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So I have a boyfriend that I have been with for over 3 months.4 months on the 9th.And since about the first week or 2 of our relationship of dating, he's fingered me.Seems like everytime we get together, he wants to do that.No matter where we are.It's not that it's all that bad, But I don't want it all the time you know.Sometimes I just wanna hold him or kiss him or whatever.Or he even likes to you know, feel me up and whatever.It's not that I don't like it, it's just kind of over whelming you know?And yes I still am a virgin, But he's not.It's not that I don't want to, it's just I think it's too early in the relationship to consider losing it.And I don't think I'm ready quite yet.I know he wants it, But he's not forcing it or anything.Anyways, everytime I try something new with him, it seems like he expects it more if that makes sense.Recently he's been really wanting a BJ,But I've been hesistant and so far I've done it twice to him, But only because I'm returning the favor and satisfying him.I don't want to bore him you know?He's older so he's more experienced and what not , but I don't know.Sometimes I feel like I'm not up to his level anymore.Maybe I'm way over my head.I mean we don't fight.I tend to whine sometimes , But it's nothing serious.I'm just curious , should I worry or change something.I don't know if I doing anything wrong or whatever.Is it too soon to think I might be in love.I can't stop thinking about him, I always want to be with him or talk to him and always concerned to what he's doing and if he's okay.I just want him to be happy as well as myself.I always put people before myself.I really don't want to lose him though...any inputs? (link)
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Whether you think so or not, he is pressuring you to go further than what you are comfortable with. You have the choice. It's your body. And considering the risks that come along with sex - such as pregnancy and disease, you have a right to be concerned (AND FYI - Oral sex can transmit STD's as well). Considering that he's had experience, he is definately a risk in the STD department (has he been tested?). Tell him you are not ready (and you're not or you wouldn't be questioning). Tell him he has to slow down. If he doesn't respect that, then he doesn't really care about you and he's not worth it. You shouldn't be doing anything "only to return the favor". Sex is a big deal and should be treated as such. I know that people think that its okay to have casual sex, but if you give it away to everyone, than what's left to be special about. When you fall in love one day (and I mean really head-over-heels, no question about it love)don't you want to experience all that amazing stuff with that person - not just someone you may or may not love who may or may not love you back? Bottom line, your gut tells you you are "way over your head." You are. Slow down fast. You're not prepared for the consequences yet.
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OKk...
During the school year, me and this guy went out for two months. (because it was middle school, that was a long relationship). We ended up breaking up after i had my first kiss with him, and after we broke up, i found out that he held hands with 2 other girls (not at the same time). And that he was squeezing another gurls boobs and slapping her butt while we went out. Then, two days after we break up, he tells my best friend that he is like in love with her. I was really hurt by him but after a while we kind of made up and we're friends now. Well i went to the pool today and we talk ALL the time, and he flirts constantly with me,, and i with him. Well, i like him again, and i'm pretty sure that he likes me too. So, Do you think it's a good idea for me to take him back after what he did? Or should i just forget about hiM/ (link)
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Since any good relationship is based on trust, the only question you really need to ask yourself is "Can I TRUST him?" If the answer is no, then you need to move on.
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sorry if this is long but it's making me so upset.
so i went out with 'tom' for almost a year and a half. it was good in the beginning but after awhile i began to like him less and less. it came to the point that the last few months i couldn't even stand him and he was annoying and i ended up always being mean to him because of this. well, while we were going out, there was this girl at work and they always flirted with eachother. in his yearbook she signed a full page saying how much of a best friend he was, and i love you about 10 times atleast. i was there when he was reading it and he just had the biggest smile on his face. he always had stories about her and i asked him, why do you always talk about her. and all he said was because he worked with her. he used to call me right when we got home from school, at 2:30, but for the last few months the only time we would talk (if he worked) was 3 minutes while he was on his way to work. then, one day i saw him walking and he had a big smile on his face, talking on the phone with someone. this was the same day i read the yearbook. i told my friend, if he's talking to 'kayla', i'm going to be so pissed off. and i call him, and im like so who were you talking to, "oh, kayla." oh, why? "i just wanted to know who we were working with today" .. oh okay.
