I love life, I love my Husband and I love to help people! Thus the reason why I feel compelled i am here on this Earth!
I am starting my own business. Because i want to be a stay at home mother one day! Just got married 10/2005. Extremely happy! He is truly my soul mate!
I have had many experiences in my life both positive and negative. i have had many people tell me that i am very wise for my age. I only hope that i can leave this world knowing that i did the best that i could and helped people.
We are all human- Sometimes we just have to be reminded of that!- kchafin
Website: Traveling Vineyard
E-mail: kimchafin@gmail.com
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Location: South Carolina
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Age: 20
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how do you respond to a guy when he grabs your butt? (link)
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2 ways-
1 If the butt grab was out of line of unwelcomed then firmly ask him not to do that again- if he does then seek harrassment charges. tell a teacher or tell a parent this can easily lead to unwelcomed things- such as rapes and sexual harrassment
2 if the booty grab was welcomed- then all you have to do is turn and smile and walk off! Maybe throw a wink in. ;)
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me and my boyfriend are allllways bored at my house... what can we do besides sexual things.. like wrestle, etc. (link)
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when my husband i were dating we used to play wrestle that's always fun. Also you can buy a deck of cards and learn new games together. Get board games or hang out with other couples/friends. Play video games together, go for a walk, go for a drive, have a hobby together. Take interests in each other's hobbies.
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I've never had a boyfriend, and I know for a fact this guy is going to ask me out this week. I want to say yes, but what do I do? Just say yes? (link)
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Of course say YES!
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Okay so, this weekend I'm gonna be hanging out with some friends. One of them being the boy who has a little crush on me. I kindof have one on him too, the only problem is when we're around eachother we talk BUT we mostly walk away and talk to other people. So, my question is..What are some cute, flirty things I can say and do to get his attention? I want to talk to him throughout the whole time we hangout..I really need some GOOD answers. Even if it's just one thing PLEASE SAY IT! Anything at all will help. Being/talking with this boy all day would make my year. THANKS IN ADVANCE! (link)
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does he have interests/hobbies? if so then bring that up and talk about that.
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okay, well i have no idea what to get my boyfriend for christmas.
he doesnt like sports, nor fishing etc..
he is more into music
and i would like to get him something more special then just concert tickets or somthing.
pllllease help with cute ideas
thank you!! (link)
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well my cousin did this really cool gift for his girlfriend - here's what he did
wrapped up a huge box (computer box) had it rigged so that when she opened the "first" box it triggered rubberbands to unwind and confetti went everywhere. Inside that box was a small gift (gloves, scarf) then another box inside the large one with another gift and so on and so forth. When she finally got to the bottom of all 5 boxes there was an envelope with her name on it and it had concert tickets in it. I thought that was the most romantic gift that i had ever seen. It cost that much since he created it himself and she had so much fun opening it!
hope this helps!
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k so i know i dont have that good of self confidence.. does it atract girls or turn girls off if so tell me how i can change this please.. i have a problem with being happy with myself
15/m (link)
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honestly. Depends on how self confident you are. If you are more so on the "cocky" side that is a serious turn off. If you are on the other side then that is perfect!
Also it depends on the girl. If someone is attracted to you it really doesnt matter who you are. The most important virtue is to be honest to yourself and others. that is a very rare virtue and one that is greatly appreciated. Basically just be your sweet self! no worries
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alright, there's this junior at my school. we'll call him mark. mark liked me and another one of my friends and wanted to hook up with one of us. neither of us really cared so we both tried to get with him. we both started to like him a little. now mark likes me more, my friend is like madly in love with someone else and i realized i don't like him at all anymore. at all. he's a pervert, and he's cool, but he doesn't make me feel like other guys have made me feel. like i want to feel. actually, i don't feel anything for him, except guilt.
ANYWAY, TO SUM THIS UP:
mark likes me, I don't like him, i'm completely leading him on from when i DID like him, and now i feel like i should go out with him because seriously, i'm COMPLETELY leading him on, because i'm retarded, but i really don't want to, and i can't just be like "um no" after making him think it was all good.
