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i have this friend and she talks to this quy but she isnt sure if he is right for her he is always hiddinq stuff from her & he doesnt seem to respond to most of her textes . i dont know i really care for her i quess wanna know how to help her outt
siqned :
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p.s can you help quick please (link)
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Does she really like him? Because it doesnt sound like he really likes her. Tell her that you wouldnt put your friendship on the line if you thought you didnt have to get involved. Then tell her what you think. If she's a true friend then she'll value your opinion. If not, she'll come around soon enough. Guys like that never cause trouble between close girl friends for long. Good luck x
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the right thing to do to break up with someone is to do it in person but like what do you do as an allday type thing? do we go to the movies or to one of our houses or what?
how akward will it be finishing off the day since i would have to drive him home and he lives 50 min away. i dont think my heart could take it to see him sad especially for that long.
how and what do i do? (link)
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Tell him you need to talk. That should maybe give him a hint.Tell him before you meet up that you'll have to be somewhere afterwards so you can't give him a lift home. Then meet at a park or something and keep it short. If its really what you want to do then get it done and leave. Dont give him the opportunity to change your mind. Good luck x
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16/f : sorry its so long. i need help!
so over a week ago my boyfriend of 8 months broke up with me. it was random because nothing was that wrong that week. normally things use to get really ugly because i use to get frustrate because we couldnt see each other during the week and i took it out on him.
once he broke up with me he texted me right after saying it was a break for now and i believed it because he had nationals this weekend and this is something he needs to focus on cause its do or die for getting in to college. but the next day after he broke up with me i texted him bugging him by what he had meant by the break and he said that we were done but then the next day he said we werent then again the next day he said we were done again. i was confused but i know i pushed an answer out of him and i think he just wanted me to shut up but im not sure? does he really mean its over or was he just trying to get rid of me so he could focus for this weekend?
the only reason he gave me for the breakup was that his feelings faded but then the last text he sent me was im just busy and i got that. it just made it seem like things were still open and he just needed time away.
im not sure if im just making this up in my head or if we could still get back together. his regionals were this weekend and i havent talked to him in five days because everyone said i should keep away which i have. but his birthday is on thursday and im gonna say happy birthday but is that all i should say? ive been thinking myself about things and i figured some stuff out and i would like to tell him but i dont know if it would be too much or not. (link)
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Wait til his birthday. Then text him saying something like 'happy birthday i hope you have a great day and that regionals went well' and see if he responds. if he doesnt, forget him. if he does, keep talking. if the conversation results in you two getting back together then make sure he knows its his last chance. his head might be all over the place if he has important competitions, or he could just have gone off you. either way, only talk to him on his birthday, when you have a reason to. don't say anything too full on to him to start with. keep it simple. but if he doesnt treat you like you deserve to be treated then get out, because its not worth it. good luck x
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i have ben with my boyfriend for nearly three months and i really feel like we need to breakup but i cant bring myself to it. for the past month i have thought we needed to, iv even tried to piss him off and iv brought it up to him but covered it up because he is head over heels in love with me. i feel horrible about it but i cant bring myself to do it at all, how do i go about doing this without hurting him too badly? and dont say just do it. any tips, tricks? 16/f (link)
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1.Meet up.
Pick somewhere neutral like a park or go for a walk.
2.Plan what you're going to say.
Something like 'thank you for the past three months, they have been amazing but i just feel that its best if we go or separate ways' blah blah blah.
3.Say it.
Get it over with quickly so that he doesn't have a chance to convince you to take him back.
4.Leave.
Tell him that you'll always care about him and be there for him if he needs you but that you have to go. Tell him that you'll talk to him tomorrow.
It wont be easy or nice, but it never is.
