just accept his friend request, and he started talking he goes to college and he's getting his masters i think. and he's 27. well anyways he messaged me and was like mhmm i knew you would accept me and he asked me what i like to do for fun and he told me what he does for fun. and then on facebook chat like a day later we talked again. and i asked him why he added me and he said he thinks i am an interesting person. then he messaged me like an hour ago and asked me to hangout with him. i am not sure because one he's older than me, two my parents don't let me date at all, and three we're Indian and since he knows one of our family friends i am afraid he might tell her and she'll go tell her mom and then she'll tell my mom and the whole Indian community. so yeah i mean he's cool and i kind of want to go, but i don't know. i can't convince my parents to let me date. and they know about the stuff I've done with guys in the past. so that's another reason, and i know what i did was wrong and now i don't do that stuff anymore. but they can't get over it, and i know other Indian kids whose parents let them date. what should i do? please help! (link)
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Well, i don't know anything about indian culture... but usualy your and adult when you turn 18 and your parents have no say about what you do... anthough if your living with them, witch im guessing you are, they could kick you out if they get mad enough. Anyway, it depends what you did with guys in the past also. Have a serious talk with your parents, ask them directly why they won't let you date. If they tell you its because of what you did, tell them you've changed, your not that kind of girl anymore.(only if thats true) and if they still say no, just tell them " ok.Im sorry you can't trust me, i guess i failed you as a daughter" or somthing like that... and if your parents have any heart they'll most likely give you some sort of break and let you hang out with him. -Mariah
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