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i have been dating this guy, Jay, for about 3 months now. im not really counting, but anyways...
before we started going out? i was having second thoughts about the whole thing because he did something with another girl. i dont know the whole story. his mom grabbed me aside one night and told me what he told her, but none of it made sense. i have a lot of questions about it but i dont want to ask him because its a very sensitive subject for him. (he was basically raped...and then for some reason the chick told everyone that he raped her. i know, its awful) well, at least by what his mom said, he was kinda raped. he only told me they had sex. i havent talked to girlie girl yet cuz i never talk to her. but. ok, im getting confused....
i know i should just kind of get over this and move on? but its all i ever think about anymore. its giving me nightmares and i keep picturing what it might have been like in my head and i want it to STOP but it wont! i just have to know! its one of those things...but can someone either tell me HOW to get over it or how i can ask him without...i dunno...making him CRY???? (i asked him before and he was close to tears) (link)
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LOL!!!! Okay, first of all I have to say that I highly doubt he had kinda had sex with that girl against his will, and that he raped that girl because she sounds like she talks out of her a**. Don't listen to what his mom says, because what he actually might be twisted around so her little version suits her more.
You should confront her, but don't be all I'm going to kick your ass, or you'll never get the air cleared.
After everything is sorted through, just move on. And those so called are most likely fake, so I would just tell him to suck it up and quit whining.
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So I have a boyfriend and we've been together for almost 4 years. And we have a kid together. He had a bad anger problem so he went to a counselor and got medicine. But he still doesn't have a job. He'll only keep one for 1 week and then quit. He refuses to change a dirty diaper and mind you our daughter is now 1 year old. I feel unappreciated but I don't know if I should break up with him or not? Some days he's really sweet, and then hes totally not. Any advice? (link)
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You should. He refuses to change his own baby's diaper, and he won't get a job. You should tell him straight that if he doesn't start pulling his weight, then he should just leave. You deserve to be treated better like that, and he's really just a person that you don't need in your life.
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Okay before i begin let me just say i am not a boyfriend stealer and i will not take action if he has a girlfriend at that specific point and time...
Okay everyone that i have asked this has not really helped me...so maybe you can...
I live in KY, but my dad lives in IN and i visit him every 6 weeks, and there is a boy there that is friends with my brother. Well this boy got into a fight because some kid was going to stab him, so now he is grounded and his brother, who helped him, is in a detention center. I know it sounds bad, but i dont really think so.
And he has a gf...but from what i hear he really likes me, like a lot, and wants to hang out with me this summer. And people are telling me that because he thinks im cute and stuff and he has a gf he is a player, but i dont neccersarily think so.
So my questions:
1--Do you think he is a player??
2--What should i do about this situation??
And like i said please dont tell me that i need to leave him alone if he has a gf because i know that and im not gonna do it..i dont play that game...or say that its long distance or anything like that...i know its hard but chances are if anything were to happen it would be for three weeks only..while im there..
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Hmh hmh hmh hmh hmh.... well I do think he is a player in a sense that he does have a girl and he's flirting with you, but that's kinda minor to what else could happen if you know what I mean, but then again it's his right to flirt with you. You should hang out with him this summer because there is no harm is doing so unless you know you guys have sex or something. The way he talks about you he's sounding like he's really interested and the way these things usually go he will probably soon break up with his girlfriend but you can never be sure. So the thing you should is that you should go ahead and hang out with him, but if he's not broken up with his girlfriend, don't do any sex related things (just to clarify) because that can bring up some big problems. If I missed anything, send me more questions and I'll answer them. Thanks :)
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help!!!!!
i can't help it! but i am in lov with my prof! he is so smart and witty and he is very warm and kind hearted...... i know many think its wrong but my college doesn't prohibit teacher/student relationships if the student is over the minor age -which i am... WAYYYY past- and if he doesn't teach me (and i just finished my finals!! :D YAYYY)..........
i really really really really really really want to do this... i just don't know how to hint it out... and i know i have to be persistent because professors are more likely to brush off any passes they get for the sake of peace of mind and due to habit... soooo how do i make him feel i am worth it.... class is over now so there is no homework or anything i could take to his office... plus i did that just to make sure that i am in his radar.... i am honestly even considering doing my masters and finding a way to get him to be my supervisor if all else fails.... I DON'T want to wait till i graduate because i am just as good as that (i have one credit to go but am taking 4 extra courses for another degree -i have 3 majorsand a minor!.
i was thinking of writing a thank you email explaining how i liked the course and enjoyed it fully and how i knew i could do better (my parents had problems all through and i had to go to the hospital for some serious health concerns -he knows) and that i hope to see him in future classes....???
this sounds to cheesy i think... what should i do!
