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I am Indian and my parents won't let me date because of what I did
19/f there's this guy i met, who works at the library near where i live. well anyways he was helping me with my paper, and he would come upstairs and then he stayed and we started talking. well anyways he added me on facebook. and i wasn't sure if i should add him because my nosy older brother loves to go on my facebook and ask me who is that and all this non sense. well i finally to just accept his friend request, and he started talking he goes to college and he's getting his masters i think. and he's 27. well anyways he messaged me and was like mhmm i knew you would accept me and he asked me what i like to do for fun and he told me what he does for fun. and then on facebook chat like a day later we talked again. and i asked him why he added me and he said he thinks i am an interesting person. then he messaged me like an hour ago and asked me to hangout with him. i am not sure because one he's older than me, two my parents don't let me date at all, and three we're Indian and since he knows one of our family friends i am afraid he might tell her and she'll go tell her mom and then she'll tell my mom and the whole Indian community. so yeah i mean he's cool and i kind of want to go, but i don't know. i can't convince my parents to let me date. and they know about the stuff I've done with guys in the past. so that's another reason, and i know what i did was wrong and now i don't do that stuff anymore. but they can't get over it, and i know other Indian kids whose parents let them date. what should i do? please help!
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Well, i don't know anything about indian culture... but usualy your and adult when you turn 18 and your parents have no say about what you do... anthough if your living with them, witch im guessing you are, they could kick you out if they get mad enough. Anyway, it depends what you did with guys in the past also. Have a serious talk with your parents, ask them directly why they won't let you date. If they tell you its because of what you did, tell them you've changed, your not that kind of girl anymore.(only if thats true) and if they still say no, just tell them " ok.Im sorry you can't trust me, i guess i failed you as a daughter" or somthing like that... and if your parents have any heart they'll most likely give you some sort of break and let you hang out with him. -Mariah
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