I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DOO.
btw: "mark"'s a junior, & i'm a freshman. but he's only one year older than me because i transfered from iowa, where the cut-off's different. i'm 15 and he's 16.
ahhh, help me!! he wants to hang out this weekend, and he's cool and i'm down with that, but omg.....i don't want him to think it's a group date or something! (link)
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You should definatly tell him how you feel! You guys can hang out and be friends that's cool! Don't lead him on that will only cause hurt not only for him but also for you as well as you have already mentioned. Be honest- it might not be comfortable at first but if he falls for you then he really won't be happy! Don't ever ever date someone out of guilt or any other reason other than the most acceptable one- You care for the person. If you care for this guy at all in the slightest way you'll talk to him! Don't just use the crap - let's be just friends he's a human being and he'll get over it just be honest with him. But don't word it like you did in this column. :) Life is too short to be doing things you don't want to do!
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I am 17, and my boyfriend is 18.My boyfriend and I have been together now for almost a year and we are promised to each other to get married, I love him so much and i have never felt like this about any guy before until now. The thing is that he and I have a guy best friend Jake and when my boyfriend moved away to TN our other friend Jake and i started hanging out and i had a slight infatuation with him but i still was in love with my boyfriedni had to be honest so i told my boyfriend about how i felt and i ended up secretely dating both of them for a week, i broke it off with Jake because i felt so guilty about cheating, and my boyfriend knows. He knows how i feel and that we will be together froever but he has a massive trust issue with me. What can i do to make this trust issue go by faster so we can be happy together again? (link)
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First of all- the first step was you telling him! good job on that! I had a similar situation in my relatinship. So i can empathize with you! Honestly you don't want to hear this but it takes time! You have to make him feel that he can trust you. You have to work together to get past this because if he keeps these issues bottled up then your relationship could fail as a result. You have to be very understanding and supportive of how he must feel right now. He feels betrayed - confused- imbarrassed and i am sure many more. Guys dont usually say what they feel or what they think so you may have to pull conversations out of him. the best thing to do is talk about it - BUT don't let him keep throwing it in your face it's over and done and he needs to accept that and move on- if he can't accept that then there's a problem. HE must be assured that you will never ever betray him again. Guys are more insecure that they let on but they will never show because that's a weakness- you have to be there for him. do not see this other guy again - if JAKE was a friend to either of you he never would have done that- i don't care what he says that's not cool!
Basically you both have to be patient and need lots of quality time and with time on your side you guys have nothing to lose!
Best wishes
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How do you know if a guy truely loves you when they say they do? If he stares at you for a while and says that he loves you does that mean he truely loves you i just need to kno how do you know when a guy really loves a girl.. (link)
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He can stare at you until he's blue in the face it doesn't mean that he loves you.
Here's the trick love is just a 4 letter word. You have to show someone you love them and not just say it or play google eyes. It's in the way he treats you- how does he introduce you to people- does he respect you- does he respect your family - is he into things you like to do (merely because he wants to be with you) - if this is true love you can feel it in your heart and your soul and you can feel it in his touch. (not sex) he loves you he makes sacrafices- relationships you have to give and take. it's not one sided at all. These are just some things to look for. But ultimately you are tuly the only one that knows if it's love or not. Sounds like to me that you have doubts otherwise why would you even have to ask.
