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Q: I really like this guy, and he knows that. One day i heard that he had asked out another girl and i got really upset, even though thats stupid and he has every right to go out with who he wants to. So my friend then called him and said all these things like "you know ______ likes you" and "whats your problem?" it turned out that none of these things were true. and the worst part is my friend pretended to be me, but he didn't believe it. So then i called him back and was like "yea my friend called you im really sorry about that..i'm not exactlly sure what she said (a lie) so..yea." then he quickly said bye and hung up. Now he knows thar i told people that i like him, and i dont think that he wanted me to because he hates all the peer presure like "ask her out" and stuff. i really liked this guy and upset that i screwed things up so badly. should i just pretend it never happened? please help. im not even sure if i like him anymore, or if he likes me.

definitley don't pretend it didn't happen. you need to talk to him and tell him what exactly happened and once he hears the truth from you i'm sure he'll understand. well i hoped i helped and that everything turns out ok!

xoxo shoshi:)

Q: What is the polite thing to say to someone after they just completely messed up a relationship with a guy they really liked and are in a bad mood? i wanna show the person i care, but i know that their sensitive right now and anything i say could be taken the wrong way. please help.

the only thing you can do is say your sorry. saying sorry can't hurt, it can only help.
there isn't really anything else i feel like i need to say except that i hope everything turns out ok and that i helped!

xoxo shoshi:)

Q: ok so this question/ problem has happened to me like 10 bagillion times so i need help really badly. so yea im going out with someone and i like him alot but i also like someone else. i feel real bad for the person im going out and i dont no what to do!! HELP!!

well you have to think about who is the person who you really do like. if you can't do that then that's ok. it's all rite to like two people and it doesn't mean that you're a slut if that's wat you're thinking. if you decide you like them both then instead of trying to hide your guilt from the guy you're going out with i say break up with him. be single for a little bit so you can try to decide which guy you really like better. well, i hope i helped!

xoxo shoshi:)

Q: I have a boyfriend and he's really awesome. But my friend hates him and he doesnt really like her i dont think. They always fight and a few days ago my friend got really mad at me and said some bad stuff about me. i dont know if i should stay with him or not because i still want to be friends with my..well friend. i dont know what to do. PLEASE HELP!

I'm a female and im 13. K thanks

i've seen alot of questions just like this and i'm going to say the same thing i have in the past. you seem to really like your bf, so you shouldn't break that friendship just because of another the friend that hates your bf. your friend should be supportive of you and your bf. to me she doesn't seem like a very good friend. i would try talking to her and asking her to just stay out of your relationship even if she doesn't like your bf. if she just doesn't listen than just ignore her or tell her you don't want to be friends anymore because you have a bf that's your own buisness not your friends. well i hope i helped! and i hope everything works out!
xoxo shoshi:)

Q: Ok, well... my best friend is a guy, and his name is Chris. He's really awesome, and we're really close. I've always thought of him as a brother to me. But lately everyone has been asking me, "Are you two going out?" and "Do you like him?" and everytime my answer is "no." but lately I've been thinking, and I feel weird whenever I talk to him now. Whenever he comforts me about stuff, I just feel... really really happy. Rediculously happy. Almost..fuzzy inside? I don't know, but I keep thinking that I'm starting to have feelings for him. But we're just friends.. friend's arent supposed to crush on eachother. But I can't help myself.

SO MY QUESTION IS: Am I in love with him? and if I do why do I feel so uncomfortable?