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Hmmm if you're asking ways to find out how you could see him more often, then you could possibly apply for an internship of some kind in that area that he teaches.
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i need help.. im 14/f and i love this guy he is amazing! A little while ago he said he liked me but i just found out he got a girlfriend like a week ago but i still like him and he's telling mme to move on. i cant seem to do that please help me thanks in advance (link)
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If he just telling you to move on he's just a big jerk. for you to move on, you just need to find somebody better than him.
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well to make the story short
i know this guy for about 2 months, we have seen each other a lot of time since he knows my parents, it is natural that he comes over to our house everyday. At first i didn't really talk to him because i feel like i do not trust him and i do not know him well, but later on i started talking to him and find out he is very nice, he talked and joke around alot. His family and ours are getting along very well, and he is nice to us. During my spring break, he asked my dad if he could take me and my sisters out since its our spring break and he doesn't want us to feel bored, he took us out that day, i felt great because this is actually my first time going out with a guy that parents know of. okay so then we just hung out and then we get closer and closer everyday. Well i told my best friend about him, and told her what he did to me, she looked at me for a while and say the weirdest thing ever, she thinks he likes me. i was like no way in earth that could happen, he is 27 while i'm only a senior in high school. There is no way he could like me, we are so different in age, but then she told me age don't matter in love, and then she said i should look for hints when he talk to me or do something for me, hints that show he likes me. I have been trying to look for those kindda hints but somehow i can't find them, i saw what he did to me and he did the same thing to other people. My friend said only the outsider can see what is going on. I don't really take that into consideration until one day my sister told me, the she thinks he likes me, again i was shocked. i don't know how they came up with that idea and i don't know what is going on. can someone tell me whether he likes me or not? (link)
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It does sound like he could be interested in you but not like a relastionship wise, at least just not yet.
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- I'd rather get guys opinions, but girls would also be greatly appreciated :]
I dated this guy for almost 2 months, but I've known him wayyy longer, like almost a year. Over the time we've hung out i started to fall for him, and he knew it :] but.. anyways.. we recently broke up because of "age difference" or whatever, but, i was out of town for about a week, and so... when i got home, he still came to see me, he says he still loves me.. and everything.. we had like a two hour long talk about it.. he said "im the best girlfriend he's ever had" and stuff.. i believe him though.. we still talk, a lot, just not as much as we did when we were dating. my questions is.. how could i get him back...? whats the best way? should i act like i dont care that we broke up? or will that drift him away.. should i just be really nice to him.. so i make him realize his mistake? i dont know.. any other suggestions?
thanksssss soo much.
summer ;]
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Well if you want to get back with him, you really only have to tell him how you really feel about him. One of the worst things you could do is pretend like you don't care.
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Well, two days ago, I ended up falling for my best friend, he told me he had dreams about me all the time and they were like sexual.. so then like he talked about fingering me and like making out and stuff.
so i went to the movies with him last night, and he fingered me but we didn't kiss at all? so i was like okay but i was about to give him a hand job and then he said something about his ex girlfriend, so then i didn't because that made me mad...
so im still talking to him like my best friend, and i told him that i like him, and he was like i like you too, but he wants to get back with his girlfriend, and he was like you should have told me before i was about to get back with her, but like the thing is i told him that it was a bad idea to do stuff because he like wants to get back with her, and i told him i didn't want him to use me and he says he likes me but i told him i didn't want to talk to him anymore, and he told me that he doesn't want to lose me because he is the only one he can trust, but like i don't know what to do because i really like him but like he likes me and his ex girlfriend, and i think he is going to pick her over me being since they have a past.
please give me ideas on what i should do, the faster the better. ):
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If it was me I wouldn't be friends with him because I wouldn't want somebody using me like that and you got to think about how he talks to you and acts around you and see for yourself if he's worthy of you.