Much happiness- don't settle for anything strive for the real thing- true LOVE
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ok so i was getting to know this kid named sam right yeh he broke up with girl friend a while ago and his ex was just macking on my best friend victor so then me and sam get to know each other for about like give or like take a like month so then like we should text each other saying i love you and all thats lovey dovey shit so then i find out that he leds me on for like two weeks and not only does his ex like hate me but he is now hokking back up with tahts tupid slut only because she fucked him and doesnt want him macking on other girls but she can mack on other guys UGHHHHHHH I FUCKIN HATE HER AND I REALLY LIKES HIM BUT HE IS SUCH A SICK PUPPY so like i met this guy named derik to and like were friends and all but ughhh i dont know what to do with sam that stupid fagg HELP PLEASEEE (link)
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You don't need that LOSER! Life is too short to worry about such petty stuff. You will find someone that is perfect for you and will love you- not use you! This person will love you unconditionally and will be there for you to wipe your tears when you are sad and to calm you when you are mad. I know you might feel awful right now and angry but it will pass. you will have people come and people go in and out of your life and someone that acts like this is just not worth it!
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my b/f jordan was put in a mental hospital Thursday morning. he told his guidence counselor that he thought the best way to keep him mom and dad from fighting is to kill himself. his mom and dad are dicorced going on 6 yrs now. he has been in that place for 5 days now. everyone knows not to trust the governmeant. he knows that so he wont take the pills and medication that they are giving him. they think he is paranoid because of that. he says that he thinks someone is out to get him. when he looks at people he can see a glowing light around there heads. they have labled him as schitzoefrinik. sorry i don't know how to spell it. they say he thinks he hears voices.
i don't know what to do. if he does kill himslef im gona kill myself because i don't want to be alone. i love him to death and i dont want to lose him! i am not family so i can talk to him on the phone or go see him. i think about him all the time. what do i do with my life while he is in there? i only 14 and we have been dating since i was 11. he is now 16 and i don't have a clue as what to do right now. i miss him so much. please help me (link)
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It sounds to me from your entry that maybe your boyfriend does need help. At the least needs to talk with professionals that can help him sort thru what he is going through. You have to be there for him! do not encourage his suicidal thoughts by letting him know you are thinking of it as well. He is going thru a very hard time right now and he needs to feel that someone understands him. Sounds like you 2 have a wonderful relationship- so if you love him then be positive for him. Noone can control your destiny but YOU! Be smart! Talk to your family and/or friends about this- do not feel that you are alone because i assure you - you are not. Remember you always have GOD! He loves you and he will be there for you no matter what! Prayer changes lives!!
Best wishes and please you are way too young to be so sad! Believe me it will get a lot better sometimes you have to go to the deepest depths of sorrows to see the light! But trust me!! The light is ALWAYS there!!! ALWAYS! Take it from someone who has seen A LOT of sorrow! :)
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for the past 5 months. he broke it off, and i'm heart broken! its been atleast a month, {the whole reason he did it in the first place was because he told me that he loved me, i kinda sorta freaked out because i didn't want him to just be joking with me and then i tell him that i'm in love with him and he says i was jking.} but i am in love with himm!! i didn't realize this until we ended it. we still "date" but we're just not official. like we do everything we did while we were dating but, we're just not official. all of his friends tell me that he acts like he wants me back, and i've heard it from like everyone. but he doesnt' really talk to his friends about me like you know i do to my friends about him, so i'm just confused on what to do....
i really really really really really want him back but i'm not sure like what i should do? (link)
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I hate to stereotype but too often guys are scared of the "C" word (commitment). Definately if you guys have a great friendship- talk to him! because if this guy is your one and only true love then you don't want to let him go. Believe me you will know if he is your one and only. But just incase you have any doubts i'll tell you what my mom told me (yes my mom)She asked me the most important question of my live!
"Think of tomorrow and what if for some reason something happened and you could never-ever see this guy again" " How would that feel?" Well you answer that question and you KNOW what to do!
If the answer is however the opposite of what you expect- then keep a wonderful friendship and MOVE on- you owe that to him and yourself!
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ok, so me and my girls six month is on thanksgiving, shes gonna be at her aunts, so when she comes home, shes gonna see me sitting at her front steps with 6 white roses and a necklace/ring(dont know which to get) for her. anyother ideas? (link)
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That sounds great! It is very nice to have someone simply appreciate you the way that you describe. I say go with the necklace that way you don't have to know her size.
Good Luck on your love!
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