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Gender: Female
Location: Canada
Occupation: Student
Age: 17
Member Since: December 22, 2005
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ok so this is gonna be confusing but here it goes. i know this guy (nick) that my best guy friend introduced me to. well things were alrite and then we started getting REALLY flirty with eachother...like hey baba, i love you, watcha doin talkin to you hottie, ALL this stuff...some stuff i dont even wanna say. but ok heres my problem: well i knew he had this other girl that he likes i give him advice on how to get close to her and stuff. before it didnt bother me that i was kinda hot and heavy with a guy with another girl on his mind also, and who's ALSO friends with my ex b/f. but now..it bothers me. i wanna get out. he's a really great guy and i wanna still love him but just as a friend. i still wanna be "his girl" but just as a friend. i'm afraid i can't do this, not flirt and everything without him getting mad and not even wanting to be friends anymore (he told me he likes me a lot too..but we live a little ways away) so how do i get to not flirting really a lot with him and just sort of sink in to being friends. also my best friend that introduced us has in different words pretty much said to me to be careful. that he just really likes girls and all this. how do i get not SO close to him, but still be close friends. (link)
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Well, I see you as having two options! So here it goes:
Option 1)
Discuss!
I think if he likes you you need to sort out your feelings for him. Seeing as how you want to be just friends you have to stop getting hot and heavy with him. When you do it sends the signal of wanting more, so I recommend you just stop - if your guy is the type of person - talk to him. You need to find out how he feels about you, if he likes you then ask, then why do you always talk about how much you like so-and-so? It's important to talk about everything - get it all out in open air - so then you can both move on to what the future has in store for you!
Option 2)
Tell him straight up No More! you might risk ruining your friendship - but it is important to let him know where you stand.
No matter what you do though - you have to stop getting flirty and what ever - this sends mixed messages to him. It's important to take a stand and work on being just friends. To be 'just friends' tell eachother about the guy/girl you like and help eachother with the relationships. Sometimes it's hard to be friends with guys - but it is important to have guy friends and girl friends!
I hope this helps!
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Do teen guys (around 14/15 years old) care a lot about a girl's weight? I get a dress down day tommorrow for school (my school wears uniforms) and i want to look nice but im really insecure about my thighs and i dont know if all the guys will be like OMG shes sooo fat and not like me. I know it shouldnt matter but i want to know if its a big issue with guys in general. (directed towards teenage guys reading this: ) when you look at a girl a you think shes pretty would she be unattractive to you if her legs are kinda big? do a girls looks really matter if you like her?
thanks if anyone answers (link)
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No! If a guy has a problem with your weight he is not worth your time.
I do have some advice for you though if you wish!
I also go to a uniform school and can empathize with you about the importance of dress-down days. Everyone buys new stuff and wants to dress to impress.
Remember this, anyone can be in fashion - you just have to know what to wear! Now, if your thighs are biggers, go for a pair of pants that are slimming. Dark demin (jeans) automatically looks cleancut, sophisticated and slimming. Also, i recommend getting a pair of mid cut pair of jeans. This will draw attention away from your legs. Make sure the jeans have back pockets as this also draws attention away from your legs.
And if your thighs are bigger, go for a flared pair of jeans that balance out your shape. Slim jeans only emphasize your thighs, but a flared pair with a cute shoe will totally reduce your thighs as attention is drawn else wear!
Good luck! and remember - you are beautiful! and if a guy can't love you for you, he's not worth a second look!
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okay, well the thing is.
i have a really great boyfriend. we've been dating for aout 3 or 4 months now && i really like him. he told me a few nights ago that his dad has really bad, uncureable, stomach cancer. i dont know what to do. i've never dealt with dealth at all before, i've just never had too. so i dont know what to say to him. he never really brings it up because he doesnt want me to know hes upset. im also the only person who knows. i know it upsets him because him && his dad have always been close.
what are some things i could say or do that would console him??
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I must agree with you, it is hard and awkward to be around people that have illness that you're not familiar with. Don't fear though; even though his dad may have a health problem that doesn't change him as a person - your stomach is not connected to your brain, personality or soul - so as hard as it may be at first, treat him like you would treat any guys dad. Soon you'll see past the cancer and just be comfortable with him as a person. Besides, from experience, you want your boyfriends dad to like you - nothing can make him like you more than you being your charming, beautiful self!
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i really like this guy. and i know he likes me. The thing is he is black and some are my friends are acting weird about that. i mean i don't see anything wrong with it. Is there something wrong with a white female dating a black male?? (link)
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Absolutely not! Race has nothing to do with a relationship - though I will tell you that some people might (not really look down on you) but question your motives. However, DO NOT let this stop you - colour is only skin deep and once your friends get to know him they'll see what a great guy he is!
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