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ok so im a 15 year old girl and for two years idk
why but i think girls are hot i can't help but look at there bodies and stuff and i actually have and internet girlfriend but i know i like guys to but they don't really you know make me happy sexually i mean i can see myself doing it with a girl and a boy together but i can't with just a boy and idk why i need total help . i know for years ive been tryin to hide that i think girls are hotter than guys but know that im about to be 16 i want to figure out my sexuality and have it out in the open so i can start looking for that special someone so any advice will be greatly appreciated thanks in advance . (link)
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Only you can say if you're lesbian/bi/straight and nobody else can. Even if you have sex with girls you can still say you're straight and it would true.
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Ok i know this sounds really weird but is it normal to really really really really like/love someone if you've never even met them like you know alot about them but you've never met them and not like your a stalker or something but like a celebrity that you've read alot about and yeah is it normal? like your completely and utterly in love with and totaly attracted to them like you get butterflies when you hear thier name or thier voice or read somehting about them or see a picture of them or a video with them in it and stuff like that and that you litteraly cant see yourself with anyone else and you dont want to be with anyone else and you want to experience EVERYTHING with them but there that chance of never meeting them i mean what are your odds of marrying a celebrity or even meeting them and becoming friends with them? ok i know that was long, confusing, and theres lots of mistakes but please jsut answer it (link)
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Lol I had that feeling about Tony Hawk. It's really just a phase that may last a long time, but will evenually wear off even if you don't think it will.
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Every weekend my boyfriend gose to his moms or to his friends. He hates to use the phone but I ask him to call me so that we can talk and he never dose. I end up crying most of the time because we never talk over weekends or vacations..What should I do?
Love Funsize (link)
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I don't know what to say but the only thing I can think of is that he's either cheating on you, or he's just getting tired of you for some reason. Or maybe he just doesn't like using the phone. Try confronting him about it, make him talk about why he doesn't call you when he doesn't.
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my bf and my ex are good friends and when we are hanging out together and hes there he always talks about things that happened when we were together and stuff and he tries to make my bf think that me and him did stuff and its weird..and like my best friend..and my exs gf was there and when she left is when he started talking about all this..whats going on? (link)
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He's either jealous or just a donkey (Lol you know what I mean.) He can't stand the thought of you being happy with another person and he's probably miserable with her but he just hides it.
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you know when you dont really like a person but you know they like you and since they are constantly being nice to you, you kinda feel like you like them?
but then you know that deep down you dont REALLY like them. yet, all you do is flirt with them and in a way lead them on. well this guy that likes me goes to a different school than me and i really dotn think he should even like me because he doesnt know enough about me to like me. yet i being a carefree sagittarius cant control my flirting on myspace which is a completely unreliable website to begin with..
so if he asks me out or confesses his love for me again which im sure he will eventually, how can i tell him its a no without being completely rude and hurtful?
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Just be honest. Tell him there is other people for him out there, and that he is probably only infatuated with you and not really in love with you.
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me and this guy were together for like a day and a half I broke up with him cause we didnt talk much at school...well i continued to like him and now we might get back together 5 months later now that he has ended his 3 month relationship with his girlfriend and well he dosent want ne one to know we are together cause he is always to him self and dosent like my friends and well how do i keep him interested in me...I heard to play hard to get but IDK (link)
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He may not still like you as much as he used to, because he's saying that he doesn't want anybody to kow you two are together. Maybe he isn't worth keeping.
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ive been going out with this guy for awhile now and he just yesterday broke up with me out of no where and whats worse is he dosent really have a reason he says he still cares about me and has feeli for me but if he dosent break up with me now it will just be harder later i just dont understand and i dont know what to do do i try and win him back and make him realize we really had something or just move on and if i should move on please tell me how (link)
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If he did that then that probably meant he had lost interest in you for some reason, but if he doesn't tell you why, means he's a jerk and not really worth obsessing over, let alone to be loved.
