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Okay so I have been with my boyfriend for almost three months and, in my mind, things have seemed to be going okay. I'm 16 he's 15 and this is the first relationship for both of us, we're also both quite shy people so the relationship is moving quite slowly. We see each other most days at school and we've met up a few times at weekends and we don't text an awful lot. People say that we can't really class ourselves as being in a relationship and that we're being pathetic. I can kind of see what they're saying seeing as we don't make any physical contact with each other - we've awkwardly hugged once but that's as far as we've got.
I wouldn't mind moving things on a bit faster and being in contact with him more but I'm not really sure how to go about it. I have social anxiety so I am constantly scared of saying something wrong or annoying him by texting him too much.
Also, my best friend told me the other day that she and this other boy basically forced my boyfriend into asking me out. I had no idea about this now I'm worried that maybe he didn't have any intention of asking me out and he only did it to stop people bothering him.
On the other hand, he has bought me really nice presents for Christmas, Valentines Day and my birthday and always responds very quickly and positively whenever I suggest we meet up. He spends time with me at school rather than his friends and always seems to be happy spending time with me.
Basically I'm confused - I want a relationship that people don't class as pathetic but I don't know if that's what he wants. (link)
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First of all, who cares what others think. If you personally want a relationship with your boyfriend more close, then you have all right to have that.
I would suggest that you talk to your boyfriend and tell him you heard about the asking you out and would like to know what is that about. After you hear what he has to say then you can decide where you guys stand. As for him caring, it seems he does since he shows he cares in thoughtful ways. But it would be nice to hear it from him and this way you will feel more sure of what you guys have.
I understand you are shy and so is he, nothing wrong with that. We all are different and some are out there and some are more quiet, and that\'s okay.
Do what your heart desires and not what others think you should do.
I\'m here if you need more advice.
Stay happy and enjoy life to the fullest.
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I am 21/f,from India, i had a relation in my past,but my ex tortured me mentally and physically and forcefully do sex with me.so i ended with him.after that i met my present boyfriend,started to love him.but because of my shameful past,i feel ashmed to tell him about my past affair.and i lied to him.but 9month ago my bf came to know about my past and asked about it and i told him everything.but now he feels that i used him,i deceived him,all the time he talking about my past give me no respects.he thinks that i am not a good girl or have any quality to be with him because i am not a virgin(we had also sex 2times),but his problem is that i slept with my ex,so i am just worthless for him.he can't understand my problems,my feelings,always drills me with my past and argued with me. I LOVE HIM SO MUCH,i know i was wrong that i lied to him.but am sorry for that.and wants marry him. But he can't forgive me. Plz suggest me something. (link)
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Girl you didn't lie to him. A lie is when someone ask you something and you don't say the truth. This guy didn't ask did he?
First of all, YOU ARE WORTH A LOT!!! Everyone has a past and so don't feel worthless because you went thru what you went thru. This Ex guy you dated manipulated you mentally and physically and that isn't your fault. You cared for him and wanted him and he didn't appreciate you. So don't carry that with you as a reason to feel worthless. Your worth isn't defined by someone else's behavior.
If your current boyfriend can't understand this then it is his problem not yours. Explain to him that you weren't ready to talk about your past and that you didn't talk because of that. If he insist feeling betrayed then give him space. Just let him clear his mind and you clear yours.
Once again you didn't do nothing wrong and your past shouldn't define you. You are complete and worth a lot.
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theres this guy i like and he steals some glances at me sometimes and smiles at times and talks to me here and there what are 5 ways tto know he likes me? (link)
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He seems to like you to act that way with you.
Have you tried bringing out an invite? Like when you guys talk try to see what you both have in common. Then try setting up an invite.
Let me know if you have any more advice.
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Im 22, boyfriend is soon to be 26. Been together for 6 months. He by far treats me better than anyone and Im starting to really care for and love him. He's had a very bad past, and used to abuse pills and drugs and a lot of stuff. At the beginning I caught him abusing pills about 3-4 times. I could tell by the way he acted and a couple times he ended up telling me he did take one. He knew I wouldn't wanna be with him if he's doing that. Well, now i am certain he's gotta be doing something. He tells me he smokes weed sometimes, yet for months and months he's said how proud he is that he hasn't smoked at all. I confronted him the other day if he took pills and I told him I notice how sick he looks and gets out of no where and how he can't keep it up during sex. He'll look pale, complain about his heart beating weird, start sweating, sometimes feels cold to touch, and complains about not feeling right. That's when he said no I smoke sometimes though. Anyone know sure tell signs of someone taking pills? The ones he would be taking is like xanax or serious pain killers. He acts sketchy but I have no sure way to find out. What are signs? I don't think smoking the weed he smokes, which is wax (thc wax like marijuana) would do those symptoms? Plus, he's had those symptoms when he's been with me all day and I know he didn't have time to go smoke (I would have smelled it) (link)
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I'm truly sorry to hear you are going thru this. I know how happy you are to have found a guy that treats you very good and unfortunate that he is feeling this way.
To answer your questions on your bf. There is nothing you can do for him. He needs to want to leave whatever he is taking and only he can do that. Try talking him and asking him why he continues to do this to himself when he feels this bad. See how he responds. Tell him you love him and want to help him, but can only do that if he is willing to put in the work. Don't scream or get angry at him just see how he behaves.
If he continues his ways or doesn't want to change then you need to think of yourself. Are you going to allow this to hurt you or are you going to walk away.
I'm here if you need anything.
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A little background, my boyfriend and I are 24 and 25. A month ago he got his second DUI. He does not have the means to pay for a lawyer so I offered to help. I gave my card to him to give to the lawyer but I never signed anything allowing my permission and what not.
Anyway, today I find out my BF has lied to me for about the millionth time (my fault I suppose for sticking around). I became so livid and the first thing I could think to do was to text him and tell him I am canceling the payment to the lawyer. So, I e-mailed the lawyer and got the card canceled. I have calmed down a lot since and feel like the biggest bitch in the world for doing that. I feel that I overreacted and am looking for advice on how to fix it. Thought about emailing the lawyer explaining I just didn't want anything charged till I could read an agreement. I don't know what to do just feel bad for actually going through with it.
I understand my BF was in the wrong for lying but ultimately I could have reacted differently. Just need help please. (link)
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I think you're making excuses for his behavior. You clearly state that he has lied many times over and over. Why do you keep allowing this? I know you love him but when is enough?
I am glad you were able to cancel everything with the lawyer. From what you wrote it seems like you have a very good heart but you have to let him pay for his mistakes. I know it hurts to see him go through stuff but if you are always there for him, he won't ever learn the lessons.
Don't feel guilty girl, you didn't do anything wrong. If he gets mad, just think of all the times he has lied to you.
Hang in there and I'm here if you need anything.
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Me and my boyfriend have just started dating, and he already wants a kid. I am 17 and he is 18, I love kids, BUT I'm not 100% I'm ready. I am a girl to likes to go out and have fun. Any suggestions on how to handle it? (link)
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First of all congrats on your new relationship.
As for having kids, what is the rush? You two are very young have fun together. Having kids isn't easy and you will have to give up many things you enjoy doing.
I would suggest you talk to him and make him understand you want to wait until you are more older to have kids. Also, is their a reason he is rushing into having kids?
A good way to make him see how hard it is to have kids would be to spend time with kids. The more you are around kids the more you will see what a handful they really are.
Enjoy your teenage years and don't do anything you don't want to.
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