Signed..
JUST FRiENDS

i believe that you are in love with him. i had the same experience. when i was at camp this past summer, i was really good friends with this guy and then all of a sudden i started getting the same feeling you get, sort of fuzzy and i realized that i liked him. the reason i think you feel so uncomftorable is that like you said, he's always been like a brother to you. you're not used to this new emotion and feeling for your friend. don't fight it just let everything fall into place and i'm sure it will work out fine. i hope i helped
xoxo shoshi:)

Q: Well, there's this guy, omg where do I begin....I love him sooooo much, and I know this for a fact because in the past I've had two bad relationships, and I vowed to myself that I can never love a man again....until I met, well let's call him Jack. Jack and I work together, and we've actually gotten alot closer throughout the time we've worked together. I've liked Jack now for 7 months now. I found out a while back that Jack liked me too, but I never really believed the people who told me because I've been rejected quite a few times. So yeah, I'm like deeply in love with him, and where I work @ we're about to get laid-off, but he said we're gonna keep in touch and besides we live close to eachother. So should I break the ice? Our management staff (cause we're both on it) has this blog thing, I write on it how I feel about a certain someone being jack, be he dosen't know it. But everyone thinks we date, we act like a married couple, and we just basically enjoy eachother in eachothers presence. We're almost like best friends, cause he's been there through alot... so I want him to know how I care about him but I dunno how, and i'm afraid that I'll loose what I already have with Jack. Do yall think there's a possibility that we could date?

omg, there's like no question about it! it seems like you too are meant for each other. why don't you just ask him to join you for lunch at a local cafe at your lunch break, or maybe just ask him to walk around a park with you for an hour or so. those are both ways to get a relationship started. otherwise, give him some time and i'm sure he'll come along. well i hope i helped!
xoxo shoshi:)

Q: Ok so i have a bf and i really like him but everyone ( popular ppl) think hes a loser ... what should i do / say??? I NEED HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!

well,
your friends don't seem to be very supportive of you, so they don't seem to me like good friends. i know this sounds corny, but follow your heart(and yes that is from Napolean dynamite, but that's ok, right?) anyway, if you know that you really like him, then keep dating him. don't listen to your friends because all their doing is pulling you down from wat could be a wonderful friendship between you and your bf. well i hope i helped!
xoxo shoshi:)

Q: 18f I have met a guy online. I talk to him and he messages me right away (We also have friendster). We have been talking for about a month now and we have upgraded to aim. He makes me laugh and I make him laugh. He mentioned in passing that if he knew me (like if we had been friends and keow each other he would have asked me out) He siad that I am funny and interesting. Does anyone think that he might like me? He is around my age and he has given me acess to his journal (online) and I have read everything he has written in it since 3 years ago. I have never met anyone I have met online, he is actually the only one I have really talked to in depth. Sorry for the lenght.

i actually enjoyed your length cuz it told me more about you, but more about your problem.
i think that he probably does like you. he seems like a really nice guy, but the question is do you like him? I think the whole online thing is great, but i've heard so many stories about girls being kidnapped and stuff, that i would strongly advise you not to meet him in person and to continue your aim chats. but really it's up to you, so i hope i helped!
xoxoxoshoshi:)

Q: i am amish. When i was 16 i had the choice of coming into the modern world and never speaking to my family again or staying amish for the rest of my life. oviously, i chose to come into the modern world. I am now 23 a just had a beautiful set of twin girls. A week ago i ran into my mother when visiting the country on vacation. My mother blew up at me and became extreamly mad at me for leaving th amish life that i grew up in. (i had not seen her since i was 13) She then proceded to spit on my children and claim that they were sinned for life. She also treatened to kill them. I know my mother would never do anything like this (she is very religious) but one of my children has gone missing and i am very worried. Should i tell the police this vital information or protect my mother? I need suggestions on what to do. please help!

wow,
i say definitley call the police. your mother has no right to be threatning or harming your children. you should never think twice when someone is threatning your life or your childrens even if it might be your mother, it is still not right for her to be treating you that way. so please call the police, and i hope you find your child. i hope i helped and please call.
shoshi

Q: k well theres this guy and he wrote me a note and put it in my locker but he didnt really write it his friend wrote it but he told him what to write and then today i was like "phillip you know i like you" and then he smiled and like held my hand for a minute then when his friend came he let go really quick but were not going out so u think theres a chance that we will go out?

i say yes!
it seems that he probably likes you, but maybe is not ready to let all his friends know. i say give him about a week and see wat happens. i bet he'll ask you out! i hope i helped!
shoshi:)