seriously, he couldn't wait two hours to SEE who he was working with? did it really matter that much. okay so moving on. i started to get really annoyed by him, so i knew it had to be done because i was wasting both our time, and i dumped him. well he was all like we should stay friends and not stop talking and blah blah blah. well we were okay with calling every couple days, not really serious, and talking. then we stopped talking for a week or more. (i dumped him around 3 weeks ago). so i saw this girl that works with him, and i was told that he went on a DATE with kayla. i was so pissed off. seriously, i knew that they liked eachother WHEN we were going out. oh yeah, and while we were going out, she had a boyfriend that she's been going out for almost TWO YEARS. and a few days ago, they broke up. imagine the coincidence? now we barely talk anymore, and i was kind of talking to him online and he's all like "you were so mean to me for the last 3 months and i know you were serious even though you say you were just kidding. that's why i'm almost over you" this is coming from the kid that was head over heals for me (not to sound conceited), and was so upset when i wanted to on a break. it's been two weeks after our year and a half relationship, and he's already dating some girl. i'm so upset about this. i even told my friends, even if he went out with the prettiest girl in the world, or even one of my FRIENDS, i wouldn't care as much. it's just the fact that it was her. it's not like i like him anymore, maybe i do .. but i thought i didn't for MONTHS at a time. i want to not care anymore, but it's killing me just knowing that they like eachother and it's over. i don't know what to do. we barely talk anymore, it's all her now. how can i stop caring so much, and move on? (link)
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You admitted you couldn't even hardly stand him the last few months of your relationship and was purposely mean to him - obviously you wanted it to be over. What you have is a simple case of the "I want what I can't have." If Kayla wasn't in the picture, it would still be over. You just wanted him to sit back and miss you while you moved on and since he didn't, you're pissed. The best advice I can give you is quit being such a b****, let him be happy. You didn't want him, so let him be with someone who does. You need to move on.
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my boyfriend and i have been going out for a year now, but i know he talks to other girls online. recently, i went on his myspace, he said i could, and read some of his messages. one from his ex that bothered me said
"hey. i wanted to continue our conversation. what where you saying when you said you still like me but like her more?"
another one was from a girl that i have no clue in heaven she is and it was this long love letter saying how she could never get over him and "that night back in october was amazing." we were going out i october.
what should i think? the thing is, his ex lives across the country from us, but i'm still worried. and the other girl lives in our city. what should i think or do about this? (link)
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What more information do you need? Its' staring you in the face! What do you want- pictures? The boy has been playing you for a fool. Don't walk, RUN!!
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What can I do to get over my strange newfound jealousy of my boyfriend watching porn? Before, I never had a probelm with it, but lately I have. I don't know what my problem is. (link)
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This shows that there is something else about your relationship that is making you insecure. Tell your boy to lay off the porn and concentrate a little more on you. Participating is way better than watching!! (THIS IS ONLY IF YOU ARE OF LEGAL ADULT AGE AND IN A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP - USE PROTECTION (THERE ARE STD'S AND PREGNANCY RISKS EVEN WITH PROTECTION)REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE LINKED FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE TO WHOMEVER YOU ARE INTIMATE WITH - DON'T LET IT COME BACK TO HAUNT YOU.
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i feel like im ugly or i am too pushy or my standards r too high...idk i have only started dating when i was in 5th grade the longest relationship i have been in has only lasted 3 months.....now i had a bf that i really loved and really cared about and i still do but he didn't want to be tied down cas basically he wasn't finished fooling around and well our relationship lasted 3weeks and 1day i still having feelings for him and i tryed goin out with other ppl but it just didn't work out i don't know what to do.
so basically i am asking what should i think about if i want to have a long lasting relationship and how should i act towards a guy?
plzz answer asap (link)
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The first thing you should do is back off. The be-all end-all is not having a boyfriend. Although you seem like you like this guy, you seem more concerned on having a long relationship. Take a little hint from the guy -have a little fun first. You have the rest of your life to be settled down. (This does NOT mean be promiscuous)And, just maybe, when this guy sees what a fun RELAXED person you are, you might be able to start a relationship again. Start out having fun and let the relationship develop naturally for seriousness, otherwise it's not worth it.
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