Hi there! I'm glasses. I'm here to help people with any problems. I'm good at answering just about anything from friends to relationships to homework and just about anything your heart needs to spill! I'm in high school and I can still answer a lot of things people can't understand themselves. I love you all! :)
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I'm a sophomore female in high school and I have been so confused about my sexuality. I've never dated a guy because no one has ever asked or had interest in me I guess. But for a long time my own friends thought I was lesbian because I'm a very affectionate person. I like giving hugs and I like holding hands with my friends when we walk down the hallway like idiots. But I only like giving hugs to certain girls, and I always get awkward or nervous around them. These girls were both on my team and have helped me so much and would always look out for me. I can't tell if I like them. Like I want to be with them and I want to talk to them and this will sound super weird but I sometimes daydream about them and make up scenarios about them being there for me and giving me hugs and making me feel better. That last part probably sounds really weird but I'm serious. I think I like guys. But I can't tell if I like them too. I wouldn't be ashamed if I liked them. But what am I? I just want to know who to love. (link)
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Hi there,
I can tell you're confused and probably a little nervous about what you are. Sometimes, people think they may be gay or lesbian but they don't know or are confused like you. But you are older. A sophomore is usually 16 so I'll assume you're at that age or you soon will be. If you've been feeling this way only for a few years, there's nothing to worry about. Just like you said, you are an affectionate person. That's normal. One of my friends who we thought was lesbian for the longest time is just like you and hugs people constantly and is super cute like that. If you are like her, odds are you are straight. But if you have been having thoughts like that since you were younger, yet you think you like guys, you just might be "Bi". It means you like BOTH boys and girls. I also have a friend who's bi and he used to describe to me the same thing you did with your thoughts about wanting affection from certain people. It's okay to like both genders. There is nothing wrong with being lesbian, bi, gay, or straight. You are still the same person. You may like someone different than your cultures "norm" but in the name of love, BE DIFFERENT! And if you ever date a guy and you don't really feel like it's right, that's okay. And if you end up actually liking those two friends of yours that I will assume are also female, go for it. Tell them how you feel. Don't be afraid of rejection. At least tell them how you feel but only because you are seeking for comfort or help on what they think about your sexuality as well. I really hope this helps! ~glasses
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I am so confused. I dont know what to do anymore. I am depressed all the time. To the point where all I want to do is cry and at times it takes all I have not to. I feel so alone. I have been married for 8 years but we never talk and lately he and I have been sleeping in separate rooms. We dont even argue we just dont talk. I know I am not happy anymore and I havent been for a long time. But we have children together and this is the only serious relationship I have ever had. To top it all he is controlling so I have never had a job and I dont know if I can support myself or my kids without him. I dont want to be miserable forever but I am terrified of life without him. I dont know how to survive without him. And I have absolutly no friends not a single one because my high school friends and I have drifted apart and I am not allowed out to have any. And I have no family I grew up in foster homes. So without him I am completely alone. I have no one to turn to. No one to stay with til I get on my feet. Am I being selfish by wanting a life of my own. What do I do? Where do I go from here? (link)
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Hi there! Wow this is a very serious question. I'm only in high school so I don't know much about marriage, but I do know that you need to talk to your husband about how you feel. And is it really up to him to decide if you should get a job? And if you and him decide your relationship isn't working out, then when he is gone, GET A JOB! He can't control your whole life just because he's the man. You have a say in your relationship too. You need to lay down the law with him and if he doesn't like that, leave him. You can start out a new life. Find a nice job and find a nice affordable apartment or house, (depends on the job you get) and find a place not to far away so you can still have your kids for weekends or week nights (whatever the plan is). You deserve a good life and if he isn't the right guy, then you can find another one. Your kids will have to understand that if you and your husband aren't happy being together anymore, you just want to move on. You can't let him control your life. Make a new life, get a job, find friends from work, find a new place to call home, find a new bf, and make life work. You can make your life so much better if you have the chance to decide. Good luck. If you need anymore advice, ask me because I am here for you. Good luck and I really hoped this helped.
