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E-mail: christyjonescleckler@yahoo.com
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Location: Alabama
Age: 28
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Okay, so i've liked this guy for like legit 3 years. I'm a freshman in high school and he's a sophomore. He's mad popular and really good at sports. He's known that i've liked him ever since he's been in 8th grade and i've been in 7th grade. I like him a lot, and i want him more than anything. And i really wanna get to know this kid, but i'm afraid to say hey to him, or even smile at him. He looks at me constantly, and so do his friends. Sometimes he can't even look away from me, and he gives me mixed signals and looks. What do i do, do i say hi? or no? I'm friends with him on Facebook and whenever he's online i always stare at the screen waiting for him to chat or message me, but he never does. I don't wanna waste my time on him for the rest of my life, i think i may be falling in love with this kid, and i don't even know him. And i see him everywhere. I'm like obsessed, and i don't know why. God gives me tons of signals everyday, but i just am too scared. Is he waiting for me to say hey, or talk to him first? Why would he be waiting for me? he seems like the kind of guy that would never like me, but everyone knows that i like him, even his brother gives me looks. All the girls think he's like mad cute and hot, and he is, but then again other people say he's a tool and such. I just don't wanna believe them. Please help.
sincerely,
a girl who needs answers. (link)
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I had a similar crush in school and i did the SAME thing your doing. Always looking at him, i even wrote him a 4 page letter, put it in his locker, but didnt put my name on it. He never knew it was me, but to THIS DAY i regret not talking to him and putting myself out there, because i will never know what COULD'VE happened because of that. So, as scared as you are, just DO IT! Talk to him, message him on facebook. Whatever you want to do. Take a chance sweetie and do it. If you don't, you will regret it, like me. -Christy
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20 Female. Connor 19
Me and Connor used to "talk" for about 4 months. We actually got really close, like we could talk about everything. That's until he decided he didn't want to talk anymore and blew up on me. We didn't talk for about 2 months and then he eventually apologized twice for being such a jerk and asked if we could still be friends. Connor has a big house, and so they always have these huge parties. Well he said I could come with Joe (One of my good friends, who also knows Connor through hockey) one time and that he hopes to see me over the summer.
I haven't talked to Connor in about a month now since he asked if we could still be friends. Well just yesterday Joe texted me saying "Are we gonna go to Connor's this summer for a party sometime?" and I said "Haha yeah we can but I'm sure it will be kind of weird at first with everything that happened so you can't leave me right away!"
The thing is, I'd really like to see Connor again and be friends. It's just that I know it's gonna be awkward since it would be the first time I'd seen him since everything happened. I know he'd be nice to me but I also wouldn't know anyone except Connor and Joe at the party. I'd hate to be that awkward person. I'm not that good with meeting new people. Once I get to know someone, I'm outgoing but going into a party with a bunch of people I dont know, I will be intimidated.
Plus there is always a lot of girls that go too I guess, so I have a feeling they will be staring at me and being like "Whose that girl?" I know I'd get along good with the guys though.
Do you think I should go? I really want to, I'd obviously be really nervous but I think it'd be good for me. How can I fit in with everyone and not be that "awkward person" Of course it's gonna be even more nerve-wrecking with all those girls there that I don't know (you know how girls can be) so how can I be someone that's approachable? ANY suggestions? Thanks! :) (link)
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I mean all you can do is be YOURSELF and if people don't like that then say screw you!! Don't EVER change for ANYONE! If your shy until you get to know someone a little bit, thats completely okay. Just say "hey" to people as you walk by, smile, don't walk by with your head down and not speak! Then you will be the "awkward" girl! Just hold your head high (with out being cocky), be confident, talk to people, and laugh alot. Let others know that your having a good time. Don't let the girls "intimidate" you! Their nervous just like you are except they just don't let anyone know! If you feel someone looking at you, but not saying anything, just say "hey what's up? or how's it going?" lol make them feel like an idiot for staring! The main thing though, just be YOU! HAVE FUN!It's a party! And plus you want to see Connor! About that, don't let it be "awkward" between you two. Let the past be the past and look towards the future! Going to the party might help you with your "shyness" and you never know, you might meet some cool people there and make some new friends! OR even meet a guy! Theres all kinds of stuff that can happen at a party lol! But also be careful. I think you should for SURE go to this party! Don't worry about the girls there. Good Luck and have some FUN, girl! -Christy
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so i liked this guy for a while. not a big crush, but he was freakin' amazing.. then my bestfriend started liking him, and eventually they went out. So they jut broke up.. and i'm over him now, and started liking someone else who i've had feelings for, but not exactly liked since i was in first grade. and guess what.. she likes him now! and asked him who he liked.. and he said her and not me. So what do i do? :( (link)
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WRITING BACK FROM WHAT YOU POSTED. Maybe SHE needs a new friend then. You dont COMPETE with your best friend over boys! And then come online to ask advice about something that YOUR doing! And also didn't explain alot so made it sound different than what it really is. You are immature to try and fight over a guy with your friend, that's stupid and it's going to cause NOTHING but drama with your friend. Do you not see that? Probably not. Live and learn, Honey. Your young, you should listen to someone who's been there, but thats it. Your not going to because your young! You will figure out it's not the best thing to do when it blows up in your face! Obviously he likes your friend, so theres nothing else for you to really even do, besides back off. -Christy
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what shall i do my problems has been increasing dy by day i loved a person and another person loves me and i couldn't tell him because he is very sensitive and now my brother law and my cousins are threatening me that ill tell everything and close the issue and i love my dad a lot, i went on tour for one day he has mat exam and we did nothing like that, i stayed completely in my sisters home itself we went by train sleeper coach and came by train where hundreds can see us. and i promise on my dad i have just started my carrier and i wanna become IAS if my issue comes to my dads notice everything gets spoiled my carrier and my life too what shall i did i cant tell my pain to anybody i'm dying daily thats why i wanna die completely. and there is no one to help me out. if you can help me .by your suggestions. (link)
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OKAY, First of all. You need to speak english and actually tell us WHAT you are asking! You ran EVERYTHING together so i don't even know what your asking!!!!