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i like guys. im definitely attracted to guys, not just looks but everything, how they feel smell, hold you, whatever, but then i hang out with this one friend(girl), i question my feelings for girls. she gets near me and i get that same tingling sensation.then after i have those thoughts about her, i wonder if i like girls in general... cause i look at others like that too.
i dont know if im bi or gay or whatever, or is its just a girl crush or a phase, gimmmie alittle insight (link)
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Whether you gay, bi, or straight is completely up to you. If you think you have real feelings for this girl, don't deny yourself.
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ok ok ok, i am very wierded out right now. i just went round the girl i likes house, she likes me and i like her, her mum went out for about an hour and all she tried to do was get it on with me, now not that thatsa bad thing normally but shes got a boyfriend allready so 2 things run through my mind 1.) I SHOULDNT BE DOING THIS (which i tryed my best not to no matter how hard it was) and 2.) if shes like this with him why the hell wont she be like that with me if we were to go out???? i'm so exausted and nerve wrecked to think straight at this moment i dont have a clue what i'm doing anywere (link)
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It sounds like the only thing she wants with you and sex. She sounds like a couple of unpleasent words to me. She just wants to use you, so you really shouldn't care for her. If you two did go out, I have a feeling that she would do the same to you. So just forget about her, there are more girls that are worth a fight, but not her.
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Theres guy Ive liekd for a year and something nowww. And he use to like me when we were both in middle school but now hes in highschool and hes changed so much and hes being an asshole to me all of a suddden. But when we liked eachother, we hooked up and we did a little more then making out but not sex or anything. But that was the first time ive ever done somehthing like that with anyone. But then he stopped talking to me and hes a jerk now but I can NOT seem to get over him no matter whattt. Im always the one to talk to him first and it ends up in a fight usually or something. I called him once and he actually called me again after that and we talked a lot but one day he called and I didnt call backk and the next day I told him to call me n al he said was ughhhhhh. And ever since then weve never really talked even though Ive tried. How do I get over him or move on or anythinggg?
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If he's being a jerk, try to hammer that into your brain first of all. Remind yourself that there are better people out there, and you're too good for him. Next time if he tries to talk to you or bring you down, just toss your nose up into the air and walk away.
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16/f. alright. so today in school, we had lunch (as we always do) and my boyfriend has my lunch. apparently, so does his girlfriend. i usually wait for my boyfriend at a specific spot and we all meet up there (a group) to sit and socialize and stuff. well, today...i didn't see my boyfriend coming for a while. and i was standing with my friends. and i see him walk towards us..but he stops at where his ex girlfriend was sitting. he sees that im there, he makes eye contact with me, yet he goes to his girlfriend, says hi, kisses her (like as a hello)...and starts talking to her. without saying hello to me first. he talks to her for about 20 minutes..and then he comes and says hello to me as if he just saw me...yet he meets with us everyday. what do you have to say about this? i don't think he's taking me too seriously..he's in my grade btw. (link)
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If he's kissing her in front of you, or at all, that's a big red flag right there. You shouldn't stand for that, you have to confront him about it. That's wrong it really is and tell him if he doesn't want to be with you and only you, then it's over.
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ive been going out with my boyfriend for 5 months, on and off. we really like eachother. we break up for stupid reasons. he gets me reallly angry sometimes. his friends used to like me, and tell me things. but in the past month, me&my boyfriend broke up & i was really hurt. all of his friends knew, they told him& blahblah, we got back. but then all of his friends started talking about me, as they pasted me in the halls.. they tell practicly everyone they hate me. its really bothering me, & me and my boyfriend barly hang out now. i approached one of his friends, who hates me the most, & asked him why he has problems with me & he was like i just dont like you haha and walked away laughiing with his friends. i dont know what to do, i cant even talk to my boyfriend because him&his friends are alll alike. this is realy bothering me (link)
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You really shouldn't care what they say if you really love your boyfriend. If they start saying crap about you, if your boyfriend really loces you, he would know they are not true. Just ignore them, that will really tick them off and sooner of later they should stop bothering you. Confront your boyfriend about it, tell him that you don't appreciate them talking to or about you like that. If he doesn't stick up, maybe you shouldn't be with him.
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