~glasses
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Jist of what happened in the past
- I liked his best friend, same college
- We met and even though things got messed up ended up liking each other
- Started dating when he passed out (im still doing my undergrad)
- we have been dating a year. I'm 19 he's 22
- our parents know about us and we have met both sides
- we met in college and then he passed out and started giving exams
- he couldn't clear the exams he gave so his parents got paranoid about him going on the wrong path or getting distracted because of me
- he promised his mom hed clear the last exam for us to prove to her he can do something
- he started working with this ngo in town so we would see each very often
- our friends knew and he even told his best buds that he'd marry me if we continue dating for a while
- we never had any problems even though he is a bit flirtatious with other women he was loyal to me
- Had a few fights because of the guys friends I had but it was all sorted out
A week back since I'm on vacation across the country he texted me saying that his result came out and he didn't clear it so he had to break up to concentrate on his career
He said he still loved me but he had to let this go since we were mad about each other. He said he hoped we got back together but couldn't promise anything for the future and didn't want to give me false hopes.
He said I was the best thing that happened to him. He also said his parents raised him and he needs to make them proud by achieving something in life and hence he needs to give up all the distractions in his life.
Its been a week and he wouldn't answer any of my calls or messages and has completely cut off. He told his friends he called it off and didn't give a reason and he wouldn't reply back to my friends at all.
I don't know what to do. I want him back because I love him even if it involves waiting but I don't know what is going on in his mind. I am also scared out of stupidity hed go any do something really reckless to get over me.
I don't know what to say to him when we meet when I get back but I am willing to do anything to rectify this. Do you have any advice as to why this happened and it could truly get him back? Or am I living in a dream world where fairytales exist and he is truly over me? (link)
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Hi there. Awe I feel bad for you. But, on your bf's part, I kinda have to agree with him. If he wants to become really successful, he has to get all of the things that might distract him out of his life temporarily. He does love you and still does. Have you ever heard the quote, "If you truly love something, set it free, and if it comes back, it's yours." He loves you so much, he had to set you free. He said that he didn't want you to have high hopes for him to come back. He just want you to be happy and to find a guy who loves you and won't leave you. He's blocking you out not just to keep him concentrated, but he truly does miss you and can't have any connection to you or he will be at loss. He set you free, but you can't come back, it will affect his future. If you truly loved him, you would respect that. You also have to set him free. If he comes back, he's yours. But like he said, "he con't promise anything and he doesn't want to give you false hopes." Find someone else and let go. Because if you don't, this relationship will hurt you forever. I hope you will find someone like him one day. Stay strong. Ask me anything if you want any more advice.
~glasses
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My boyfriend and I are both 22 years old and have been dating for 3 years. I feel as if he "jokes around" way too much by grabbing my "lady parts" per se in public and I tell him to stop and he doesn't. I feel like the only time he tries to be romantic or nice is when he's trying to get it in with me and I can tell it isn't genuine. He stopped doing alot of the cute date things he used to do and I he gets mad when I don't give him sex. It's so frustrating. I do love him but he gets mad because we only have sex on "my terms". But it's hard to get turned on to him when I feel like a giant meatsack being grabbed all of the time. I tried talking to him but he just gets mad and says things like "I can't believe you think I only care about sex blahblah" and then turns the whole thing around. Please help. (link)
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Hi there! This is a sticky situation. I really hate telling you this, but I don't think he really loves you for you. This is a guy who wants you for your good looks and body. I know you love him, but if you want to be hurt and get pregnant from a man like him, you have to be crazy. He does only care about sex and won't be strong enough to admit it. There are so many other guys in the world looking for someone nice and kind and don't look for sex or beauty. You need to find that guy. In my advice, you should break up with him and find a guy who loves you for who you are. And don't try for someone good looking because that's not love. That's lust. But you don't have to take my advice. This is your decision. I really hope things can work out. I'm praying for you! If you need any more advice, please ask and I will answer immediately!
~glasses
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Hi,
i am a female and 25 years old. I liked the answer u gave that girl. I am over thinking and i am scared about myself that am i becoming a girl attracted girl? I am so frustrated from one month and can't not concentrate in anything. I have a bf and we are engaged. But i want to get rid of the thinking. I always think will i be like them? I belong to Hinduism religion. I love my bf so much. but i just don't want to think about these topic anymore.
Please please help me as early as possible cause i have final soon. (link)
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Hi there! Awe this is a tough problem. Well, it just might be a stage when you think your becoming a girl attracted to another girl. It's okay. I can bet you 75% of all girls in the world have thought about it before. You have a bf and since you both will be married soon, you should tell him how you feel. I bet he will give you good advice. I hope this helps, and if you need anything else, please ask me and I will help you! :)
~glasses
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