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Okay here's the deal. I've been good friends with someone for a long while. Let's call this friend "Mr Red". We're fairly close and have been through quite a bit together. our friendship is still strong and tight, and we've got a lot in common, and many mutual friends.
A few months ago, I met someone, let's call her "Miss Blue", whom I am not involved with in a serious relationship. The circumstances of meeting her will be a little odd, so bear with me.
I first heard of her when Red was ranting about something she did. Apparently, Mr Red seriously dislikes her and wants nothing to do with Miss Blue. This is not new, and in fact.. the rest of the clique dislikes her as well. I've always been the person who really doesn't like to follow along with crowd decisions of that type.. since I used to be ostracized in grade school often. I remember what it feels like, so I try to give everyone a chance
When I actually met Miss Blue, it developed into an attraction, and now we're involved. Obviously, this has caused some rifts
To be clear, Miss Blue has never asked me to choose between her or them. None of the group including Mr Red has ever pressured me about my relationship with her. They accept it, and respect it, but most do not approve of it.
The biggest problem is that I am unable to include my significant other in my activities with them in most cases, since Mr Red is often around. Mr Red usually just refuses to hang out with me if she's already there, and leaves quickly if she shows up later.
Miss Blue is both hurt and upset by this behavior, and rightfully feels ostracized and left out. She feels very guilty that I need to take time out for her and away from Mr Red and the group. If I'm not caught up in something important, like just hanging out with the group, I often go see her.. which she feels guilty about me having to do.
She wants to be included, but also feels bad that I have to separate my time with her and them.
As for her and Red... she has tried multiple times to work things out with him, but he is simply stone faced about it. He's said in response every time that he doesn't believe her apologies and doesn't want to hear it. He wants her to leave him alone.
They have never been romantically involved.
My question is about how best to handle my place in this. Even with careful separation of my time between the two, she still feels terrible, and I feel like maybe I should be doing something more. (link)
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WOW, thats a crazy situation. First you need to ask yourself, is this girl your seeing (ms. blue) really important to you? Can you see you two really having a great relationship for a long time? If so, then you should talk to (Red) and let him know how important your girl is to you and if he is your friend he will try to get along with her and be "civil" when she is around and not make her feel uncomfortable. If this girl is that important to you then yes, you should be doing something about this. It also sounds like (Red) may be jealous that your girl is taking up time that he could be hanging out with you, but either way if red is your true friend and you let him know how important it is that you all hang out and feel comfortable around each other, then things should change. It all boils down to IF this girl is important enough for you to go through the trouble of trying to solve this issue. If she is, and RED knows this, then he will change his attitude if he's your real friend. Goodluck to you! -Christy
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So there is this guy that I recently met, and we have been talking a lot. I mean everyday for hours. I am really interested in him, we get along great and have a lot of similarities which makes me like him more than I could have imagined. And it SEEMS as if he is into me too but he says that he isn't looking for anything. I honestly respect that, but I also wish something would happen between us. So my biggest thing is should I just let it be, or should I try to spend more time with him and see if things go anywhere? As of right now we have plans to hang out a few times with friends, but where should I go from there? (link)
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I learned from a guy that said the same exact thing to me. DO NOT get close to him in THAT way if he's not looking for anything. Because if you get close, something happens and you fall for him, then you only have yourself to blame because he said he wasn't looking for anything. If it's possible for you to just remain friends with him then by all means do so, but if it's not then walk away before you get hurt. Thats the best advice i know how to give. However if he ever does seem to change his mind about "looking for something" then thats the time to make your move! But DO NOT , I repeat DO NOT get close to him in that way. If your one of girls that can hang out with a guy with out getting close then hang out, but if your like me, you wear your heart on your sleeve then it's not a good idea. Good luck to you! -Christy
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Ok so,I'll be going to middle school soon and there's a boy there that dated in elementry school.I was in 4th grade and he was in 5th.At the end of the shool year last year I gave him my number but he never call.I was wondering how I should act when I see him?Should I ignore him,be angry at him,or just act like nothing's happened?Please tell me what I should do!!!
P.S. I'm a girl (link)
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act like nothing happened.... but dont go up to him and start talking. let him come talk to you. But if he comes to talk to you, dont be all mad. Just act like it never happened. It's a new school year so just start over :)
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