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Q: I've been going through a recent complicated break-up. The thing is I kinda rejected him because I want to get my life back together first before being in a committed relationship. I wasn't able to offer my heart back in return to this guy who loved me so purely because I got scared that the moment I say 'yes' we'd be in a really serious relationship. And the thought of being in a serious relationship scared me. I got scared and I made a stupid mistake by talking to it with another guy friend. And it almost felt like I cheated on him, he felt like I cheated. And now he's not in love with me anymore and that it's impossible for us to be together again. Which hurt so bad.

I know all of that's kinda convoluted, but long story short, I'm hurt because I hurt the one guy who's never done anything but love me so purely and see the best in me by being a stupid and weak girl. What if he's the one for me, what if I blew the chance to be with my soulmate? What if I never meet anyone who will love me as much as he did? I can't get over the pain and the loneliness no matter what I do.

I know I've made a mistake too. But I'm not aiming to get back together with him, because he's already said it's impossible. Now he just wants to be friends with me because he knows we're really close and he doesn't want to lose that and he said that I don't deserve to be abandoned completely. What should I do to get over him and forgive myself? I'm really sorry it was really long. Thank you to anyone who will help.

Thank you for your wonderful question, I will try to give you advice to the best of my abilities!

It sounds like you just weren't ready for a relationship, and that's fine. We all make mistakes and you need to decide whether to own up and learn from it or keep letting it hurt you. You will find someone else who loves you and it could be so much better than this relationship, you never know. It sounds like you two have made it out of the break up on good terms, but you may need to make a clean break from him. I'm just giving ideas, I'm not saying this is the right decision for you, because only you can decide what is right for you. But it may be hurting you to stay friends with him because, in the back of your mind, you could be holding on to that hope that he still loves you. At least try putting some space between you. I have tried being friends with guys after we broke up and it has never worked. We were close afterwards but we ended up realizing it wasn't working. Anyway, there's no quick way to get over a guy, time is a great healer, but I obviously can't know the best path for you to take, so I hope I kind of gave you some options.

Thank you for your question and feel free to message me with any further inquiries!

Q: I have invited another woman to have sex with my husband while I watch. She and I have meet and I like her, she is just the type I wanted for this experience.

She and my husband have not meet and won't until the night of the event. She is coming to our home where we will enjoy drinks and conversation first.

I'm looking for ideas on how to make the transition between conversation and sexy time smooth and less awkward. She and I have talked about bondage and restraint being part of the evening.

Ideas? Suggestions?

Hello! Thank you for your question!

It really shouldn't be that awkward if you are all consenting and know what's going on. Having a plan may make things more awkward in the long run. My advice would be to keep things light and address any concerns beforehand. If she seems uneasy at all, just ask her what she is concerned about and try to ease her anxiety by adjusting your plans for the evening. I hope the best!

Thank you for your question and feel free to message me if you need any further advice!

Q: Hi so i am 16 yrs...i am female.i rarely have friends that are girls... my closest friend is a guy, i will call him Mike. Mike hangs out with a guy(lets call him Sam) .The three of us have most of our classes together and on evenings we go to a public place to study. To be honest Sam and i had not be really close until a year ago. Before he would talk to this girl named Liah. It turn out though that liah had a bf and liked Sam...though Last week liah and her bf broke up and she had an arguement with Sam..so they dont talk as much. But now they do and she is so clingy to Sam .

I told Mike that i liked Sam and i was going to tell him in a year or so because i was afraid since Liah liked him. Then recently mike told sam that i liked him and that i thought he was friendzoning me. i didnt know all that had occurred because at school Sam talked to me normal but then he started talking to girls at school ,hugging them and acting like he is trying to get someone and i should step back. When Mike ,Sam and i were in a group the day after mike told sam everything he rarely talk to me sometimes but then he is his normal self.i am confused and i feel uncomfortable around him.i want to tell him that i didnt tell Mike to him and that i was just crushing on him and didnt want anything more but my brother said he thinks Sam likes me and he told Mike something but Mikd hasnt tell me.Also Mike said it was a good thing to tell Sam and he had to... Mike now told me that i have to tell Sam everything or he would say more stuff to him.

