I was in the same situation a few months ago. It didn't turn out well. If you guys aren't even going out yet (which is the impression i get) and he's already putting you down about your parents and stuff, then I would have serious talk with him. Tell him that if he loves/likes you enough to date/go out with you, he should respect the fact that you are younger than him, and that girls that are younger generally don't ge to do as many things as girls his age. If he decides that doing those things is more important than being with you, then he was wasn't right for you. But if he really likes you, and isn't just being pressured into talking to you because of your friend, he most likely will give up doing those things with you for a while.
And, don't do this because your friend wants you to, this is your life, your time, energy, heart and body. Don't be with someone you relaly don't want to be with, just because of your friend.
If he continues to put you down, and you have made it clear to him that when he says those things, it hurts you, you should break up or stop talking to him. I made the mistake of staying with my older guy until he really hurt me, and my parents and all my friends hated him for what he said to me. i just don't want this to happen with you.
Good luck, I hope everything works out well. :)
-Carissa

Don't go out with your ex, you won't be able to stay with him long, and you current boyfriend wouldn't ever go out with you again. At least i would hope not.

I understand how you feel. The same kind of thing happened to me. When you break up with someone, even if you're positive you don't want to be with them anymore, you still don't want to think about them being with anyone else. Espcially if that someone is one of your friends who knows how you used to feel about you ex.
You also said that your new guy is everything you ex wasn't, that was the same with me. It might be that you're missing some of the qualities that your ex has but your new boyfriend doesn't have. You might even miss the things you didn't like about him.
I don't really believe that you ever fall out of love, you always care for people who've loved. You just forget what it felt like to love that person, or become distracted with someone else's love. The best way to forget is to not talk to you ex, and not mention him aorund your friend. If she wants to bring it up, let her, but don't talk about him too long. It'll just hurt. It took me a long time to learn that.
I hope this helped, good luck! :)
-Carissa

I wouldn't write note, because anyone could see the note and read it. You probably should call him on the phone, that way no one else could see or hear what you tell him unless he wants them too. Just tell him that you don't feel the same way about him as he does about you, but that you still want to be friends(if you do), and that you are really flattered that he likes you and all. But stop ignoring him, that is really hurtful.
I hope this helps, :)

you probably should. Tell him that you are sorry you dumped him, and that mostly you did it because of what other people thought, and that it was your insecurities that made you, not completely him. If he's mad about it and hasn't been acting friendly toward you and such, you might want to be careful telling him, since he might be angry with you, and reget whatever you say. But on th eother hand, if he's still talking to you, and isn't acting very resentful, I would tell him!
He might want to go out with you again if you told him, so I'd go for it!
Hope everything works out for the best!
-carissa

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