Good luck x
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Ok, I love my boyfriend to death. He is so amazing except for one thing; he's TOO honest. I know, I know it sounds stupid but I don't know...sometimes we play this little question game like if we're bored or something and we just ask each other questions. I know I probably shouldn't ask questions if I'm so afraid of the answers but I don't know...I guess I just expect him to answer all of my questions nice and sweet for some reason. Ok, for example: The other day I asked him if he thought he would get tired of me if he hung out with me for too long and he said "yeah, probably...I have to have time for hobbies and stuff" and it's like I know that logically, what he's saying makes sense, but would it have really hurt for him to just say "No, of course not!" or something? :( It just seems that he doesn't really think about how sometimes his honesty can hurt me...I mean part of me feels ridiculous for even being upset about this because all anyone ever wants in a relationship is honesty right? But on the other hand, this isn't the first time he's done this...and then after he says it and I explain that it hurts me, he's just like "Yeah, I can see how that would have hurt you"...I don't think he understands how much it hurts me? I don't know...what do you guys think I should do? Or should I just drop it? (link)
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If you love him to death then this is a part of him that you'll have to get used to. Is his honesty problem getting better with time? I don't think you should encorage him to be dishonest but explain to him that sometimes you would rather he thought about how what he was saying would make you feel and possibly twist the truth as a result. For instance, if you asked him would he get tired of you if you hung out for too long, he could answer with something like 'not if we found loads of activities to do'. Talk to him about it and if he's the amazing boyfriend you say he is then he'll understand and listen. Otherwise, think how long you can last like this. Sometimes, just relax a bit, I'm sure he's not saying these things to hurt you. Good luck x
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19/f
I have been dating my boyfriend for about 11 months now and I am so in love with him. We are very serious and I see an amazing future with him - but theres just one problem.
I's not that big of a deal but he has a little bit of a wandering eye. While I know he would never cheat on me, he constantly tells me which girls he thinks are "total babes" and which celebrities he would love to get with. I know this is normal, but it makes me uncomfortable and insecure. When we go to the beach, he stares at other women. Just the other day he took one of my lingerie catalogs and was drooling over the girls while I was sitting right next to him. When I get mad or upset about it he just laughs or blows me off.
And it's started to make me feel like I'm not enough, and that's why he looks elsewhere. I used to be very confident and outgoing but now I feel like if I were just skinnier or had bigger breasts that maybe I could keep his attention. Now I feel uncomfortable having him see me naked and he complains all the time. He gets frustrated because I won't stay naked after sex or strip for him.
I tried explaining to him why I've gotten so insecure and how him gawking at other girls bothers me but he laughed it off or changed the subject. It's embarassing, I don't know how else to go about it.
I realize he is portrayed in a negative light in this question but he really is amazingly sweet, caring, funny and and all-around great boyfriend. I know he's in love with me and I want to be with him but hate feeling this way. How can I solve this issue?
Thanks for all who reply.
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No relationship is perfect, all relationships have problems but you seem genuinely upset and stuck about this. You can't see that theres anything left for you to do. Tell him that its upsetting you to the point of you considering to end the relationship and ask him that if he is going to look at other girls (which is normal) that he does it while he isn't with you. Encourage him to go out with his mates, just a group of guys, to give him the opportunity to have a testosterone filled night and enjoy being a lad. Obviously, only do this if you trust him to stay faithful. But then after spending a night out with his boys, get him to spend a night just with you. If hes a good boyfriend like you say he is, he'll understand your problems and that you're upset. If he doesn't accept that it upsets you then think about yourself and how much longer you can be in a relationship like this. If you can't see yourself lasting long then end it so you can find someone that deserves you and considers your feelings. Good luck x
Hey I'm responding to your feedback :)
I think that you really don't seem happy in your relationship. The long distance must put a serious strain on your relationship and the lack of contact between you must be really hard for you to deal with. You seem like the type of person that needs a bit more attention than you're getting at the moment and from what you've told me, I think that you should seriously consider ending your relationship. I know it must be hard for you but I feel like the way you talk about him, you know that the relationship is coming to an end but you're trying to come to terms with it and get someone to convince you that actually you're being really silly and selfish. Well I don't think you are and I think that you must have loads of good things to say about him but for now, it's not working out. Maybe take a break if you really aren't sure? But otherwise, go out and find someone that meets all of your needs :) Good luck and I hope you find this helpful xx
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well i really like this boy and i dont know how to show it he means the world to me and we broke up yesturday and i really love him. i never felt like this.he tells me time but i want him so badly. he says he loves me and i dont know what to do to get his attention to get him back? we been together for four months and i dont want that down the drain. he met my family and everything and i dont want to lose him i cry alot now. (link)
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So you say he loves you, and you love him? You need to have a conversation with him, in a park or somewhere neutral and talk about your future together. If he is reluctant, tell him that you just want one last chance to explain everything to him. Tell him how much you love him. Tell him that you don't want to lose him. If you've only just broken up then theres a chance that you could make it work. But if you can't convince him then you have to accept that and leave him behind and be strong. Good luck x
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