Hello!
So one thing I have learned since moving to college is that there is nothing to be embarrassed about when it comes to sharing your feelings with someone. I say you go ahead and tell him how you feel, let him process it and decide what he wants. Have an honest conversation, it doesn't have to be an awkward topic. If he doesn't like you that way, then there's no harm done. I know in high school, it feels so much more intimidating to talk about, but it's really the right thing to do. It saves you a lot of time and effort in the long run because it won't control your thoughts with the wondering of his feelings for you. He may feel the same way, you never know! Even if he doesn't, that doesn't make it a failure or define you as a person.

Hope this helped!
Feel free to message me if you have any further questions!

Q: Why amWHT DID I DO WRONG?

I do not understand.your question. More information?

Q: she dont want to talk me and i love her so much but she says that i dont wanna talk with u and she gives me fmily problems issue...............

Sorry for the tardiness in my reply for I have been very busy lately. If this problem has not yet been resolved then here we go. Bro, give her some space. I don't know what it is about us girls but we aren't understandable sometimes. We tend to do things for no reason and its confusing. I don't think she means to hurt your feelings and if she does, then just forget about her because that's just mean. Also, I went through this time recently where I just didn't want to text a guy because I thought he was getting to attached to me and just didn't care about him that way. So just give her some space. There's nothing worse than a clingy guy. Hope I helped.(:

Q: Im really getting tired of girls acting like they know guys, "oh, he doesnt care because hes a man,and men care less about stupid little stuff, men move on faster" yada yada yada, they are human beings that have feelings, and just because they dont have the same exact body organ that we have doesnt mean anything,atleast thats what i think,lol.. anyways, me and my ex broke up like 1 month and a half ago, all his fault,all the way.. and hes kind of in that confused "phase" where he doesnt know what he wants , and i should give him some time,but i refused, we were together for a long time.. he bought a necklace, half for him and half for me, it says something very special between the both of us,and we both always used to wear it, we said it kept us Connected,i see him around, and he still wears it, all the time, and he doesnt even bother to tuck it in his shirt, he keeps it out all the time.. what do you think this means? if he didnt wanna be with me, why does he still wear it..

Well you said he is in a confused phase so he might want to be with you but just not be sure about it yet. I think you should kinda let him have his space and let him figure out what he wants. He will probably figure out soon what he wants. Oh and the necklace thing I still wear jewelry my es gave me. Sometimes it means something sometimes it doesn't you never know.

Q: What does it mean if a boy is ashamed of a girl he is dating or with?

If he is ashamed of you then the relationship is going nowhere. There is no point in a relationship if it is kept secret. If he really loved you then he would not be afraid to tell his friends that he is dating you and he wouldn't care what they thought. If he can't do that then he either doesn't love you or he is not a real man.

Q: The guy that I think is "the one" is moving 1,959 miles away from me and I having a hard time imagining life without him, sure we tease each other but it will never be the same without him. Also I don't know whether to tell him if I love him so much that I can't live without him or wait to see what happens. He is also my best guy friend and we have a very strong friendship. We talk to each other about everything and I really need some advice before I get too depressed. Please anyone? :'(

Mine is moving back to Mexico in 3 days. The way I see it is you have nothing to lose. Tell him how you feel and if you guys are really that good of friends then it probably won't be that bad of a problem either way.

Q: 19/f
For some reason I have noticed that I have always been more attracted to "bad boys." My stomach seems to flip for the guys who treat me the worst. I end up dating sweet and romantic guys but in the end I have dumped them for players and jerks who didn't have true feelings for me. This has happened about 3 times since I started dating at age 14. Is there any explanation for this?

I don't know if this is really accurate but I had a friend who dated bad boys because she liked the thought of being able to change them or something like that. That may not be the case for you but but its a possibility.

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I am 19 and I have gone through so much in the last few years. If you send me a question, I will try to answer it to the best of my ability. Don't hesitate to ask me for advice!